Mistake you made was killing your passion for video and photo editing. Not too late, invest your time on Youtube to learn it. What did you study in school? What can you do with it? You also need to change your friends ...the close circle as they're not helpful for now.
Right now, helping your family is key, try and do something to keep hopes alive.
KennedyF: Hello everyone, Bear with me pls, this might be a long read and I apologise in advance for any grammatical error.
Recently I've had a lot of thinking about my life after school, how I can finally support my family after I graduate this year, I am the first son and the first child in my mom's extended family, so I have a lot of people looking up to me, and we only have one source of income in my family which is my dad, and recently he developed a health condition which affects his eyesight, and that is making his work nearly impossible. The problem now that I'm facing is that I literally don't know what I want to do after school, normally I've had this notion that I will cross that bridge when I reach there, but now the bridge is so close and I have no idea of how to cross, to make things worse, I saw my result this semester and I failed two courses which will make me to come back for an extension, it makes me sad whenever I think about it, cos my dad will have to continue his risky job (thats even riskier cos of his eyesight) for a year or so Sad part is that I can't even think of any side job that might be profiting me while in school or any work that I can do without a certificate, my friends aren't giving me anything useful, I wanted to learn graphics design, I'm passionate about editing photo and videos, I also wanted to learn animation back when I was in secondary school, but my parents killed that dream telling me to go for a professional course, back then they were still thinking school is the only answer to being successful, now I regret allowing them to let that passion die. Right now I need you guys advice if you have any concerning my situation, or if you've being in a similar situation like mine, I need to know how you made it out successfully
I will accept your criticism, advice and whatever piece of info you can share with me
Why drink panadol on top someone else's problem. I'm sure he's aware of the implications buying a benz and if he doesn't have the financial muscle to do so, he won't go there or come begging you for assistance. Pls back off.
You are becoming too comfortable. Activate your shutdown-relocation procedure from Lagos and eventually from Abuja with your family. Give like 6 months or more by which time you would have saved enough for this
God has been so good to my family this year and a particular blessing has been giving us sleepless night.
I work with a big organisation here in Lagos and currently earn about N600k. I used to work in the branch since my entry level days 6 years ago until I was able to runz the head office movement.
Ever since I join the HQ two years, my life has been at ease. No weekend duties, no sickening pressures from customers. I have been able to develop my self, complete the professional courses I abandoned and can rest well on weekends/public holidays.
The worklife balance now isn't only the advantage of working at the HQ. The career progression and rapid promotion crowns it all.
My spouse earns a little above N400k and we manage ourselves well. Our combined income isn't that much but we've been able to achieve a lot due to our mutual cooperation. She commits her resources 100% into our home. Some people see me as a "big man" outside, no knowing I am actually enjoying the reward of marrying a good wife.
My wife recently got a job very lucrative job. Salary is about N1.5M monthly. She was on the process for close to a year. You can imagine our joy when she was eventually given an offer. This job is a huge one for us as a family and will make life more sweet.
My pain now is the job is based at Abuja and that means she has to relocate there with our kids. Abuja is not where I can drive to considering the security situation of Nigeria. Also, it won't be wise to fly down every week (I also have hidden phobia for heights ) because of costs and other attendant risks.
I actually want us to live together as a family most especially because of our kids. Some Kids tend to be spoilt when raised almost alone their mothers. As a father, I want to jointly raise them with their mother and also instill discipline in them appropriately.
The only solution on sight is to ask my company for redeployment to a branch at Abuja. This I fear might return me back to "Egypt". I.e days of stunted growth, no promotions. In summary, I am scared of killing my career by myself.
My wife is okay with us visiting each other every month but I am vehemently against it.
Below are photos from the scene of the attack in Igangan, Ibarapaland. The palace of the mornach was burned down, filling stations and several butchered to death.
I doubt if any state of the federation can boast of stead or good pipe-borne water supply. Lets not talk about the roads
supportnija: I disagree, power should be devoluted eg Power, education should be removed from exclusive list, state police to be created, road should be removed either, infact, let federal government take defence, foreign affairs, immigration and forget about the rest.
Too many embelishments in the story. For example this
The first time I had Ghanaian jollof, I was at a restaurant with my friend. When I saw and tasted it, I had to tell the waiter I didn’t order white rice
Are you saying the rice was plain white when it was delivered or what? Ghana jollof rice tasteless as it may appear to you, is not colorless or white but same color as Nigerian jollof rice.
VictorIfe: Today’s subject on Abroad Life has lived in Ghana for the past five years. He talks about his initial hesitation to move, perceptions Ghanaians have of Nigerians, Ghanaian women and Ghanaian jollof.
So how long have you been in Ghana? I’ve been here for about five years. I came here for school, and I’m in my final year now.
Why did you choose Ghana? The University of Ghana is considered the best in West Africa, so when I finished secondary school, my parents told me to go there. I remember they used the word “Prestigious” a lot as they tried to convince me. But I didn’t really know anything about the school, so I did some research.
What did you find? All the stuff I saw online pointed to the fact that it was a good school. They even had detailed information for international students, but the Nigerian in me was still not sure I wanted to go there. I mean, I grew up in Nigeria and all my friends were there. Why would I want to go to Ghana?
What was the process of getting an admission like? It was pretty easy. I used my WAEC. Some people use A-Levels, but it’s much easier to use WAEC. It’s the same way you’d apply to go to a Nigerian university, the only difference is that the cut off mark is higher for non-Ghanaians. Thankfully, that wasn’t a problem for me.
So what was your first time in Ghana like? About two months before I had to resume school, my entire family decided to take a trip to Accra to see the school and the environs. We stayed there for about a week, then went back to Nigeria. When it was time to resume, I came on my own. Settling down and doing all my registration was really stressful. It was probably worse for me because I’m an international student and I had to do some extra stuff.
What’s one thing that shocked you about Ghana? There are a few things. First, the language. You know how in Nigeria, there are three major languages, but everyone just has to know either English or pidgin to get by? It’s not like that here. There’s one major language and then the other languages are fringe languages. This means that a lot of people speak the major language and in turn, don’t speak English really well. Don’t get me wrong, the majority speak English well. But coming from Lagos where everyone spoke either English or pidgin fluently enough to communicate, it was strange to get here and see so many people struggling with English. The average person in Accra does not speak English as well as the average person in Lagos.
That’s interesting… Ghanaians also strongly believe that their accents and pronunciations are superior, so I always get corrected when I pronounce something the Nigerian way. It’s hilarious.
Another thing I found strange is that many Ghanaians I interacted with automatically assume every Nigerian is a fraudster. When they see Nigerians, they see fraud. I noticed it in my first year because I would hear whispers, but I thought it was just a funny stereotype until one guy asked me to teach him how to do fraud. I was so offended. I told him I’d never done fraud in my life and asked why he would even consider asking me that His reply: “Stop lying. Are you not a Nigerian?”
Wow. There are a lot of funny things that some Ghanaians believe about Nigerians. For example, many Ghanaians believe that the average Nigerian is a great entertainer. Like, we can sing and dance. I think it’s because we have many great musicians, but it’s just funny to me that they would assume it’s all of us that can sing and dance. People always ask me if I can do either, and when I ask why, it’s the same reason: “Because you’re Nigerian.”
Haha… One last thing — they consider Nigerians to be very loud people. Okay, yes, we’re loud, but I’m a very quiet person, so whenever someone meets me for the first time and finds out I’m Nigerian, they get shocked and say something like, “You’re Nigerian? But you’re very quiet!”
You’re killing me… How then do you socialise? When I first got here, I was in the hostel for international students, so I naturally spent more time with Nigerians and people from other nationalities. In my second year, I moved hostels and started mixing with Ghanaians. It was nice. They’re more accommodating than Nigerians. I would say the only thing that challenged me was the pidgin. Ghanian pidgin is quite different from Nigerian pidgin.
And then Ghanaian babes…
Tell me about them. Ghanaian babes are super friendly. At first, it was strange to me that women were this nice in real life because most of the Nigerian babes I know will just give you attitude for nothing. I think the thing with Nigerian babes is that they think everyone is trying to hit on them, so they just put up a shield wall. It’s annoying, I won’t lie. But even if Ghanaian girls don’t like you, they’re still polite and will speak to you like a normal human being.
You’ve dated a Ghanaian woman? Yes, but not until after a few years here. Because they’re nice people, I started feeling like the women I was hanging out with were not “honest” with their feelings. It’s like, “I know you want to be nice to me and all, but please it’s not like I’m perfect. Be real with me and tell me when I mess up. Be comfortable around me.” It took me a while before I found someone like that, but I did, and we dated. It was good, but Coronavirus came. Lockdown and distance were tough, so we ended things.
In the end though, I would rather be with a Ghanaian woman than a Nigerian one. I don’t think they’re as entitled as some Nigerian women can be. Nigerian women need to learn from Ghanaian women.
Are you coming back to Nigeria any time soon? I’ll be honest, I’m now very used to life here and I’m enjoying it. It’s calm and there are job opportunities especially for people in tech. So I’ll probably stay.
Do you miss anything about living in Nigeria? The food. The food and the people. Nigerians are generally livelier, but there are already a lot of Nigerians living here, so the people part is sorted. Nigerian restaurants are also springing up fast. So, basically the part of Nigeria that I love, I already have it here.
I’m curious, has “Ghana must go” ever come up in any of your conversations? Hahaha, yes. There was a time I wanted to come back to Nigeria for the holidays and my bag cut, so I needed an emergency bag. I walked into a store and as I was telling the guy what I wanted to buy, I had to stop mid-sentence to re-evaluate what I was about to say. I later found out that they call it “Jute bag”, but they never take offence when anyone calls it Ghana must go. They’ll even laugh. But at that point, they already know you’re a foreigner.
Omo, Ghanaians seem like really chill people. Most of them are. Of course, there are the people that don’t like Nigerians because they think we’re here to scam them, take their jobs and marry their women. They’re a small group, but they air their opinions with their chest. They won’t get violent or anything, but they’ll speak their minds. I got a lot of hate in school because, as a tall guy, I naturally attracted women and guys thought I was here to steal their babes. It was weird. Also, a lot of people say that Ghanaian women prefer Nigerian men because we dress better, have more game and are more confident. There might be some truth to it.
Final question, Ghanaian jollof or Nigerian jollof? If someone says they prefer Ghanaian jollof, it means they’ve not tasted Nigerian jollof. Ghanaian jollof is tasteless until you add shito, and even then it doesn’t taste as good as Nigerian jollof. But what’s the point of calling something jollof if you’re even going to add stew on top.
The first time I had Ghanaian jollof, I was at a restaurant with my friend. When I saw and tasted it, I had to tell the waiter I didn’t order white rice and he should bring what I really ordered. My friend had to tell me to calm down and eat my food because I wasn’t going to find any jollof much better than that in Ghana. I was hurt.
You are very correct. That's probably what happened. The groom's family may have been like "no refund of dowry, you guys breached the deal when the bride died" hence the need to replace her with the sister.
Bigdik70inch2: Well...........i somewhere read that in india they have this wierd practice where by the wife to be's family pay the groom price of the husband to be.......
Just maybe........they were trying not to suffer double loss(the dead bride and the money paid).......
If they had not introduced the Quota system, do you think it would have been fair to those disadvantaged due to economical or environmental in-balance? Lets face the fact without hurling insults ....don't you think every tribe and region would've been up in arms long before now?
Racoon: Ndi Chineke goziri na gozi.Igbo kwenu! Create a fair environment of equity and justice, then see the domineering spirit of the Igbo man.We take our place in the pride of place.The OP is suffering from acute confusional disorder.
The bastardization of equity and fairness with jealousy over the Igbos domination of all spheres of our national life in the pre and post-independence era led to the hausa-fulani hegemony fighting to gain control.
The Igbo entered the army base on the strict merit system operated by the British.However, in the mmediately post independence, the born-to-rule protagonists introduced the defective "quota system" concept which the Igbo never find acceptable.
The rest is now histroy.Meanwhile have Nigeria made any progress since the Hausa-fulanis power monger clique forcefully entered our national life? Let histroy answer for itself.
All these my tribe ...my tribe must be this position and that position doesn't lead to any development to their home area or region. I wonder why all the clamour. Its well sha.
To make Aguiyi Ironsi the General Officer Commanding of Nigerian Army, Prime Minister Tafawa Balewa broke rank with his Northern People Congress colleagues and Sir Ahmadu Bello. NPC and Ahmadu Bello, Premier of Northern Region wanted a Northerner as the GOC.
The last British General Officer Commanding of Nigerian Army, Major-General Christopher Welby-Everard in his recommendation to the Prime Minister raised a number of issues against the then Brigadier Aguiyi Ironsi who at the time was the most Senior Nigerian Army Officer and concluded Brigadier Ironsi was unfit to lead the Army of a brand new country.
For fairness and to preserve the tradition of seniority in the Army, Balewa ignored General Welby-Everard’s recommendation. He appointed Ironsi as the first indigenous General Officer Commanding of Nigerian Army.
A stubborn fact of history is that the Igbos dominated the top echelon of the Army and Federal Civil/Public Service for many years from 1958. Till date, Abia, Anambra and Imo State have largest number of indigenes in Federal Civil Service.
I can conveniently say that Igbos have had the best of Nigeria more than any other tribe. Blackmailing the country with victim mentality is not a strategy. Today, many Southern politicians and so-called activists built their public credentials on constant agitation for restructuring of Nigeria. If indeed there is anything wrong with the current political structure of the country, the blame should be more on Igbos.
Who promulgated the Decree 34 that abolished 1963 Federal Constitution and unitarised the Federal structure? It was Major-General Aguiyi Ironsi as Military Head of State. With scant regard to other tribes, Igbos dominated the security agencies and the Federal civil service in the first Republic.
Professor Ben Nwabueze who is now the chief priest of restructuring drafted the unification decree as Legal Counsel to General Ironsi. Igbos who literally ran the Federal Government then executed the unitary arrangement for domination and ethnic advantage.
Who plotted first coup that decimated South West and Northern political establishment? The fallout of that misadventure led to the civil war in 1967. The mainly Igbo officers who masterminded the coup didn't kill any political leader from their tribe.
Some Igbo leaders talk about the Civil War as if Nigeria started the war against them. Colonel Emeka Ojukwu started the war not Major-General Yakubu Gowon. Gowon had a duty to defend the sovereignty and territorial integrity of Nigeria.
Even with all the noise about all that is supposedly wrong with Nigeria, who are the biggest beneficiaries of Nigeria's diversity today? It is still igbos. Every part of this country welcomes them.
They prosper more across the country outside their ancestral homeland. Igbos are probably the biggest real estate owners among all Nigerian tribes. In fact records show they own more than 60% of houses, Plazas, hotels and housing estates in Abuja.
They play big in Kano, Kaduna, Lagos, and Port Harcourt - every part of Nigeria. I need someone to tell me the number of Hausa, Fulani, Yoruba, Ijaw, Kanuri, Tiv man or woman etc that currently have lands, houses or any business that can employ 50 people in any part of South Eastern Nigeria the same way Igbos do in South West, South South and in the North. Do they sell land to non-Igbos in South East same way they freely buy land and own properties in other parts of Nigeria?
Under President Jonathan, the government they seem to have invested heavy emotions more than Jonathan's own Ijaw tribe, Igbos got key federal appointments through Senator Pius Anyim as Secretary to the Government of the Federation.
Did other tribes bitterly complain the way Igbos now do over appointments? In any case, which statutory appointments have they been denied by current government despite rejecting President Muhammadu Buhari and his party in 4 elections? Let’s get real here.
Igbos really want to get all top appointments in a government they rejected and have shown unimaginable hostility despite the government offering them the best deal in Nigeria in terms of real development no administration offered them since 1960. It is on record Buhari, in two presidential contests, made top Igbo politicians his running mate. Let’s face it.
Which government in Nigeria has taken on the quantum of Federal government-funded infrastructural projects that are going on in the South East than this current FG since 1960? If we analyse the Federal Budget from 2016 when President Buhari presented his first budget, the current FG has possibly spent more money developing SE in 6 years than it has done in Buhari's own North West if we consider FG's spend on Infrastructure per region.
It will appear Igbo elites prefer appointments that only benefit individuals and their hangers-on more than real development that benefits majority of citizens of that region.
They covet appointment of an Igbo person as Chief of Army Staff more than Second Niger Bridge, Enugu-Port Harcourt Express, Awka-Enugu Express, Owerri-Port Harcourt Express, Port Harcourt-Aba and other dead Federal highways that are being reconstructed across the region.
For all the special intervention supports by Federal Government to all States of the Federation, I am not aware President Buhari denied South Eastern States what is due to them because Igbos didn't vote for him.
Question: how did all the appointments held by Igbos before the Buhari administration including Chief of Army Staff, Comptroller General of Immigration, Deputy Senate President, Deputy Speaker of House of Representatives, Inspector General of Police, Minister of Aviation, Director-General of Pension Commission, Executive Chairman of National Electricity Regulatory Commission, Minister of Power etc improve the lives of Igbo people.
Stella Oduah and Osita Chidoka as Ministers of Aviation couldn't even fix Enugu Airport in 5 years or did Dr. Sam Amadi, Professor Bath Nnaji and Professor Chinedu Nebo who superintended over the power sector for 6 years supply more electricity to Onitsha, Aba and Nnewi?
Having Igbo sons leading the power sector for 6years could not even resolve the legal logjam between Emeka Offor’s, Enugu Distribution Company and Geometric Power owned by another Igbo man to supply regular electricity to Aba.
Whereas a Federal government being led by a man they rejected in every election since 2003 has done, in 6 years, what the Igbo adopted political party could not do for them in 16 years. It was Buhari that gave Ariaria Market, the biggest market in the region uninterrupted electricity supply.
The main point here is the fact that Igbos cannot continue to claim they are the only good people or tribe in Nigeria while others are the evil people holding them down. Certainly, hate and insulting other tribes can't be a strategy for engagement in addressing any grievances if at all there are genuine ones.
Even though the Nigerian constitution does not allow for referendum, let the Federal Government allow it to see if majority of Igbo people will vote to leave Nigeria. I am sure majority wants to remain citizens of Nigeria because they know Nigeria serves them better.
If the Nigerian government won’t allow a referendum, can the South East governors agree and fund an informal referendum to even give us a scientific basis to know if the Igbos want to live as citizens of Biafra, after all, Lagos State, in 2003 or so, conducted its own census independent of the Federal Government.
The Igbo elites must summon courage to counter the IPOB and Nnamdi Kanu's hate mongering. Igbo elites have tolerated Kanu too much without considering their own hard work, sweat and investments in Nigeria. Whatever our country is today is what we all made of it.
If we now need to press the reset button it should be done in a manner we all can listen to ourselves. We must not yield the space to the mad man and his specialists in IPOB..."
Mrmacc: I av a big lips and i av been shamed many times for it,it's beginning to affect my self esteem and I'm not comfortable with it. Is there any way to reduce the size ..
Very thoughtful and insightful points raised. The truth is anything one engages in, is driven by two things - passion and reward.
So people may have a passion and careless for the rewards that follows it while other are more driven by the rewards rather than the passion.
Nowadays, many are driven by the anticipated rewards than the passion which is why you see many studying courses in the University and graduating without getting employed because they studied not what they are passionate about but the thoughts that the degree (any degree) would lead them to their desired reward.
Point here is don't jump into a course or venture because others are doing it and or thriving in it. It may be their passion. Make no mistake though - passion can also lead to rewards if well managed.
Akintundexxy: On this forum particularly, I've seen people being discouraged outrightly against studying medicine, especially those who are already in higher institutions but wish to change to MBBS or those who have been writing utme for years.
Honestly, the medical doctors I see around me are well to do..like they have high financial buoyancy.
If everyone learns programming or coding,who would need the service anymore? It's better to secure a realistic future than live in the realm of assumption. *My opinion*
Very thoughtful and insightful points raised. The truth is anything one engages in, is driven by two things - passion and reward.
So people may have a passion and careless for the rewards that follows it while other are more driven by the rewards rather than the passion.
Nowadays, many are driven by the anticipated rewards than the passion which is why you see many studying courses in the University and graduating without getting employed because they studied not what they are passionate about but the thoughts that the degree (any degree) would lead them to their desired reward.
Point here is don't jump into a course or venture because others are doing it and or thriving in it. It may be their passion.
Akintundexxy: On this forum particularly, I've seen people being discouraged outrightly against studying medicine, especially those who are already in higher institutions but wish to change to MBBS or those who have been writing utme for years.
Honestly, the medical doctors I see around me are well to do..like they have high financial buoyancy.
If everyone learns programming or coding,who would need the service anymore? It's better to secure a realistic future than live in the realm of assumption. *My opinion*
Same thing I was pondering. They even had the audacity to impose a buy out clause of 100 Million Euro on a player about to peak his playing days. Maybe they know something we don't
paulolee: good deal since he came for free.. but I dnt understand the policy behind selling a luis Suarez dts bin in spain n knows the league so well saying he was too old, only for the same board to buy aguero dts almost same age... barca have lost it and laporta really have alot of work to do.. I remember first seeing leo n aguero at dt 2015 u-17 world cup dt dey won Nigeria in d finals.. DTS 16yrs bk n they both remained best friends for 16yrs...DTS real friendship..
We are in trouble in this country shaaa. Ordinary board to write the charges police can't afford a good one, instead they are using a worn out board using charcoal to write
EcoBrick: The man, identified as Enyinnaya Mark Ogbonna, is said to have returned to Nigeria to invest and was building a gas station (read here).
He hired a member of the Abia State vigilante group, Okorie Chukwuma, as a security guard.
However, Chukwuma is said to have shot Enyinnaya dead, buried him in a shallow grave, and absconded with his Toyota Venza.
He was caught in Port Harcourt, while allegedly trying to sell the car, and was paraded by the Rivers State Police Command.
Photos of the US-based man killed by Abia vigilante he hired to secure him and his project
What you get banning Crypto. Instead of investigating to find out what caused the high numbers recorded from Nigeria or why it was so, CBN banned it, now the pressure is on the little forex it can provide to the people for their personal or business needs.
FarahAideed: The Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation (NNPC) has said that it plans to acquire a 20% minority equity stake in Africa’s biggest oil refining facility, Dangote Refinery, Lagos.
This is to help further ensure an undisrupted supply of petroleum products across the country when the transaction pulls through.
This disclosure was made by NNPC Chief Operating Officer, Refining and Petrochemicals, Mr Mustapha Yakubu, while speaking at the end of a 2-day Nigeria Oil and Gas Opportunity Fair (NOGOF), 2021, tagged: “Leveraging Opportunities and Synergies for Post Pandemic Recovery of the Nigerian Oil and Gas Industry.”
According to Thisday, Yakubu said discussions were already ongoing with the Dangote Group for the acquisition of the stake. What are we doing there? I can tell you today that we are seeking to have a 20 per cent minority stake in Dangote Refinery as part of our collaboration and you know that there’s a huge quantity of crude for that refinery.
That’s 650,000 barrels, going into a single crude distillation unit (CDU). When that comes on board, it will also wet the nation for us.”
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