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Romance / Re: Are Stepmothers Inherently Evil? by Boss13: 7:59pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
iamtardey: You're right. Most act base on fear and insecurity. Human nature as you rightly put it. I would actually say it is the fault of the man who should be able to moderate things and ensure equity in the home. |
Romance / Re: Are Stepmothers Inherently Evil? by Boss13: 7:58pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
iamtardey: You're right. Most act base on fear and insecurity. Human nature as you rightly put it. |
Romance / Re: Men & Marriage - How To Pick Your Wife! by Boss13: 7:18pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
CsRockefeller: 5 years age gap is good but nothing is more sex appealing to a lady than a man who provides. I need to qualify this proper before I am being misconstrued. Providing does not mean wealthy. Of course women love wealthy men but from widely available data, wealthy men are already advanced in age and married. I'm talking about young men who are productive and ambitious. If a man wants respect from his wife as well as her family, he must be productive and overtly ambitious. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 7:13pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
smeag0l: Is that what you were able to comprehend from my post? |
Romance / Re: Men & Marriage - How To Pick Your Wife! by Boss13: 6:09pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
BinamRex: I love and encourage constructive criticism. It gives room for others to either learn from opposing views or contribute to the discussion. Yours was none of this. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 6:01pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Palmerghana: You are correct. Love is not sufficient to sustain a marriage. A marriage based mainly on love leads to divorce. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 6:00pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
smeag0l: Smile. Very typical. For you to qualify to be a matching mate to a western woman, you must be able to provide. I hope you read that part on my previous comment to this remark. Your financial plan with your wife/partner is now dependent on the agreement you have with her. For some 50:50, others 60:40, 70:30 etc. I'm glad you agree that if a man is unable to meet up with the financial obligations, the western woman will kick him out. Now back to Africa, or more in particular Nigeria. How is this any different? In many Nigerian homes, the man and the wife contribute financially to the upkeep of the home. The sharing formula is also dependent on the agreement between the husband and wife. However, in situations where the man can no longer provide, only on rare occasions, do the man lose the privilege of being in the house. This illustration does not deviate from the biological nature of women to be cater for. However, this illustration fits the middle/low income earners in both the west and in Africa, Nigeria in particular. For the rich and upper class, the man pays for everything even in Nigeria. When you say the default in the west is shared financial obligation, you are wrong. |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 5:49pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
karkinase: It is currently on the romance thread at the moment. |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 5:45pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
MrSamsung: This will be my last response to you. I can tell from your previous comments that you are not well read. I would love to suggest a few research papers and books on the evolution of man, but I doubt you would read it and even if you do your opinion would still be skewed. Hence no need. Better still do the research yourself. As per Age being a verifiable metric for Maturity measurement, I am surprised you still don't get it. On this, you can believe whatever you want to. Finally, you are less of a man in comparison to those l listed. To disparage them in order to justify your opinion depicts how unreasonable you are when it comes to putting forth a counter argument. I questioned your age because your opinions are devoid of practical sound judgement. You Sir I don't know how old you are but certainly you know little about life. I can tell from reading your exchanges with me. Continue on your path. Shalom! 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: How Do I Come Out Of This Dilemma by Boss13: 4:00pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Neptunium: Gross irresponsibility and selfishness on his part. Where is he going to find a unicorn? This Earth, I doubt it. Why are some men this heartless and why would women open their legs and stay in a lengthy relationship without legalizing it. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: How Do I Come Out Of This Dilemma by Boss13: 3:51pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
lawrenzooo: Chief please take your woman and go for counseling. She has given you the highest honor any woman can give to man, a son. Don't be callous. Be a man and do the proper thing. I can tell you from experience no woman is perfect. Go and do the proper thing and keep your family intact. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 3:45pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
MrSamsung: I dislike it when people do not take the time to read for comprehension. I said AGE is the only verifiable and agreeable means to test for Maturity. Do you have any verifiable measuring scale for this? What does cheating mean to you? I will presume you are a man based on your moniker, because your comment has feminine tendencies all over. May I remind you, because it seems you have forgotten. It is the biological nature of men to be with more than one woman just as it is the biological nature of women to be protected and cared for. Don't allow liberal views and feminists movement devoid you of your biological nature. If you want to argue with me based on your little experience of life and time on earth, please take a good look at all the male mammals and your answer is there. Male species of mammals don't stick to one female specie. If you also want to bring in religion as most of you do - there are plenty of evidences in all the widely practiced religions of the world today. Hence, how do you judge maturity based on this flawed reasoning of yours. Are you more matured, wise, financial buoyant than the Ooni of Ife, Sultan of Sokoto, Emir of Kano, Olusegun Obasanjo, Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates etc. These are powerful men and leaders who have enormous influence. Excuse my bluntness, how old are you? I asked because I'm taken aback at your reasoning and opinions. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Men & Marriage - How To Pick Your Wife! by Boss13: 3:01pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
[quote author=BinamRex post=103358080][/quote] Imagine your ridiculousness. It gives you intense pleasurable joy to appear stupid. The least you can do is go through my previous threads, comments and post. It probably would give you a little indication of me. These are the individuals who privately send your messages begging you for financial support or guidance. You are the reason why I stopped visiting Nairaland because it is now filled with disrespectful kids, low-lives, disgruntled elements, and angry individuals who would blame everyone and everything, but themselves for the outcome of their lives. Go get a life! You need it. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: I'm Tired Of Living And Being Poor. by Boss13: 2:53pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
The5DME: Do something about it |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 2:50pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Elevation: There is nothing wrong with seeking the guidance of the DIVINE. However, we seem or pretend to do this all the time. The DIVINE has given us the ability to reason, to think, to act and to discern. We must exercise these abilities. You are more concerned about my response and also attribute it to the Holy Spirit. I believe I never insulted you. I have no cause to do so and don't engage in such gutter behavior. I was only irritated by your post and still irritated by it because what is the essence of we being human if we cannot exercise the gift of discernment given to us by the CREATOR. Trust me, you don't want to go on a spiritual argument trip with me. I can confidently assure you the spirit of the DIVINE flows in me. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 2:45pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
smeag0l: Please read my post below yours |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 2:43pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
smeag0l: Lies. I lived in the Western World. It is the biological nature of women to be cared for and protected. In the west, women who marry below their class are the least desirable women. This is also applicable in Africa. A woman is less desirable when she is old, fat, ugly, or can no longer give birth to children. In the modern age, a less desirable woman includes single mothers too. Women who have children out of wedlock or divorced women with kids. I read a lot of stories where Nigerian men always compare western women and praise western women for not being too materialistic. I can confirm to you that when you marry these western women and cannot provide for them, they will kick you out. Only a small minority of these women will continue to allow your lazy bum around the house and these are women who have acquired masculine traits. Please note, the biological nature women all over the world are the same. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 2:27pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
MrSamsung: Let's put your reasoning to practical test. How do you test for maturity? Do you agree with me that a baby and an 18 years old individual are not on the same maturity scale. What is the test of the scale - AGE. What is your objective test of good character and personality? How do we validly test for this? Obviously we cannot reliably test for these values. However, we can all agree that the number of years an individual spend on earth can directly relates to his/her maturity and experience. There maybe outliers, but this is valid is most cases. I don't deal with outliers and reasonable people don't. I think you have use words out of context such as agility and financial overbility, which is not a proper English word. Consequently, I cannot decipher what you mean. |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 2:17pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Elevation: We live in a practical world and hence must act practically. Our religiosity has only made us lazy to think and act. Do you know the statistics of divorce within Christian homes? Probably you will tell me their homes were devoid of the presence of God - lies. God cannot pick your clothing, food, and basic practical things and this includes your spouse. Else, we can all sit down and allow the Divine Providence to feed us, bathe us, cloth us, and even drives us to work daily. Can we for once stop these nonsense and start acting like Humans living on Earth. The young man wants to know how to pick his wife. Can you be practical enough to guide him or be quiet if you don't know how. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: How Do I Come Out Of This Dilemma by Boss13: 1:28pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
lawrenzooo: You were with her for 6 years, got her pregnant and want to abandon her for who? Put yourself in her shoes. Don't you consider your action callous. You have devalued her and want to move on. Boy, you are wicked. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 1:25pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Casham: Since you don't have a prospective women at the moment. Go and read my thread on how to pick a wife. It is on the romance page at the moment. Next, focus on increasing your earning power to ensure you are a good provider. This will increase the number of women available for you to select. Finally, approach this exercise with a discerning mind and be critically logical. Love can come later. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: Men & Marriage - How To Pick Your Wife! by Boss13: 1:20pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
BinamRex: I will not stoop low to your class. Your problem is staring at you in the mirror. If your situation fits the narrative, that isn't my problem. I had nothing to do with it. The objective of the thread is to help reasonable men pick their wives and to assist them avoid pitfalls. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 1:02pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Elevation: You have married wrong and I am willingly to dedicate 30 mins of my time to debate you on this. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 12:35pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Casham: Sure, there is no hard and fast rule on certain things in life. However, based on my experience and others. I will strongly urge young men to consider marrying younger women. Trust me on this. Women are generally stubborn, regardless of age. Also, with this liberal nonsense going on especially on social media, younger men are going to find it difficult having women follow their lead. The last thing a man needs is a woman who does not respect him. I have a friend currently experiencing this and he has been thoroughly emasculated by his wife and strip of his dignity. You do not want such situation for yourself. 5 Likes |
Romance / Re: Love Is Ruining My Life Please I Need Advice by Boss13: 12:30pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Go and make money and stop this nonsense. Your focus should not be women but your purpose. Women will rush you when you are on your purpose. 795 Likes 52 Shares |
Romance / Re: Do People In The Western World � Get Pressure On Marriage � ? by Boss13: 12:28pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Yes. I live in the western world and they feel the pressure of getting married too. Either through the society, biological need, or parental pressure. |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 12:22pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
AfroKnight: This is not necessary for a healthy marriage. An older man can actually enjoy memories with his younger wife. This is dependent on the disposition of the man and not the woman. I would have loved to give you a personal experience but do not want to disclose sensitive information. However, I can confidently tell you the age gap to enjoy the company of each other doesn't matter. |
Romance / Re: Heartbreak: Lady Weeps As She Asks Guys What They Want From Relationships by Boss13: 12:15pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
RESPECT. This is what men want. Noticed she didn't mention it. Respect your man and his decisions. Avoid confrontation and arguments. 6 Likes |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 12:13pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Jeon: Still not enough but can be mitigate by providing sufficiently for the family and her extended family. |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 12:11pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Casham: Then you are in for a joke. A woman who is 2 years younger than you is not actually your age mate. She is far above you and more matured than you. You need to think about marriage critically. It is a huge life changing decision. As a man, this is not something to toy around with. You must be pragmatic and logical when it comes to choosing your spouse. I have a thread on this and this was complied based on my personal experience as a married man, the experiences of my married friends and the naivety of young men today. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Romance / Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 12:06pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Ten (10) years. However, this is still dependent on your ability to provide. If you are poor, your young wife will insult you and due to the wide age gap, you will feel the pain more. 10 years is preferable because as men we prefer respect to love and this age gap provides the buffer to mitigate against disrespect from not just your wife but also from her family. To conclude, the age gap is important. However, your ability to provide is more important because it is in the biological nature of women to be cared for. Hence a woman would respect a younger man who take care of her than a poor older man. 12 Likes 4 Shares |
Romance / Re: Men & Marriage - How To Pick Your Wife! by Boss13: 11:59am On Jul 04, 2021 |
patwilly: Though financial due diligence on prospective in-laws is crucial, but other factors should be reviewed. For example, what is the power dynamics between your fiance's father and mother. Who makes the key decisions in the home. If other siblings are married, how do they treat their spouses and how often do external influences creep into their homes. During social gatherings or celebrations, who wedges more control and influences? How do you elicit these information - through interviewing your fiance about how parents and also through observations when you visit the family. You must do these things, analyze them before you make your decision else you will regret your marriage. 1 Like |
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