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BoredBerry:
Just came back from the market... Went there with my landlord's son... This afternoon he saw me going out and asked where I was heading to... Told him... He asked if he could accompany me and I said yes! He was getting a few things too (a mop and buckets and so on...)

I've never spoken to him before... I thought he was an arrogant self-absorbed snub... Not my type... He's a few years older... I'm nineteen so he's between twenty one to twenty three... Very fair... Has curly hair which he dyed dirty blond but left the roots black... Pierced both ears... Dad is a police man... So it's insane he allows his son go out looking like a yahoo boy...

Anyways... He and I trekked a little... We barely spoke... I was extremely shy...

We stay in a very quiet predominantly hausa- fulani- yoruba muslim community... After some minutes we finally stopped a bike... He said we would ride together... I told him 'No'... I never tried that sh** with my exes and sure a as hell wouldn't start with him... But after waiting to no avail... I relented...

It was uncomfortable and extremely exciting! Being really close to cute guy! A lot of bad thoughts but I was also scared a neighbour would see he and I and report us to my mum...

We got to the market which is extremely disorganized! We split up... He went his own way to get what he wanted to buy... And I went to the stalls selling tomatoes and pepper and bought some onions from a mallam...

He and I met again... He asked if I was done so we would head back to our compound together... I told him I had to grind them cause the blender at home was faulty...

In the market... There's a section where yoruba women grind tomatoes or egusi etc... We got there... The lady I chose cause her engine was the cleanest started to tease us... My landlord's son is an aje-butter... He was choking turning red...

It felt good... Cause he was a bit humiliated which made me confident...

The woman asked if we were dating... I couldn't say no... Kept laughing throughout... He didn't say anything.... I think it's a good thing... He made it seem as though we were together...

We finished there... Started talking really well... He's funny... Smart too... Plus he's cute so I enjoyed us being seen together as much as being with him...

We went to a cold room to get some chicken... Nothing much happened there... He paid though... I refused cause I had the money... But I couldn't make a scene... We later spent the money on sweets and soft drinks... Which was fun...

His mum called... Asked him to go to his aunt's wine shop to get something... I didn't follow him cause it's already late... Went home alone...

How can his humiliation make you confident?

Are you sure confidence is the word you are looking for?

@OP:

Nice story for a relaxed Saturday.

Please give us updates.

luminouz:
All lies.

Show me a ring and a 5 year old marriage certificate, to demonstrate your so called stand.

We all know SM ain't real life

I should show you my ring and a five years wedding certificate to prove myself?

You are a clown!

Let's assume I am nuts enough to show you, how do you prove my stand?

And this stand that seems strange, you don't know women offline who have standards?

SupremeSpecimen:
If you read the quotes slowly n carefully, you'll realize just how much The North believe Nigeria is theirs to run as they wish.

And the smart muhfuckas are fully entrenched in both parties.

Just let's you wonder what they're promised before they support any candidate not from the The North

They "allow" you to rule

As in.

luvmijeje:
Well, for him to publicly to go nuclear, he knows that he will lose.

Right now he is fighting to hold the South-west. He is no longer fighting to be President.

Unfortunately, he dumped them seven years ago.

thorpido:
Are you Will Smith?He's the one that allows Jada play this kind of game.
Mister,no let money yab you o.This na game of dethrone.

Righteousness2:
Are u sure u are married? This does not sound as a Marriage.

HopeNeverDies:
1. Damnnnn!!! That's definitely not a demonic position. Well I can say, that depends on the type of Relationship you guy's have had.

2. So wait, your u can't make sacrifices for your man or something?

1. I can't be in such a relationship. I am very intolerant of bullshit.

2. That is not a sacrifice; that is massaging his fragile ego & pandering to his insecurities/low self esteem.

HopeNeverDies:
Nope!!! Damnn!!! It's not a Joke. I'm being serious. Have you been in that kind of position before ?

@bold:

Why would I be in such demonic position?

mubeela:
I hv dis strong feelings dat d mother inlaw started all dis wahala dat later consumed her. Ignorance is a disease

Eku strong feelings.

The man might be the genesis however, I am interested in why.

SmartyPants:
True to some extent I suppose.

1. But my goal really is just to always be someone my special other can admire and look up to professionally.

2. And I should rephrase my statement by saying I just find ambition extremely attractive.

1. If you drop the competitive mindset, there would be areas you are better than her that she can look up to you. There would also be some areas she is better than you & you would look up to her. The idea of marriage is for both of you to harness all your resources and emerge better than either of you.

2. Good. There is a way ambition makes a person looks alive.

NoToPile:
Thats the mentality of lot of boys nowadays oo, ordinary phone is rattling some people.

The things someone hears ehn!

The things that matters to people na wa


That's why I am very kin on people of same social class/mindset getting married.

@Mikkysmum:

Why are you doing everything alone?

Let's start with that

thorpido:
It makes them look silly.
Some men in Naija are catching up with it already.
The next thing is for men to start wearing crop tops.

The silly look is part of the goal to create weak man who lose their masculine core.

Then weak man can't lead families who have a strong sense of identity.

I cringe!

SmartyPants:
Why is it terrible?

It is a competitive mindset instead of a collaborative mindset.

The former kills marriages/relationships, the latter grows it.

SmartyPants:
That's his own o.

Me I love ambitious women coz you will only push me to outdo you.

You get big brezz and fine bum bum in addition to the ambition?

@bold:

Terrible mindset

NoToPile:


No chills at all.

I watched the video and I laughed so hard, his gesture was more like" eleeyi to je pe a wa la brush e up to fi wole o wa fe ma da owo ru.

Interestingly I was somewhere with some LGA grassroots level politicians on Wednesday and the things my ears were hearing about the primaries they did for Lagos house of assembly and senate/house of reps and how the whole show went down made me understand when they say elections are not won on Twitter.

The level of monetization/mobilization at that small level was alarming, very alarming, one thing I realized from all I heared was no conscience in politics.

Na work matter we go discuss oo, it quickly spiraled to politics and I used the opporth ity to listen.

We have a very long way to go.

Baba should go and rest jare

Nigerian politics is VERY VERY DIRTY!

And truly, elections are not won online.

The people who have the interest (vested, pure) and means (voters card) to vote don't have time for online bants.

1stGenAmerican:
What could possibly justify killing two women?

I did not use justify anywhere in my post.

Also, I do not play gender politics.

DaInferno:
this life ehn...and I'm here looking for a woman that works

You are looking for a woman that works or a woman that is ambitious?

Her working is clearly not the issue as they met at work;

He has issues with her growth.

Mikester:
I agree with him. It isn't low self esteem or whatever a pained mind chooses to term it. It is doing what you feel is right. He has his reason for leaving you. There was no love between you both in the first place. It was just casual dating which I personally deem to have no value.

I personally cannot marry a more ambitious lady because I know what marriage entails and that different minds cannot run a home successfully. Either she unites with me exclusively and follow my lead as a real woman should or she moves on. Else, why do we term ourselves as one body?

We all make decisions based on what we know and what we feel. He knows why he left you and no one here has the right to criticize him on that, besides I'm certain a lot who are criticising him here are the actual failures in the real world, hence the bitterness.

@bold
1. What does marriage entail to you?

2. Except you both have 'equal' ambitions, there is already a different mind.

3. Unity: a man leaves her parents & cleaves to his parents. That's what makes them one. In essence, the unity is from both ends (both of you bring parts of yourselves to form a new whole).

Not one person standing as King Kong and waiting for the other person to join.

bukky1994:
You should sit him down and talk it over

Namesake, this is not the kind of thing you talk over.

You hear it, enter room and ka halleluya meje.

Olorun ti fi oju ota han.

Imagine, o se so eleyi after Igbeyawo.

Baby yen wo gawu niyen.

HopeNeverDies:
Damnnn!!!! It’s not a Crime but Apparently, Some men do not like it when their wives or Gf got a job paying higher than his. It’s about respect of choice. Same way, if definitely you’ve had the opportunity to use iPhone 13 and your boyfriend still uses 7+, and u decided to settle for 6+ or 6s+ , it’s not that you’re stupid or some, but you just chose respect over your relationship....


Damnnnn!!! I feel his feelings

@bold:

A joke right?

Channah1:
Dont mind him he's got complex issues. Let him deal with it and get over himself.

Don't ever lose yourself worth or any great opportunity coming your way because of a man. Men are not loyal and if you dance to his tune now just because of marriage, he'll want to dominate you in that marriage and prevent you from becoming successful so you won't measure up to
him in life. That way, he can keep you as his puppet to be at his mercy forever; under his control.

He may even end up not marrying you and by then you'll have lost a one time opportunity.

Your career is your life after God. Hold on to it, let him get lost! Men are not worth sacrificing anything for. You'll only end up in regrets.

Any man with such mentality is a disaster waiting to happen and is not worth having around.

@bold:

You need a renewal of the mind.

I however align with your position on this matter: it is good riddance to bad rubbish.

Aystarz:
"Ati eleyi to wa leyin mi'
. I swear Tinubu no get chills at all. Talking about a full-grown man like that shows such a man should never be allowed to even lead a community CDA, let alone the Presidency of the world's most populous black nation!

No chills!

chatinent:
Eleyin of Ogun State...


Guess all of them wants to get rid of the Tinubu godism.

Eleyin - Egg Seller
E lee yi - This one

I have been seeing Eleyin since and was wondering how egg selling entered the matter.

Someone just posted the full sentence.

BAT's political story is a great lesson.

So sad that a formidable godfather capable of installing presidents has been reduced to reminding people of past favours.

Angelfrost:
Working to make Buhari president, not once but twice is the main reason why you should never be president!

@OP:

True.

11thGoldTREE:
this is too much loss

Too much in a space of days.

I really empathize with the family on both sides.

Has anyone bothered to find out what started the chain of murder-suicide?

Or will it be swept under the rug of 'all men are evil'?

Someone would feel a certain level of hopelessness to kill his wife, his MIL and himself.

oz4real83:
America and their media should always be bold enough to accept and acknowledge their citizens who have dual nationalities when ever they commit crime. This criminal is an American despite bearing a Nigerian name, the news should be reported as such.

So happy for Johnny Depp

She reminds me of the female lead character in 'Gone Girl'.

Omo, make this kind persin no reason persin case, amen.

Condolences to her family & friends.

BTW, is her picture in the OP pre or post surgery?

Strange story, stranger comments.

From my knowledge of sickle cell patients, they don't have the energy to beat someone else to a pulp talk more of 'frequently'.