₦airaland Forum

PrinceInTheNort:
Forcing a minority’s opinion is now somehow freedom of speech. Idrissa Gueye basically said I’m not against you but I’m not with you.

That’s not good enough; according to the “free world”

We stand with you, brother Idrissa Gueye

That is the irony with these people

Very brave of him.

Vyolet:
Aye gba tapa, ofe ko’le igunu…
I don’t trust any politician though, at the sound of “we will give you massive vote”, Sanwolu’s head will begin to calculate..

True.

No remorse for what happened, no plan to address the issue;

Just unban us so that we will vote you.

Can the country just divide into the North & South already?

No other region has the guts and audacity these people have.

itsweet:
What will be your reaction if your newly wedded husband ask you to resign from your 80k job and become a full time house wife?

Not enough context.

First question is why?

cardoctor:
Angry women.

Don't they have the right to be angry?

You can only accuse them of misdirected anger.

They should fight their husbands instead.

Badgers14:
Playing to the gallery.


Your husband promised to love you for better for worse,not the oloshos.

If the love is broken, face your husband that made you the promise at the altar and in front of your kinsmen.

100%

Mindlog:
Do their husbands really want to go the full length of going to these young women' families to officially marry them and have more children with them or they just prefer having them only as sexual partners and go back home to their wives and children?

The is huge difference between wanting to marry more wives with the accompanying children and having sexual partners outside of one's marriage without commitment

Exactly!

Mindlog:
Are their husbands who are the spiritual leaders of their homes, handbags that can be snatched?

Hollandia Evap.

Mariangeles:
That is just undiluted wickedness!

The thunder that would fire them is doing press up.

They don't know what wives are doing yet revere their moms because she 'toiled and sacrificed' in the marriage.

Acidosis:
Lol. Very strange.

I believe most of them know the truth but they hate to admit this truth, openly.


I don't think any sane person would conclude that women benefit more in the typical Nigerian marriage setting. Same marriages we see everyday? The way I dey pity some married women ehn, but it's quite understandable why many women would want a marriage anyway.

Women sacrifice time, put their health and lives on the line, go for the lowest and most pitiable jobs just to create time for, more often than not, an unappreciative guy. Many will have to cook for the rest of their lives and no they won't get paid for it. There's so much more. A woman with 3 kids, for example, has practically sacrificed at least 8 years of her life on pregnancy, breastfeeding, nurturing (while also making money o), and throughout these years, the man does nothing but contribute money.

A man will drop 50k for the month and thinks he has done the woman a favour... Ahahaha! The easiest thing to contribute to a marriage is money.

Money is the easiest thing to contribute in a marriage.

Especially when the man earns enough to live as worst an average life.

I know someone who the husband legit only drops money.

She does EVERYTHING herself.

Thunder should fire the mouth of an average Nigerian husband the moment he asks 'what is she doing'?

No fear of God!

Belafonte:
For the sake of the respect I've held for you (which doesn't really carry much weight asides the sentimental value I derive from it), I'm going to hold back on my response.

1. In one breath, you say redpillers value mother over wife, and in the same you say the black man is the epitome (perhaps catalyst) of dysfunctional marriages. You condemn redpillers generalisations while ironically dropping your own generalisations unabashedly :

Still love you though (super platonically of course)

1. I read the sentence again and I apologize as it was not my intention to claim that all black men frustrate their wives. A better way to convey my message is this: An average black/Nigerian/African man does not have the 'moral standing' to say 'what does women bring in marriage'? He doesn't. I have been opportuned to observe firsthand the marital beliefs/roles of different cultures in Nigeria and women do more in ALL of them.

Especially in cultures like Yoruba where stay at home moms are devalued.

It is only online you hear Nigerian men ask what women bring to the mystical table; only online.

Men offline admit that women do more however fall into different buckets of appreciating, not appreciating, feeling entitled etc.

When you know a husband who earns, does childcare, domestics, social engagement, in-law engagement, religious engagement, school run, medical care etc ALONE while married to fit wife, we will discuss.

Several women do the above while still earning & a man online opens his mouth to ask 'what is a woman doing'?

Belafonte:
Like I said, mother and wife relationships are vastly different. But I'm sure you know this, you're married after all

1. BTW, statistically, the moment a woman has children, her husband is already abandoned while she focuses on her kids.

2. The numerous married men in Nigeria will tell you this.

3. The reason most of these women stay oin their marriages is for economic sustenace.

1 & 2. If the husband is a serious fellow and ready to be a husband and leader of his home, then he would speak up about the anomaly. After speaking up, he will address the issue fairly, sensibly & efficiently (RCCG peeps go code the last sentence ). Does the wife need help? Has she forgotten she is a wife before mother? Is it lack of prioritization? Is the father the absent one in the equation? Etc etc.

3. Not true. Many wives are the breadwinners and still taking shit in their marriages largely because they believe 'that's how it is'.

Belafonte:
BTW, don't we have like 12 mother's day cessation annually?

It is what it is

Then men do not have the moral right to talk about loyalty.

GloriousGbola:
In David Attenborough voice:

This is the redpiller

In his childhood the redpiller's father abandoned the family

The family was abandoned for the fleeting pleasures of the side chick

The redpillers mother had to raise the redpiller alone

This has led to internal conflict in the redpillers regard of the female. The redpiller constantly oscillates between women are cruel evil father snatchers and women are saints who sacrifice all for the famiy

This is the burden the redpiller must carry

We must also ask the question - can the redpiller break the chain and end the cycle?

Or will he also be weak like his father before him and abandon his future family for a future side chick?

Only time can tell.

Well captured.

pocohantas:
Some day I would get to understand them.

That day might never come.

Belafonte:
The relationship a man has with his mother is vastly different from that which he has with his wife. A wife is way more likely to abandon a man than his mother. And considering men value loyalty.....

Same woman his father thought was useless while his mother is gold

Statistically, men abandon their wives than wives abandon their husbands.

JONNYSPUTE:
..... Op.That marriage didn't favour you does not mean it won't favour another man.

I ve been married for years with kids and I'm not regretting it.

Belafonte:
Wrt to the bolded, not the only thing women bring, but perhaps, some of the most valuable things a woman brings to the marriage table.

Maybe, if your gender this, we could find a way forward

If someone's parents had a proper, healthy, loving marriage, he/she would know the valuable things both sexes bring to the table.

Secondly, the OP is western. It makes no sense that a black man who is the definition of frustration to his wife & family would try to even align.

I am sure that if Osinachi's death wasn't public, her husband would read the OP and nod in concurrence.

GloriousGbola:
stop this na. way before the redpill wankers, there were men and women on NL.

we used to have our gender wars, what do you bring to the table etc - but we all knew where it would end las las

we too like toto. y'all too like preek

redpillars are just some sex starved urchins following mgbtow fellas making money of youtube revenue

The quote is absolutely on point

pocohantas:
You don’t need to love her.

Stop the momma worship.

The same peeps who believe their mother 'ranks' higher than their wives?

Momma worship seems to be a staple of redpill

Acidosis:
Am I the only man with a different and totally opposing view? Women are the main burden bearers in marriages. When I see some married women, I feel nothing but pity for them. More often than not, I think "these" women will do a lot more for themselves if they weren't married or if they could learn to know their worth.

If you read the OP, you would think all women do in marriages is have sex and get pregnant.

Maybe that's what their mothers did.

Because I don't know how someone grew in/saw a functional and loving home and still say women/men do nothing/contribute in marriages.

YoudeyVexme:
yes I do

If you do, then this thread would not exist.

YoudeyVexme:
jesus christ came not to destroy the law but to add to it

He came to fulfill the law.

Do you understand the statement above?

Mariangeles:
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First of all, I put it to you that YOU'RE NOT A CHRISTIAN!
If you were, you'd know that that is under the Jewish law.

Is it only Northern Nigerian Muslims?

It is not about the law: it is the fact that they are blood thirsty people possessed by blood sucking demons!

If Christians and/or non-Muslims killed them at slightest provocation, they would sit up.

@Northern Nigeria: let this country just split and let them go their way.

Daddy wa, you are missing the point!

By the way, have you spoken about the murder of Deborah?

logiccal:
It's not stupid, you're just blinded by hatred.
You guys burn people to death for stealing phones and foodstuff, you beat to death suspected thieves without even confirming it... Yet you're here calling others barbaric ignoring what your people are doing everyday.

Iran matters are political. Read about it and you will find the truth.

Someone calling your "God" agege bread, it's your fault you let it slip. In fact you Christians make mockery of your "God" by yourselves... YOU TOLERATE TOO MUCH DISRESPECT, THAT'S YOUR PROBLEM. if it was the other way round (Bank MD disrespecting Islam)... I'm sure by the end of that week all northern Muslims would have closed their accounts with that bank.. But you people didn't.

I'll never let anyone be comfortable disrespecting me

I. You need to change your username; logic is far from you.

2. We serve an almighty God who is capable of fighting for Himself and for us. He doesn't need us to kill people who 'offend' Him.

3. In reference to point 2, our God is too big to feel slighted by human opinion. Whether you insult Him from now to next year, it does not put a dent on who He is.

4. We are the light of the World and the Salt of the earth. Even if you insult Jesus, we correct you in love and show you the way.

5. We do not have blood sucking demons in us neither does our God need constant blood sacrifice so why should we be killing people about?

mu2sa2:
You see, the word she used is unmistakably abusive, vulgar and unacceptable. Even to repeat it by another person may be considered inappropriate. There's no way you can try to explain it as harmless. I don't think there's an English equivalent for the word. That's the word Deborah used to insult Muhammad, prophet of Islam in an Islamic city , and to add salt to injury she provoked her targeted audience by boasting that nothing would happen because holy ghost fire would protect her. Is it correct for a supposed Christian to behave like this - did Jesus ever insult anybody ( like so-called Christians of today do even here on nl)?

Is it correct for a Muslim to kill anyone who 'insults' Mohammed?

Can you swear that no Muslim has insulted any prophet in the Bible before?

If no, have you ever heard that a Christian killed a Muslim for insulting a prophet?

haslaw:
She was a Christian extremist who could not tolerate her class mates of other religion.

We can see that the Muslims who killed her and burnt her are very very very tolerant.

Shebi Islam teaches you that when someone is intolerant of you, rather than show them your light to make them see the beauty in your religion, you show them the perpetual darkness that inhibits you by killing them.

It is that same darkness that gave others the audacity to protest the release of the killers by causing further mayhem.

You guys are lucky that Christians do not have the blood sucking demons in you that constantly propel you to shed innocent blood.

haslaw:
You are no different from that satanic girl called Deborah Samuel. You are just another Christian extremist who doesn't believe in live and let's live.

Learn to respect other people's faith. It is not a crime of everyone is not a Christian like you.

Are you joking or serious?

Deborah is a Satanist and Christian extremist because she said they should not post religious things on a WhatsApp group?

How would you now classify the people who killed her in cold blood & burnt her thereafter?

Chinsbz:
How can RIP, even your Neighbor insult your aged father how do you feel?

Let's assume she insulted your prophet (which she didn't from the transcripts flying around), you think she deserves such gruesome death?

If yes, why?

I want to understand your thought process.

haslaw:
Even though I condenm the killing of Deborah Samuel, there was nothing gentle about the Christian terrorist

'Not this nonsense religious posts' qualified late Deborah as a 'Christian terrorist'?

Wawu!

You guys are farrrrr gone.