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thebosstrevor1:
I agree with both part.

1.Sex before marriage is dangerous. It is the number 1 reason of emptiness in a human life.

2. Having a family comes with its own responsibilities, why have a family, if you can't take care of them.

I partially agree with you on point 1. Women are only ready to marry when they old. Young girls will always be the hottest... also sleeping around can be done in a controlled fashion... "waiting till marriage" gives women too much power.

On point 2, the family belongs to both the man and the woman bro.

Entitlement mentality must not be encouraged in females....

Finally any intending couples for marriage must do trial first.... live together try it out...and see how it goes

ABIODUNOLAOPA1:
This is a simple matter now. Turn everything to rough and chase her relatives away from your house. IT IS better for you, find a way to make up with your relatives by assisting them financially no matter how little, and leave her to find a way to sort her people from her resources, your relatives will understand and it won't take long before her people will eat that business you opened for her up and make sure you don't ever put a penny of yours in that her business to resuscitate it. The moment you start this, don't go back on it.

Exactly! Problem is men pet women too much. Give her tit for tat and if necessary drive her away.

1. No sex before marriage : truth is this doctrine gives women undue power over men and makes sex a god. How about just using intimacy gadgets?? You see! Think outside the box.

2. "He that cannot provide for his family is worse than an infidel. " this singular Bible verse has driven many men to their early graves as they strive not to be infidels and taking on too much financial responsibility. Truth is a woman can and should be bringing money since she went to school.

It's time to call out Christianity where it falls short with the hope of improving the religion.

More to follow. Watch this space.

BiggyB242:
No woman can separate my family, rather you will be the one to leave. I know how they suffered then you go come they dictate who will come and who wouldn't. That's why I like urhobo men when non they take nonsense.

The reason they do that dictation is for their own selfish needs!

Piptocoin:
[color=indigo]continue to feel traumatised. it will help you. you remind me of my cousins who made the same marital mistake. now, we are very distant thanks to their wives. reading your story seems to have been written especially by one of this cousins of mine. I feel you are always manipulated with sex. anytime you are not having sex your sense springs to life.[/color]

It's the fools that believe in "no sex outside marriage" and other religious bullshit that can be manipulated with sex....

Limassol:
You were shown multiple redflags prior to tying the knot,yet you went ahead, probably underestimating her toxicity or just hoping she will change. No suprise you are paying the price - young men take heed! That said, if you are serious, divorce could be a reasonable way out. I suggest you should seek legal guidance on how to navigate this. Goodluck.

Not really. Many of them pretend during courtship (so they can get married) and after the marriage (and to her, preferably a child so she can trap you with the child), she then brings out her true self.

Richpet85:
Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.

My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.

Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.

She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.

My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.

I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.

I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.

I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.

Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.

I need a mature advice and no insult please.

I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.

Women are very selfish fallen creatures. Be very careful when dealing with them...

Enimoney3:
You want to kill yourself over a woman. They all cheat. It's their way. If you dumped her pick the next one she is the most cheater.

They all always trying to upgrade from their current man to a better man....

Mylife89:
I and my gf started a new relationship and it's been going well, two weeks ago which was her birthday, we both came to lagos to spend quality time and have fun for two weeks.

while on the vacation, I checked her phone and noticed there was a guy who wished her happy birthday and told her he had a gift for her, she responded and deleted the message

The next day I checked her phone, I didn't see the chat with the guy and I was sure my eyes saw an unread message the previous day.

Four days ago she told me she wants to go she a female.friend, when I confronted her she then mentioned that she wants to go pick up the gift from her male friend, the same guy that she earlier told me about that he is just a friend.

I'm sad cos with all the love I'm beginning to show towards her she isn't satisfied but thinking about another guys gift and attention.

We both quarreled over the issue and I made it clear that if she ever goes to see the guy and I find out it will be the end of our relationship.


Women are truly strange.

They are not strange young man. They are greedy, selfish and it is in their nature to always trade up men I.e. substitute current boyfriend for a better bf.

cutecommend:
There are reasons why Christians Fall into sexual temptations. They may do their best, but still find themselves committing same sexual sins... These are the reasons.

(1) The pleasure of sexual temptations: Many christians enjoy sexual pleasures. They fantasize it, and enjoy the contents of it. Once you enjoy sexual temptations, you are likely to fall into it often.

(2) They don't want to give up sexual pleasures completely. Some christians change from their evil ways, but still leave some soft spots. Example could be: stopping fornication, but still leaving the phone number of one of your craziest sex partner, and still chatting such a person up ones in a while.

(3) Not Thirsting After Righteousness. There is no christian that cannot be holy in this world, but God knows that many don't really want to be holy. If you determine so so much to be holy for at least three months, God will see that you are truly interested in holiness, and release the grace to make holiness easy.

(4) Not having a confidant: Many christians do not have who to meet or call when they are sexually tempted. Such a person might guide them or pray for them.

(5) Watching erotic movies or songs: These creates a mindset that makes someone always prone to desiring immorality, which can lead to the actual immorality.

there is nothing like sexual temptation - human beings are sexual in nature... the only sexual sins are - sleeping with a prostitute and with a married person.

christianity criminalizes normal human behavior.

luminouz:
WTF is this?

Take it easy o

Don't sacrifice ur freedom for any woman including a "wife"

CaveAdullam:
DAY 352, REDPILL 2021

Female nature is unforgiving, it will neither consider your current state nor bend to your demands except when she declines in her sexual market value.

When it gets to your turn act same and curb your sacrificial tendency, that tendency to always squander your resources even when it is uncalled for.

Authority: Be wise!

for men that get married, still have your plenty outside chicks and never promise your wife monogamy. she got married because her smv is declining and u hv money. but ur smv is still high as a man so keep the wife and hv ur outside girls!

don't sacrifice your additional mating opportunities for any woman.

Semaj77:
Keep deluding yourself

most Africans like you have been so colonially brainwashed that it's going to take several generations for the brain washing and inferiority complex to clear....

BluntTheApostle:
The UK practises a form of representative democracy that allows you to elect your MPs.

However, it is a constitutional monarchy.

There are many variants of democracy. In Nigeria, we practise a federalism alongside representative democracy. In our history, we had practised parliamentary system of government which until 1963, had the Queen of England as Head of State. Between January and July 1966, we practised unitary system of government, and we have even tried fiscal federalism at a time in our history. So, which variant of democracy are you accusing the West of using to take over African states?



Some African regions have practised one variant or another of democracy long before the white man came to the shores of Africa.

The Yorubas already had checks and balances within a well-organized parliamentary system with the Alaafin as the Head of State, and the Bashorun as the Prime Minister heading a Cabinet known as the Oyo Mesi. The Alaafin did not have absolute power, as his power was constantly checked by the Oyo Mesi.

The Igbos were already practising direct democracy, with the eldest members of each family representing them at the Council of Elders.

The West did not bring government to us. They did not bring democracy to us.

I'm glad to hear they didn't bring democracy to us since they love claiming to be the black mans savior.

YeyeGbami:
Raw materials like These people don’t give a fu*k about what your black ass produces. First of all they have enough reserves and they also have options.

They don't hv options or reserves trust me...

agentarcher:
You have said the truth many mental slaves would not like. The western media uses this tactics to hide what's really going on in their country. Create a false evil and do everything to convince everyone to focus more on what that false evil is doing rather than what is really going on in their country.

Western media also call themselves "developed" nations... this is just a name they gave to themselves.... the truth is today, Nigeria and many African countries are developed countries but still has a high number of people living in poverty...

BluntTheApostle:
Russia is a capitalist state.

However, it is a dictatorship, using fake democracy to advance the legitimacy of Putin.

There is a difference between political system and economic system.

Economically, Russia is a capitalist state.

Politically, it is a dictatorship (even though, it claims to be a democratic, federal state).

Democracy is a cunning ploy by the west to take over African states... UK doesn't practice democracy because Queen Elizabeth is their head of state. Merkel ruled Germany for 13-16 years. Who told you democracy is the best form of government?

We don't need western style democracy in Africa which really is a way for the west to try and put in their leaders every four years...

Yankiss:
Putin should be careful not to turn the villain of the world. Hitler the foremost German Nationalist steeped himself in infamy forever by mindless territorial quests which plunged the world into a terrific second world war. Putin has admirers today but will turn out worse than Hitler on the pages of history if he doesn't reign in on his expansionist lusts. My take.

Russia has no expansionist lusts. It's France that has 5000 soldiers deployed across the sahel and wants African sahel to be New France that has expansionist and imperial lusts....

RodgersAkpafu:
You have some reading up to do then

No they were not.... only poor states colonize because they are poor. Rich states have no need of colonies. UK too is very poor.

Look it's up to you to believe whatever you want. If you believe they were rich b4 coming in contact with africa then fine.

You are not aware that France is colonizing mali as we speak. That's not what rich countries do....

Don't be a brainwashed white worshipper.

RodgersAkpafu:
All these is true
The French co opt African leaders

But what I'm saying is that the french republic was already rich before coming in contact with Africa

No they were not.... only poor states colonize because they are poor. Rich states have no need of colonies. UK too is very poor.

MetalJigsaw:
In those days, ladies get disgusted just at the thought of having multiple boyfriends. But reverse is the case among ladies of this generation of ours.

Single relationship is never satisfactory to them anymore no matter what the "main" guy brings to the table.

Young females are now more transactional, materialistic and ever difficult to please or satisfy than ever so why won't divorce, breakups and heartbreaks Paternity fraud prevail.

Decency is depreciating and gold digging is now a thing of normalcy among the female folks.

After all theses factors stated above, it only brings about question marks about the essence of intergender relationships, including marriage.

Marriage is now a one sided affair. It's not even only at the detriment of men's freedom but his sanity, family, friends, lifestyle rest of mind. Generally, Marriage has gradually become a burden to men more than ever before- He must provide, stick with one woman (with all her bull-shits) for the rest of his life.

What makes you think husbands live shorter?

Right now I really feel like draining so many green bottles.

I will make it clear to future wife that my promise is to take care of her but can't promise it will be only her.... I still need my freedom

RodgersAkpafu:
The Frencg Republic was rich before they ever had contact with Africans
Go check history
This current economic system they are running was DeGaule idea

There was a France centuries even before Degaule was born
A broke country will be able to fight so many wars and finance foreign expeditions in many directions
Just letting you know

The French secret service actively targets African heads of state.... I don't want to say wat I want to say directly but u get it...

They also sponsored the Rwandan genocide and actively supports pro French governments in africa

RodgersAkpafu:
The Frencg Republic was rich before they ever had contact with Africans
Go check history
This current economic system they are running was DeGaule idea

There was a France centuries even before Degaule was born
A broke country will be able to fight so many wars and finance foreign expeditions in many directions
Just letting you know

They were not "rich".... they never have been...they have always relied on colonization for income. USA France and UK fought over quebec years ago and today Quebec is a French colony....

Today France actively occupies African countries like a parasite because once they stop the occupation they will get poor.....

UK France and Germany have nothing and have a small land mass and so hv to rely on Colonization...

They never hv been wealthy but seems ur stuck in ur white worship mentality

Semaj77:
They actually don't need us , they'll survive well without Africa

France is currently occupying mali niger chad among others... the French republic would be POOR without these African countries. You appear to know little of history and of western activities in africa

Jidemoo:
the truth cannot be far-fetched from your comment.

Na our leaders dey sell us Kobo and shillings offshore....

Africa is blessed with so many natural resources that we can use to better our lives but the crooks we have as leaders are bent on pushing off all the resources to the western world and they are eager to collect extra loans

Its the western world that installs those leaders....

passion007:
UK and Canada banned African countries over omicron then they realised omicron is spreading so fast in their countries already with over 6000 cases per day in the UK. Then they open back the borders and ask African nations to come in. Unvaccinated African nations are just happy they have been unbanned, oblivious of the real issues and not in the least concerned about their own health or preserving their nations against omicron.

Canada is a proxy state of UK. Whatever UK does or orders them to do is what they do....

Hashabiah:
I don't know why African nations keep degrading our status when in truth the west needs us more than we need them . They know that placing a travel ban will stop and probably diminish their supply of raw materials need for their economic growth,hence they've decided change position by saying they are "lifting the ban " as if that would make us feel like they're helping our situation. Nonsense

We need them just as much as they need us....with mutual respect and mutual cooperation....

Most girls (95%) want a guy with money to settle down. They are open about it and uncompromising about it.... the question I have is what does a man get in return for all the financial burden and responsibility....

Pls don't tell me sex as I can get it from a girlfriend.

Don't tell me help meet as even as a bachelor bachelor's clean cook and work.

What does a rich man get in return for sharing his wealth with a woman is the question.

Muscovy:
Don't loose hope my Brother. The day I realised that we men have ability to approached any lady as many as possible, my tension in searching for who to marry relax. Approach many ladies and pray to GOD to give you divine direction to choose among the available one that said yes to your offer. Note: Not all the one that say YES to your offer are your wife to be but one. Best of Luck.

Ur wife can be several women not just one....

If men adopted a polygamous approach many women and wives will behave better knowing they have competition but fear of religion no go gree una

Lavisha:
It is very hard to obtain a Naija passport because of Buhari

The Abokki basterd has basterdised everything.

In Kogi, it cos 60k and you'll get it in one week.

It's not because of Buhari it's because of the ppl working in those estaishments

[quote author=Odewaleadesoye post=108562359][/quote]They will blame Buhari na where's its the Nigerians in these institutions making life difficult.

DieRich5:
18yrs fine girls life easy sha

Very easy oh!! Men go dey follow am left fight center.