₦airaland Forum

smartasuen:
I fear who no fear some men, just as I fear who no fear some women. Infact, I fear who no fear any living thing.

JONNYSPUTE:
..... Yul has never loved his first wife. He got her pregnant and ran away. It was his father that went and married her for him and he had no choice then because his Dad threatened to disown him if he doesn't do what he said.

Most times when he comes to social media to talk nonsense,I usually laugh out loud because we all grew together at hill view and pioneer Street in ind/ layout Enugu and we all know what happened.

He has always been in the marriage because of his kids and I'm not surprised this happened.

Hmmmmmm

Abalado:
Why didn't ur so called husband that met us on top and brought us down not picked woman as his running mate

FalseProphet1:
I see Sophia having two more kids for Davido. I see Chioma becoming envious that Sophia's allowee is bigger than hers because she ha more kids, I see Chomia getting pregnant again and again until she end up with 5kids courtesy of Davido.

This I have.

Alfa eke onirikuri

Abduljohn:
Ghana
Gambia
Gabon
Guinea-Bissau
.... Guinea

Thank you for responding on our behalf

Happy birthday In Edo.

It is either I no longer come across her movies or she no longer acts.

I still remember 'World Apart' with Kenneth Okonkwo.

I don't believe them yet

I am the late Monarch's birthday mate

Sadly not a new thing.

The girl is 13?

BoluwatifeNG:
Wetin concern you ?

You people have started.

What doesn't concern us?

DoctorOlasDesk:
I agree. How about supervision? Did you not see online another girl came up in the same school sleeping with boys. Since there are multiple incidences then it means supervision is lacking. I wasn't bothered about the girl in the sexual act. I am shocked by the level of comfort of their peers during the act, meaning this is a recurring thing for them to express that level of comfort.

Is the school lax in supervision?

Yes!

Then they get the flak for it: suspend the chaperones, create a SOP that all boarding schools MUST adhere to; get the school to sponsor all their teachers for a training/course; do spot checks to ensure compliance of SOP etc.

The school however should not pay for the parents' uselessness.

The school is responsible for giving the children space to exhibit; the parents & children are responsible for their actions during the space gotten.

Those children could have dared themselves to do something else.

If you are not bothered about the girl's actions, why are you bothered about the students' level of comfort?

odinson1:
Women Basically want 3 things
1. the Power and Authority of a man
2. The Privileges of Being a Woman
3. The Accountability of A child.

I pity those ignorant, naive men who are fighting for Equality for women. Those idiots don't realize that they are being cheated,the woman you are fighting for,is trying to overthrow your power. She will expect you to man up and fight for her,or Provide when times are hard. But when times are good,they will drag equality with you. Take the Russian/Ukraine war as a case study. The women are allowed to leave,but the men are mandated to stay. Not a single feminist came out to say women were being Relegated (because they are weak,which is true).
You know why? It is because times are hard,it is war,so they don't have the luxury to be fighting for equality now.

@bold:

Interesting.

Let me go do my research.

DoctorOlasDesk:
Wrong move. The school ought to be sanctioned. I wonder how no one is talking about both genders ought to have been seperated. This points to gross misconduct

The genders were seperated.

From the school's version, they took 76 students to Dubai and put boy & girls on separate floors.

Nice decision by the Government.

There was no need to close the school in the first place.

Teenage pregnancy has always been a thing.

In some areas, the rite of passage after secondary school is a baby.

janejjjjj5000:
Hello everyone,

Here is my post from yesterday.

https://www.nairaland.com/7090858/tired-marriage

I thank you all for the feedback - the kind words, chastisements, and even insults. I see them all as help. For the first time in being married for14 years, I spoke about my marriage and I am glad I did. I feel very relieved.

My husband is very sorry and has decided that we will seek family therapy. He told me he does not want our home to break and that he is willing that we work together to fix this. What I like the most is that he also agrees that he needs to work on himself. I have my faults too and I am also willing to work on myself. We have found an experienced therapist that we believe will be a good fit to help us.

Even though some of the comments yesterday were harsh, I learnt from them. I had no boyfriend before marriage. My husband and I got married to each other as virgins and there is no ex boyfriend anywhere telling me anything. I am not a cheat. We have been born-again from our youth. I am not a promiscuous person. I was just feeling down yesterday and decided to pour our my heart. I was tired of bottling up my emotions because I have the habit of not discussing my home. I got tired and was feeling very confused yesterday but I am much better now. Still, I don't regret putting up that post. God used everybody who commented to point me in the right direction.

I am grateful to those who suggested therapy. I was not thinking in that direction at all but you gave me the idea. I thank everybody who got involved. May God bless you all.

Amen.

What do you do for work/ earning/fun/hobbies etc.

Asides family, what do you do?

Congratulations mama, greater heights!

Tonero5200:
Not one not two...I have never see a man like my father who likes talking about widow women, befriending them while he has a wife at home.
Sometimes he be dashing them money, talking out of sympathy, like wondering how they are able to survive with their husbands gone... meanwhile ask him for money, he complain he don't have.

It's good to be kind, but why widow women discussion in the house all the time..I think that man has an ulterior motive.

Even if he doesn't have an ulterior motive and just cares for widows, he is approaching it in a very disrespectful manner to your family especially your mother, his wife.

If he has a ministry to widows, your mother as his wife should drive it because she is a woman like them.

Unfortunately, there is little your discomfort can do if your mum is 'comfortable' with it.

Wahala wa!

Read the story on IG

She should gather all the people she accused the husband in their presence and beg (not just apologize) him till he forgives her.

As for those kids, when the consequences of their actions comes calling, they should not complain.

Islandlady:
Good morning Nairalanders! Have got this pressing issue, I need your advise on.

There is this business friend to my dad, who is in his early forties, he once asked me out for a relationship but I declined because he his married with two lovely children

So I have been on vacation from my job for some weeks now, so I decided to spend time in my family house
so three days ago he brought this job offer to me that I should be his new secretary since his old secretary have relocated abroad, I told him I will get back to him

Pls guys I am just confused and scared, I mean this man once asked me out and me being his secretary means we will be close to each other, I don't want any case of rape or sexual assault from him

Plus his new job salary is almost ×2 of my present job salary!

Could his intentions be pure or could it be that I am overreacting or reading too much meaning to this

Should I accept the job offer from him or not!
Pls I need your critical advise

But you know in your inner mind that it is not wise to be the secretary of a man sexually interested in you.

The choice is yours.

janejjjjj5000:
No. I grew up in Winners Chapel and Papa and Mama always say they have never argued in their marriage. Even last year, Papa still said that he and mama have not had their first argument almost 40 years later. That is the kind of marriage I always wanted but now, I feel bad because I cannot boast of the same thing. Shouting at your wife is abuse. And worse is that our children see it. I have read that it can affect children psychologically. I feel that I have failed.

@bold:

Permit me to laugh

First, you don't have business with the Lady; your husband introduced her into equation.

Secondly, why did your husband ask for the initial separation instead of working on the marriage?

Why did you guys decide to come back together? How initiated the decision to reconcile before the agreement? Have you both sorted out the issues that led to the separation?

According to your story, your husband started relating with the lady before the separation which is adultery. If your husband refuses to stop his relationship with the lady, is adultery a deal breaker for you?

The way I see it, your husband initiated separation thinking the lady would make a better wife.

He tried for a year and saw that the first wife (you) is better (compared to the second wife) so now he wants to eat his cake and have it.

Listen to your intuition and pray about it. If you can't be 100% sure about his relationship with the lady (after addressing your imaginations) and do not like the new (?) signs you see, you might want to continue the separation.

It would not make sense to come back together and separate again.

Afonja2:
Bolt has replied him

What is 'Hello'?

Address him personally.

tutudesz:
CBN policy on transfer

TRANSFER RECALL DUE TO CUSTOMER ERROR
Where a customer claims to have made a transfer in error, the following provisions shall apply:

1. where the beneficiary is known to the complainant, the Sending Entity shall encourage the complainant to contact the beneficiary for an amicable settlement;


2. where the beneficiary is not known to the complainant or a known beneficiary refused to effect a refund to the complainant, the Sending Entity having received a tenable claim from customer shall notify the Receiving Entity who shall place a lien on the amount in the account of the beneficiary and thereafter obtain the consent of the beneficiary to execute refund;

3. where the beneficiary does not give consent, the internal auditors of the Sending and Receiving Entities shall mediate between the two customers within 2 weeks of the complaint to resolve the issue, and their decision shall be final. Accordingly, the lien on the amount in the beneficiary’s account shall not last more than 2 weeks;

4. Where the contested beneficiary has utilized the fund such that lien could not be placed, and he/she refuses to fund the beneficiary account to facilitate refund, the Receiving Entity’s Internal Auditors shall watch-list the customer’s BVN and the Sending Entity may report the incident to law enforcement agencies.

So there is no way to enforce refund?

It is sad.

BuyAndSellStuff:
So 130k is huge money to Bolt drivers but I see Bolt ads saying I can earn N200k weekly

habsydiamond:
Oga u funny oo.. U no even press 13k na 130k u go press.. And u expect him to pick up.. Good Samaritans no too plenty for this country again.. I pray u see ur money collect at the end of the day.

Why shouldn't he pick up?

I believe that when people make mistakes/errors, they often times have a way of escape to retrace their steps.

This case reinforces that .

I imagine there was no video or the kids had sex missionary style;

The boy(s) and their parents would never wash away the rapist tag. Then the poor boys would wonder why they are bearing the lifelong punishment of something that was mutual.

I hope the parents of the boy see this as a 'way of escape' and retrace their steps and restore those boys.

It is funny (and not surprising) that all the 'female' advocates:
1. Never called out the mother of the girl for the false accusation of rape. Somehow, it was glosses over

2. Scream how the girl needs help, therapy, counseling, re-training etc. Almost nothing is said about the boys till they tell us how life is extremely unfair to 'women' such that only the girl and family are called out and shredded.

Scapula112:
Hello nairalanders, I'm an old user of this forum just wanna remain anonymous. Pls my career is not making me be in a relationship with any lady, all the Ladies I've dated in the past all complain of one thing which is time. I'm a second year neurosurgical resident here in new Jersey prior to my residency in this program, I was a medical officer whose job Is not more demanding , I had a girlfriend who's always complaining of me not being there for her tho I give her money and always visiting her if I'm on shift even though I got limited time to prepare for a medical board exam to get into residency (USMLE) those know about the exam knows how crazy it was, a three steps examination.
She broke up with me for a guy she always call her friend..the heart break almost cost me my step 2 CK, life goes on. Here am I in neurosurgery, my first day was like hell imagine being in the O.R for 16 hrs straight without seeing the sun because they brought multiple patients who sustained brain injury during a road accident, I nearly cried, to my chief of surgery ..An attending surgeon it's like nothing I almost regretted being there and not going to family medicine or internal medicine.
This has made me so awful that if see me you'll think I'm a mad man...is either I'm in the O.R or I'm sleeping no time for family, Cinema, vacation, the girl Ioved has left me all because of time. I make money i don't have time to spend, money is now useless to me because there is no time to look after myself ..in the next 1hr I'll be in the middle of a surgery. It's just crazy, is this how I'll spend the rest of my life? No woman? It's frustrating .
Last week i collapsed in the middle of a surgery because we just finished removing a tumor In the right part of the brain barely two hours, I was sleeping when I got an urgent call to report to the O.R ... I'm now regretting choosing this program. Can a lady love a guy whose everyday life is like this? I think not.
What do you think I can do please mature minds. I'll be 29 by June.

Relationship aside, you can't keep living like this, you will burn out fast and the cost of a mistake on the job is a human life.

@Relationship: You need to identify the kind of person you are. Some people like one solid relationship/marriage so they can focus on building a life with their partners. Some others like a full life where they have their hands into many things; work, family, religion, social activities, personal growth etc. Some do not mind laser focus on work/building a career or any other venture.

If you like your hands full, then you need to re-work your time and/or get another job/arrangement that lets you live a full life.

Like you have realized, money is not everything and what is the essence of money you can't spend or enjoy as you deem fit?

Handwashing your clothes makes them last longer.

It is also a form of exercise for those who live very sedentary lives.

K-drama has taught us to stomp on drapes and beddings inside a large bowl.

A number of romances have started that way.

Why are the victims of trafficking also paraded like criminals?

What was the parents of the 13yr old & 19yr old told?

Looking at the pictures, what could be the selling point of the 13yr old especially?

It seems that hotel has pedophilic clientele which should also be fished out.

I hope the parents of the 13yr old & 19yr old are also arrested.