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NaijaDonCast:
Light skin ladies do likely possess toxicity and bitterness in them

The way Nigerians are against light-skinned people is beginning to look like inverted racism.

mariahAngel:
I have a father and 3 brothers (very handsome and very caring by the way), who were born and raised in Nigeria, and there’s absolutely nothing toxic about them. (Aside uncles and cousins o)
Please stop generalizing and spreading falsehood.
It matters to people like me who care about people in their lives, both male and female.
Those men would do anything for me, my mother and sisters in a heartbeat!

The way I wonder about most men who spread hate and total falsehood about women on this platform, if they have women in their (real) lives, is the same way I wonder about the women who do the same.
The hate is sickening to read! My God!

Do you not have any male relative who was born and raised in Nigeria?
If you do, are there no noble one (not even a single one) among them?
If there’s at least one, consider that one before you term all as toxic!

"...his mind will be far from their usual toxicity."

I don't have any male relative brought up in Nigeria, right from birth, so I know why they aren't toxic. And it's not hate, it's observations. Or are you going to claim you haven't noticed these things in Nigerian men? Let's call a spade a spade, and not try to make excuses or exonerate them.

You see, Nigerian bred men are toxic. Not to talk of the constant "hate" they spill freely online. Maybe you've not noticed that yet. The only one I thought was noble was later exposed as a sexual deviant, prompting me to speak out against such things.

I am for all men —don't get me wrong— but the Nigerian bred ones are another type. I never knew that men could be so petty, egotistic, hateful, selfish, loveless and wicked until I came across them. Nigerian men who are bred abroad have different mindsets to the ones found in Nigeria, or the ones who migrated later in life.

Hopefully they will change their ways.

The truth about the man is coming out.

In any marriage that scatters, first scrutinize the man. He is usually behind the scattering.

AmazonTopaz:
True,what annoys me is when people try to put feminism on the same pedestal with that silly movement for frustrated small boys.

Feminism is justified in so many way so what exactly justifies red pillism(if there is a word like that )


Feminism should never be compared to red pillism (I say it again) feminism has had a lot of success and it is a just cause what has red pillism done other than make frustrated ugly small boys more useless and troubled one of their member always quotes me whenever he sees my comment and the boy is a troubled school dropout see the kind of people red pillism attracts(not looking down on anyone but I will drag him for dragging me)

Lol. That Final paragraph.

Blueelf:
Oga, King James is an English translation of the original text

The devil isn't male. He is a Spirit being and can take any physical form he desires by possessing people

I am not for people demonizing women (I have a mother and a younger sister). I am just pointing out your errors

If you aren't demonizing women, why say that women are the favorite tool of the devil? So all men will go to heaven since they aren't tools for the devil? Yet everyday we read about unending evil perpetrated by men, to prove that that sentiment is simply sexist drivel.

You people really need to take responsibility for your actions.

And yes, the devil remains a male. As most wicked characters in the Bible are.

Bye Felicia.

Oxygenmayo:
[/b]Marriage has been perverted by the devil in so many ways you can't imagine and his most effective/favorite tool or weapon whether you believe or not has ALWAYS been [b]WOMEN.[b][/b]


Let's always strike to balance our school of thought. Women are not only the culprit for a bad marriage, there are weak men too who make marriage hell for their spouse.

Don't be scared about marriage. Always ask God to show you mercy in this aspect. It takes His mercy to have a good spouse and great in-laws.

Don't mind him. It is much easier to blame women his shortcomings. All the finger pointing is why most men are intolerable in marriages and the reasons why marriages fall apart: bad men who blame women.

Blueelf:
So you were his midwife the day he was born abi?

Oga, the devil (like all demons) are spirit beings and do not have a gender.

Dont be silly and ignorant at the same time

The devil, according to the Bible, is a male. So all the demonizing of women is stupidity at its worst.

If men can't handle themselves, what next can they do except blaming women? It would be too hard for men to take responsibility for their own actions. Thank god there are women for that.

Work on yourselves, so that your male mentor the devil will stop using men to perpetrate terrible evils.

Hathor5:
Very dysfunctional creatures. Instead of asking questions such as 'How can I get along better with my significant other?', they will ask 'How do I control my wife?'. Instead of working on their communication skills and create an environment of appreciation that builds on everyone's individual strength, they will want to run their homes like a DICK-tator without brains. Instead of supporting their partners to be the best they can be, they will have sleepless nights if their wives have some success.

Meanwhile, other men and women are working and manufacturing vaccines against Covid, improving their universal healthcare system, equipping their schools with iPads and these ones will have swollen balls on top of women matter. Hopeless creatures.

Lol! That last paragraph.

Nelson21:
The kind of comments I read these days makes me wonder if I am living among the walking dead.

Anyway...




With everything we see going on in our society today, it's okay to be scared and No, you are not alone in that feeling nor are you the first to feel that way.

I know you're going to say "oh, here we go again, another church freak coming with his sermon" but the truth is to advise you properly, I need to use the Bible.

Marriage is not easy in fact it is a burden to the point that paul encouraged singleness.

1 Corinthians 7:28 : But if you do marry, you have not sinned, and if a betrothed woman marries, she has not sinned. Yet those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that.


The divorce you see occuring in many marriages of today started way back in time including the era of moses.

Matthew 19:8-11 : Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery." The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry." Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given.

Did you read the statement the disciples made? It is better not to what? MARRY!

Marriage has been perverted by the devil in so many ways you can't imagine and his most effective/favorite tool or weapon whether you believe or not has ALWAYS been WOMEN.

Remember, there is nothing new under the sun. To bring the downfall of man, the devil used the woman.

So, my dear brother, you have every reason to be scared because the possibility of marrying someone who will make your life miserable is very high.

My advice to you is this. If you do decide to get married, it should be because you want to have children who will take over your wealth and properties, so your efforts in life wont be in vain, not because you want a companion who will "love you and be with you for better or worse." No woman (most especially these modern day, social media addicted, morally and spiritually bankrupt women possessed with the evil spirit of deceit and feminism) will give you that.

Demonizing women as usual.

Don't you know the devil is male?

Tell us why males aren't his favorite plaything.

Hathor5:
If you go to the red pill thread in the Romance section, you will quickly notice that like their white counterparts most of them turned to the movement because they had little to no success with ladies. In other words, it's the Losers United Movement. And that's why they are looking for other ways to deal with women. The funny part is that girls read and hear about red pill too and so their manipulation tactics have already been 'demystified'. I pity them sometimes.

Lol. LUM.

AmazonTopaz:
The funny thing is that the so called SIMP's are actually the happiest with their women.

Nigerian men some of them though,are actually spoilt entitled brats who feel women came into this world alone to live and please them they are so toxic and good at calling women names they were badly raised by their parents a lot of them don't know how to talk to women and treat them right.
Like Bratislava said redpill was created by white men for white women but you see Nigerian men especially the ones on nairaland parade themselves as redpillers in the same Nigeria that everything favours their gender more,if this isn't a health condition I don't know what is.

I have advised young ladies in this country if you can avoid Nigerian men avoid them a lot of them are not exposed and willing to learn they are so proud in their ignorance and the most painful thing is that they will not try this silly attitude with foreign women.

You're right about the men they call simps. These men are the only ones who are truly happy and successful in relationships.

Most of the men calling women names are still licking old wounds and bitter. They need to heal. They also need to get over themselves. Same men that hate women so much will rejoice when their partner gives birth to a daughter. Funny, huh?

Pity the red pill ones most. One man's doctrine is running their lives for them in their hamlets. A lot of them lose out on good women, because they're brainwashed. With all the patriarchy they've still managed to make themselves the victims. It is a health condition

If you must be with a Nigerian man, be with one who didn't grow up in Nigeria, so that his mind will be far from their usual toxicity.

cococandy:
Maybe not very few but the ones who don’t want their wives to progress are usually the loudest because they want to poison the minds of others who do support their wives in that way.

They keep repeating lies about how successful women are bla bla bla meanwhile many homes rely on their women’s successes and the heavens haven’t fallen yet. Instead these women end up taking on more and more responsibilities just so that they won’t be judged for being proud and what not.

Damned if you. Damned if you don’t.
Isn’t it exhausting?

Most men don't want their wives to progress. The ones who can voice it will, while the rest will quietly watch though they feel the same way.

I've seen it too many times, some are people who I know, to call it a minority of men or coincidence. If a woman is better than her husband, a lot of the time the marriage will breakdown unless she decides to hang on( as a matyr) to keep up appearances or pray for him to change (even successful women do this, not knowing that a lost man is a lost man by choice).

Male ego manifests itself in terrible ways.

Hathor5:
I think this sums it up pretty well.

But the underlying insecurity is something else. I have never come across any other nationality of men so insecure in their masculinity.
This is why you will read things like 'she is too proud', 'she is not submissive', 'he is not an alpha if he does not control his wife', 'this one is a simp if he pampers his'. They have very serious issues and I see many dysfunctional families in the future.

Bless you for this. They are second only to Asians.

Nigerian men are some of the worst men. I never met other black men with these toxic traits. Men who are scared to be free because they will lose their dix if they do.

Dysfunction is the new norm, Amazon. And you know the funny thing? When it happens they will begin to blame women for it —as usual. They will probably begin a new toxic male cult where they will pass the buck to women.

cococandy:
Notice how only a few people were sympathetic to her. Our culture is hostile to successful women. We tell women not to be dependent, not to be a burden. To stop having victim mentality and take their lives into their own hands. When they do and are successful, we don’t miss any chance to take her down a notch. Remind her that her success means nothing unless she’s actively using it to glorify her man.

O God forbid she doesn’t have a man and dares to be successful.

No sympathy for her. When a Nigerian woman becomes a widow, she will be blamed for killing him even if they've been separated across nations for 18 years.

I don't think Nigeria wants successful women. They say it but they don't want it. Once success comes in, they begin to claim she's neglecting her "gender roles" and that she is masculine. If they knew that, why did they want independent women?

As you say, worse if she's successful and single. It automatically means she used her superior organ to get it.

There's no winning with them. But women should still continue to do their thing, no matter what. It's better than being at the mercy of any man.

PedroEastman:
I believe the Father did what every father would do, because he wouldn’t have believed that he’s little princess is a she devil �.

Just like me, if you tell my father I’m a hardcore smoker he will definitely fight you because I’m a good boy at home

Lol.

cococandy:
Very terrible

If you know the extent men can go to to ground their wives success so that they remain the alpha and omega on their lives, you will know that they have deep issues.

Very few men are genuinely pleased if their wife is flying high and better than them. Very few.

Hathor5:
Who did this to them?

The patriarchy and an environment they created solely for their benefit. They know that if they say those things, people will begin to question the wife, whether or not the claims are true. They are counting on it.

Most men with successful wives feel vengeful.

The late Mr. Usifo Ataga is a good example of what a man does when his wife is successful and he prefers to be pampered, and keeps his vengeance on a low.

Klass99:
It must be the redpill they claim to have taken, which only causes the sort of confusion and insecurities AmazonTopaz, Choccolate and Bratislava have aptly described.

Ladies, I love your energy and intelligence when it comes to dissecting some of these clowns and exposing their folly, e dey bust my head die.

Thank you.

I decided to stop ignoring posts that spread ignorance and bring suffering to women needlessly, except that men decided it out of selfishness, delusions and cruelty.

PrideofLincoln1:
I have a friend here in Chicago and he bleaches and you can't believe how much he sweats and smells funky in the summer. I don't even want to hang around him in the Summer because of his sweats and the funky smells that comes out of his body because of all that stupid creams he rubs on his body. So taky and yucky.

Are you sure you're really friends?

FutureIsFemale:
For men to make it in life now, they need to dress and act like women.

The FUTURE is FEMALE

Lol

kenzysmith:
am not bleaching o but who gave u the power to chose who u liked? Who like u too. Am natural fair but that ur last line get me piss ote

Don't you know that you're not allowed to be naturally fair in Nigeria? They will accuse you of bleaching.

Nowadays there are too many fair people in Nigeria, some of them are bleaching, but they will turn it on people born that way while they generalize.

BirtherOfKings:
Some , it's their parents or girlfriend that cause it..buy them gifts of creme, as they use it..the skin begin to change and before I know it, they like it and it's too late to stop now

Lol.

AmazonTopaz:
Dear women in all you do avoid some certain kind of men especially the kind of Nigerian men we see on nairaland for your sanity run from them.

A lot of them can never stomach a successful woman.

Most of them who say they want a productive woman are yet to meet such a powerful force. Most of them can't stomach it.

Especially if she's better than them.

They usually say those things because they expect to be better than her.

Give them a moving woman and they will begin to look for ways to tie her down with ,"she's proud", "she's not submissive," "she left the children in the care of the nanny, she's not caring for my children", "she doesn't cook for me", "call your daughter to order," "I made her", "she's emasculating me", "that big deal you had, I know you slept with that man!"

There was a case where the man burned down his wife's thriving business because he was jealous of her booming success. Then he pretended to console her about it, because she didn't know he was behind the fire. All that to reduce her and make her dependent on him and worship him.

Terrible things are going on in Nigeria.

Skyview01:
I am in agreement with you. I think we African men are obsessed with sex. We will try our best to change.

@bolded: the tiger will sooner lose its stripes.

African men. Nigerian men are a subset of them.

StUriah:
She is really cooperating with sexual demands from all security agencies handling her case. Her toto is now free for all those who can offer her protection.

As the prison warder, you know this?

Riverville:
Pls give this ladies equality... If na man dem go chain am with thick chain.

False outrage. Quite funny too.

Your port Harcourt serial killer, where was the thick chain? Wasn't he even running his mouth in brand new t-shirts everyday despite CCTV evidence? Didn't the men in charge lighten his sentence and probably release him?

Uduak umuorens murderer, where was his thick chain? Your "murder squad" t-shirt wearing killer was looking robust. If you're crying for equality, why was he not subject to what chidinma is passing through?

The ones paraded for killing their wives, where were their thick chains? Isn't it for them to look into the camera like camels?

Even Evans the kidnapper, where were the thick chains used on him?

You guys can create nonsensical posts to try and demonize women who commit crimes, yet turn a blind eye to men who do the same and worse on a daily basis.

If you want equality, demonize those men first.

Meanwhile we wait for the truth and the law to take its course.

DrTee1:
If more married women read this and work hard at it, many marriages would survive better.

The soul of any marriage is usually about a full stomach and an empty scrotum. An unhappy man wouldn't discharge his scrotal content at home - and all men need to do that regularly.

It is what leads to the Chidinma Ojukwus of this world, you know.

Men have their own problems, but it can be easily avoided by marrying good men for character rather than money. Women own the marriage - and the home.

One of the most misleading posts on the forum.

Skyview01:
I was only joking don't take me serious.
Of course I think about sex as a married man. I like to enjoy good quality sex. For me, everything is not all about sex though.
I can still hold normal conversation with you without thinking of sex I promise.
It's a perfect way to unwind and relax and unwind. Sex is natural and if I might ask, what do you have against it?

What you're describing is different. If you think about sex with your wife, that's different from what you get here on naira land.

There's a problem when men read a news topic and think " she's not missing, she's having sex somewhere". Why not think more on what it means to be missing rather than concluding it's about sex?

Or girl was raped, woman reports it and all the men think, "the woman is just bitter he's no more having sex with her, she's pained". Why not focus on the case rather than thinking it's about some imaginary sex?

Or the males who read a comment, that these comments on this thread are needlessly bashing females(sounds like mostly lies) and the only thing that comes to their mind is, "you need to have some sex etc". Why not read the comment, why most it be linked to sex? What does it have to do with having sex?

There's a time and place to express such primitive sex thoughts, and it's not all the time on everything.

Unfortunately, it seems males on the forum can only sexualize every bit of information they see.

pafo:
I believe you are using a smartphone yeah? A few searches about when it was permissible for Israelites to wed would do you no harm.

This is something that happened over 2,100 years ago. We don't need hypotheses or conjecture. Just give us their birth certificates.

lonelydora:
14 years ke? Let me even wait and see if any Northerner will commend this child marriage

I still can't figure out what is wrong with Africans. Why did they church shrine instead of a hospital?

That was how a vehicle knocked down a pregnant woman in PH, and we all rushed to help her get to the hospital. She said we should take her to her pastor in the church if we want to help her, or leave her alone.

Omo, that was the day I knew religion in those part of the world has eaten deep into people.

Maybe he's the one responsible for the pregnancy. Or she wanted her last rites badly.

Unbelievable that any person knocked by a car would say that.

pafo:
The world has become saner now politics took the power away from religion. Just check the ages of most women in the bible when their husbands married them. Mary, Esther etc.

A girl that bleeds is regarded as a woman and that's what that religion that refuses to be westernized still practices till date.

Kindly share pics of their birth certificates, so that we can understand what you're saying.

Forbes2030:
This is serious.
Church is not a hospital.

Any Church with a maternity home should get medical approval or be sanctioned

Is that all you have to say about a 14 year old girl being married and having a child at that age? Did you see the UNs commentary on that? Is this about hospitals that we know exist in Zimbabwe which they would've taken her to if her pregnancy were legal, or the foolishness of the man who impregnated a 13 year old and the parents who supported it?

You people love diversions.