₦airaland Forum

Good evening peeps and happy new year

Finally, the US election drama of 'Christian' Trump and 'Evil' Biden is over and Joe Biden has been inaugurated.

In the midst of the drama, another drama ensued

Madam Kamala Harris became the icon of 'female' empowerment world wide.

Phrases such as 'I am lucky to be born in a time like this'; 'Because she can, I can'; 'She has made a way for others' etc.

I say 'Drama' because she did not 'win' the election, the President did. If Biden lost, she would not be there today.

If for instance she became the secretary of state; head of Google or another position she competed/ was elected for; I would understand. This is a position that piggybacks on another position.

If unfortunately she was a Republican and was sent packing with Daddy wa, was she the one that lost?

Can we claim Mike Pence lost the election? Was it not possible that Americans would vote for Mike if he was running with another President?

Americans rejected Trump, can Pence greatly influence his acceptance or rejection?

Question: In this election and position as VP, what was Kamaris' achievement to warrant the near idol status she has received?

Disclaimer:

1. This thread is NOT to question her 'qualification' for her role as the Vice President of America. If you feel she is not qualified, take it up with the appropriate authorities

2. This is NOT a 'putting down' or 'inequality' thread; Social Justice Warriors, please stay away. I would ask same questions if Obama was Vice President and hyped as paving way for blacks in the U.S.

3. A topic for this thread was harder than the content. and might change

mariahAngel:
The only difference between ofe owere and ofe oha is the leaves okwaya?

Most soups are differentiated by leaves na

Dey don send link to me

TalkTalkTwins:
$300 salary for a family man will barely be enough
I'm single and living with my brother, and we spend more than 100k a month on ourselves - data, feeding, transportation and stuff.
Rent not inclusive, offerings, donations and other things.

Nigeria is truly the world poverty capital!

Are people paid salaries according to their dependents or their value?

thorpido:
Some people are just naturally thieves and ungrateful bunch.

One of his problems stems from having 5 children.......in this generation? He will forever be chasing the wind!

No, don't hire him back.

Leaders and followers, no difference.

I won't be shocked the chef criticizes Buhari.

Macphenson:
May be this is one of the reasons why Tiwa left him.

WoundedLamb:
Really? They both cheat on each other? Lol... if that's the case, their marriage will last long then. No one has the moral authority to call out the other.

That's why I said they would scale through.

They are not going anywhere and she has a lot of stuff and endorsements hinged on her image as a good wife and mother.

Her hubby is not even on SM.

The blogger just wants to enter them this new year.

WoundedLamb:
Hhmm... It seems the blogger is a 'sadist'. She accused the woman of sleeping with a politician and when she was asked to prove it, she turned around to attack her husband instead cause she knew men are more likely to be the weak link. That's the attitude of someone who's more intrested in destroying another than disseminating information. What y'all go bloggers in Nigeria are mostly a bunch of people who derive pleasure from seeing others fall from grace.

From reliable sources, OmoT and her husband are cheats.

They would scale through this like they always do.

She should just ignore the blogger.

TheGistDay:
A couple of screenshots of WhatAapp conversations allegedly between Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde’s husband and mistress has been leaked online by controversial blogger, Gistlover.

The chats were released hours after the film star dared the blogger to prove that she is having an extra marital affair with former Edo State Governor, Adams Oshiomole.

https://thegistday.com/2021/01/20/nigerians-reacts-to-alleged-leaked-chat-between-omotola-jalades-husband-and-side-chick/

Where are the reactions?

decatalyst:
Abi ooo.


When matter reach people ears, she go just say ask him if he isn't sleeping around. She go claim nah the man start am sef.

Op nah suegbe, no be packo

Jman06:
It's obvious the wife is cheating, hence her unwillingness to have sex with him.

Toor!

Seeeker:
I will see if I can find a female friend to lean on. When she said "God will give me a prostitute for intimacy," she said those words from her heart.

You want to look for a side chick?

I like your wife : she allegedly commits adultery, then pushes you to do same so you are even.

You are playing to her hands bro.

Onyxunlimited:
We are not supporting the mother or the son. Ut is obvious even to a blind man that mother and son are wrong. But you will agree that this can never happen if the man has a personal relationship with his kids.
Even when the mother would say it is too early, the child would disagree with her because he values his father.

Unfortunately, this story is not about bonding: it is about disobedience and disrespect of the father.

If the OP complained his brother's kids does not relate with him or open up with their dad, then all these bonding talks would work.

It is the father's duty to create the relationship to make his children see him as the go to for their life issues and confidant.

However, simple tasks of obedience, please let's say it as it is.

The father has no fault in this case.

Imagine the father says he would stop paying their fees because he is not their confidant or they Don't watch CNN with him.

Seeeker:
She is paying rent for a business premises. We created a different source of income to be used in financing the rent. So this is not a matter of having no money to pay rent in her business. But she never showed me receipt of rent paid over the years.

Suddenly last week, premises owner locked out wife's workers and her over unpaid rent. I asked why she has not been paying rent. She said I should not worry about the premises owner, and that it's a small issue. I went to the place and met everyone outside and was told wife has went to see the landlord. Some minutes later, a different person brought the key and opened the office. Wife called and asked me to go and that she has paid him. I left and returned one hour later to hear more gist and I was told that wife has not returned from the man's house. I left. The fact that wife never showed me receipt tipped me off that something was brewing between the two. When wife came back at night, she washes all clothes and bra she wore before leaving the house in the morning. Wife usually don't wash clothes at night, only in the morning. That shows she was trying to clean up something. She said nothing about her encounter with the landlord. That night, she was checking her boobs in a secluded part of the house; when I showed up behind her unannounced, she was shocked and moved away.

Being a very serious Christian, I knew that she would feel guilty. Since that night, she became moody. That means the premises owner was waving the rent to get into her pant. We had our first major fight last month because she has been denying me sex for many months. Sex was happening like once in a month. During the fight, she said God would choose a prostitute for me that I can copulate with always. After the elders settled the fight, I decided never to ask her for sex again. I started monitoring her phone and got what I was looking for.

If I try to stop the investment that is meant to pay her business premises rent, that means I will resign from my job. Besides, I'm tired of the job, just doing it to get the money...the shame I get from the job is unbearable. Instead of paying rent, she was lavishing money on clothes. She spent money like father Xmas during the new year, but because she doesn't want her bank account to go red, she couldn't summon the courage to pay landlord out of anger and opted for option of using her body.

I know she was caught unawares. But I can't try separation because of my daughter. My daughter is worth someone to suffer for in marriage...such an angel. Besides, given my status in the community, divorce will tarnish my image.

I decided never to let her know I caught her. If she wants, let her tell me herself what she did.

How long do you plan to play hide & seek in your marriage?

How long do you plan to be bitter and endure your marriage for your daughter?

This your way would breed bitterness which is injurious to your health while she is chopping her life.

You need to decide way forward and act on it.

Goodluck.

TheRedpillguy:
Find a younger Woman. Take Feminists advice. She is not yours and she can decide to do whatever she likes. I say why not. Do the same.

Daddy wa!

I fear for the future.

A 20 year old who cannot respect the man feeding, clothing, sheltering and training him in school:

How would respect his colleagues at work? His neighbors? His wife? His children? His in-laws?

How would he treat a wife he paid her bride price?

And to think a lot of people are supporting/ seeing nothing wrong in the actions of the mother and sons:

Do they also disobey/disrespect their fathers because they do not bond? Or do all their fathers 'bond' with them?

tsmith:
You ask some seemly valid questions in a typical sane situation and other irrelevant ones (20yr old kids help grown ass man dress, is he disabled)

Both poster and brother seem a little derailed and very entitled in my opinion.

Brother is type that likes his car washed every day, that sound alike border line OCD. how certain are you that he may prefer car washed in the morning than in the evenings?

The fact that they are ones kids and one provides (which is any parents responsibility anyway) doesn't mean the kids need ro be part of that pain.

Also women are often giving the short end of the stick when kids misbehave. It isn't the woman's responsibility to bridge a relationship between the kids and their father.

And the poster, he's married not for love, but just a vessel and means to have kids. And not kids to love, but kids to take care of him in old age. These are all warped mentalilties that lead to nothing but failure and pain.

Well, this wife picked the short end of the stick herself.

While I agree the father has to work to build the bonds with his kids, they owe him respect and obedience because he is their father.

Whether he bonds with them or not.

Same way he owes them shelter, food, education and clothing whether they shine teeth with him or not.

And under no circumstance should a wife encourage the kids to disobey or disrespect the father except he tells them to do something wrong.

Whether the father has OCD or not is none of their business. He wants the car washed everyday, they wash it everyday.

Even if they see the car is clean and just pour water on it, wash is wash. It is in the place of rapport they would toast him that the car doesn't need washing daily (if they have built it.)

What you can't take, Don't dish it.

No mother would tolerate the father encouraging their kids to disrespect/disobey her because 'she doesn't have a bond'.

ArewaTech1:
Thanks to this function, you can save notes and multimedia files, and stop sending them to the chat of the ex who blocked you.

Opening a WhatsApp chat with yourself can be quite useful to have important files or messages on hand. Thus, you will access cooking recipes, to-do lists or the supermarket list in a practical and fast way.

Therefore, here I give you the best way so that you can send yourself messages, photos, voice clips, among other files and thus, stop using the chats of people who have blocked you.


1. Open your phone's browser,

2. In the address bar type wa,me/and-add-your-country-code-and-your-phone-number. For example, for wa,me/2347020576973

3. Then a window will appear with an invitation to chat with the corresponding number and a button that says "Continue to chat." Then press that option

4. Select WhatsApp or WA Business (whichever you're using), a new chat with yourself will open in the WhatsApp application and you can start sending yourself messages or different multimedia files

If you want access to the chat with yourself to be even more direct, you should know that WhatsApp allows you to keep up to three conversations at the top of the message list. To do so, you just have to press and hold the chat you want to pin and choose the first icon that appears at the top (from left to right).

Thanks

britiko:
Its a movie publicity. Oko Ramota.

Don't mind the OP

Karlifate:
No o... TRUMPet is the chosen one... He must be brought back.

RapistOnBail:

Lovely picture

GodWrites:
Protesters out and about
Protesters wave flags in the area known as Black Lives Matter plaza near the White House in Washington, D.C.

What are they protesting?

Queenlovely:
I wish I was in D.C right now.

2015 we thought buhari was the savior, we collectively voted him

currently we are regretting that decision

France voted Emmanuel macron as president, they regret it today

I hope America will not regret these man's style, it won't be up to 6 months and they would start lashing the guy. politics has changed, because information is now cheap, and swift. people are well informed, everyone has an opinion these days,

Biden cannot offer 5% economic growth to America, America are more concerned about the economy that's why they support trump

Let's wait and see.

That's the beauty of time

Gistlover insinuated wife was dating Oshimole.

Wifey threatened her to prove it;

She turns around and accuse the husband of having an affair.

Toor!

Nice try though; I don't see this couple breaking up.

OmoT has too many things hinged on her image as a good wife and mother.

Next time, she should press control I.

@OP:

If the woman wasn't outspoken, the case would have died down and nothing would come out of it.

Lucky her, not all of us would put our business in SM.

A prerequisite to bring things to the fore in Nigeria.

ArticleBeast:
You keep screaming saner climes. It is in the saner climes that a man was killed by police officers with video proof but the officer is walking freely. Please stop this useless saner clime speech

thorpido:
Exactly my thought.This stable marriage until the issue of which mom should come over is questionable.
I actually think the couple are both acting immatured.The wife nags as she has acknowledged and seems not to be wise with words.She just blurts out whatever is on her mind.
Her husband's behaviour is even worse.Except he regrets marrying her or has some psychological issues,his treatment of her is annoying.

Op the native doctor thing is the biggest issue in your marriage now.Those people can see and unsee.You'll be lying if you say you didn't notice this about him before marrying him or you were just too naive or blind to it.
Well,it won't stop suddenly.You should just keep praying and hoping they see good about you.

*Hold off getting pregnant again.There are issues to sort first.

I agree

*The wife blurring out what's on her mind: I did not follow the thread enough to see that.

letskeeptalking:
I agree with you that the woman’s role in this case is questionable. But the boy is 20. At that age he should be able to take decisions without being influenced by his mum. He should want to help the father, even if the Mother were against it.

Apparently the only strong influence they have in their life is their Mother.

My point is that such influences are formed at early stages in life. I don’t think the children, if they had a good bond with him in the beginning, would turn on him now.

Or do you also agree that the responsibility to raise and instill discipline in the kids lies entirely with the woman? How come when a child turns bad it’s somehow the woman’s fault? Where was the man to play his role too?

Growing up my Dad had a very busy Law practice, and my mum was a Teacher who was home almost all the time. But we also felt my Dad’s presence because whenever he could he would go through our books, help us with school work, visit us in school hostel e.t.c. He was busy, but also present.

I would say I also have the kind of job my dad had because I’m always traveling and closing from work very late. But should that be an an excuse for me not to get involved in my children’s life??

While I understand that in this case the woman is not acting properly, my point is that she is able to do that because the man neglected his duties as a Father when he had the opportunity.

In the post you quoted, I stated Nigerian fathers are guilty of not bonding with their kids. That should tell you my opinion on child training.

This is not a case of 'when the child goes bad, it is the mother's fault':

This is a case of 'the mother made the child bad'.

Let's assume the husband failed in bonding: should the mother leverage on that to turn the children against their father?

If the father were to have a job he works from home and stayed more with the kids, would it be ok for him to tell the sons to disrespect their mother because he bonded with them?

The father has/had his lapses; if the wife to leverage on that, it calls to question her motives.

Vevejoy:
Sex doesn't solve problems.
Thank you!

I never said sex solve problems.

But if you are still able to have constant sex in the toxicity you painted, then the issue is not as terrible as you painted it.

One of the major things that fly out of the window when marriages go sour is sex/intimacy.

Goodluck.

thorpido:
An 80yr old who decides to engage in a sex romp with a 30yr old must really hope to see cloud 9.
In this case,he did.

Hahahahahaha!

Ikoja aye gba!

They both look very young and beautiful Sha.

cocolacec:
Men do the same thing,they will abandon their wives for side chicks and wont release her to try other relationships.

@OP:

The wife should have killed her husband to solve the issue permanently.

Oops! She would go to prison and the husband would marry another wife.

17 yr old girl, God console your family..... In prison!

Na wa o!

Wife bought a house and car yet you pipo still found something negative to say about the gesture.

Ko so ogbon to le da, ko so wa to le wu, lati fi te aye lorun - Ebenezer Obey.

letskeeptalking:
Women also work, sometimes even more than men. Men just choose not to bond, and that decision is nobody’s fault.

A woman cannot tell her child what to feel.

At the end of the day whet the child will remember is how he felt safe with the Mother and no recollection of ever having such feelings for the Fathed.

While bonding with the children is on the man, let's not ignore that the mother teaches the children to disobey their father by undermining his authority over them.

How can a father call his sons to wash the car and the mother say 'they are sleeping'?

Did they go to the farm overnight? Can't they wash the car and go back to sleep?

If sleep is so important to them, can't they wash it the night before?

And shouldn't a 20 year old help his father dress up for work? Polish his shoes, iron his clothes, help him co-ordinate his wears in the newest fashion?

Let's assume the man doesn't actively seek to bond with his kids (a lot of Nigerian fathers are guilty); can't the mother encourage it especially if they are not in an abusive marriage?

The mother should be the one pushing the kids to wash his car, polish his socks, iron his shirts, pick his tie etc. That way, they would bond and the father can pass nuggets to the sons.

The sons would also learn how to be responsible, co-ordinate/lead a family, note the father's mistakes to improve on etc.

If the OP was complaining about the sons not sitting with their father to watch CNN, I would ask if the father sowed the seed to reap such.

But disrespect on the mother's orders and with her backing? Na!