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Vevejoy:
We've been having alot of sex. �

Vevejoy:
Thank you!

DoubleEngine007:
You should have asked him.. "Baby who among your mom and his mom,he wants to come over"Then you wait for him to decide. He asked you as a trap,then the selfish you go fall put. Now look at what you have caused. Did you even say you don't know how to tell people that he visits or believes in native doctors
Don't try it please.. Someone above said ,you talk too much. I don't know how true is that,but if actually you talk too much.. Avoid telling the world the secrets of your husband, if you still do love your marriage.
The only thing that can safe you and your marriage right now,like the poster above me said is Prayers if you believe in God.

omojesu202:
It is no news that most marriages are collapsing.
Mine is just two years but I also see signs of collapse.
What's happening in my brothers marriage is painful to me because I know the financial investment and sacrifices he puts into it. I don't know what he did to his wife but she has turned his children against him.
imagine that you cannot tell your 20 years old first son to wash your car like 7am, the mother will tell you that you should allow him to enjoy his sleep. Not once, not twice and not thrice.
This is the children you'll go hungry and borrow money to pay high school fees to make sure they go to good schools.
It is painful to me because I knew when he was paying 200k per term each on three kids while his basic was just 300k.
Now the firstborn and secondborn will disobey him on ordinary washing of car just because he can no longer meet up.
Please how would you handle such issues?
You might just hear that a man killed his wife and three children in the news. That would not be our portion.

From outside, she has been a good woman but she didn't blend the children to their father. They nature of his job takes him on transfer always and not stationed with his family but regular monthly visit is always there.

bellong:
The guy lives in their territory. It is expect to see a fightback when territory is invaded

WiLdFLame:
You’re looking for trouble.
Go away

ibkayee:
Let's be honest. When men think about polyandry this is not where their mind is going, they only care that the woman should not be able enjoy multiple men otherwise she's an ashawo, immoral etc bla bla bla, they aren't thinking of the 'mechanics' of it like this.

That's why I brought it up to see if he was just another one of those who only likes the concept of multiple spouses when it benefits the guy

No matter how much it is a 'nightmare', let the woman decide. What's good for the goose should be good for the gander

WiLdFLame:
Alaye fi statistic sile

Talk with reality
Disprove why Polygamy is not the best in recent time?

Leave population statistics for NBS To handle

WiLdFLame:
If polyandry is being postulated, it will lead to lots of competition between men. Men are of war when they compete. One must either die or get incarcerated, it further deplete the reserves of men, deplete the core population, men will go into extinction but women though can be every competitive they can all support the man to make their resources more even and adequate and of a truth what makes a woman happy is quite differently from what makes a man different. The modern polygamy is the best any family can practice right now

WiLdFLame:
Till date there actually has never been any real concrete reasons why polygamy is bad or wrong. Infact recents statistic has shown that monogamy causes more heartbreak, everyone lives in pretense. Most of their arguments are Orogun, kids will lack basic amenities, they will use juju on each other bla bla bla... nothing concrete! We all in African accepted monogamy cos we’ve been brainwashed it’s the white mans way and we all see the white mans way superior thanks to great years of colonialism and mass brainwashing propaganda through the media and all.

As a man, the advantages of polygamy for us men especially is more than the disadvantages
The real type of marriage is what our grandfathers and grandmothers practiced. Monogamy is very flawed once you know your means can handle polygamy, do it. All thanks to modernity; the kind of exposure our grand parents all had was little, now this is 2021, polygamy has taken a rebranding. Think of situations where you have 3 professors as wives...endless opportunities abounds. There is a woman for every man, if your salary is 20k a Month, marry women you can both manage with your little resources with contentment.

Most of us who had bad experiences with polygamy if closely observed would see it’s because resources was low and the exposure women had back then was low unlike these days...there is nothing like unconditional love anyway, we should all stop pretending!! Right from the olden days, marriage had been all about what we can both get from each other. There is no such thing as unconditional love, if there be maybe Gods loves for mankind. Human being kind of love had always been all about what we can get from the relationship( business deal). Our fathers get married then cos they are ready to take care of some responsibilities.

It’s a fact that our forefathers live long to 200 years of age, if polygamy was as bad as they portray it to be then they shouldn’t have lived that long. Any one with superior arguments aside hearsays, why polygamy is bad should come out. Polygamy is the best type of marriage, the whites man- one man-one wife is wrong, idealistic but not practicable in the best concept of reality, also. Everybody live fake life. Deep down you guys are bored just in time also demographic statistics, population had shown the population of women are 4x higher than the men’s population. Now those wey remain for ground who go marry them? Since we want to be practicing Monogamy of the Whites. I laugh at all those feminists. Women supporting women but y’all be fucking another woman’s husband..so much for the women supporting other women movement. Hypocrisy is killing us in African. We deceive ourselves too much

As a man if your financial capacity could handle it then marry two or more wives and even with that 20k monthly salary you can still marry two wives also, just go way below your means. There is a woman for every man

ibkayee:
What of polyandry?

Anyway let me just stick to what you've said:

Don’t see anything wrong with if all participants are consenting and there’s no FORCED weird, oppressive, perverse power imbalance that ends up benefiting only the guy.

If you can find willing people without having to go about it in a problematic way e.g. threatening, coercion, springing the idea on your partner (who was given the impression by you that they would be in a monogamous union) randomly one day

If you can somehow manage it in a practical, FAIR (whatever fair is from ALL the participants’ viewpoint) way to work with all the laws/legal frameworks associated (assuming you're in a place where it's legal) for ALL parties involved and also consented to by ALL parties involved

But if you can't guarantee ALL of this then please leave pOlYgAmY alone

loveymom:
I think you should alert the parents of the Girl Innocent is trying to corrupt so they can advice their daughter and they can keep it confidential away from the school authorities.

Hangulsaram:
Alright I got you now. Suddenly they now wanted their outcast of over 4yrs.

raumdeuter:
Someone today quoted this post I made from 2018



https://www.nairaland.com/4436386/transactional-vs-validational-sex

ibkayee:
Cheating on a Nigerian man is an honourable thing in my eyes

EBMedia:
Omawumi has shared lovely swimwear photos of herself on Instagram, IgbereTV reports.

The singer took the photos over the weekend when she, her kids, and close friends went out to celebrate her husband, Tosin, who recently turned a year older.

In her caption, Omawumi stated clearly that she isn't pregnant.

She wrote;


https://www.instagram.com/p/CKL4_q3Fo2X/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

generationz:
Isn't it about women rights?

Hangulsaram:
Anty, I don’t understand you oo, please expatiate.

Hangulsaram:
And it’s now that they needed health workers due to covid 19 that they are reinstating him. See British and sense.

nenyewrites:
Incase most men didn’t see this answer. Learn from your fellow man to avoid stories that touch in the future.

Though I wonder why his wife had to tell him before he could understand her pains.

Men are just insensitive!

LadySarah:
They hosted it in a state that is safe from covid. Women are sensible, Biko.

LuQuLuQu:
...and I am a woman?