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justiz5:
Desire in God to give you the best.
See God will never give you a girl that is a pussy distributor (Public Pussy) if you desire in his will. Even when the "SELF" in you wants to mislead you, God will call you back. You can also do a background check even when you are sure the Holy Spirit is the one leading you.

Nothing is hidden under the Sun.

That lady you desire to marry has a past life that can not be hidden.

Every past life can be uncovered. If people of the word can do it, why can't the people of God.

God gave someone an ex prostitute in the old testament....

Mercychen:
I know but do you know you can't always have it all good in one package?
So, saying he should have waited some more to get a woman with all these qualities is not ideal as that wil be like going on a wild goose chase.

The thing is, if you can get 50% of what you want in somebody, go ahead because no human has it �% character and quality wise.

i agree with u...then use a side chick to get the rest.. .. why is polygamy not practiced?!

frozen70:
You don't need to be confused
You know what you want from a woman can not be gotten 100%

Secondly, you talk about possibilities of cheating on her

Look cheating is an attitude a man form, so you will cheat if you want to cheat and if you don't want to cheat, is your choice

there's nothing like cheating since no woman has everything....i think responsible polygamy is allowed

1. She looks plum - this is a sign of sperm activity in her body.

2. It is easy to get her to open her legs.... means ur not the first

3. looks older than her age.

4. overactive in church I.e. carries church on her head... this is a way to compensate for a past life now that shes "born again"

guys pls contribute...

nesgeeek:
I've been keeping my precious body for the right lady, I've never engage in sex. so u expect me to go and marry an harlot. God forbid...

same here oh.... but how do we develop a formula for finding da right lady with low body count??

everythinggirly:
It's good to pray for the right one even before marriage, someone that loves you can't hurt you.

it's not just one right one - there could maybe be 3 right ones....

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

explain to ur wife to be that ur polygamous in nature and that it won't be only her!

zainabicy:
Funny thing is girls don’t really have a problem with a guys body count.

We are just different sha, all this gender equality is bullsh****



The real question is -

Would you like to know all the ‘bad’ things she has done in the past ? All the styles and the guys that have hanged her legs ? Or would you rather not know ?

Ignorance is bliss o…

If you want to know, like

If you don’t want to know, share

This is why I avoid women in their 30s because their body count is most likely ultra high and they probably already have a child with another man

Ybaby:
Why did you mention me? I do not permit pooor men mentioning me pls. Find something doing pls!!

u hv no answer to the question u expired gold digger so pls get off my mentions!

Iyaebe:
Bill my type and watch me rob it on your face like shit,its against nature for a man to bill a woman especially the one he's dating

I'm asking u out to be my girlfriend! iyabe would u be my nairaland girlfriend?

PUSSYBBQGRILLS:
Send her to school and marry her. Simple.

dangerous advice....after sending her to school, she will leave u for another man!

Ybaby:
Amen my bruv. As long as you are a provider good man God will give you a good woman

what does the woman bring to the table to a provider man? don't tell me cooking and cleaning cos he was doing that when he was a bachelor.

ur just an entitled and selfish woman looking for a victim.

much as a provision type guy is a good deal for a woman, the arrangement needs to be a good deal for the man too!

Ybaby:
No mind am because I dont write innit and ain't.... he wants to be more british than the queen. I am a naija girl proper ijebu lagosian. Proud of my root.

i like this. keep this up!

Ybaby:
To be honest, it is not ordinary - to pay school fees, shelter, food, clothes, vacation then invest in inheritance.... biko it is NOT ordinary.

See the amount of men that want to escape from this huge responsibility to provide.... it is dog eat dog in man's world and no one pities them.

Honestly provider men are mini gods - not easy and yet they find a way to make it happen. They are machines! They take care of everyone before themselves and age fast ..... to toil is not easy and I really want to appreciate men who provide.

Women and kids are thankful!

All roofs in this world was hammered by men, the roads was constructed by men, the gates are watched by men - we appreciate your muscles, your sweat, your putting your family before your needs, the challenges you face at work because of us..... left to men a shirt and a trouser is enough but you keep going to work and labouring because of women and children.

God bless all provider men in the world, kings will seek your counsel, your path will be made easier and the heads of those you provide for will protect you. We donot take what you bring for granted. Thank you

P.S notice I said provider men o NOT ..... the other type of men should come and sit with us women - we are all one

the marriage contract has been rewritten.... every sensible provider type man needs to be getting something in return from the wife the most important of which are: good character, no nagging/shouting, bringing up his children for him well, marrying at a young enough age (provider men hv their pick of women)....

so what you hv written is all good but what does he get in return for his provision?? guys these days are woke and sensible...and is the woman worth being provided for? hope it's not some ex oloshos now claiming wife.

Iyaebe:
Bill my type and watch me rob it on your face like shit,its against nature for a man to bill a woman especially the one he's dating

it's not against nature.... it's all about who needs the other person more.... females manipulate men into spending.... men should continue to bill gals!

NeroStealth01:
You don't have to get burnt before you are truly REDPILLED. Saying men have to get burnt before they are considered solid REDPILLERS is one of the dumbest thing I have ever heard. It reeks of bluePILLED mindset.

Men don't need to experience heartbreak before they are unplugged from the matrix and become REDPILLED. In fact the best and luckiest of men are those who never got burnt by female nature before accepting the REDPILL.

Someone was still talking about how a former secondary school mate of his committed suicide just because of a bad love experience. What do we say about that? How does the dead learn from his experience now?

Don't ever fall for it whenever you are told you need to experience something before you truly understand it. When you can clearly see with your own eyes the damages it has done to others before.

That is how some dumb men will also tell you that you have to experience raw sex. Now when you go ahead and experience the raw sex with a prostitute, and you get infected with HIV. How do you come back from that? How do you recover?

Some experience, you don't come back from it.

One of the best ways to learn is to learn from the experience of others.

The only experience you need is the experience you want to add to your CV so as to get another better paying job in a more reputable company/firm.

#TAKETHEREDPILL
#STAYREDPILLED
#STAYCOLD

the person that committed suicide is probably because he was taught monogamy.... monogamy is destructive to men...why commit scd over a woman wen he could probably get 20 more.

Biodun556:
Beauty of Islamic finance

Religion is not our problem but rather a solution to our problem
First and second WW were not caused by religion

First WW claimed 16 million lives while second WW claimed 85 million lives

Man will always find excuse to pursue his selfish interest on account of what he believes in

Wole Soyinka established a so called fraternity in his University days, but now the fraternity has turned to cultism becomes one of the security challenges we face now in Nigeria. That's how man behaves.

Islamic states say woman must cover up...theres a law in kano and Iran that says no sex b4 marriage. pls tell me if these aren't food things.... the only error in Islam as far as I'm concerned is a failure to acknowledge that Jesus is d Son of God! other than that, Islamic countries are better than Christian countries....

Ttjj:
He should be blamed for everything because nigeria has gone from bad to worse under him

ur State has gone from bad to worse under ur governor.....nigeria has gotten better under buhari

Charbriq2022:
Nigeria problem is a foundational one,buhari can't be everywhere to solve our problems, mostly,we the followers are to blame, until we start to realize that everyone has a part to play in the growth and stability of our dear nation,then our redemption begin as a nation.

well said....

olas24u:
The independence of africa also depends on multipolar world

i think part of the reason russia/China have a stand off with the West asides Ukraine is because in addition to Ukraine issue, the West is also losing their African colonies.... France lost central african republic around 2019 and they are currently about to lose Mali.

Jokerman:
Of course... and I don't blame him... he's still thinking of reviving the old soviet empire, which other countries don't want...

Soviet Union and dictatorship though....

no he is not thinking of reviving Soviet empire....just keeping Russia safe

Racoon:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2021/12/buhari-at-79-a-man-given-so-much-who-gives-so-little-back

Just imagine! The progenitor of bandits/terrorists can never defeat terrorism.Insecurity can't solve Insecurity. Your sensational pattern of failures must be studied so that future generations can avoid it @ all cost.

the bandits and terrorists are coming from niger and mali etc and so long as there's terrorism in those countries, Nigeria can never be 100% safe.

Lanrelagboi:
Nigerian Politics need to Grow from ground up and that begins from holding the local government chairmen and women accountable. I live in Epe Local Government Lagos ans this are those of my chairwoman in 100 days. Please list yours

leave all the mumus to be waiting for buhari

Vintiana:
People like you are the reason why people commit suicide. You pass judgment from your assumption.
If you had calm down to read, you would have seen where I mentioned “pressure from family “ and how we didn’t Date till during the marriage plan.

family pressure is not enough reason to lead a man on (and have him disappointed after building his hopes - means you used him for ur convenience to get rid of family pressure). you should have simply told ur family that you will make haste but not with this particular man as ur not truly interested and don't want a divorce. simple.

Raalsalghul:
Women cheat too but not in the "polygamous" sense you would think about.

A man cheating on his wife all comes down to sexual pleasure: meaning he can sleep with a Blessing tomorrow, Nkechi the day after and maybe Bolanle next week. He can sleep with as many women he wants as long as they tickle his loins and still loves his wife.

A woman on the other hand cheating on her husband mostly comes down to emotion. She has lost the attraction she has for her partner and is emotionally involved with some other guy: just one guy. So that is the guy she sleeps with not just any random guy she comes across.

This is mainly based on observation.

Very true.... so we can conclude female cheating is more serious... cos once u lose ur emotions for ur guy wetin remain??

Vintiana:
A friend of mine (not too close) proposed to me sometime 2018 even though we weren’t dating as of that time. after too much pressure from my family I accepted this guy and we started dating and was planning a wedding the same time. A date was fixed for the wedding already, even though I wasn’t ready to settle with someone like him. I tried to adapt to his kinda person but it wasn’t working for me I had to call the wedding off. Everyone was mad my parents could not take the shame they begged and begged but I stood my ground cos we were not compatible and most importantly there was no communication in the relationship but nobody could actually understand my point. Long story short. He got married to someone else January 2021, I got married November 2021.

if you knew you were not compatible then why did u lead him on? guys focus on God and ur own life and treat women as accessories una no go hear....

MufasaLion:
I ain't gonna marry and I don't even wanna have more than 1 or 2 kids. See, without marriage, I can still achieve what I want.

it's the upbring of the child that's the problem. imagine a child being brought up by only the dad or the mum and the child has no brother or sister in a wicked world...think about it! we hv to consider the unborn child.

here's my strategy...i will get married but will make it clear to the girl it isn't monogamy.... this means i may only do trad since trad supports polygamy. so I'l get married and hv my side chicks for sure!

LolaO:
Yes I have
We dated for 5 years.
Proposed to - Jan 2020
Introduction - February 2020
Engagement and wedding was supposed to be - November 2020
I called off the wedding in August 2020 due to the below reasons:
- Dishonesty in finances (non-communication too)
- LIES, very strong ones
- Cheating (deal breaker was while engaged)
- Sexual incompatibility
- Loss of love and attraction because of the above.
The red flags had always been there, but I chose to ignore because I was blinded at the time.
He got married to someone else in less than a year.
I don’t regret my decision and I’m glad I called it off; I deserved better.

dishonesty in finances means u feel entitled to money ur not working for. I bet ur also unhappy in ur current marriage..... most girls select and select and select until they can select no more (get old).

u were not with him wen he was making d moni so don't feel entitled to it. I'm sure u work too.

Vintiana:
A friend of mine (not too close) proposed to me sometime 2018 even though we weren’t dating as of that time. after too much pressure from my family I accepted this guy and we started dating and was planning a wedding the same time. A date was fixed for the wedding already, even though I wasn’t ready to settle with someone like him. I tried to adapt to his kinda person but it wasn’t working for me I had to call the wedding off. Everyone was mad my parents could not take the shame they begged and begged but I stood my ground cos we were not compatible and most importantly there was no communication in the relationship but nobody could actually understand my point. Long story short. He got married to someone else January 2021, I got married November 2021.

u wicked soul! if u knew u didn't like him then why did u say yes/ lead him on?? truth is then u were young and felt u could get better. and I'm sure ur current guy isn't ur ideal guy either na just manage u dey manage.

MufasaLion:
Still undecided.

the reason men marry is not because they love marriage so much it's so they have a next of kin.

Wal-Mart has been propagated for years since 1970s by the family of the founder thru marriage/children.

British Royal family pass on thru marriage etc

it's not because it's great (most men know it isn't).

MufasaLion:
And there are still many men like that with no regrets. I ain't gonna marry also. I ain't gonna regret it.

who will inherit ur estate??

i926:
Have you ever thought about nerdfrost traveling all over the world, making money, having quality friends, investing and fvcking and dumping beautiful models like tissue papers.

I don't plan on marrying. My mom still thinks that I'm kidding about the firm decision. she don tire

i recently met a man that had this mentality. no wife no kids (at 56) and he says that's his biggest regret in life... you can't eat ur cake and have it...those investing in marriage aren't fools... but marriage isn't for everyone....

but I agree marriage in its current form is a scam towards men.

nothing in it for a man except kids...m