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Family › Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by bukatyne(f): 2:06pm On Aug 24, 2020
Nicepoker:
So this your case. who is the Camel. And who is the straw
grin
Family › Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by bukatyne(f): 2:02pm On Aug 24, 2020
walexy06:
Please we are trying to hold this table with chain.... Kindly resist the urge to shake it
Hahahahahahahaha!
Family › Re: Becoming An Assertive Visionary Man by bukatyne(op): 1:40pm On Aug 24, 2020
MiddleDimension:
so do you agree now that the so-called strong women in the work place who attack their fellow men have some form of deficiency and lack self esteem?

not all female superiors are like that, i am talking about those particular ones people call ''strong''. i am sure you know them.
I am just seeing this.

Any woman who attacks male colleagues without provocation surely has some form of deficiency and victimhood issues.

And vice versa.
Family › Re: Women That Allow Their Husband Beg For Sex!!! by bukatyne(f): 1:36pm On Aug 24, 2020
zedegit:
Please which state are you from?

Just when I thought such women have gone into extinction.

Wow!


1 trillion likes for you.
Thank you. cheesy

What has my state got to do with it? smiley
Family › Re: Women That Allow Their Husband Beg For Sex!!! by bukatyne(f): 1:35pm On Aug 24, 2020
crackhaus:
Chai... The beauty and eloquence of this post wants to make me cry for joy cry
https://www.reactiongifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/11/crying-man.gif
grin

Thanks cheesy
Family › Re: In A Sinful Relationship by bukatyne(f): 1:28pm On Aug 24, 2020
LuvB:
You just nailed it. I really would have married her if I had the means back then.
Thanks a lot . I appreciate. I'll keep working on ending this . I pray I succeed
Goodluck.
Family › Re: In A Sinful Relationship by bukatyne(f): 1:27pm On Aug 24, 2020
eazzzy1:
When you get caught, the feelings will vanish. When her husband kicks her out you won’t find her attractive anymore. There’s that subconscious feeling that you are better than her husband. Sleeping with someone’s gf or wife can be exciting but it always end in shame for one or both parties.

If you want to be with her, break her home and divorce your wife. Make a secret video or audio recording and send it to her husband. I’m sure if you end up together you won’t trust her.

If you are serious about leaving her, next time when you kiss her, just remember she sucked her hubby’s dick the night before, so basically you are sucking dick.

Another method is to think/know that if she’s nacking you she may be nacking someone else too, so you aren’t special she just belongs to the street.
grin
Family › Re: In A Sinful Relationship by bukatyne(f): 1:26pm On Aug 24, 2020
LuvB:
Let me be honest. I've slept with sssooooo maaaaany ladies ,so many ,just to break my feelings for her ,but it never worked . This was before I settled down . The emotions never went away . its crazy
Your village people mean business with you.

Imagine you developed another soultie with one of your numerous escapades.
Music/Radio › Re: What Are Your Favorite Songs by bukatyne(op):
I just listened to some of Chike's songs:

You Deserve: shocked It is giving me the chills.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YRHVZnj18rU&list=RDEM9J3cbJpsv43eLDcGH5ZOUg&index=4

The selflessness and humility to decide that your lover is better off without you. cry


I like Roju and no, I do not understand the Igbo lyrics grin

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4zhoggq0sZA&list=RDEM9J3cbJpsv43eLDcGH5ZOUg&index=7
Family › Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by bukatyne(f): 12:40pm On Aug 24, 2020
judedwriter:
I discovered that to truly love someone of the opposite sex, you must be good platonic (non sexual) friends for at least 1 year!

Dating is a SCAM! The sooner people know, the better for them.
That friendship base is very important.

How can you conveniently claim to love someone you don't know?
Sports › Re: Moment Neymar Danced Into The CL Final With His Own Speaker, Only To Lose (Video by bukatyne(f): 10:14am On Aug 24, 2020
cloud:
Same players scored in every single game leading to the finals. No doubt they tried and held Bayern for large parts of the game save for Manuel neur, they would have probably won. In football finals,there can only be one winner and in this case ,it was Bayern. But don't discredit psg for their efforts,they were the second best team in the whole of europe
I concur.

Not only in this game but in every facet of lif2e.

It is unfair to mock Neymar because they lost.
Sports › Re: Moment Neymar Danced Into The CL Final With His Own Speaker, Only To Lose (Video by bukatyne(f): 10:12am On Aug 24, 2020
SpecialAdviser:
This dress will now become a big fashion to Nigerians.

If na me first dress like this, they will call me a VILLAGE LOCAL MAN.

Nigeria, a country filled with a lot inferiority complex people. Always trying to be Western.

That's how some m.orons will be eating akpu with for.k. Father please punish any Nigerian that calls his fellow local village man anywhere any day.
Actually true.

But again, Neymar has enough influence to be a pace setter. grin
Politics › Re: We Borrowed 5,000metric Tonnes Of Grains From ECOWAS – Mustapha Baba-Shehuri by bukatyne(f): 10:08am On Aug 24, 2020
Mexyz:
Wonders shall never end, so we have graduated to borrowing food to feed Nigerians?

Hian!
As in! What a shame.
Celebrities › Re: I Infected My Children With COVID-19 - Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde by bukatyne(f): 8:11am On Aug 24, 2020
glimpse33:
Nigerian government is now paying celebrities to lie that they have corona virus...
Huh?!
Sports › Re: Why Don't Nigerians Like The Nigerian Football League by bukatyne(f): 8:08am On Aug 24, 2020
AreaFada2:
This is no excuse. Barca and Real Madrid were always richer than Enugu Rangers, Bendel Insurance, Shooting Stars, Pillars and others.

But we passionately supported our local clubs.

Fact is choice. Given a choice, the average Nigerian will choose something imported. It has led to local production falling. It reduces strength of local currency too as we need more dollars to pay for import.

So fowotball is just part of general trend. If we had easy access to foreign league matches 40 or 30 years ago, same would have happened.
True.

It is not a football or sports thing.
Family › Re: Who Is A Woman? by bukatyne(f): 7:59pm On Aug 23, 2020
Klass99:
Having a vjay, boobs and hips is actually what makes a woman.

I think the distinction should have been between a woman and a lady.

We are all women if we have a vjay, boobs and hips, but not all women are ladies, same thing goes for men, not all men are gentlemen.




Isn't this sort of woman usually called an opinionated feminist, again? grin

Good points that can be learnt from though.
@bold:

Apt!
Family › Re: Looking For A Classy Female Buddy by bukatyne(f): 1:57pm On Aug 23, 2020
Maneq:
Only in Nigeria that male prostitutes will say they dont want female prostitutes.

Woo, you will find classy female buddy for 600 years. Dont goan look for classy female wife.
This one enter!

I don't know which decent girl would agree to be FWB especially with a stranger or a decent man looking for such.
Christianity Etc › Re: Pastor Precious Iginla Wife, Blessing Makes U-Turn Over Abusive Marriage (Video) by bukatyne(f): 1:36pm On Aug 23, 2020
nairavsdollars:
Social media abuse
As in.
Family › Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by bukatyne(f): 1:16pm On Aug 23, 2020
crackhaus:
Exactimus!

And to be honest, even a slightly up/down choice of spouse will still usually fall within the same social strata... So yeah, this is also fine.
Among the middle-class, there's levels. Same with lower and upper-classes.

The wide gap is more noticeable when transitioning from class to class.
Those Nollywood type of love stories.

Their moral system is different, outlook to life different, way of life different. It only works where one is very tolerant, ready for serious mindshift and/or open minded.

I also think it works better with man up/woman down snearios.
Family › Re: Women That Allow Their Husband Beg For Sex!!! by bukatyne(f): 1:10pm On Aug 23, 2020
zedegit:
In recent times, some women have decided to get back at their husband by denying him sex or feigning tiredness.

My question to them is why did you get married?

Men if you know you like sex, better discuss it with your intended and tell her never to use it as a bargaining chips nor food.

Some men avoid such topics but it comes to haunt them later on.

Madam, if you know you don't have strength for sex, please don't marry.
Marriage is not by force.

Don't frustrate the men.
I have gone through the thread which unfortunately has been terribly derailed and message lost.

Sex is marriage is a ten unit course grin and the major gift God has given spouses to bond.

The more you sleep with someone (especially if there is no soul-tie anywhere and you guys have at least 'likeness' for yourselves), the more the person has your mumu button which makes for a smooth marriage.

Redpillers know that hence they advise men not to have the 'oneitis' sickness aka sleep with only one woman.

This basic truth flies off the head of women today under the umbrella of 'woman emancipation' or freedom hence they teach them 'their boby is theirs in marriage'.

First, both parties should know that sex is a duty in marriage. It is not a matter of he/she is good, I feel like, I don't feel like, withholding to get favors, withdrawing for punishments, blackmailing to insist on my position bla bla bla.

Sex is also about the mindset: if you love someone and want to please then, you will make out time to satisfy them. It might not be romance hot all the time just how food would not turn out right all the time. Also you always reserve strength/resources for whatever is important to you. Sometimes, what the wife is saying is 'you are not my priority, other things are more important than you are' which is a fast way to ruin the marriage. After all, if we believe NL which claims women cheat as much as men, then some of these women denying their husbands sex are giving it hot to someone else and their 24 hours time span has not changed.

However, you would not because you made rice salty today stop eating it. You would keep cooking and cooking till you get it right. The saying 'practice makes perfect' also rings true for sex. You keep teaching your partner how to please you. You also study yourself as your sexual interests change. What turned you on in your 20s would change in your 30s. This is for people especially women who say they stop having sex because he is not good/satisfying them.

Now, sex starts in the kitchen or sitting room (your favorite place) which means that a good loving atmosphere in the home lubricates the sex life of the marriage. While an unfriendly or unromantic man is not an excuse to deny sex, romance and friendliness would make sex more spontaneous and enjoyable. You both bring your feelings and emotions to the table creating fireworks. So men who think no more wooing after marriage, OYO is your case.

There must also be desire for your spouse and this is for women. While some school of thought say you cannot negotiate desire, I believe you can work at it or pray for it to come. Once you have decided to marry Mr. X or Ms. Y, they better become your spec. A marriage where the wife does not desire the husband is a disaster waiting to happen.

Spouses should also be unselfish. Don't be a 'I can collect Mouth Gig but can't give head' type of husband or 'I don't like XYZ) type of wife. As long as what the other party is asking something nor degrading or abnormal to you, then obliged them. Be open to learn new things, listen to their preferences amongst others.

Good hygiene is also important, shave all shaveables, smell good, get rid of disgusting habits, look palatable, clean underwears, boxers, socks etc.
Family › Re: Single Ladies To Do Drug Test B4 Marriage -NDLEA by bukatyne(f): 12:34pm On Aug 23, 2020
When only men were taking it, did they do tests for them before marriage abi where is this madness coming from!huh
Family › Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by bukatyne(f): 12:30pm On Aug 23, 2020
crackhaus:
Marry within your social class.

This does not imply that people who are below/above your social strata are not good enough for you, it's just safer and simpler overall to marry someone within the same class – you will neither be a saviour, nor be the saved. grin

And you should be aware that a social class is not based on what you/she earns, because this can easily change in either direction depending on the weather of economics.
A social class factors everything including but not limited to upbringing, family background, educational level/qualifications, etc.
@bold:

Very correct.

I think the definition of social class is important on this thread.

Atiku's daughter fresh from school and jobless at home is in a higher 'social class' than Baba Fukanizer's son who grew up in the village currently earning N300k.

Atiku's jobless daughter marrying Fukanizer's son earning N300k monthly is marrying down.

One can still do slightly up or down.

This is taking out God choosing spouses (for those who believe).
Family › Re: In A Sinful Relationship by bukatyne(f): 12:11pm On Aug 23, 2020
Munzy14:
Not devil, It's simply people going for wants, while neglecting needs.

Devil manipulates on human wants most.
Just on a lighter note jare.

Totally agree with you, one can only be tempted out of the person's desires.
Christianity Etc › Re: Joys Priscilla Oyedepo & Abodunrin Olaleye White Wedding Photos by bukatyne(f): 12:10pm On Aug 23, 2020
Interesting that the Oyedepos walked the child down the aisle instead of the father alone.

God bless their marriage in Jesus name

No social distancing, no face masks, it is well.
Family › Re: In A Sinful Relationship by bukatyne(f): 12:06pm On Aug 23, 2020
Munzy14:
life deviates into irony most times.


A guy and a lady in relationship will be having great sex, but the moment they move to next level(marriage), with time the great sex fades away, where it is needed most.


Not everyone will be lucky to be with the right one.
Honestly, the devil is wicked.

Doing everything to wreck homes.
Family › Re: I Am Tired Of Always Being The One To Initiate Sex With My Wife by bukatyne(f): 12:03pm On Aug 23, 2020
kode12:
You initiate, she does not refuse, you do, she enjoys it. Bros what is the problem now? You enjoy she enjoys, everybody is happy shikena. She just might not be wired to demand for it, or have a lower sex drive than you are, but the fact that she doesn't deny you is great. What if she begins to sleep with jean shorts every night grin grin grin. Try and exercise more and get ripped, maybe when you take off your shirts and she see triceps and arms with all the drip, her engine will start firing grin
grin

crackhaus:
If she's not refusing you, then you have no problem YET... Keep initiating it

You can buy a sëx toy (specifically a vibrator), keep it hidden in a place only you can access. Whip it out on your next session without her knowledge, then use it to tease her (clìtoris & vagìna area) – don't stop until she begs you to have penetrative sex with her.

Is it not begging you're looking for? They always end up begging for penetration when the vibrator tease has reached astronomical levels... don't worry yourself, you don't have problem.
grin Welcome back.

@zaza999, keep talking to her about it.

Another thing you can do is ask her questions when you guys are in bed since she is responsive. 'Do you want me', 'Am I the one making you feel this way', 'I want to hear you call me my name' bla bla.

At least, you still feel desired.
Family › Re: In A Sinful Relationship by bukatyne(f): 11:49am On Aug 23, 2020
Munzy14:
lol, she opened your eye to sweet apples... Just allow her be, she didn't use u [url][/url]anything, she helped your ministry..

Just, like a deflowered lady can't stop getting enough of the man who opened her honey pot.. until it becomes an issue.


Sex is bonding, you guys always forget.

you are married, start seeing ur woman as her, and ur entanglement with her will fade away slowly.... Unless she handles u differently from how your wife does, then u start teaching ur wife how best u love your fantasies.


This life sef, imagine mounting on aunty nneka but na aunty Patricia deh your mind.


Erase what u have with her, and focus on your wife.
Very true.

It is so sad to see that people use it anyhow. It is sadder to see couples not Leverage in the bonding power by denying themselves sex.

This life.
Family › Re: In A Sinful Relationship by bukatyne(f): 11:46am On Aug 23, 2020
@LuvB:

Is your lover's name starting from B?

That was on a lighter note.

What you are experiencing is called a soul-tie that's why she seems to be the only one who completes you. That is why your heart and soul is still invested in her.

As long as you see yourselves, you will keep sleeping together and defiling your marriages.

I would not be surprised if while sleeping with your wife, you call your lover's name or your wife knows your body is with her while your soul is elsewhere.

Is the lady using you, it seems so. Perhaps due to your 'obsession', you are a better lover than her husband so she is enjoying the benefits of marriage to the man while enjoying your ministrations on her body.

You are also using your wife: she is providing you a home so you have the time/emotional resources to galvante with your soul tie.

She married the man because he was financially ready: you married your wife because your obsession was no longer available.

Right now, you are fetching water inside basket by diverting the emotional resources meant for your wife to this lady that cannot yield any fruit.


What is the solution:

You need God to break that soul-tie. Go to Him in repentance for constantly defiling your marriage and ask Him to break that soul-tie and fill your heart with the love of your wife. Pray He restores your marriage (if your wife is still interested).

You might have to change jobs and loose her number (although something tells me you know it by heart).

It is well with you.
Family › Re: In A Sinful Relationship by bukatyne(f): 11:28am On Aug 23, 2020
catwalq:
I thought they said men can have sex without emotions?
Men can have sex without emotions doesn't mean all sex would be without emotions.

And the more the sex partners, the more the ability to have sex without emotions or bond.

The OP has slept with two women if his story captures all his sexual history:, if he married the first woman, his marital/sexual life would have been almost perfect.

As it stands, it almost seems the OP is cheating on his side woman with his wife. cry
Family › Re: In A Sinful Relationship by bukatyne(f): 11:22am On Aug 23, 2020
lilyheaven:
It’s called soul tie , quit your job, look for another job , delete her number and contacts in all your social media accounts.
Re-date your wife.
Time heals all pain
@bold:

Exactly

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