Princewill1: Commonsensically marriage in this present generation is a waste. No man need any long sermon to know this.
But after reading the 38th LAW: Think as you like, but behave like others and knowing the conservative nature of the society we are living in. I might eventually marry but with an 'exit plan' in case things turn sour.
I think most men who are stuck in bad marriages today while suffering and smiling never had an 'exit plan'.
Pls can you share your exit plan cos me too I need an exit plan in case mine turns sour
MindHacker9009: Ummm! I prayed to God for a wife. I'm an introvert and when I was asked by a friend to marry their sister I felt woow! God has answered my prayer not knowing I was walking into a similar situation like the OP. In my own case she was the one that begged me that we should have children, that I'm too nice to her and the only thing she can use to pay me back was to have a children for me. I did not know that was her plan so that she can show her true self after having a child since she knows I'm a caring person. Looking back now I feel I was jazzed by this woman for many years till the jazz has now cleared from me.
Thats the downside of "asking God for a wife"....we often feel that the bad women coming is the answer to that prayer....
Clinghton: I think marriage is like picking a package without having knowledge of it's content, if it happens to be good you thank your stars if it turns out bad you develop a distorted ideology about it.
But does it really hv to be that way?? Why not try before you buy
lexy2014: The above is the Koko. The woman became a devil after marriage & sgtpobzihater1 didnt notice anything wrong with her before getting married to her...she was damn perfect
Kobojunkie: I don't understand why Paul's opinion causes any of what you claim.
By the way, the Christian thing is to avoid sexual lus - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 -", not fornication. And marriage does not help with avoiding sexual lust.
You are a confused idiot. Always claiming to be God's representative but always talking nonsense.
Kobojunkie: That question is best asked the man who chooses for himself a woman who can't contribute financially towards his home.
There are men out there who seek out such women for marriage, so when they come whining afterwards, you ought to know then the women is not entirely to blame.
Kobojunkie but it's the bible that causes such decisions....stuff like:
"To avoid fornication let every man have his own wife" this makes Christian men trying to avoid "fornication" to prioritize beauty even if the woman is lazy etc....
FunnyDude: Bro you have time responding to all these depressed bittered single men here. As for me, I don't own anyone explanation. I'm married and enjoying my life.
Most men here are opposite of what they preach real life.
If you were truly enjoying your marriage you will hv no need or hv the time to come to nairaland to write it here.....
LocalStandard1: Wow, good write up. Personally I think some men are tricked into that 'union' and they should have their ignorance to blame.
If you must marry, baba marry a virgin, you will grow to trust her. Not a repented harlot, trust me.
But if you want children pls and pls just adopt. Do not bring a child in a shitty arrangement you call 'baby mama, daddy', for the fear of God. Am talking from personal experience now. Thank you
Parents no longer marry off their daughters as virgins tho "cos they want her to finish school" not knowing it's in school she gets disvirgined hahaha
tctrills: What are you saying? You are not making any sense. Do you know how old the world is? Does the even of 2600 years wipe away thousands of years of history? Again what does this have to do with your so-called evil Christians?
tctrills: Western Europeans only became the dominant power less than 2600 years ago. Egypt, Babylon, India, China have at one time or the other been the strongest nations. Even the Muslim world dominated the Christian west for hundreds of years
And the Almighty allows one race to be in controll for 2600 years?? Listen to urself!
Favor99: No, God’s ways are higher than our ways. The Israelites were in enslaved in Egypt for 400 years without doing anything wrong to deserve it. Job lost everything he had and went through disaster before God blessed him double double. Jesus who never committed any sin or wrongdoing lived a harsh life filled with persecution. Sometimes bad things happen to both the good and the bad. The sun shines on both the just and the unjust. And the rain pours on both alike.
God will make all wrongs right in his own time. All will be well for Africa eventually. Nigeria will be fine and blessed by the grace of God. And the Western Europeans will be given time and grace from God to repent for their sins. Although there is punishment and consequences for all sins, the Lord is still merciful and gracious to forgive if the person or group repents.
Pls stop the God's way higher than our way rubbish....that's that flimsy excuse....
123guys: Nairalanders I need advice. I've been dating this girl for more than a year. But I have couple of challenges:
1) She doesn't like to visit me except for a few times. She claims to be a virgin and says I might be tempted. That I need to pay her bride price before we can do all those. At times I wonder if there's something she's hiding.
2) Each time I try to break up, she sheds tears and involves her family members sometimes to beg me.
3) She is a prayerful type (she has MFM background). So, oftentimes she involves me in fasting.
4) She swings mood easily when things are not going on well. This part is really frustrating because she takes everything as fight when this happens. Infact, she hardly takes advice.
I love her but I'm not sure how to deal with those bad sides. Please I need help. I need advice.
Mfm girls are selfish and evil; don't marry her u will regret it.....
Victory was given by God to the western europeans - they killed and erased native americans - and took over their land, performed genocide in Australia and took over their land, performed genocide against the new zealand and canada natives and took over their land. Performed genocide against south africans and successfully took over their land. performed genocide against zimbabwe and took over their land. murdered 10 million congolese, 80,000 in Namibia etc etc.
Today, at least 20 countries in africa are controlled monetarily by france which has resulted in their currency CFA lacking value - hence africans instead of migrating within africa are once again forced to migrate to europe and to countries God allowed them to colonize.
does God hate everyone else in the world except western europeans
Karlovych: Buhari and Tinubu brought this misery upon Nigerian students who have been forced to sit at home due to incessant strikes.
Recently one was stabbed to death because she had to get part time work as they have been at home for a long time, the young men have turned to yahoo and skull mining
May Ogun punish the dullard and the cocaine gobbler that forced him on Nigerians for this wickedness they have done.
You are incorrect. Its reckless drivers... Nigerians are reckless drivers.... many drivers are also high on heroin etc... in this instance its the State Governor and FRSC that failed nigerians....this is common sense...
KiNg0G: I lived with my father's brother for a long time. he didn't work one day, all he does in the morning was to wash his mouth, have his bath then have his meal, awaiting his wife to come back from her trade in the market.. Then off she went to prepare another meal.. Staying With them was hell for me because sometimes there was hardly food in the house but my uncle hardly cares about that, it is either he is in one joint with his friends on a sunny day or he is at home listening to radio stations. His wife was the provider and never for once did she insult him...
This same character has gotten into me deeply, I can't help myself. I can't do thing's for myself.
My girlfriend cohabiting with me is the one providing almost everything we need all I do is to give her my G-15 in the evening. I'm always at home 24/7. She's never complained, I love it, for me to get a job and be answering Sir sir to people, I can't.
Stay fresh, bath, eat and sleep is the order of the day.
Few women are like this, just the other day she asked me to come pay her bride price before the year ends, I asked her where would I see the money... baby girl told me not worry that something huge is coming..
I love this freedom, but sometimes I get a mixed feelings of been a liability, ants feeding on sugars. Anyway I'm enjoying myself quite well.
The real thing is my masculinity as the head of the house still intact.
engrchykae: Tufiakwa for Africa All what the imperialists did to Africa had Africa foot soldiers carrying out the crimes. USA wanted murtala dead, who killed him? Dimka Thomas Sankara wanted dead but killed by fellow Burkinabe Blacks are evil to themselves. It's true that Europe bought slaves but Africans hunted our brothers and sold to the white man. Williams Wilberforce even have to fight Africans to stop slavery. The Benin empire was built on slavery and fell because the British fought them and defeated them before they could stop slavery. What a shame
Wilberforce didn't stop slavery that's a lie we were fed to make colonialism sound as if it was a good thing and Mary Slessor didn't stop the killing of twins either.
You want to be spending my moni for life but wat are you offering me in return. Time has passed when men were exploited by used up old hags. If you want moni go and get a job. I'm rich but shishi i no go give you.
What you don't realize is that it's one thing to be rich and it's another thing for the man to stupid enough to not ask you to go and find your own job and make your own money.....
Prettygirl200: So as the topic implies am in a need of a boyfriend, when I mean boyfriend I mean real one, not all those broke ass redpillers ooo. He must have these qualities:
Must be rich Must be handsome, Must be tall, Must be intelligent and above all must not have a body count that is above 3. Thank u!!
What does he get in return for offering you all this?? I am rich but will make sure you work for your money. I can't be used by any woman.
You are not the chooser a man is the chooser and you hv no say in hiw many ppl a guy has slept with....
He is d person marrying you, you are not marrying him.....
Whiteshield: Failure is already staring at you in the face, you don dey fear. Obi that ran away from Ekiti, you will see how he will run away from Osun. Your candidate is a coward, a lying, effeminate coward.
Isokiscool: Peter Obi is a good man but realistically he cannot win
Negative minded Nigerians always say this and this is why I don't pity all of you. Yes buhari realistically can win so let him be president again for another 4 years. Mumu....
Metrix147: We Took Her To Hotel, Drug Her Yoghurt, Stab Her To Death And Sell Her Baby For N150K - Abia Murder Suspects Confess (VIDEO)
Two suspects arrested in connection with the killing of a 21-year-old nursing mother, Chimhurumnaya Udeh have confessed killing the deceased, saying they only administered eight pieces of piriton tablets to make her fall asleep before stabbing her to death, ABN TV reports.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4q88VnemR0Y The victim was killed in a room at Merry Home Hotels Ogbor Hill Aba on 15 April, 2022 by the suspects who also took her 11-month-old baby away.
In his confessional statement during the parade at police headquarters in Umuahia, one of the suspects, David Ogwo Orji, 21, a native of Ugwueke in Bende local government area of Abia State said the deceased was his girlfriend.
He had lured her into the hotel where he along with his accomplice, Chimaobi Anyim Kalu had concluded plans to kill her and sell her baby for N150,000
He said one Chukwuemeka James who is at large currently has facilitated a buyer for them who is ready to pay N150,000.
While claiming that it was not his intention to kill the lady before abducting her baby to sell off, he said Chimaobi Anyim Kalu was the one who threatened to kill him inside the hotel room if he fails to stab the deceased to death while she was fast asleep.
Upon his refusal, Chimaobi helped him in hitting the bottom of a broken glass cup to stab the deceased where she died instantly before he (David) made away with the 11-month-old baby to meet an already waiting buyer.
Whiteshield: @Bolded, you will remember this thing you just typed and curse yourself for being so naive. Osun election is by the corner, have you heard pim from Labour Party and Obi. See, let me tell you. On the day of elections, Labour Party agents will work for either PDP or APC. You will only cry betrayal and that's it.
Mr negative na u go go curse urself oh not me.....
Whiteshield: You can enjoy good governance in Lagos not don't want Tinubu as President? Na lie. Tinubu must rule you. You will cry blood when Tinubu becomes President.
Family › Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by BigBashiru: 5:16pm On Jun 23, 2022
Buhari and Tinubu brought this misery upon Nigerian students who have been forced to sit at home due to incessant strikes.