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I am so happy for her.
She will make a fine wife.
I hope that boy treats her well after all she has been through.

[size=20pt]WHAT A BODY SHE HAS! [/size]

Donations please.
See people experiencing NL withdrawal syndrome.
Chei!

That is why it is not good to do 'evil'.


"Spambot" don "bot" Nairaland finally.
Aka Jehovah!

Abeg. . . .2 hours to go.
Back to work jare.
Time to check into my 'runs' room!

Do NOT disturb sign up!

Because I understand all their 'ways' and 'waywardness'.
I only pity the 'foreigners' who date them without fully understanding what they have to contend with.
Poor things.

Sarahluv:
You should not ridicule the religion of others. I'm sure you would instantly get on the defensive if the same was done to you.

Hmmmmm!
Thank you!

No, I don't want to catch him.
He has my permission. . .so no cheating.
Monagamy is not part of our contract.

Not your business!
They are not your kids.
If it is okay with their mom, why should it bother you?
Go and have yours and monitor them they way you deem fit.
We will not be questioning your moral compass either.

Siena:
An old post, but still. . .

People have dirty minds? Look who's talking - I bet your dirty mind was buzzing like a beehive, when you started this thread.

[size=20pt]A typical dirty-minded individual who just wont mind his own business. You need to get hitched fast, so you have less time to stick your beak into your friend's matrimonial affairs[/size]

Or if you're hitched already, pay more attention to your wife / girlfriend.

Welcome to "Nigeriaworld". . . Welcome to "Nairaworldland"!

Do Nigerians ever mind their doggone bizz?

Always pokenosing in someone else's matter while abandoning theirs.

Cursed souls!

Mu he he he he

Thank you.
Some of us do not have any challenges.
Praise our GODS!

Tell the 'born-again' Ogboni-Okija divorcees.
Or 'battered' women's monogamy club.

Even the so-called annionted can be 'torched' too?
Like Jesu Christy, like Bakare.

Mu he he he he

Corrrrrrrrrrrrrect "sacri-fy"!

I heard he loved 'phaaaaaaaaaaat' married women. . . .hmmmmm!!!
Awon not enough for one but too for two club!
Afrrrrika man and 'oroborkibor'!

Let them sit there and get roasted!
Tomorrow, they will open their "akpu" mouths and be shouting "Biafra-Biafra"!

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See "evoh" spirit!



E be like say Nairaland need donations too o!
Thank God for full-time employment.
If una need donations to prevent crashes . . .please lemme know.

I have been trying to download and upload my 'frontal' view for the weekend to my 'customers'. . .but no luck.

Please, some of us are gainfully employed and this is my 11th night in a row of working. I have 6 more to go. . .
Could you fix this 'sluggish' sointin so we don't fall asleep at work?

This is my month to make money for Uncle Sam. . .we are talking 5 paychecks in one month.
You are sabotaging my efforts to keep awake so my PRECIOUS semi-conscious, doped-up, ballistic, fetal patients weighing less than than 1kg being monitored continuously, do not quench on my professional licence. Nairaland. . .I am counting on you please. I have absolutely NO intentions of relocating to Nigeria in this my lifetime. . . deported, extradicted, de-naturalized or excommunicated.

Taink you!


Pleaaaaase. . .ANYTHING not to log on to that dryyyyyyyyyyyyy NVS full of bush okoro and local Yoruba peeps pleaaaaaase!

The current violence in the north has nothing to do with religion or tribalism. It is about feeding fat the insatiable greed of the same clique of Politricktsers responsible for Nigeria’s underdevelopment for decades.

Gbam!
Like the illiterates in Nigeria understand what tribe they come from or what religion they claim to adhere to?

Like Nigeria, like Nairaland. When there is peace and quiet. . .some peeps are not happy. The 'cyber' almajiris have started again.

Looks like someone "Igbotic" is having the 'urge' again to post anti-Yoruba threads.

There will never be peace in some people's lives I swear.

Charged along with them was Aremu Oyebade, the husband of Rasheedat.

Blessed are the fruits of the womb. . . .

Goldieluks (f)
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  Re: Can U Date A Girl/guy With Bad Breath?
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but bro,i thought your MALE, gay+ ?

Negative X 3!

By giving my man the ultimate freeeeeeeedom to do whatever he damn well pleases. . . while I do the same.

I spoil him rotten.
I even buy him a few, nice 'poohsies' too. . . .when mine is worn out!

Yes, when done with love.
No, when done with frustration and bi-polar disease manifestations.

Some children need tough parenting. . . others don't.
Each child is different.
One size does not fit all.

Yes! If you choose to call it that.
Not part of my vows.
Not a Christian hypocrite!
Or phock and repent 'holy nweje'-bitter Xtian divorcee/virgin brides/groom abstinence-after-life-time-career-phockalism-clubbers either.

Try "open" marriages. . .no cheats!
No vanquished, no victors.

Wharrrrreva happens between 2 consenting adults is no barrrrrrry's bizzznezzzz!

Too bad if you husband or wife does not like it.

Quench if you wanno quench!

Yes!
Including the 'holy' ones keeping night vigils.
Male and female too.
I prefer young 'male' cyber whores.
They deliver the goods!

No Yoruba or Igbo please. . .below or above the Niger.

My focal place clit!

Because, a little hanky-panky makes the relationships INTERASSSSSSSSSSSSTING always.
Who wants a boring 'honest' relationship?
When you die and go to heaven or 'hell'(for sure) you have all the time in the world to be honest with your relationships there.
Mwaaaaaaaaah!

Ugly Bini people and their wickedness. . .related to awon Deji of Akure. Divorce by acid. Yoruba and Bini peeps are related anyway.
Ekiti state and Edo state no difference.
When you tell all these young girls to stay in school. . .they would refuse and be following sugar daddy around Nigeria.
I praise those Nigerian girls from Edo state who opt to 'trade' in Italy.
What is a 31 year-old lady doing with a 47-year old impotent, used and recycled douche bag?

What a name. . .Igb[/b]i---blah blah blah. . . [b]Igbinomewahin Abi na Igbinedion. . . . .?
Desperation in action!
I want to marry by force!

The problem now is that the wife immediately said because he raised his hand on her the marriage is over.

Was she not the one that raise her fists to her husband first?

Sounds like a very troubled, dysfunctional couple to me.

They both need counselling. You do not communicate with your fists.

Wonder where they learned that. Their parents I believe.

Yes!
If that is the way God created him or her.
After all, all breaths stink first thing every morning.
Does that prevent you from kissing your spouse?

Pleazzzzzzoh, my husband's mouth smells of 'overnight' egusi soup plus MY t-t juice(and God knows who else's. . . . ) some mornings, especially during ovulation. . . I suck the thing dry.

Heeeeeey. . . call it love huh?

Like the men have the choice.
Any man that does not have a working wife in this day and age will STARVE to death!
Any woman that does not have a job in this day and age, should be prepared to be an emotionally and physically BATTERED WIFE!

May God have mercy on that poor woman.
You can NEVER earn respect from an African man as a full-time house wife.
You will forever feel like an ijjiot!
God forbid.

what type of husband do you have? maybe you can judge mine and tell me what you think.

I have one with home-training. Being the last of 10 children. You marry aje-butter.  I marry aje-kpakororo!

He never gives me allowance for the month. it's always in trickles weekly and sometimes i have to write every single item i want to buy.

In this 21st century na woman dey give men allowance. Gerrrof ya butt! Stop sending us hard-working women back to the dark ages!

Since i gave birth to our daughter we never go out together again.

Maybe you need to lose weight! Have you tried going out with 'others'?  That should wake him up real fast! You need to shape up and put on your halter tops and 'low-rider' jeans and hit the clubs one night a week shuuugar!

He's always eager to for his guys to come and take him out drinking

Holllit dia! You married a drunk? Or you made your husband start drinking out of 'depression'?

He's a fan of all the social networking sites like facebook, twitter and takes a lot of females along as friends

This MUST be a Yoruba man. . .Na dem life be dat!

he can come back from a wedding after-party at 2am

Omo jati-jati gaaaaaaaaan! How did you walk down the aisle with this type of man? O gal, husband nor be boyfriend and vice versa o! How you manage waka?

he can come home drunk

Nor be for this my house. Impossicant! You say wetin? Too things I can NEVER tolerate in ANY man is one who DRINKS or SMOKES! Lai lai. AMMO throw him OUT!

He never goes to church

Me neither. . . not a problem for me at all. Na so-so ashawo work full for those churches anyway Thank your stars. . . your problems would have been compounded with all those single 'Hail Maries' running around the church premises without bras and pants prasing their 'lords'!

He sends mails to female friends ending the mail with "with love"

They ALL do. . .some have not caught theirs yet. . .This is not a problem.  Why do you think WE all spend time on places like NL? Those things just come and go. . .no threat at all. Just for entertainment only. Nothng more. He is going through the "Boy Alinco" phase.  Please, allow him. E go soon taya.

He thinks he's the finest guy alive

Oh well, so does the Agama Lizard or the 'Not-until-I-have-been-disgraced' Olodo the tortoise. Self-confidence is not such a bad thing.

He loves to keep malice and complains about me a nursing mother not having a job when he also has a brother that lives with us and is jobless too

Damn right! I would complain too. Come to my job and see 20 somethings-40-something year-old nursing mothers with bobby-pumps! Pumping for 24 months with full-time jobs. MUST THE BABY BY ON YOUR CHEST 24/7?  Hmmm! awon "Baby Friendly" with no bank accounts! Or you think say na Naija you dey where women be full time house-wives and chronic beggers of 'chop' money? You are comparing yourself to his jobless brother. You don't know that it is women that build and sustain homes in this 21st centure and MOST husbands are just HUSBANDS for mouth and nyansh? Don't let your friends deceive you o! You go soon end up for divorce court. Can't you express your milk and bottle feed it to your baby while you work?

He does no house work asides cooking once in a blue moon

But he gave you belle. Is that not work?

i can go on and on but pls people am i being paranoid to complain?

You are just being a spoiled brat! Stop whining and take control of your marriage and family. You married a drunk. . .or you made your husband start drinking after he married you. It is all your fault! You need to find ways to fix your home. It is a woman's world darling!

You have been ordained to be the 'bread-winner' of this family.

Now, get to work!




Rewwwwwwwwwwwwind!!!!

Hi everyone, i appreciate all our suggestions and am very grateful, i think i didn't tell you all the kind of woman i am and the beginning of my relationship.

i courted my husband for 2yrs and knew him for 4yrs but when i actually met him i was never interested cos i was more into rich, tall guys and didn't actually like him.

I think this whole issue of a woman before birth and after birth is really not an excuse for our men to misbehave afterall they say "for better for worse"

i'll admit i'm not the woman i used to be, i used to be a pretty, gainfully employed, fantastic bosoms, hot-legged size 8 now am a size fat, falling breasted 14 yes i know my body has changed but i've asked for our daughter to be one year before i release her from bosom-feeding and take care of myself cos

[size=20pt]all mums know it's really very hard doing the exclusive part of bosom-feeding without any help to do the chores and my daughter is sooo big that when i had her she could breastfeed for 8 hours non-stop. i think i became mad at a point. she's five months and weighs almost 11kg.[/size]




Before i got married he did everything to please me, he came to church, he bought me wonderful clothes from box office and other hot boutiques, he gave me money for my family, he cooked for me(his brother and friends), i never had cause to believe he cheated on me, he didn't drink not to talk of getting drunk etc

why it hurts me deeply is that my dad is rich and i went to even a private university while my husband's dad is a farmer in the village who only trained my husband to an extent, (1 out of  and i can't even understand their igbo properly.

now My dad also initially refused to marriage saying he wanted to send me to amsterdam to do my masters and said that my husband's people were not enlightened and poor even going as far asking me whether i would farm during holidays and i felt those were not genuine reasons.

i also had house of reps, sa's, directors, DGs and rich biz men both in nigeria and abroad as friends now i don't have any of them anymore, i had two job offers in lagos but turned them down to be with him.

my husband started knowing females right from jss1 cos he left home to a town where there was a secondary school while i knew guys from my yr 2 in the university cos my mum made sure to checkmate me so well, so he's had about 20yrs of fun while i was just getting started with 5yrs fun but decided to marry since someone advised me that with all the male fans i had that a woman's beauty is not forever. so  i feel like my life just ended and yet he's not supportive afterall i didn't impregnate myself.

him not going to church too is also not ok by me

i don't have a problem with him drinking but being drunk is not ok by me.

he can go out but once it gets to mid-night he's crossed the line. haba my father was my role model and for a long time i hated him cos of his infidelity. that's certainly not what i want for my daughter.

i call him to order and he re-traces his steps but am tired of calling him to order, i don't even shout at him as some might think and i'm not lazy taking care of my house a tasking enough for me.

what i hate again is that i could go out cos i still get stops for lifts, i could perk-up my bosom in some wonder bra and post it on some site and people will come drooling, i could drink, infact i could have a guy take care of me and my daughter but i choose not to. he too can choose to be a better father and husband.

if his younger brother lives with us till my daughter can speak am sure she'll call him dad cos he does a better job at being a father

Accquiring satellites. . .

Recalculating. . . .


Boooooolsheeeeeeeeeet!!!

No wonder.

Bella Adenuga ko!
Moji Okoya ni!
If I were that your husband. . .I would not only be drinking. . .I would be smoking 'Igbo' too!
You are daaaaaaaamn lazy!
Gosh!

20 years of phocking vs 5 years of phocking.  You nor be 'v[b]a[/b]gin' sef!

Arrrrrrrrrrantus Nonsensicus!

I knew this rubbish could only happen in Nigeria.

Next topic please.

BabyOkon:
OKON & OLATINWO are real names. Smith & Williams are not my name. Made them up for privacy's sake.


I agree that this issue is more about my son than his father. But what if I name him after his father's family, and then in the future none of them want him?? Or treat him as less than because of the circumstances of his birth In that case, have I done right to expose him to hatred and negativity?

Everyone has the right to know their lineage -- I can never deny my son that right. But if his father denies him from birth, at least I want my child to have THE OPTION of choosing whether or not he wants to identify with his father's family. I wont have a problem if my son chooses to go by his father's last name in the future.

The States is a much freer country than Nigeria. I don't think I have to give away his father's name on his BC or other official documents. But if I HAVE TO, then I'll just use the man's initials.


Like I said above, I want my son to have the freedom of choice. I mentioned that my legal name is not my family name. It is not that difficult to change names. If he wants a name change, he can have it when he's old enough to have the clarity of mind and thought to make that decision himself.

I don't know what the future holds in terms of reconciliation.

As I speak, I struggle not to hate Mr. Sperm Donor or to have bitterness against him. (Who wouldn't) But a situation like this hurts and is painful. Since he left for Nigeria, he has not called or texted me. Not even to say "I have arrived o!" or "I had a safe trip" or anything else for that matter. There was a good 4wks of silence because I had no way to contact him initially. Then I e-mail him that I'm pregnant and all he can think of is his own life.

Tell me, is that the kind of man YOU would ever consider reconciling with?? Especially when he tells you your child is illegitimate? Abeg jare. . . .     

Let sleeping dogs lie where they are. Some of them are rabid.

Like my mother always told me.
If you [b]choose[/b] to get pregnant for a man who has NOT married you. . .you don't need a bride price.
The child is your responsibility.
Please, the man is not interested and has long left for Nigeria. He has moved on.
Enjoy the memories, get a job and take care of yourself and the baby.


Next time. . .treat every man like you are gonna have a one-night stand.
Enjoy the consequences.
Life goes on. . . and the best is yet to come with or without the 'sperm donor'!

Move on dearie. . . that ship has sailed.

Are you sure you are an American-born lady?
Only Nigerian women sing these kinds of "swan songs"of romantic lamentation.


If na real Ameri-dudu babe. . . she would have been on her 5th pregnancy with the 7th man on The Jerry Springer Show cussing all the prospective baby daddies out with another pregancy . . . .WITH GOLDEN TEETH AND ALL. . . LOOKING DAMN GOOD!

God bless the Black American!

You will not even catch a Mexicana typing all these. . . na club she for don land since with the pregancy dey shack 'Tequilla'.

Ma'am, pleaaaaaaase move on. Enrol in school and find you a decent man! No need chasing after a loser of a dude to feel relevant in life. He has given you the greatest gift of life. . .creating another human being. . .with HALF your DNA.

What the phock do you need him for if he is NOT interested in you or the child.

Look at Shaquille O'neal? Did his father not abandon him?
Did Barack Obama's dad not abandon him?
Look where they are today.

Any man not interested in you and YOUR child. . .please close the chapter on his arzzzzze.

Gosh, I need to introduce you to some of my girlfriends.
If the man wants to have a relationship with his child. . .he knows where to find him or her. . . MOVE ON!