vastolord4: Put-in is just as insecure as any sane president would.. he loves his people and would protect his territory.. if only the Hausas had protected their region from the Fulani {Husman Danfodio} Nigeria wouldn't have been a mistake
MY RESPONSE. First let me thank our mutual friend Imelda for drawing my attention to this.
Well, I am here to set the record straight. I did not see any need to respond, but some commentators really got me laughing hard so let me indulge you all.
Maximum respect for you bro,for showcasing much maturity on these matter, Na man you be... the level of disrespect from her to you is unimaginable , thank God you where able to provide for the family,that would have been worst because CNN, BBC and AL JAZEERA would have heard of it. Anyways this is a family matter , your decisions is for you to take alone.but know this one person is much in love than the other and that's where the big problem is. If you are been treated like this in the past 8 years just know you will continue to be treated that way for live. To kick start, I am in touch with my 2 kids on almost a daily basis, and the event she described is not the first time. Hanging up on me is a routine since we married, it has happened un-countable times. Also the guys that said I am childish are right, when they finish reading they will truly know that, no man will behave the way I have, except a child. Lastly, I am fully responsible for the upkeep of my family, every penny and not much age difference between us. I have never hung up on her for one day. She has even blocked me on phone over some arguments while we live in same house. (LOL)
For the readers, what happened is this :
You called me that you were going to made some budget and you will be spending … amount of money on that plans- you know the plan. I told you it was okay and we kept on talking about It. ( I did not raise any issue immediately to avoid conflict) so after some days, I told you that next time, it will be appropriate that we ought to discuss such plans together and that it was not the best for you to decide all by yourself and only informed me of what you have chosen to do for a decision that affects the both of us. You flared up immediately that I do not have the right to tell you that, and THAT YOU ARE ALONE WITH THE CHILDREN (like you always say) and furthermore, you said you have many things that you are doing at the same time. I then replied you that I also have many things going through my mind. ( I replied you this way because you always say this, anytime I want to have a discussion with you. You even say this even while we were together, and I will just be amazed). You flared up and insulted me then hung up.
I called you immediately many times. I called you again at night, I sent you several messages, although I did not apologize directly but the messages I sent reflected that I was sorry. In one of the messages, I explained that I was critical of the amount you intend to spend , because you do know we have other more pressing plans that we needed funds for, and that what your budgeted was a bit too high. But you refused to let go like you have always done for these 8 years. Every week for 6 weeks I sent you messages that you never replied to.
In this period, you also changed apartment without even deeming it fit to tell me. (Yes I know before this misunderstanding, it was already the plan that you will be changing apartment. But the anger still did not allow you tell me as at when you finally moved to the new apartment, till now, it has been more than 3 months that you moved, you still did not inform me although the children told me about it, you know they did, but I expected that at least you should tell me about it by yourself.)
I did not just stop picking your calls because I wanted to stop, I did it for my self respect and sanity. It is the first time I am refusing to pick your call, or even not to talk to you after 8 years of marriage.
Have I ever held any grudge against you for more than 24hrs ?, have you ever had to apologise more than once on anything without me accepting your apology immediately, that is even if you choose to apologise at all. ? !. Rather you are the one that reminds me at every giving opportunity that I know you can decide not to talk to me again and stay on you own, and that I am the one that will suffer. In precise terms, you always do this, while I was at home. You can stay on for weeks and months without talking to me for the slightest misunderstanding, I am always the one that will try and make peace, and each time you either humiliate me by refusing to make peace till whenever you are satisfied. It has been like this for these 8 years. Even if I want to hold a discussion with you at home, it is either you are busy on the phone, and If I try to ask you to focus you just tell me I should summarize and that you listen with your ears, and not your phone or your hands. However, sometimes ( like 20 per cent of cases) you do listen to me.
Even when the children are being difficult, you threaten them by telling them to go ask their father the kind of person you are, and that you do not tolerate nonsense from anyone.(lol, when I was young, our mothers threathen us with our father) Yes, you are right, I wonder why you are so proud of these difficult attributes of yours.
Recall that before that very day that you hung up on me,( in fact also since the beginning of the union), you have been insulting me on each time I call, If we are discussing and I ask you a question about what you have said, you always say that I don’t pay attention. You accuse me of not caring about how you managed the children alone by yourself. I understand it is hard to raise 2 kids under the age of 6 all by yourself, however like I have always told you, lets thank God, it could have been worse- not having children is hard, having children is also hard.Remember at home, your mother and your sister once said that, I show too much care for the kids and that is the weakness that you are using against me. This is from your own family. Imelda was also there !
I can barely talk to you on phone, each time I call you, you tell me you are busy with the kids, and most times you just ask me to summarise and then you hang up even while we were at home together, you say the same thing.
Recently before this sad event you even said if I do not call before 9.45pm, I can no longer reach you, few times when I have to call like few minutes to your deadline, no matter how important our discussion is, once it s 9.45 pm, the phone disconnects and that will be it.You can not even bend that rule for me. You barely return my calls, if you see my missed calls, sometimes it may take you days and most times you do not return them at all, if I ask, you are quick to say, you are alone managing the children and that your are already too stressed up to be bothered about missed calls.
Much earlier than this incident that you hung up on me, you asked me never to wish you any kind of good wishes like happy birthdays, Christmas, mother’s day and all those. Because you said I do not care that it is all lip service. I thought it was just frustration, but for the last 1 year, you have consistently refused to respond to my Christmas, New Year and even your birthday wishes.You ignored all my wishes! 5 months before that faithful day that you escalated your disdain for me to a whole new level, you talked to me on the phone with reckless abandon, even on my birthday, you managed to call me around 11 pm and your birthday wish to me was this “ I WISH YOU WHAT YOU WISH YOURSELF”, I told you it was not a fair wish, and the next thing, it led to outburst again and that was that, and you hung up.
Remember, you forgot my birthday for the past 3 consecutive years.
Obviously, in the preceding 5 months, you have been looking for what I will do so that you can cut me off, the opportunity came and you took it like a Viking.
How often can a married woman stay without getting in contact with her husband for this long over a matter as simple as that, and she is not bothered at all.
I needed to let go for once. I am tired of fighting for the advancement of this union. It has been 8 years of this gruesome treatment. You think everyone is wrong apart from you.
Please if there is any FALSEHOOD in what I have written, I will be glad that you tell your audience. IMELDA YOUR SISTER IS READING THIS AND SHE CAN TESTIFY TO ALL THESE. Moreover, this is just one small aspect of all that has happened these past 8 years. I just decided to skip a thousand others.I only choose to focus on this alone. You know there are a thousand things that are worse than this that you have done.
I am glad that the vast majority of your audience could not be manipulated by your story.
Maybe I would have just stayed back home in Nairobi 7 years ago, may it could not have been this bad. This is my Canada reality!
I would be a liar if I say it has not been daunting and I do not miss you. However, I have since come to the realization that no matter what , no man should dine in the table where love, respect and dignity are not served ! This is my new reality!
Dear Wife, Enjoy your own reality that you created for yourself and stay blessed...!
Sweetplum: That's the mentality of most boys on this forum. If you dare date any of them, you may live to tell a sad tale. Make sure he vomits all the damages. Arrest his mom, father, siblings, entire family and friends, his Alfa or Pastor or Herbalist or Atheist folks. Make sure you deal with him physically and spiritually. What an unfortunate man with nothing to gain and nothing to produce. Sum up the total worth of what he destroyed physically and emotionally. They may be up to N3m or N5m. Let him cough it out. After his release from the police station, charge him to court. Harass him regularly with emotional blackmail and make sure you tell all Nigerians he threatened your life. Get police reports, court orders etc. Report him to people that can help him pay maybe you go recover some amount since the man is so broke. The he-goats must suffer like a village goat!
And what will be your gain after all this?Your advice don't sum up , after all he has been arrested and he is going to dance to the music wella, so what else do you want. Maybe if you kill him you will have rest of mind.
AnambraPeople: Ekweoba Arnold Chukwuebuka is an estate surveyor and the CEO of Arnold and Associates. Arnold & Associates is an Anambra based real estate company with interests in dredging and haulage services. He is one of the promising young people in real estate in Anambra state. In this interview with ANAMBRA PEOPLE, he talked about his company, real estate business in Anambra state and sundry issues. Excerpts;
[/b]WAS REAL ESTATE THE ONLY OPTION YOU HAD?[b]
I would say my journey into the field of real estate was divine. When we were in secondary school, everybody wanted to be an engineer, medical doctor and all that. When I left secondary school, I spent one year at Federal University of Technology, Owerri studying engineering. But at FUTO, I knew engineering wasn’t my calling, so I had to sit for JAMB again and got admission to study Estate Management at Nnamdi Azikiwe University, Awka. That was how I left FUTO where I was studying engineering and moved to UNIZIK for Estate Management.
[/b]WHO REALLY TALKED YOU INTO REAL ESTATE?[b]
At final year in secondary school, I knew nobody that was into real estate and one day in a discussion, our senior prefect mentioned estate management and the opportunities in the field; that was how I picked interest in the course. That same senior prefect in school equally ended up studying estate management in the university.
[/b]WAS REAL ESTATE THE FIRST THING YOU DID AFTER LEAVING THE UNIVERSITY?[b]
After spending 5 years in the university studying the course, I couldn’t do anything aside real estate. In fact, I founded Arnold and Associates in my third year and by the time I got to final year, it was already doing well.
[/b]HOW WAS THE JOURNEY AT THE BEGINNING?[b]
I started in my third year as an agent, I was renting rooms to students, but we had this hunger to be the best and we were the only people in school then giving out rooms with bed sheets. Once the student paid the agent fees to us, we gave out free bed sheet to them. The gift we offered made our brand a household name. I would later have my internship at Anambra State Housing Corporation and from there I moved fully into land agency/ valuation. In my fourth year, I was introduced to the people in charge of the Ukwulu layout, mapped out for sale. Ukwulu shares boundary with Chukwuemeka Odumegwu Ojukwu University, Igbariam, so since I was already renting flats close by, most of the landlords I was renting their flats bought the Ukwulu land through me. I did my youth service in 2017 and while in service, we had our first acquisition at Ifite-Ogwari. Before I got the land, I had little money on me, but by God’s grace, I convinced the owner for a three months payment plan. We called the place ‘Divine Favour Farm Village’ and it was an agricultural site. The land was re-plotted into 5 plots and when people make payments, we cultivate and take care of the land for them and before two years, we sold over 90% of the property. So this was how we started even though we would encounter some challenges like when I invested in agriculture and the whole investments went down the drain and set me back a little.
[/b]WHY DID YOU DECIDE TO BRANCH INTO AGRICULTURE WHILE YOU WERE DOING WELL IN REAL ESTATE?[b]
You know all these motivational speakers will tell you that a millionaire should have multiple source of income. I listened to such kind of advice and invested in agriculture but my branching into agriculture was a major setback for me. I started all over again; in fact, I had to auction some properties because I invested almost all the money I had in the agric project. In 2019, I went back to Ukwulu for an acquisition of about 70 plots of land and the owner equally gave us a three months payment plan to the glory of God. The initial payment allowed us to start work immediately and before the three months elapsed, we were able to complete the payment. We got another phase and sold it in less than three months. We moved down from Igbariam to Enugu-Agidi and then Awka.
[/b]WHAT MADE YOU ABLE TO BREAK THROUGH ANAMBRA REAL ESTATE MARKET?[b]
I would say it is consistency. We have been able to build a trusted brand and people believe in the brand now and there are so many of our properties that have increased to over 300% within two years.
[/b]YOU ARE MAINLY INTO SELLING OF LANDS NOW, WHEN DO YOU INTEND TO MOVE INTO BUILDING OF APARTMENTS?[b]
We are starting with about 5 terrace buildings in our new estate. It is something new in Anambra as an Igbo man would love to buy land and build his house to his taste, but we intend to start with about 5 quality terrace buildings and we believe we will change the narrative.
[/b]WHAT IS YOUR SELLING POINT IN REAL ESTATE BUSINESS?[b]
Like I said earlier, we have been able to build a brand and when we tell people we would do something, we make sure we keep to our words. A lot of people that are into real estate in Awka, sell layouts, they just divide the land into parcels and sell without making provisions for infrastructures and that provisions for infrastructures has been standing us out. I have never sold an encumbered property to anybody; the grace of God has been there and then integrity. These have made us stand out.
[/b]HOW ARE YOU POSITIONING YOUR COMPANY TO START PLAYING BIG IN THE NIGERIAN REAL ESTATE MARKET?[b]
Over the past two years, we have been running feasibility studies in Lagos, Abuja and we have gotten a branch at Abakaliki. Like they say ‘Rome was not built in a day’, we are doing heavy consultation and feasibility studies and by God’s grace, new branches would be given birth to in Lagos and Abuja.
[/b]ARE THERE PEOPLE YOU LOOK UP TO IN THE REAL ESTATE BUSINESS?[b]
I look up to a lot of people like Sujimoto, Ned Okonkwo and when you come to estate management practice, you talk of Raji, Patrick Obianwu and Co. and many more that inspire me.
[/b]HOW HAS YOUR STUDY OF REAL ESTATE IN THE UNIVERSITY RUBBED OFF ON THE SUCCESSES YOU HAVE ATTAINED SO FAR?[b]
Yes it has, I spent 5 years in the university studying about land and it has added a lot of spices to the food we have been cooking.
[/b]WHAT IS THE STAFF STRENGTH OF ARNOLD AND ASSOCIATES NOW?[b]
We have over 20 staff that are employed directly and then indirectly, we have over 100 of them.
[/b]WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUNG PEOPLE CAN LEARN FROM YOUR JOURNEY SO FAR?[b]
They have to be consistent, disciplined and honest and when they do and keep improving, definitely within a short time, their brand would be announced to the world.
[/b]ARE THERE PIECES OF ADVICE YOU WOULD LIKE TO GIVE TO THIS ADMINISTRATION HEADED BY PROF. CHARLES SOLUDO ON HOW TO REVITALIZE REAL ESTATE BUSINESS IN ANAMBRA STATE?[b]
If the governor could look into infrastructure and security, there will be a lot of improvements not just in the real estate sector but even other sectors.
[/b]APART FROM THE MONEY YOU MAKE FROM THE REAL ESTATE BUSINESS, WHAT OTHER THING GIVES YOU JOY ABOUT THE BUSINESS?[b]
The creativity of turning a virgin land into a beautiful city is what gives me joy about real estate business.
[/b]THE REAL ESTATE BUSINESS IS IMPROVING IN LAGOS AND ABUJA, WHAT INNOVATION DO YOU PLAN TO GET INTO REAL ESTATE BUSINESS IN ANAMBRA STATE?[b]
The normal practice over here is to divide land into parcels without infrastructure but we have been able to change that by putting in infrastructures. We also intend to bring in a different view of real estate where one can just buy a fully furnished house and then move in with just your bag.
Righteousness2: The World is going into full blown madness in the name of fashion, Social media and so on and so forth. It is like there is a "Strange Force" that controls people to do what they do. Devil is really Wicked.
I would say you are not a president yet , you are already meeting with like minds, people who really have the country at heart? they have no interest in looting he countries economy , they only want to put a smiles on a common Nigerian, they want to see A Nigeria we are all craving for, they want to see us to be the Real AFRICAN GIANT, like we've always been in the past. I wish Nigeria " A Dream come True".
MrBrownJay1: these were oloshoes who stole the dude's card... EOD
and this same oloshos had mind to return his ATM back to him after stealing? Guy where you keep you brain.you sound like someone that acts same as the rapist cop .
CuteEmma: Doh. No need to worry since your friend is aware. Maybe his ego wouldn’t let him beg directly so decided to go thru the wife.. times are hard.
I think you are very right. times are hard these days
SmellyNyash: Na this kind of people Tilinbu go appoint wen him become the president of agbadonaria
If u do or say anything anyhow them go take blow scatter your front teeth
funny thing is that many of this guys dont know how to fight, they depend on the support they will get from other colleagues while some are trained boxers.
Okonandmary: Sometimes, when i see these guys that dye their hair and wear ear rings, i always think that they are some kind of bad guys but when i come close to them i started realising that most of them are weaklings who just follow the crowd, they dye their hairs and wear ear rings or do tattoos because their favorite artists or role model is doing that. They follow the crowd.
When i was in my prime before i got married, i never wore earrings, dye my hair or do something strange to my body to be like a bad boy, i was a gentle guy but i was the definition of a bad guy.
Na so bro, dats the best way to roll. only those very close to you go understand what u are capable of doing, yet admire ur gentility .
The idiot is not even a Lagosian , yet they allowed him to rule over Lagosians because of some bunch of old greedy fools that sold out their futures to him.
Colephbreed: Hello guys good day hope y'all are doing great.
Am writing this with so much grief in my heart as I feel depressed, sometimes love can come with somuch pains and joy at same time.
So recently I agreed with my fiance to relocate to a different city since she got a job over there, we agreed a scheduled time we wil have to see each other within a specific period of time. This is someone we share everything in common the love was great, she's an awesome soul to be sincere.
I got so much attached to her, that it made me felt lonely and empty when she left, due to that reason I always want to call and check up frequently, This has been going on For about 4 weeks consistently, the first red flag I noticed was that she asked me not to be calling her frequently that sometimes it's not really cool with her, I respected that fact and reduced the way I call but I was beginning to loose the trust I had for her.
She goes out with her friend frequently and they love partying, even when I consistently warn her about the late nights they keep most times in clubs and partying she keeps telling me she's not a kid and she can handle things herself. Lately the relationship have been filled with lots of argument, misunderstanding, and the trust is beginning to reduce drastically.
Yesterday she uploaded a nasty picture as her display pics on WhatsApp, she was just putting on a top without bra, though she's busty and all that, I asked her take it down and upload something more appealing and decent that am not comfortable with such pics, she began to rant and start saying all manner of things like it's her privacy,her phone, her body,and she decides what to do with it, am an African man and I don't welcome this woke mentality of women nowadays, feeling they need to be half naked to feel sexy I can't cope with such indecent dressing, I told her am not trying to tell her what to do but atleast you should respect my opinion sometimes, I got angry and sent her a very long message about my displeasure. since then she has refused to pick my calls nor reply my messages.
She tried calling earlier today but I didn't pick, I couldn't sleep through out the night the whole drama was just playing in my Head.
Guys is this enough reason to call of a relationship or are my just being too self centered? have actually made up my mind just need to hear from different and more matured people in the house. Thanks for reading and enjoy the rest of your day.
My brother i understand how you feel when you say attached to her , fact is love is the best thing to experience and you will always pray things continue going fine with you both ( That's if she truly loves you genuinely and respects you opinions, and you have same feelings towards her too) but it is the saddest thing when you when you realize the trust and respect is gone. Truth is if you truly Love her then you have to let go. Dog wey go lost no go hear hunter whistle , a word is enough for someone who is wise enough to take the sacrifice. mind you It wont be easy oooooo .
oilmane: Why u nor dress up follow am so that you go follow am eat? Fish pepper is what you plan for, shey you day write proposal b4 u cook am? Even if you're tired couldn't you've sweet talked him to eat what you prepared? Na u know, if u use ur husband do boyfriend, who nor day plan b4 she cook pepper soup go carry am take
NLElder: First of all don't be quick to judge me. I am just here for matured help/advice cos I am fast loosing it. I am sure if it's abroad I will to told to go meet a therapist.
I am a young man in my early 40s and married for 9 years now with 2 kids. My nature of work is such that I am living on another town 5hours away from my family. This has been the case 6years out of the 9 years I am married. I have never really enjoyed my marriage as a young man cos I am always driving up and down every weekend to meet my family and when I got a promotion with more responsibility I reduced it to every 2 weeks, and as the stress of work and driving became more stressful, I now go every month. I have tried all my best even till date to see if I can get another work in the same state my wife and kids reside to no avail and my wife can't leave her work in the state join me as she is in a federal government establishment that has no branch in the state I live and work.
The scenario so far shows you that I am not enjoying a healthy sex life with my wife, but being someone brought up to respect the marriage institution, I have resigned to my fate and taken life as I have seen it. To make matters worse, with due respect to my wife, she suffered female genital mutilation and you know it affects women's sex life and their man is always worse off for it. In summary we lead a routine boring sex life in the few occasions we even get to have it. However, the 6 years I have lived and worked in another state, I have never cheated or thought of cheating on her despite all the cold lonely nights I have to spend alone. I am a kind of introvert and never hide it from people that I am married. Some will be like "u no get side chick"? I will say no.
The problem started 4 years earlier out of the 6years in the city I live and work. Since I am always lonely and bored in my crib, I mostly do video calls with my wife and kids daily or chat online with friends to keep my mind busy and avoid unnecessary tensions that will remind me of the lonely boring life I was living. This also keeps me away from sexual urges if I feel any as a fool-blooded young man I was. It was in one of these online chats that I got close to one young lady of about 30. We really got close through chatting and graduated to exchanging numbers. I always make it known that I was married to everyone I meet and she was no exception. We became best friends online and kept our limits as married man and a single lady would. We became curious and excited to meet each other live when we found out we were in same city.
We arranged a harmless date in a restaurant in town were we really got to know more about each other. I found out that she was a struggling young girl teaching in a private school with NCE and was unable to proceed to degree level due to lack of funds. Her salary wasn't even up to 18k and she was squatting with one lady in very uncomfortable circumstances. After that 1st live meeting, a very good friendship ensued but entirely platonic .
All these past 4 years before I met her, I cook for myself and go to market by myself. One Friday she called and I did not immediately pick cos I was in the kitchen. I called her back later and told her I was cooking and she jokingly asked if she could help. As at then she was yet to come to my place, so I told her if she really wanted to help then I would come and pick her up and that was how for the first time in 4 years, a lady visited me in that town. It felt awkward. It did not take long for me to find out how homely she was...washed plates, tidied everywhere, and finished up the cooking. I really felt at peace and started getting worried at the same time. We spent time chatting but kept our distance and nothing happened between us and I dropped her off later where she was squatting.
After that, our friendship went to another level and the visits became more frequent but still nothing happened between us. I got to know she was a well brought up lady that still had values and I also confirmed she had no man as at the time she met me. She said she had always wished to be married before now and never believed she would reach 30 and still be single.
I know my story is getting rather long, so let me try to wrap up. In summary, she started having issues with the family she was squatting with and didn't have enough money to rent a place of her own. I didn't have enough to rent for her either as I was already carrying a lot of financial responsibilities for her by then...monthly stipend of ₦10k to add to her salary, tolletries, making hairs and even helping out with her sick mum hospital bills.
So without a 2nd thought, both of us decided she move into my place. Inside me I knew it was somehow but I think by then we were already in love with each but maybe living in denial.
So she moved in and that was it. Yes, we started having sex, uncomfortably at 1st but later became 2 sex maniacs. It was as if she was sent to compensate me for my horrible marriage sex experience I have endured all these years. We couldn't have enough of each other. In fact when I want to travel and see my family, she breaks down crying. I knew it was more than a side chick matter. In fact this lady gave me a fulfilled sex life that I swear if it's in the olden days I wouldn't mind taking her as a 2nd wife. Months grew into years and our passion for each other grew to the point that we got jealous of the opposite sex calling us. She even starts frowning when my wife calls or tears will start running down her eyes. People, I became so confused. We both knew we have gone too far and yet were not ready to end it.
I even because part of her own family cos I go with her to see her sick mum and played a prominent role when she died. I don't know her older siblings knew if I was married or not , but I think she confided in her older sister who seemed to like me so much and only warned her to be "careful."
After 2 years, she started agitating about marriage so much that she said she needed to move out of my place. That as long as she is with me, she might not get married since it's obvious I wasn't going to marry her no matter how much both of us pretended about it. Deep inside me I knew she was right and I couldn't be selfish to keep her from meeting single suitors but I felt an inexplicable pain in my heart as if a part of me was about to be cut off. However, I forced myself to assist her to get a place and yet she on her own kept coming to my place every weekend until she moved in again leaving her place wasting for over 2 months., only going there once in a while to pick things..
All the 2 years we were together she was open and truthful to me about relationships she was now trying to build with single guys she hoped would marry her. I was already feeling bad inside me that she was about to leave my life, but she kept assuring me that she was with me and truly told me everything happeneing in the new relationship she was building.
She later moved out completely from my place after 2years on a new year day. She said needed to start the year on a good and clean note and had gotten serious with the guy that said he wants to marry her. I began to feel extreme jealous I couldn't explain. I knew it was not right but I couldn't stop myself. I tried my best and stopped calling or chatting with her but I still didn't find peace. One evening a month after when it was now clear that she has decided to get serious with the guy she said was coming for marriage, she visited me and and you can't believe it, we made hot passionate love. And when we were lying side by side, her new man called and she quickly ran into the toilet to answer him. I felt it was time I ended this whole thing, it wasn't looking right again.
So I confronted her why she was still leading me on when she is now in a marriage -bound relationship and she said because she still loves me and doesn't know how to let go of me. We cried together that it wiould be tough as we would soon separate from each other for life and she left. I cried like a baby as we made love again and she consoling me to try and teach my wife the things she does to me despite her FGM predicament.
The period she was with me, she was uncomfortable answering calls from her man and I got fed up and decided to investigate. So I went to the street where she showed me the guy lives(she was truly open to me and I give her that) and waited to see if she has started visiting him as she mostly denies and lo and behold, I saw her entering the guy's house. I felt a sharp pang of jealousy which I couldn't control. I picked up my phone after some minutes and started calling her, but her phone rang severally and she didn't pick. I was almost half-dead with jealousy. I cried iny heart and drove away. I sent her a text that because she was "enjoying" herself with her man she was now avoiding my calls. That maybe tbe guy was so good at it. She called about 2 hours later and really took offence that because she visited him and did not pick my call was simply because she doesn't want him to start asking questions and not necessarily that they were doing anything.
We quarrelled like never before and said hurtful things to each other and I asked her to return my key at my office the next day cos by then she no longer visited my house as she has really gotten serious with the guy. She returned the key and for over 2 months we stopped communicating and became strangers.
Instead of pushing her out my mind, I felt a daily torture looking through her Facebook pics, WhatsApp status, and other social media. I will go to her guy's street and painfully watch her enter his house from afar. I was fast losing my mind. I knew it was over for good and don't want her back but the obsession is yet to leave me till date. Everyday, I check her pictures and feels pangs of pain and jealousy as I see her lovely smiles. My people it's punishment and torture for me. I keep obsessing every second of my life about her. Who can help me? Something is definitely wrong. In one of her recent status, I saw her flaunt her hands with an engagement ring and I felt a sharp pang of sadness instead of happiness. People help me I am loosing it. Even though she has apologized to me and I too have apologized for the hurtful things we said in the course of our quarrel, my mind is still not at peace.
Even now presently she is engaged she still calls me and tries to engage me in friendly conversations but I will just be answering without interest. She even sent me a pic recently at a wedding she went to and I told her she should stop sending me her pics but should be sending to her man. She apologized and said she has taken note. Yet, I will feel bad inside me if I don't see her friendly chats which my attitude has made her reduce. Yet in all these, first thing in the morning I will quickly rush to check her pics, if she has made new posts, etc etc. I need help, I really do. Sorry my people for the long post but I really needed to empty myself to see the help I can get if any cos I want my normal sane life back. I have also prayed to God and asked for forgiveness for cheating on my wife ....I have no excuses for doing so but from the long story you can see it was never my intention.
Hmmmm, fact is she truly loves you as much as you love her, but she needs a new life too, she wants to get married and have her own family, bro i understand how you feeling, trust me but if you know you truly love her, then let go of her and probably work more on you wife, be more romantic, say lovely things to her, make her see the difference in you and help her with her sexual life, im having same challenge with sexual life and i think its good to her a wife that is not a sex addict , than have a nymphomaniac as a wife.
Pray over it, but mind you if you continue having close communications with her then believe me, you will start another episode of your affairs together again.
9jaHustler: Hey guys, it's our first time ever outta Naija. Currently at Heathrow Airport waiting for connecting flight to Manchester which is our final destination.
Update: It was almost 9:30pm when we left Manchester Airport but it was like 5pm in Nigeria. Everywhere was still day. I though my wrist watch was incorrect until I check the dash board clock of the taxi
Congrats to you and your family, na this kain food news i wan dey hear for NL.
SUPERPACK: Speak for those that have zero in economics sha not me. With that pay I will enjoy my life here in Nigeria and never look for more. I will still save 250k per month at the end minimum. I live a minimal lifestyle, no smoking, drinking, clubbing, womanising nor friends and don't fancy social attention.
Na broke ass mentality be this, guy when the money starts raking in, your mentality will surely change and you will want better things at higher cost.
dettolgel: There are swimming shorts that is what I use. With swimming trunk I sure can't hide my prick in it more especially since I usually swim at the beach and you can't trust your 3rd leg amongst those young whity on bikini.
See picture of swimming short look for one with a net underwear inside and buy.
One of the most sensible advice, na bunch of wereys full NL .
Stallionhorse: shut up.... Just shut the fvvvck up!! Don't give the poor boy hope , when all you crave for is big gbola... Tell him the truth small gbola have no place on the food chain..
hahahahahahaha , na people like una dey make me they visit NL everyday , thou abit harsh, but na just d fact you talk
exCHRISTIAN: Why didn't the imaginery christ protect the lady
Is he absent? Or doesn't exist? Or cant fulfill His promise to protect his followers? Or is the bbbile lyi*g as it used to do? Thessalonians 3:3
I left Xtianity because I realized it's rubbish. What do yo expect from a god that was born by a WOMAN and ended, murdered on Cross? Didn't help himself also
The entitled punishment for blasphemy in Xtianity as I was forced study by my parents back then is death !!!
anyone who blasphemes the name of the Lord is to be put to death. The entire assembly must stone them. Whether foreigner or native-born, when they blaspheme the Name they are to be put to death. Leviticus 24:16
Deborah killers used this verse to kill her the way the verse instruct, I think they own a copy of christ papers, bible is full of evil to its followers.
I left religion for you!!! Ath3ism all the way
Before any rotten brain qoute me, see my signature.....
you can speak all the English and grammar you want to, you are not in any position to alter such nonsense about her God saving her, you are nothing different from those that killed her. remember this, its not ending on Earth , you will explain what you mean when the time comes.
Contango: I am not a dancer, but a huge fan of Michael Jackson. My favorite choreography has always been the dangerous dance and I had vowed to do it before I die!!!
Definitely far from MJ and other professional imitators but I am happy I was able to whip something up.
Show some love guys Video quality not good though
I vow to do smooth criminal if I get some encouragement
frozen70: The only problem here us you searching his phone, you will definitely see one bad thing that will provoke you, stop going through his phone chats, so that you will have peace
As for your husband, he is a womaniser and nothing you can do to stop him until he have gotten enough of it
You don't need to divorce him
Spend the money you have with you wisely so that you don't run out of cash
Make sure you pass the hills to him so that he won't have excess to be spending outside
One of the best advice so far, she wants peace of mind stay away from his phone.
Try and follow up the building project so that you guys can pack to that place and he will be far from those chicks
Once you stop reading his chats, you will be alright
Moz22: Actually typing this with a heavy heart and so much disgust for what I've done.. wish I had handled the situation better.
My father is the best man I could ever wish for and if I had another chance to pick a dad again in my next life, I'll pick a richer version of him but my mom?? Sigh!
However growing up with them was so stressful in every way u can think of.. my dad was the meek type, soft spoken and slow to react but my mom would always complain about everything, she fights everything and everyone.. never afraid of any form of confrontation, she would complain about my hairstyle, she would check if I sagged my trousers.. she monitored me extremely and always nagged about it.. I'm this typa guy who is well cultured, I wouldn't say I got that from home training tho cos I do not drink, smoke nor womanize... And I think it's d joy of every parent to have child like me, I basically had no friends visiting me then and even up till now. I've got trust issues that's why I don't keep friends.. my mom made my youthful days hell for me, I didn't really enjoy it.. times I spent with her were miserable as she would shout everyday, quarrel even over phone conversations that you would think the person she's fighting with was right in front of her.. and some times I even pity my dad whenever she starts with him. I developed some sorta hatred for her
Lately I've been spending more time with them cos of our last born just so I could keep an eye on him and we stayed close too.. and the way she treats him makes me wonder if she was the one gave birth to him, if I was away when she was pregnant for him and delivered.. I would have argued that she was his mother. There were times that I had to pass the night there and her voice or rants would be what will wake me up very early in the morning just as it used to be when I used to be there...
I used to think that as people grow old, they become calmer but that isn't the case with my mom, she's more violent... She lost her twin sis last year March and I sincerely hoped that would change atleast but iro nio... Her other sisters aren't even speaking to her at the moment. My dad was a musician.. old age won't allow him continue doing music, coincidentally I picked up that barton.. been doing the same music(live musician) all my life but my mom has always been against it.. she was never happy whenever I carry my dad's guitar to rehearse or whenever I bring a piano home.. it was always war...
Been there since last weekend cos of the poor electricity in my area.. we have had power for about 7 days now.. Had gone for a studio session, only to return in d evening and I was greeted with shouting over a very trivial issue, I was so angry that I responded to every of her verbal insults.. and then she hit me and I reciprocated which I felt so bad about almost immediately.. she dragged me by my clothes shouting that I must kill her again, by that time.. my anger had subdued and all I had on my mind was to leave the house immediately. She threatened to arrest me.. She tore my shirt and I managed to pull away from her.. and left without picking my stuffs. All my life, I have never raised up my hands to hit a woman talkless of my mom.. I don't even beat kids when they do wrong, I hate to see tears..
I know it's a disgraceful thing to do. I've got no excuse for what I've done whatsoever. I even avoid confrontations with my own gender sef cos I know what I'm capable of. I'm always quick to say the word sorry just to avoid prolonged issues. I had been offline since it happened, just came here to drop this and I know how much insults I'm gonna get here anyway but we learn everyday and will surely pick the ones that will make me a better person.. no one's perfect
Pls ignore my typo errors abeg
Karma is a bitch . don't feel surprised when such happens to you in the future.
Reinvented: He is obviously a muslim, Munir is islamic name.
Is Russia an Islamic Country? why do we have some set of sadist that are religious bigot yet they are even more unholy than the people they criticize. Make una borrow una self some brain , this is not a religious fight. Una problem for Nigeria self pass the WAR you are not discussing on how we can have a better country na racist countries wey no send una u dey carry their matter for head. Do you think if Nigeria is at WAR them go send Una? they will wait for everyone to nearly finish before them interfere just to take over the refinery among other things.
ILEMUDA: Let this war start fast I wanna observe something, Putin my Man.
Putting in their body Woto Woto.
You talk like all this indomie generation, never pray to experience WAR in your life time, not when supersonic weapons are now been made in the 21st century, experiencing WORLD WAR at this tech age will definitly wipe out over 60% of the population, mind you African countries will suffer more.
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