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MrMacinterchi1:
Actually, Joseph avoided fornication because he's not married. It's adultery on the part of Potiphar's wife because she's married.
It's two different things..

Had it been that Joseph was married at the time of the temptation, then, it will be correct to say that he avoided adultery; but, since he's not married then , fornication was what he ran away from.

Hence,
Single engages fornication while married engages in adultery. na so e be.

other things u say no concern me Sha.

you don't have to be married just to be with a partner as long as your hearts are sincere to each other and ur hurting no one.

portiphers wife would have done adultery with Joseph as she was married.

there's nothing like "fornicate" it's a scary word designed to prevent people from being human beings....

YorubaAndIgboAr:
Then why do we live by Human and Governmental law, let us just start behaving like animals, survival of the fittest, at this point I urge to take off your clothes completely and walk into the street like an animal.

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Amotolongbo:
Joseph

Cos he didn’t fornicate

Christianity takes natural behavior found in all mammals and calls it "fornicate", "sexual immorality", "commit", "convict", "lust", "sin" etc. it's stupid.

with this said stuff like sleeping with married people and prostitutes are sinful.

Amotolongbo:
Joseph

Cos he didn’t fornicate

Christians are the among the most stupid set of people on earth. Half of you are brainless. Do you know the difference between fornication and adultery? what Joseph avoided was adultery.

As for "fornicate" there's nothing like "fornication". when two willing parties are attracted to each other they mate. now if we gonna be thrown into hell for that then we know we went to hell for acting out how we were made.

The so called marriage these days is with unattractive old women..... so Christianity doesn't want you to hv an attractive woman. most ppl these days marry wen they old and u won't even enjoy the fukk then to ex oloshos now wives.

think with ur head!

yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.

and one day she will leave you for another man without blinking an eye lid.... harden your heart bro b4 it's too late.

Yinkakolawole:
Something like this av happens to me, but av learnt my lesson. Women are unpredictable.

they are greedy and selfish. it is these two factors that leads to their unpredictability.

yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.

mugus and mumus never learn

obaaderemi:
42 year old man is still quite young. Even if he doesn't have money but is clean and bold, he would still get girls. That's the beauty of it.

We agree he can still get nice young girls - but its late to start fathering a child. girls hv a dual strategy - fukk around wen young and marry rich man when old.... so guys should consider a dual strategy too - marry the old girls then have flings with the young girls at the same time.

this is where girls then come up with their selfish concepts of "cheating" and "jealousy"; as if they were building with me when i was building. When i have moni, il be free to be with any girl I want even if its not the wife....

JovialJune:
How is it that you take pride in being dull? if you allowed your brain to think, you and others that has been yapping about on this thread will understand what Op means, which is that fathering children at old age is a bad idea, he gave example of having a first born at age 60, how will an old man be able to instill parental fatherly duties and responsibilites for the child and the little ones that follow? Instead you all are yapping about fathering a child at age 80, 90 like educated illiterates, imagine having a five year old or 10 year old at age 90, when you die, who will be the father figure in his or her life? Who will take care of the child? The mother right? Fuuls.

don't mind them... these guys can generate excuses and defend nonsense for Africa.

and often talk as if men are immortal lolz.

where men have the clear upper hand is in flings.... even a 55 year old man can pull a young girl for a fling not marriage.

drezzyx:
Most he play ball with his son when there are so many football academy.

he must..playing football, teaching him things etc are best done when the father is able. you get the drift....

drezzyx:
At 72 my former landlord is still making babies after so many children from different women.

So far a man is still fertile I don't think he has biological clock as you call it.

It's obvious a man can make babies. Men's biological clock concerns them having enough time to father a child. Imagine a 56 year old man playing football with his 12 yr old son.....

Malory:
What's this one saying? *spits*

What im saying is dont copy everything the british do...

LibertyRep:
The nightmare of any parent is to lose a child, not even under such dastardly circumstances.
Lagos State government MUST ensure that the matter is thoroughly investigated and justice served.

this is my biggest fear in having children and sometimes, for this reason, I dont want to have children out of this fear... please can you advice me on how to overcome this fear?? And please dont say "God"....

Malory:
This case must not be swept under the carpet. Justice for the young lad.

Why use "young lad"? colonial brainwashing. why not use the equivalent term in your own language? You were not taught lad in school - you simply just copied it from the british...

colonial mentality = everything foreign must be good while everything nigerian must be bad....

advanceDNA:
kB007 gave you a link of a real medical article of what you claim....but you are still too lazy to look it..

instead, you are doing like Nigerian police that will arrest a dog then force It as an evidence that it’s a lion..

I already looked at the article. "Researchers found it takes up to five times as long for a man over 45 to get a woman pregnant than if he was under 25."

That's cos he is already past 40. And those signs point to what I wrote on this thread so my write up is in agreement with the article.

I repeat, men can impregnate a girl at 45 or 50.... but thats not the biological clock I speak about. The biological clock for men IS THAT THERE IS A TINE LIMIT FOR FATHERING CHILDREN.

Figger:
erectile dysfunction is curable unlike menopause.

The point is biological clock exists in both genders but manifests in different ways for both genders....what I've shown is how it manifests for guys...

Figger:
no u don't know what biological clock means, it simply means at a certain age, one becomes unable to procreate. It's not applicable to men.

it's applicable to men because men are human beings..... ever heard of erectile dysfunction? men just have slightly more time than females that's all....

LIVINGICON:
You no know wetin u dey write.
Having kids at a later age of a man's life is very different from his biological clock ticking. Nature has made it that a man will continue to ball and fluorish with his fertility prowess still intact till he drops dead provided he keeps a healthy lifestyle. We don't have shits like menopause or loose or sagged bodies.

and men over 50s body isnt loose and sagged? you dont know what you are talking about...

InTheCloudySky:
They like to think they dont. Las las, women still have the longer life expectancy.

thats because men used to shoulder all the financial burden... today women are expected to contribute....

advanceDNA:
What exactly is this one saying...?

I thought you want to even show us a research data that will enlighten us of the age a man’s sperm no longer fertilizes eggs.....

But you are here talking about age of the men when the child is 18....how is this a biological clock.... do you even know what biological clock in women mean....

Oh gosh!! What kind of reasoning is this??

i know what biological clock means in women. and ive just explained to you what it means in men....

IKBARUTEN11:
The woman is evil and greedy.


After enjoying other people's husband while still young, she however forgot that nemesis that never forgets. She is married now and expects the husband not to cheat especially when she looks this tattered and dirty

All I'm saying is that girls who cheated a lot before getting married are the ones who can do such damage to a fellow lady who comes close to their husbands because they know better that all men are cheats

the 32 year old woman is naive to believe she can compete with a 23 year old girl... thats why girls should get married on time and maintain their appearance for their husband....

envoymedia:
Housewife Arrested For Murder After Setting Husband's Married Side Chic Ablaze In Ogun (Photos)



https://www.instagram.com/p/CXB1jc8NVkD/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

The woman that committed this murder should also be murdered.... selfish hoeeee....

When you were 23 you gree marry? Idiot.

Many men on this forum threaten females with "biological clock" and sometimes this is unfair.... so the purpose of this thread is to describe/ explain men's biological clock too. The last age for a man to get married on time is 40-42... anything later than that, you will be too old when your children are growing up.

Say you get married at 40 and first child comes at 42, when you are 60 is when your first child is 18! Not ideal.... so there you have it....men have biological clock too not just women....

Kobojunkie:
I hope you make the same allowance for your wife or wives too since they too ought to be free to freely cheat and not be stuck with the same man all their lives.

They are free to "mate" with others... it's not "cheating" it's biology...and mating.

BigBashiru:
Women are not attracted to men that aren't dominant even though they won't admit it just like you hv denied just now....this explains why women love men that beat them..... it's a confused gender....that's why they say never take advice on relationships from a woman. That friendship is good so long as the dominant component isn't completely taken away.

All the men where dey like my comment...I no talk say make una go begin beat woman in the name of dominance oh! Abeg

Evercurious:
Honest and truthful inside nonsense? Well it's okay since both of you re on the same page and alike to accept and be in such 'bizarre' conditions in the name of being truthful, honest and of course open mindedness

How can I be stuck with one woman all my life and why should I?? Think about it! When there are asses of different sizes,so many other kissable gals etc with figure 8. Think about it!

Evercurious:
Really? People can be so weird indeed

Wierd how? It's about being honest and truthful....

nogragra:
Slaves and the spiritually blinded were described in the Bible as, people that have eyes but they do not see, they have ears but do not ear. Which of the two do you belong or should I say aptly describes you.

it's better to be a slave to chins than to be a slave to western Europeans who regard you as a sub human monkey....

KingLarry04:
https://independent.ng/rccg-launches-online-dating-site/

Brilliant

Preetti:
Mrbenjame interesting thread. Well as for me, the families and friends I know who travelled abroad with their spouses are fine till today.
Everyone would always have diverse opinions based on their own experiences.

PS: Back when I was new to naira land and didn't know better, I used to reply nairaland mails.
I got mails from married Nigerian men living abroad requesting for a relationship, phone intimacy or something perverse. And they always say "I'm married" or "I'm almost separated from my wife" (which anyone can tell is a lie)
One even said his wife was working at the hospital and that she's a strong woman and all. If she's that good a person why the heck are you then chatting up a random person on the internet asking for a relationship.
Now these are the sort of men that are unapologetically cheating on their wives for no reason, but if you judge by their nairaland comments you would think they are responsible, well behaved men.
Op this is is to tell you that sometimes women are not the problem so if you choose to make your life decisions based on some comments from some hypocritical people here then you might regret it cause they aren't practising what they preach.
Last last do what you think is right for you .

there is nothing like "cheating". I made it clear to my wife that im still available to other women and she too is available to other men.... its only "cheating" when you both promise yourselves monogamy....

JovialJune:
So in your head,, all marriages abroad dont last?

The ones that lasted without dominance, how did they make that happen? Doesnt it show that they both put in the effort and see themselves as equal without the usual b.s shenanigans of dominance/submissiveness you guys blab about here?

My mum's elder brother lives in L.A, he brought his wife to join him there, sponsored his wife to nursing school and shes a highly paid nurse today, he is close to 70 now and not doing anything anymore while the wife works and pays the bill, how come we've never for once heard of any fracas from them? How come the wife didn't divorce him cos she earns more? If my uncle wasn't good, nice, respectful and a responsible man, wouldn't she have divorced him since? How come she stayed with him up till now?

You guys keep putting the blame on the wives when the man also contributed to whatever attitude he gets, you want a wife that will lick your ass same way it was in naija coupled with stupid egositic attitude or worse cheating, then expect her to smile and pray you'd get your senses back all in the name of endurance? naaa it doesnt work that way, you have other options, marry other abroad based ladies and gladly wash plates and cook for her without complaints simple

Me thinks you guys just hate the fact that Nigerian women exercise their right over there at the expense of you men and your ego/dominance so y'all are bitter/envious about it, if the abroad system was like ours, y'all will have no problem wives with you since it favours you all to a 't', that's why y'all keep wailing and wailing about it, keep wailing.

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pocohantas:
What is wrong in cooking for your family? Forgive me, I find arguments like this mundane and irrelevant. Sadly it is what has become the order of the day when marriage is discussed. It shows there is something wrong with us as a people. Both male and female.

You were cooking in Nigeria, suddenly cooking is below you because you are abroad? There are bound to be issues.

Ordinarily, both parties should be helping each other. Domestically and financially, but when one person thinks chores are below him or assisting financially would make her a mumu, wahala done dey. Nigerians play too many mind games and relationships with them wears someone like me out.

You might not cook 7 days a week, but I believe a good husband, be it in Nigeria or Cambodia, should know when his wife has done her best and deserves some rest. On such days she should get her rest.

If her husband is not dicking her and he is making no effort to improve, she can leave the marriage with her dignity and value intact.

No adult abroad has time to even sit and eat three times a day. There are more pressing issues and Nigerian men and women should begin to upgrade their OS. We are too backward in our issues.

pocahontas I told my female friends this: when I was a bachelor, I cook, clean my entire house as well as work all by myself....without a wife....and after I married I continued to do all of them by myself because I'm already used to it....