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I understand what your friend is passing through. The fact that he slapped her was indeed an accident as I know it was not intentional, she pushed him too far with her temperament. I like that he always tried to avoid her, and on that day he slapped her accidentally he would have continue the avoidance by walking out on her and heading somewhere to cool off. I want you to advice him not to poison himself over this as it is not a reason enough to take his own life. He should ask himself that if he should go ahead to poison himself, what happens to the girl in question? She will move on with her life forgetting everything about him and by then it is already late. He should continue apologising to her and let her know that it was a mistake.

Mznaett:
This is a very serious matter

In as much as I know the truth believe me I won't blame the girls/ladies for this act at all

Reasons being that these girls could be in need of something now..ok lets look at it from this perspective: As a student from a humble background,she needs a certain amount to solve her problem and since her parents are not bouyant she decides to meet a guy and now he agrees to bail her out on a condition..and yes he would'nt want to use any kind of protection with her and on the long run she becomes pregnant.

Now,considering where she comes from do you expect her to keep it? Especially if d dude does'nt want it?

What you are saying is like giving fellow girls like you encouragement to get pregnant all in the name of problem solving. Even if unfortunately she gets pregnant and inform the owner of the child of it and he rejects it, that does not mean that you should kill the child. Supposing if she did not get pregnant but instead contracted a deadly STD what happens then. So please stop the encouragement and advice fellow girls to be more careful and not to kill their future children nothing their young age.

naughtynaughty:
k. Meaning if ur present gf is pregnant,pls don't even suggest abortion for her o

My present girlfriend is just like me and is totally against abortions. We are very careful when playing our game. So the issue of abortion will never surface in our relationship.

naughtynaughty:
Wow..tnkGod u said 90percent not 100percent. Am 22 and ave neva been pregnant. And den if I shuld eva get pregnant b4 25 aw abort! Yes I said it. Plus pls don't blame those ladies, they didn't impregnate demselves. Plus y bring a child into dis world to suffer when u cannot even cater for him or takia of him. Its advisable to abort wen dey r not yet formed asin btwn d first few months

I want you to know that many women are crying and moving around because they cannot give birth to children. Some of them may have said what you said and are now reaping the fruit if their labour. The girls that are killing their children through abortions did not consider if they can be able to take care of the child before opening their legs for their love to penetrate. Anybody involved in abortion should be treated as murderers. Please do not kill your children and yourself through abortions.

I can pass the night with her on the same bed for more than one week without demanding sex from her. There is nothing to it. That does not mean that if she gives sex me without demanding that I will reject, no I will not.

My brother I am sorry for the slap which she dash you free of charge, despite been very funny. You met her in a very bad mood in which she is facing a very serious pain in her lower abdomen. The fact that she apologized to you should let you know that she is sorry and it will not happen again. I advice that you avoid arguing with her during that period so as not to receive another free gift

Bros i believe it is better you buy her a country or a continent. If you can do that she will be yours forever.

I will like to say that I am very disappointed for allowing yourself undergo 7 abortions. Even as it is not my business I hope you know that you have killed 7 of your children. Do you know how many children you were meant to have, I am sure you do not know but out of all of them you have wasted 7. Well back to your question, I believe for your own good and for the good of the young man who is planning to marry you, it is better you tell him everything about your past deeds without hiding anything from him. It is now left to him to decide your future with him. If I was in his shoe to be sincere I will not make the mistake of marrying you because I don't know if you can still conceive. If you decide to hide it remember that there is nothing hidden under the sun, as one day he will definitely find out and i wonder how his reaction will be.

Mr OP it seems you have decided to let the girl that is genuinely in live with you go because the girl that broke your heart is back. The choice is yours and also the ball is in your court. It is you that it wearing the shoe and it is only you that knows where the shoe is biting you. I advice you listen to the voice of reasoning and don't make a mistake you will regret later.

affigurl5:
I really thank you all for your warm advise. really appreciate. ive accepted my faith and choose to let go; but the tears wouldn't stop running. He in turn wouldn't want to let go, it keeps making me feel that God has a reason for bringing us together..

Please my sister since you have decided to let go do not allow anything to make you change your decision. God brought you together so that you will feel love but not to get married as it is very risky.

I want to assure you one thing, your babe will arrive the day you insert your dick into that girl at the time you are enjoying the ordeal she will walk through that door and see for herself the type of boyfriend you are.

Amen, Selah and Let it be so.

My Sister your story is a painful one. I will advice you not to continue with the marriage as it is very risky. According to genetics if you have 4 children the last one will be an SS patient. Please do not continue with the marriage. Don't risk your life and happiness as it us not worth it.

It is a new invention which babes use to deceive guys who love boobs. It is highly unfair, why not remain natural the way you are, I am sure someone will love you the way you are. What will you gain when the pretence is exposed, How do you think he will see you? Ask yourself that question.

The fact that you made a mistake earlier which led to your brake up may make her feel insecure around you. Since she is a career minded person and you are ready for marriage I advice you talk to her concerning your intention and from there you will know what to do.

The boy is good to put down and flog 120 strokes. He is to be blamed for falling for her trick. He should go and answer the summon and tell them that he proved his fertility which their daughter was in doubt about. After which they will clap for him.

Your course mate that refused to listen to advice after making a fool of himself all in the name of love should should either become a man he is and endure the result he was bound to get someday from that girl, or continue with His current life of drinking and waste his life. The girl in question will be laughing at him but I want her to know that Karma is a very angry bitch and when it comes, she should not complain.

My brother the Bible does not support abortion, the passage of the Bible you referenced is talking about a curse that is put upon women or ladies that defile themselves through sex with a man that is not their husband. God is not an author of confusion. Also the same God that gave Moses the commandments is the same God today and will remain the same forever. God does not change like man.

First and foremost I have a question for you. Did you meet the girl before the other guy or otherwise. If you met the girl before him then it is clear that she is cheating on you. But if on the other hand he met her first them she is cheating pn the guy. Another issue is that of love, the girl has to decide who she loves most if you or him. I believe that from her decision, you will know what that do.

Excuse me sir, congrats on been a daddy in advance. Many women are crying and moving around because they cannot get pregnant not to talk of giving birth. Some men have spent their hard earned cash looking for means of becoming daddies. You are here talking of your girlfriend who you impregnated and is insisting on keeping the child. I love that your girlfriend I must confess for having such in mind despite being the person carrying the load. As for you I don't know what to tell you. You believe she is not able to give birth and take care of the child at her age, when girls her age her are already married with more than 2 children. Just allow her give birth to your child, simple.

A woman or a lady that is mature both in attitude and in thinking, not necessarily mature in body alone is a very important or is a very important asset to the family she is from and the community at large.

Personally since the Monarch of the state has dethroned the eze ndi igbo and has also stopped the traders from opening their shop I believe the best thing to do is leave the state and move to another state wheruthey will be more accepted. That is my own opinion.

Ifunanya my sister I understand what you are passing through. I want you to know that the solution to your issue is that you need to put a stop to any relationship you are involved in and decide what you want for yourself, try to give yourself a very long break from any relationship and work on yourself. As for the current guy you are dating I don't see the possibility of your parents accepting him. So just bear that in mind concerning your current relationship.

This is the problem with most young men of nowadays. When you were planting the crop you did not consider your situation. Now by the grace of Gos the produce has started growing and you are now considering your present condition. Put yourself in the place of the girl, or see her as your younger sister. How will you feel if she got pregnant and the father of the child is telling her to abort the child. I advice the girl to carry that child and give birth to your child for you. You want her to commit murder and risk her life. You are a disgrace to men as you cannot stand up to your responsibility as a father.

hebenezher:
she told me she's coming to my school to meet me

It would have been better if you were the one visiting her not the other way round, but since she decided to visit you then prepare your mind to open up your self to her and tell her what i told you.

hebenezher:
she told me she's coming to my school to meet me

When she comes to your school to meet you then prepare your mind to open up your heart to her telling her what i told you earlier. I would have loved it if you were the one visiting her school. The idea of her coming does not sound well to me, after all it was you that caused the problem so you should be the one visiting her.

I understand what you are saying but I want you to know that you are the architect of your own failure and present problem. Right from the start when you approached her and she told you that she has a boyfriend at home but considered taking you in, you did not make your intention known to her. Other guys who were interested in her tried their best to see if they can succeed but could not. They came to you to find out exactly what you had in mind for this girl but you stupidly fed them the wrong information giving excuse with anger. You did not consider what those guys had in mind before coming to see you. You gave them very good reasons to see that you do not want her anymore. I will advice you go to her house and sit down with her letting her know what you have in mind for her and exactly what you want from her.

Excuse me sir but this your story is too long. I understand what you are passing through. Your girlfriend is not being sincere with you. She is attached to you only because you have little money. I will like you not to make the same member mistake your father made that led to his untimely death. That girl is not your wife and if you go ahead to marry her then you are following your father's foot step. Your father married a woman that is not his missing rib and instead of the bone to match where it came out from it got bigger than the rib cage. Please stop spending your hard earned cash on her, even if you must give her, them give her small.

I believe that there is no need to be afraid of anything. She made a promise to God and is standing by it. I know that God will intervene when the time comes. She should be strong and continue looking up to God.