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mutter:
I have an 8 year old son who was diagnosed as autistic and mentally handicapped at age 3.
He didn't talk till age 5 plus.
However now he is on a regular schol and his IQ is above average.
It was a long battle.
Please start by using the teaching aids that interest him.
People criticised me for letting him so long on the computer but that was the way i wsd able to reach him initially.
I have made a video where I spoke about my journey.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0mqUuN5-Q2I

God's healing hands on your son and more grace and strength to carry on. It is well.

Haywhymido:
which one be madam? u be her servant?

Same way the wife says 'meet my Oga'.

@OP:

Some things in this life are just to 'show working' or 'optics'.

While calling your spouse sweet names is very good even ideal, it doesn't necessarily tell us the status or health of the marriage.

Madam or wife, do right by her.

MrBrownJay1:
THOU SHALL NOT DATE/MARRY MAD PEOPLE... and if you foolishly do, dont tempt the animal!

This is on point.

Queenlovely:
on wedding day, everything and anything can go wrong, every after the best preparation, one final hiccup can happen

True.

Murphy's law.

There is almost always something wrong at weddings.

Beautiful story, lovely fast thinking in-laws at both ends.

If the couple have their parent's characteristics, they would do very well.

NtiObaEneke:
I'm curious. How did people survive when there was no social media? Did they like, write letters asking for financial help and send it to newspapers to publish? Or maybe they sent it to radio for announcement? Like in the north, online begging has become a culture unique to the social media era. All you need now is some data and an internet enabled phone.

I don't mean to sound insensitive.I'm just making an unbiased observation. Sincere apologies to anyone who feels insulted.

I had to dig out this comment.

I agree with you.

This OP is talking of a naming ceremony and getting priests to name her child.

I am 100% certain if they contacted those same priests for help, the local parish would raise cash, used items and/or call favors to offset some of their obligations.

It is well.

MZrapper:
Yet you claim you aren't lucky to have a husband? Who on hell is fucking you to birth kids you can't fend for ?

I read your whole quote and this paragraph stood out for me.

Hahahahahahaha!

@online giving of funds: There are a lot of people to reach out to offline.

Lamanii22:
Kiddwaya is so alpha... Wathoni might likely go home tomorrow...

What made him Alpha?

I dont watch the show, just want to know.

culf:
follow your mind, if you can forgive her genuinely, then forgive and move on but if you can't, then no need deceiving her, tell her, involve other family members and find ways to support your children.

if your kids will be staying with her, please try to visit them often aside the financial and material support and make sure you avoid sex with her, very important.

At this rate, the bold is all I can say.

If you believe in prayers, pray. At least, her intent would be revealed to you.

frozen70:
For now, the most important thing is for you to find your bearing

May be, her head is correct now and she has realised how important you are to her before the break up

What she did has threatened your love, trust and peace over her, so you need time to be sure that you are reconciling for good and not to separate again

Meanwhile, your priority is to think of what to do to get yourself back besides don't tell her about the money yet and if she gives you anything like money, don't collect it ask her to add it to the children upkeep

You guys can't even just reconcile without your individual families because it has affected both families indirectly

For now, I suggest you still stay with your mother and let her really feel your absence and when she does, she knows those to contact for you to come back

As for her relationship with the so called colleague, if you want to reconcile with her, she has to promise you that she is done with him and make a call in your presence on a speaker to denounce her relationship with him as she wants to go b ack to her marriage

Having done that, it's now left for you to forgive her

Women, especially married women are not good to he left unattended, forget about pretense but its a fact

This sounded so funny in an off way

meobizy:
My married daughter should see it too?

Acidosis:
Nothing, if you use a condom or contraceptive.

It depends on the believe system of the people involved.

Some believe a cheating wife can kill her husband and kids if she cooks for them;

Some believe a cheating wife would get killed;

Some believe nothing apart from STDs, heartbreak, paternity fraud aka nothing spiritual.

I think it is majorly SS states that have spiritual 'consequences' for a cheating wife. I haven't had such in my side sha apart from Magun (which again is hearsay).

benicta:
I don't think so. Just the same way a guy cannot file a rape case against a lady. He can only file a sexual harassment case.

Right now, a guy can't file for rape in Nigeria?

Interesting.

OLULAW:
Anything goes in Nigeria. In sane climes, yes.

With reference to rape within marriage and relationships, the London Metropolitan states, “Rape within marriage and relationships can also occur. Remember, sex is about consent. If your partner or husband has forced you into having sex with them, this is rape. We treat this as seriously as any other rape or sexual assault.”
SOURCE: https://www.met.police.uk/advice/advice-and-information/rsa/rape-and-sexual-assault/what-is-rape-and-sexual-assault/

If you live in sane climes and you have non consensual sex with your wife or partner, you’re going to prison. When you finish serving the term, depending on your residency status, you’ll be deported. If you’ve naturalised, your career is pretty much over because criminal record and your presence on sex offender register means you’re utterly and totally roasted. You can just jump into the Thames in London, or Clifton suspension in Bristol, Tyne Bridge in Newcastle. Don’t let 3-5 mins of pleasure ruin your life.

Does this law also happen both ways?

Can a man sue his wife/ partner for rape?

Isn't it better a wife pursues divorce than seeking to sue her husband for rape?

Or does she intend to sue him, he serves his sentence and they come back together?

Some people like wahala sha.

Dude has shown you who he is

Take it or leave it.

But sha know that someone who would blame his wife for miscarriages has no thoughtfulness or empathy.

Don't marry him and five years down the line start telling us how he wants you to do all the chores with seven kids, look like figure 8 model while working a 7am - 7pm job and attending church 8 times a week.

Then you nairaland friends would jump all over your post shouting 'men are scum' not knowing you are the real scum who married a scumbag yet expected him not to behave like one.

Vyzz:
On behalf of we Nairalanders...


I, the self acclaimed nairaland chairman...


Thank you miss, Tina001

. May ur data never finish

Iseeeee!

This woman interestingly doesn't look this attractive in random pictures online.

Her face has changed ke.

Motherhood looks good on her.

OdenKelechi:
Someone who's getting married in a few weeks time should be given some time off to prepare for his/her wedding, it's only normal....so if she was still going to work then it means they didn't give her that time off. If they had given her the time off, she won't be on her way to work and this wouldn't have happened...so yes, that's why he's blaming them

When is this time off for Wedding preparations happening weeks later supposed to start?

illicit:
The smell of rain

Very very nice.

Especially the scent of the soil after a few drops of rain

Chii59:
1. If that is so why do rich unmarried /divorced /separated women still receive shame and mockery?
2. Sympathy is not enough to erase stigma. I say it as a person who knows first hand how stigma feels.
3. People can pity you all they want but it won't stop them from stigmatising you.
4. I'm a 100% sure that as usual, she went back to him because of the kids.

1. Stigma is NOT exempted to women who are single (unmarried/divorced/separated) alone. Men who are single are also stigmatized, poor people are stigmatized, too rich people are stigmatized, same with Igbos, Yorubas, Hausas, certain professions, polytechnic graduates, Christians, Muslims, Feminists, Non/anti-Feminists, redpillers, bluepillers, simps, Alphas, tenants, landlords, etc. etc. Almost everyone experiences some sort of stigma. I have single women around me and they are doing fine if well behaved.

2. Refer to point one. Someone laughing at you because you are single might have just experienced stigma renting an apartment. Some of my male colleagues lament how they have to show their employement letters to their landlords to prove they responsible men who can keep up the rent. One even had to send his CV to his landlord.

3. Refer to one and two.

4. Except you know the woman personally, you can't say. If she said she wanted to go back to her husband before the fame, maybe. After? there is more to the story. Besides, if the husband REALLY left because of the blue eyes, then she would be daft to want him back except she can change the eye color. Just tells me there is more to the story.

queenfav:
Avoiding unknown brands is the best.I got their La Mayo Mayonnaise from Next in PH.Let's just say it was so bad tasting,like they added engine oil or sth.Now i am even wondering maybe it's expired.I had to throw it away.Since then,i stick to other trusted brands.

Trusted brands often have a name to protect; they have passed the 'hustling' phase.

Norano:
I don't understand Yoruba, that's why there is a question mark

Well, how do I interpret this in English?

It is a local expression that the side chic is 'too far' from the center of blame.

Norano:
Do you mean the side chick should the blamed?
Was she the one that made a vow with the woman?

Do you understand what 'loun loun' means?

AerialMapper:
Aisha Buhari claimed to have neck pain so that she could travel to shop for Hanan's wedding! Essential travel abi!

All animals are equal but some are more equal than the others

I was going to ask if she went to Dubai to shop or to treat neck pain.

Hmmmmmm.

Anyways, Happy married life to them and Allah bless their home.

Thank God for the Intel.

That's why I try to avoid all these funny brands and always check the expiry date and packages of products.

People would eat, be sick, recover/lose their lives and all the people involved in this would go to bed well at night.

God will continually be protecting us, Amen.

Black American woman, non-Black male.

In the West?

He made the right choice.

Better broken lips than a broken life.

Depends on the stage of life I am on and what my short/ long term goals are.

Happy lefty day

Chii59:
And bear the stigma of a divorced /separated woman for life ba?

What stigma?

The man was already gone: she was already a seperated poor woman.

She would have just elevated to a seperated rich woman which would even garner more sympathy.