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salbis:
In Nigeria of today, you can only find few of her kind. May God prosper you to an enviable height.

Only a few women working for their money or only a few women selling vegetables?

Elporo:
One woman is another thread complaining that her husband is now a "verified" alcoholic. He was normal until he married her.

I don't know why this cracked me up.

How does this tie to my thread bros?

ImaIma1:
Serious people don't ask that stupid question. They don't have to ask, because before they chose her, they already knew the space she was going to fill in their lives.

The alphas and redpillers will wriggle on this thread like worms that they poured salt on. They don't like this kind of truth.

I see some 'serious' people falling into the trap.

And some ladies reeling what they bring to the 'table'.

[quote author=Favfables1 post=113070956][/quote]Bros, as you responded in my post, how would I respond to you?

Karleb:
Men are actually the table when you think about it.

I will only change my mind when men starts going to Shiloh.

Eku tabili

mariahAngel:
Bukatyne, are you up for it?
Eyin saa le si tredi.

Bobloco:

No need to ask, it is evident to all.

ZIMDRILL:
you realiase that mostly its women who demand ot feel entiled to things that herself or her parent cant afford

she demands an iphone but her parents have never bought one for her and neither can she

i want a man with a car you dont have one either yo parents dont evn
own a bicyle

so cooking a looking the house is nolonger the standards of marriage but wanting a woman who brings something on the table

but nothing wrong if a man accept you bringing in nothing on the table

but a woman who shows thats she can manage to run thing through being breadwinner too is better partner to be with in marriage.

those who get offended by the question are those who want to be looked after while they manage what hubby brings in

before the whites came with urbanazation a woman's value was also seen how good she was in helping her family/parents be it in fields or at home meaning she must be able to do her part of bringing in something on the table

no man would want marry who os just able to cook and five children but cant plant aka having her own garden that she grows food for her family or gathering firewood etc

to understand this concept go to deep rural areas/village you see the division of labour where both hubby and wife bring on something on the table through both doing respective duties that bring in food on the table

Please can you look at value outside money?

As you saying if a woman is willing to give you all her salary in a month and she steals/lies, it is fine by you?

NoToPile:
Bukatyne and her threads.

Long time no see.

As for the topic I just hope the alfamales/redpillar people won't derail the thread.

Wetin I do?

UpInTheSky:
A man who

1. finds a woman of value and quality
2. is both seeking & offering genuine love

and most importantly,
3. brings something to the table himself

wouldn't ask such a question.

100%

DontBullshitMe:
Passing the burden.

GTFOH.

Which burden?

Is there anything burdensome in the OP?

faithfull18:
Lol, exactly oh. Shey you saw thousands of women and then he approached you as the one he chooses to do life with. He sha saw something.

Well, they know those who they ask that question and this talk is mostly online.

Exactly.

What did he see?

Favfables1:
OP....
1. I think you're mistaking "attraction" for "value"... That men are coming after a lady doesn't mean she has value, it just means she's merely attractive...

You said and I quote...

"So ladies, when next a man who used his two legs to propose/ask you out asks what you bring to the table, ask him what he saw in you that made him approach you....."

2. Whatever the man will list out here, will most likely be tied to looks, blimey .... And I can bet you the only reason why a lot of men will flock around a beautiful girl is most likely because they want to get in-between their legs, once that's that, you'll be shocked that, they won't even pick that girls call anymore...

3. See eh...
Men love to f.u.ck, they want to spread their seeds, and as long as they're getting what they want, they'll put up with ANY WOMAN, but when it's time to settle down, that's when the search for value comes underway...

4. It is precisely because the woman doesn't have value that will cause a man to leave her after 10years and go and marry a lady he met 6months ago ....

5. I can't speak for all men, but the men I know will only ask a girl that question when they've been with her for sometime and can't see any tangible change in their lives and in the process of wondering whether or not to kick her out, they'll ask themselves and the girl this question....

6. Her answer to this will help him decide whether to keep her for recreational use only or to take her seriously ....

1. I am talking value, why did he approach her?

2. I know that we push this narrative to make girls sit up but only a valueless man would tangle with a woman that doesn't bring value to him. A man who sleeps with a prostitute is one with her.

3. My number two applies. In addition, it is the man's duty to look for the value.

4. If a man was in a relationship with a valueless woman for ten years, it is an indictment in him. It tells me he lacks vision and foresight. It is said that birds of same feather flock together.

5. If the man can't observe himself, perhaps he is not mature to be a husband.

6. What answers would she give that would satisfy you? If you did not see the value in ten years, perhaps it is not there. A one day conversation wouldn't make you see it. It is also possible that she has value however, not for you.

TheWolfen:
The truth is that Christians can't find grounds in the new Bible testament to support such move.
Look at the life of the apostles and other Christ like followers in the book of Act of how they were prosecuted, jailed and killed. Their only hope was God and he save them.
The reason why Christians are not violent because Jesus never thought them so.

Christian Militia are two words that shouldn't be joined together.

Who is following 'Who Rules the World'?

Please who can recommend a series with same vibes?

Cc: Descarado

JeffreyJunior:
This is simple logic. If a man chykes a woman, he should first show her a table before asking what she is bringing to it.

Problem with awa burodas is that some of us don't even have a table but we dey ask ladies what they are bringing to it.

Ladies, if any man asks you that kwesion. Ask him to show you the table fess.

Hahahahahaha

He shouldn't even ask. He should know what she is bringing to his table because he has done his due diligence and decided she is a good/best fit for him before approaching her.

Mindlog:
Why do you and likes, in the first place approach ladies who have nothing meaningful and purposeful to offer?

Thanks for the question jare.

StrongAlphMale:
As expected.
A typical Nigerian girl. This is exactly how they think. What an Entitlement Mentality!
In conclusion, are you trying to tell us that apart from your over used pussy, a Nigerian girl has absolutely nothing meaningful and purposeful to offer a man in a relationship apart from sex?

Dear women,

It is good to have a business or a job before you start dating or talking about marriage. Become a woman without an income is more likely to say yes to a man she doesn't love, and spend the rest of her life existing instead of living. Go into marriage, not bondage.

Please do not assume I am like the women in your family.

Secondly, it is poverty mentality to only think money when resources or qualities are mentioned.

Mindlog:
Well captured.

Hahahahahaha @ well captured.

Maybe because I met my husband young and before the 'what do you bring to the table' madness, I find the question very irritating.

Happy weekend peeps

I got inspiration for this thread last week and just around to creating it.

The topic is a common question men ask women today and the and answers usually are:

'I am the table';
'I bring XYZ';
'How can you ask such a question';
'What do you bring to the table'.

The question itself is nonsensical for two reasons:

1. The table should be personal; he should only be concerned about his OWN table.

2. It shows he is not serious. He saw something in you that's why he approached you. He should be the one telling you what value he is bringing to your life which forms the basis for you to accept him.

Imagine Buka Company wants to collaborate with Tyne Company. Isn't it Buka Company who would prepare a befitting proposal and tell Tyne Company the benefits and advantages of the collaboration?

Buka Company would have also done due diligence that Tyne Company is one she wants to collaborate with.

So a man should do his due diligence of the woman he wants to approach (that she suits him) and tell her why collaborating with him on the journey of life is her best's choice.

Interestingly, musicians of old understood this that's why they talk about selling points e.g.

Joe - I wanna know
Mario - Let me love you etc.

So ladies, when next a man who used his two legs to propose/ask you out asks what you bring to the table, ask him what he saw in you that made him approach you.....

That is what you bring to his table!

Next ask him WHY you should collaborate with HIM in the journey of life.

P. S.: If na you chyke am, biko reel out what you saw in him aka bringing to the table.

@OP: great thread.

cayorday89:
For me I would like to know the characteristics of these traditional men and also the modern men, so I can decipher where I belong to if I am a mix of some of the two or just either of the two.. Money matter and strict upbringing don make some of us look unromantic which some see as traditional... Awaiting your response boss..

Melst:
Considering it took you a while to decide on the topic, I'd understand why I agree with everything you have written aside the topic itself. I personally feel "peace of mind" is a spec required for marriage and one of the most important spec at that. It baffles me when I see both men and women focusing on physical appearances when choosing a life partner. I'd go for a man that looks like a monkey if my happiness lies therein. .

I want a man whose love for me, and my love for him is unrivaled. If this is obtained, then cheating cannot even be in the equation. Because that cheating of a thing scares the hell outta me.

I want a man with a conscience. This eradicates a whole lot of heartaches in marriage.

I want a man full of life and with a vision. A man that takes charge. A man that knows he is a man and acts accordingly.

I want a man that loves kids and knows how to handle kids or is willing to learn. So I'll be rest assured that my children will not have daddy issues.

I want a man that loves sex and love to explore and still sees sex as sacred. All these stories of philandering men is as a result of the kind of societal values obtainable these days. People now see sex as an achievement, as a tender, as a reward, as punishment, name it. Most people have lost the true essence of sex as an act of love. Most people have not even experienced love in sex.

I could go on and on about my ideal specs. Yes, one can't find all specs in one man. You just have to apply opportunity cost and know which is non negotiable. For me, physical appearances is just a plus, definitely not the ultimate. I just pray we all get it right at the end of the day.

Beautiful write up once again.

@bold:

Beautiful.

Pelxmiye:
Not realistic

What's not realistic?

AfroKnight:
Your guy has attached his ego to the success or failure of this relationship. He simply cannot believe there is a girl in this world who would not want to be with him.

He has put himself on a pedestal and, deep down, he is ashamed to give up.

Don’t stop warning him but do it in a respectful manner so you don’t lose your friendship. It is a pity he has set himself up like this. The girl is not to blame anymore cos she has tried.

I just hope she’s safe cos your guy may turn out to be a psycho when he finally realises he has wasted his life chasing her.

Nice, fresh perspective.

kelvine:
Iru omo wo wa leleyi.
Mo de jiya lori awon omo yi o..


In my days, who are you to talk ill about your parents personal life to strangers let alone the press.

Signs of the woke times.

Or he fell on his head from his mother's back.

A kick well deserved.

angelfallz:
I'm sure you meant no 'true' Christian, because there are differences.

Ideally, a Christian is a follower of Christ.

'Born Again, genuine, true' etc. and other adjectives we use are just cruise.

One is either a Christian or not.

NOETHNICITY:
Okay, the question now is this. Christians constitute almost 90% of the footballers in Europe. Have you heard of any christian footballer that decides not to participate on grounds of principle. None. I repeat none. Muslims have to always be the ones at the risk of being perceived as extremist.

First, I disagree that 90% of footballers in Europe are Christians i.e. followers of Christ. A non-Muslim or non-Buddist doesn't translate to been a Christian.

Secondly, everyone has the freedom to support any cause; they also have the freedom not to support. The only thing is that everyone ensures they do not trample on the fundamental rights of others.

I believe Christians should learn to stand for what they believe in like this footballer.

He has done well.

NOETHNICITY:
Thanks for the bolded part. It's a new angle for us to tackle those trying to force that nonsense down our throats.

Also as for bold about christians standing their ground against LGBTQ, sorry to say, christians of today have already lost the battle against immorality.
Christians are the ones today advancing the course of LGBTQ.

@bold:

No Christian would advance the course of LGBTQ+

AFvckingAlpha:
Idrissa has been put in a dicey situation.

He’s got to show support for the LGBTQ, he needs to drop that African shitty mentality, this is 2022, we need to respect people’s sexual orientation.

He’s gonna bear the full the brunt, he’s got to educate homophobics but he is stalling and he’s only going to suffer cos he’s not playing.

I know people gonna come for me but I ain’t scared bring it on plus I’m fvcking straight infact I love pussy, I ain’t even getting enough pussy lately, we just need to respect people’s decisions, science validates homosexuality to a degree though!

Imagine the Idrissa has a teammate the came out like the Blackpool guy did, how you think he go’n feel. How’s Idrissa gonna fell if he’s discriminated cos of he’s skin color. It caught across both ways.

I said what I said nigga

Isn't respect reciprocal?

Isn't there is also freedom of association?

Can't they respect the young man's right not to support them?