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She ran a test on you to know your reaction to such news. I will advice you to warn her not to play such games with you. You can also play your own prank on her and find out her reaction.

If you are sure the pregnancy does not belong to you, then you should have no problem opening up to her (your fiancée) that you are no longer interested in her. About her mother, you can go there asnd tell her that due to this reason of her daughter's pregnancy, you cannot continue with the marriage plan. I want you to tell your fiancée that she should go and marry whoever got he pregnant. If you go ahead to marr her despite the pregnancy, you have given her license to continue cheating on you.

The lady in question needs seriou counseling so as for her to reduce her anger. The guy shoul be very careful and try to avoid anythin that will make her angry.

I respect the guy gor not himiliating himself by having sex with her on the first day she visited as it will make the girl look cheap. As for the girl she does not want to love the guy but only cares about sex. She should be very watchful as she may be selling herslef cheap to the wrong person who might harm her.

This is a very delicate case. I want you to understand one thing, the fact that you started your relationship from friendship is very lovely and I like that. The problem there is that there is no way a guy who graduated with his friend from friendship to relationship cannot agree to go back to just been friends. That apart, the fact that you decided to make some changes in your person life should not affect your relationship as there might be a situation where you might need some kind of encouragement from someone close to your heart. I want you to forget completely about the breakup gift you are planning to give him as he might misunderstand your intention for giving it to himv and might also see it as a bribe for him to leave you as he is facing financial problems. If you really love him as you sasy then continue the relationship and make whatever adjustment you need to make to your personal life.

My brother it does not make any sense dating a girl living in the same compound with you.

Sir to be sincere, you do not need anybody to tell you that you made a costly mistake. You broke up with your girl and she moved to another guy, still her number is in your phone. You have no reason to call her as she has moved on.

My Sister I am quite pleased to see that other girls have adviced you to move on, I will like you to listen to them. The only thing I will add to what they said is that whatever is destined to be must be, though it might be delayed but surely must be.

My brother I know that your reason for trying to break up with her is because you don't love her anymore. You cannot force yourself to be in a relationship which there is no more love. You have to open up to her on the way you feel; even as it is difficult to let her go due to her love, you have to tell her the truth.

Vera I want you to know that that guy is shy and afraid. He loves you very much but due to shyness and also fear of rejection, he is not telling you what you want to hear. I also believe that he does not know that you love him like you do which also addd to hi fears. I think what you ca do is sit him down and talk to him to try and remove the shyness in him, let him know that you love him and will not reject him. I believe if he gphears this from you, he will open up.

Hell NO! I prefer to stay in Nija

To be sincere with you my sister, you were not rash with your decision. My reason for saying this is that he is at fault. What he should have done was greet your dad and your family as their son in-law to be, after which she will introduce you to the family. He would have after doing this, taken you to meet his mother and introduce you as he girl he wants to marry to her. I believe he is suffering from inferiority complex, or he is ashamed of intriducing you as his wife to be.

Eve62:
Resently, i learnt of a guy who was a part-timer in a university and worked as a company driver but his girlfriend just was in her first year in a polytechnic and was from a poor background(note that the guy himself didnt have much o). She was studying hotel management( those that know of this course shld that it is fund intensive). In all the years she spent in the school from ND tgrough HND, the guy was responsible for her to the extend of giving allowance every month and she didnt hv anybody in dat place except for the guy but still she does not love and respect him. Infact she hides him from her friend and follow other guys.

She got scholarship to study abroad which commences after her NYSC and when she was leaving for camp, he saved #60,000 that he gave her. The moment she got to camp she started going out with another guy. she uses his picture as her dp and has even gone as far as staying with him after camp leaving the one person whose sacrifice got her there. She does not take his calls neither does she call him. This guy is in so much pain because he loves her and has made a lot of sacrifice for her but she has betrayed him to his marrows.

Personally, i dont think it is such a good idea for him to had dropped out to send her to school. I think he should have tried his best to finish well, get a good job and then send her to school. What's your take on it?

The first thing I will say is that the guy is a very good and considerate guy who really loves his girl. The said girl will think that she has played him and can continue her life without facing the repercaution in the future , but I assure you she is deceiving herself. I advice the guy to try his best to forget about her and move on with his life. He should take it like a man he is and try as much as he can to forget about her. Sooner or later she will see the hand writing on the wall.

I understand what you are passing through but will like to advice you not to date any of your female staffs as this might affect your relationship with both her and others. She will not give you the respect she used to give you before dating her, it will even bring problem between herself and the remaining girls as she will be seeing herselF as being special and the others are nothing but servants to her. In the long run your business might be affected. If you insist on dating then look for another working class lady outside your business to date.

chimerase2:
As a man of God I dnt fornicate I don't have sex but I watch mojo everiday
Is it good for ma mins3, cause amu confused
It has been longI killed a cat, since I received ma calling I stopped doing bad bad tins except watching of mojo
Pls advice the man of God is it a sin
Will it hinder ma juvenile mins3
Advice pls

If you are really called by God, I will like you to try to stop the mojo. Try it this way, you know the time you usually watch the mojo, instead of watching it I advice you look for something else to do. Even if it is reading the Bible. Do that for sometime and while fighting that urge, talk to God in prayer begging him to remove that unclean spirit from you. If you continue watching it, I am afraid it will lead to you try to practice it wih a lady thereby leading to the down fall of your ministry.

My Sister I understand what you are passing through and I must confess it in not easy. I know your reason for not loving this guy the way you suppose to is as a result of previous heart breaks, I will like you to give gim a try interms of loving him and trusting him. In doing this I am sure you will know if the risk is worth taking or not. Talking about engaging you before the end of the year, I will like you to love him first before futhering your relationship with him.if you don't love and trust him then if you decide to accept his proposal, you might end up not being happy in it. One last thing I will like you to do is always pray concerning the situation, I am certain God will show you the truth concerning the present situation.

sylvalord:
IT IS ALREADY AFFECTING MY FRIENDSHIP WITH HER. READ MY POST BELOW.

My brother if her attitude is affecting your friendship with her I will like you to either ignore her bad attitude and go on with the friendship or call it quits, the ball is in your court.

brocab:
I have something for you. There are 613 laws back in the old testament and since tithing was a sin offering. I can name just a few, Genesis 17: 10-12, This is My covenant which you shall keep, between Me and you and your descendants after you; Every male child among you shall be circumcised; and you shall be circumcised in the flesh of your foreskins, and it shall be a sign of the covenant between Me and you.
Deuteronomy 21:18-21, if a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or his mother V's 19, his father and his mother shall take hold of him and bring him out to the elders of the city V's 20 the parents would complain about their son V's 21 all the men shall stone the son to death with stones so or Israel shall hear and fear.
Leviticus 20:9-10, For anyone who curses his father and mother shall surely be put to death. V's 10, The man who commits adultery with another man's wife, shall surly be put to death. Jesus {fulfilled} changed this law as well. Look up John 8:3-7, When the woman was caught in the very act of committing adultery. Those who don't sin cast the first stone.
Leviticus 19:27-28 You shall not shave around the sides of your head, nor disfigure the edges of your beard. V's 28, You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor tattoo any marks on you. V's 30, You must keep my Sabbaths.
Leviticus 4:34-35 The priest shall take some of the blood of the sin offings with his finger, put it on the horns of the altar of burnt offering, and pour the remaining blood at the base. V's 35, He shall remove all its fat, as the fat of a lamb is removed from the sacrifice of the peace offering. Then the priest shall burn it on the altar, according to the offerings made by fire to the lord So the priest shall make atonement for his sin that he has committed and it shall be forgiven him.
Leviticus 16-30, For on that day the priest shall make atonement for you, to cleanse you, that you maybe clean from all sins before the lord. We don't seem to follow those laws any more, "do we." Why? Because Jesus came to fulfil the law, changing the O/Testament covenant laws under God, to the N/testament covenant laws under Christ. So theirs many scriptures from the OT to the NT, that are the same, But through Jesus they are handle"d a different way. No-one stones his son/daughter because of disobedience, anymore. do they.
Galatians 3-10-14, For as many as are of the works of the law are under the curse; for it is written, Cursed is everyone who does not continue in all things which are written in the book of the 'LAW" V's 11, But that no one is justified by the law in the sight of God is evident", for "the just shall live by faith."V's 12, YET THE LAW IS NOT OF FAITH, but the man who does then shall live by them. V's 13, CHRIST HAS REDEEMED US FROM THE CURSE OF THE LAW, having become a curse for us. That the blessing of Abraham might come upon the Gentiles in Christ Jesus, that we might receive the promise of the spirit through faith..
Hebrews 10:5-12 Therefore. when He came into the world, He said: Sacrifice and offering You did not desire. But a body You have prepared for me. V's 6, In burnt offerings and sacrifices for sin You had no pleasure. V's 7, Then I said: "Behold, I have come-In the volume of the book, it is written of me-to do your will, O God,' "V's 8, Previously saying, "Sacrifice and offering, Burnt offerings, and offerings for sin You did not desire, nor had pleasure in them" {Which is offered according to the law}.V's 9, Then he said: "behold, I have come to do your will O God," He takes away the first {covenant} that he may establish the second {covenant} V's 10, By that will we have been sanctified through the offering of the body of Jesus Christ-once for all.
V's 11, And every "PRIEST" stands ministering daily and offering repeatedly the same Sacrifices, which can never take away sins. V's 12, Jesus had offered one sacrifice for sins forever, sat down at the right hand of God.
Jesus said: he came to fulfil the law, In John 8:3-7, the scribes and Pharisees brought to him a woman caught in adultery. V's 4, they said: to Jesus. "Teacher, this woman was caught in adultery, in the very act. V's 5, Now Moses, in the "LAW" commanded us that such should be stoned, But what do you say?" V's 6, But Jesus stooped down and wrote on the ground, V'S 7, So when they continued asking him, He raised himself up and said: to them, He who is with out sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.
So there it is, "Evidence" Jesus had fulfilled the law.

What you are saying is that since Christ came to do away with the laws his father gave to His people. Which means that God and His Son Jesus are in enemity or they do not agree. God said inm the Bible that before he says any word, that word is refined seven times by him. God also that instead of any of his words which He spoke not to be fulfilled, Heaven and Earth should pass away. Talking of Sabbath, the same bible said that Jesus Christ is the Lord of Sabbath. All of the laws which God gave in the Bible, He said that they will be to the end of time. Christ been the Son of God cannot come and or do away with His Father's laws, as Christ and his Father are at peace

My brother this you bestfriend has attitude problems and if she does not stop it will affect her in future. Since you said that you are not in a relationship with her, I advice you talk to her as a friend comcerning her attitudal problem letting her know that if she does not change, it might affect your friendship with her.

I will advice you to keep yourself till you marry. That girl offering to disvirgin you, will put you in trouble. You said you are not sure your girlfriend is a virgin or not, but at the beginning off your thread you said that the two of you are virgins.

WinsomeX:
So we should tithe because Abraham tithed. But Abraham did a lot more things that are not binding on Christians today.

Abraham circumcised his sons. Christians are not bound to be circumcised today. Acts 15, Galatians 5.

Abraham offered burnt offerings. No Christian
does that today.

Abraham was polygamous. Christians are not.

Abraham fought wars. Christians do not necessarily fight wars.

And, lastly here, Abraham gave a tithe once from war spoils. Should Christians do the same?

As for Jesus fulfilling the law. If the law is fulfilled, what is left to be done in it? Why would Christ fulfill all the law and leave only that of tithing for Christians to fulfill?

Please attempt my questions.

If you read the Bible very well concerning tithing you will see the blessing associated with it. Abraham being the father of faith obeyed God by tithing. Talking about Abraham circumcising his sons and himself, God gave it as a command to him that all male children born to him are to circumcised on the eight day. In the world today, circumcision is still going on. If you doubt me ask any igbo man. The Bible made it clear that whoever is a male and is not circumsised will not enter into any gathering of God's children. Talking about offering burnt offering to God, Abraham was a Jew and did according to the instructions which God gave to him. In the world today burnt sacifices are still being made to that same God that called Abraham, his son Isaac and grand son Jacob. Jesus Christ our saviour who came on earth to die for our sins made it clear that he did not come to do away with any law of God rather to fulfill them. I will like to ask you a question, you said since Christ came to fulfill the laws of God and for that there is no other law, do you steal, or commit adultery or kill? If your answer is no, I will like to know why because as you said Christ has fulfilled the law and thereis no other one left,you should have been at liberty to do things anyhow you mind not minding. I will like you to know that Jesus Christ did not come to earth to cancel his father's law athe both of them are one. Christ said that no one can go to his father except through him. This shows that Father and Son are at peace.

My brother I understand exaclty everything you hust said even though they were very long. I believe that the reason why you carried her financial responsibility was because you really loved her. I must tell you the truth, she never loved you, she used you as her mugu while she continues misbehaving. If she really loved you she would have adapted to the change that you were putting her through. Saying that you have bad attitude and for that reason not been able to marry you is wrong as you reacted to the frustation she was putting you through.I am glad that she dicided to go because she is not a wife material at all.Whatever she does now should not bother you. Move on with your life and I pray that your business will be revived so that you can be happy once more.

Shedluck:
Who would not forgive her?

The truth be told, if this girl or any other girl for that matter cheats on me, I will forgive her and also let her go as I am no longer interested in her.

My brother this case is a very difficult one, but that not withstanding I will try my best to advice you to the best of my knowledge. Currently I am in your shoe feeling exactly what you are feeling. My advice for you is this, as you said you still love her, and from what she wrote let's believe she loves you. I will give you 2 options to choose from, the first one is to forgive her and give her one final chance. In doing this I will like you to give her one final warning telling her that if this issue repeats its self again, you will not listen to her even if she cries out blood. The second option is letting her go as you do not want to continue with her. I must commend you for being a very matured guy and not cheating on her as a revenge.I know you don't trust her anymore, but I will like you to allow her earn your trust oncemore. I will like you to advice her to go for all form of medical tests so as to be sure she is not infected.

My sister this is a very delicate case, I know you love him very much and I believes he loves you too. I have a question to ask you and I will like the truth. Are you a Virgin? If yes then plead with him to allow you keep yourself a virgin. If on the other hand you are not a virgin, I will like you to plead with him to forget the anal part of the sex. If you also insist on no sex in your relationship with him then let him go and look for someone else who will agree with you.

jumainsexy:
Which yeye heart ds one is talking about? OP abeg collect back your phone if u no wan make I swear for you. OP how I wish you are my brother, na to go d babe house go do am gobe. I trust myself men! *I go collect d phone with the pack and accessories sef*

OP as I always say, you have 2 options in this matter, you either follow what I adviced you or go to her house and collect not only your phone but every other thing you bought for her. The ball is in your court.

jidestroud:
Firstly, i feel so stupid and used.
okay, the real story is this, I promised my girlfriend (Now ex) a Samsung Note 3 phone for her birthday. Luckily for me at my place of work, the cooperative had the same phone up for pick up. As a guy who is deeply in love and knows that giving is part of maintaining a healthy relationship, i decided to pick up 2 Samsung Note 3 at the rate of N130,000 to be paid over a period of 12 months. Good news, the birthday came and i delivered.
Bad news, just 2days after my warm heart gift to her, she BROKE UP WITH ME. REASON: She doesn't see a future, blah blah blah...family issues, cultural differences.
i'm in the second month of my payment now. still paying for my Ex phone.

Advice: Can I ask her for the phone back? i feel cheated. (To make matters worse, she even uses her new bobo as Dp's on her bbm, for a phone i'm still going to be indebted for the next 10 months.

SHOULD I GET MY PHONE BACK?

My Brother I feel your pain and the truth of the whole matter is that she never loved you for a single day. She xame because to her you have cash and she came for it. She wanted to have broken up with you but as you promised her the phone, she ceased the advantage to still play one more game before dumping you. She was double dating and found out that she prefers that other guy to you. You fulfilled your promise to her and she felt there was no other need keeping you around then she decided to brake up with you 2 days after you fulfilled your promise. I advice you forget about the phone and also forget about her and also move on with your life. Remove her contact from both your phone list and also your BBM. Take heart my brother.

EroticAngelina:
hmmm
okay! I created this thread coz my heart and head is pounding! my palms are sweating!

you can tell I'm SCARED!!
I've done something that I'm ashamed of! something bad, and I'm afraid to tell my cousin(who is the closest relation I have. we are literally BFF! we are very close and we tell each other everything) I'm afraid to tell anybody! but the load and guilt is too much! I wanna let out and be free! even if its not dumebi(my cousin/bestie) that I'm telling it to.

here's what went down
my cousin came to stay with me for sometime.. so yesterday, her boyfriend came to visit her... I should have known that this guy, (his name is rorokubom, but he says people should call him flemzy coz he hated his name,) kinda likes me, dumebie once told him about me........ you know what guys! to cut the story short... he kissed me when dumebi went to the toilet! and begged me not to tell her that my lips were tempting him and he just couldnt hold back. I'm DEAD! I feel like I've betrayed dumebie I can't tell her coz I don't wanna loose her, she's my best friend I feel so guilty, and she loves this guy so much, she once gave him #84,000 for his feeding in uni! and what makes it worse is that dimebi is so sensitive and in her prev relationship, the azzhole cheated and she became unstable and went to drugs but rehab healed her, and now.... look at what I did!

right now, she wants to take me to a Chinese restaurant so we can celebrate a modeling contract I finally landed(which she even helped me with! OH GOD I'm screwed) and she's paying for everything! I'm in my room dressing up right down! I CNT even look at her and I feel like I'm gonna shii on myself!! i can't think straight! ive been biting my painted nails coz am nervous,i decided to let it out here on NL. I'm a horrible person!
THERE! I said it! at least I feel a Lil bit okay.. pls post ur own confessions, so that I know I'm not alone on this and do u think I should tell her?

My advice to you is to be very careful with your cousin's boy friend knowing the kind of person she is. Put up restrictions to the way the two of you communicate or discuss. He is trying to cause trouble between the two of you. As for the kiss, since you said it was not intentional, try as much as you can to forget that it ever happened. Don't bother telling your friend as she might overreact. Just as I said earlier, you have to be very careful.

cokacoola:
i have been dating this girl since 2years and finally decieded to propose to her this month and she acepted but the problem now is that ever since then, each time she is spending the night in my place she will be chasing me with cultlass in my dreams and if i wake up frm the and look at her i will see her smilling in her sleep....pls i need urgent advice on this

My brother if you must know the truth, I will tell it to you. Two things are involved, it is either she has a spiritual husband who uses her face to torment you this is as a result of the spiritual husband not happy with you marrying his wife. Or God is using that as a medium to show you that you should not how into that marriage or face danger. In any case I advice you talk to her of your dreams and your findings each time you wake up, if she is really willing to go on with you then you need to look for a solution go that problem.

Mprex:
This is from a friend and i'm @ loss as per what to advice her thats why i decided to share with us here because i know we've got some awesome relationship counsellors in this section


she just broke up her relationship because of some reasons that i am not permitted to share here. There is this guy that has been begging her for a relationship for over a year. Having ended her first relationship, she decided to go out with this other guy that have been pestering her for a long time.

Barely two weeks into the new relationship, she found out that her new boyfriend has another serious relationship with another lady. Funny enough, she is already falling for him and she is hurting real bad now.

I dunno what to tell her because if i ask her to stay, she will be smarting from the realization and if i ask her to walk away she will stil be hurt because she already loves him



members of the nairaland romance section. Pls help me out. Whats your advice

I will be sincere with you, your friend who for whatever reasons known to her broke up with the guy who loves her sand was in a serious relationship with her because another nigga was sweet tonguing her to give him a chance in her occupied heart made a very nasty mistake. Before leaving her other relationship ( ie if she should have left in the first place) she would have carried out an investigation so as to know the present relationship status of the other nigga that was pestering her. I am sure that is she did that, she would have found out that the nigga was only trying to get a tad the of her. Talking about love for the nigga that deceived her, is she trying to say that she never loved her other guy she was in a relationship with, because love does not just fine and resurrect. If she loved her other guy then whatever she must be feeling for this nigga should be lust and not love. I sincerely advice her to forget about that nigga and either make up with her other love or face her life alone. Simpe

Wale112:
my fiancée and i are supposed to get married by December, yesterday she was at her parents' place and we were chatting on bbm. She told me her mum was 'greeting' me o...i responded and told her to snap her mother's boobs and send to me. She put angry smiley and asked me what i needed it for, i told her i wanted to see how her own boobs will look when she gets to her mother's age after we've had kids.....she deleted me immediately..i've been calling her no response, i cannot lose my future wife this way, please advice me.

If I say you don't have sense now you will say I am insulting you, how can you tell a girl who is interested in marrying you go snap her mother boobs and show you so that you can see how hers will be when she gets to her mother's age. You are the cause of your problem and I do not blame her for making such a decision. Do you know if the mother was with her when you sent that useless message to her? In fact whatever she decides to do to you, she is very right and you deserve it.

uchdollar111:
Thanks bro, but I'm not a person who will get a job just to take care of a girl, I'm not a maga bro, I use my head.

Good to know that. You are now left with the second option.