₦airaland Forum

miniziter:
Its already 2 years and the husband can't go to work not to talk of bringing money. He can't perform on bed and she has been the one doing the cleaning of all his mess. The most annoying thing is that the family members of the husband despite being okay financially failed to help the family. Now she planning to either stay with the man and have a cumcubine outside or leave the man outrightly. Which do you advise?
NB: They just gave to a child and she's still young. On the way, if she leaves the man, he may not see someone that will take care of him like she used to do.

Mariangeles:
The truth is most Nigerian parents have this strong sense of ownership towards their children, which is very unhealthy.
They want to control everything in the lives of their children even when they've grown to young adults.
Most of them want to know when their children go out, where they are, who they're with, even as far as dictating what to study in the university, which can be very stifling.
Although, it is not all that bad, it would have better if they know where to draw the line.

Mariangeles:
How do you feel looking at these images? If you can't stand the sight of them, then there's a high chance you might be trypophobic.

Me, I was downright disgusted!
It made my hair stand, my skin crawl and filled with goosepimples. Oh my nerves!

Looking at it, I felt itchy all over
You know the worst part? I couldn't stop looking at them and I felt like I wanted to scratch them all so desperately
I swear, if you want to punish me, put me in room full of these images

eazzzy1:
I use to like a decent girl, who’s a freak to just me. Now I realize it’s almost impossible for people to have that dual personality, so I have cancelled the freak part, I settled for decent.

Mariangeles:
This might seem odd

For me, I'd say someone who's mischievously controversial on the outside, but reasonable within.
The nurturer in me likes vulnerable too

Ariza:
Yes She is. However you don't keep doing the same thing same way and expect different result. The old way of doing things isn't that perfect, if it was there wouldn't be need for change.

[b] A woman should be allowed to express herself, broaden her horizon,live a purposeful life , achieve her goals and be very intelligent. However this shouldn't be at the detriment of her home or husband.[/b]Only a petty Man will feel threatened by his wife's achievement. A woman is a Being not a Statue.

Geminita1:
Just look around you. Apart from toxic masculinity which could have been addressed properly, our parents and grand parents were on the right path.

Geminita1:
Nairaland is not a world of its own. Nairaland is the heart of Nigerian men. Better believe them.

Poloyanabo2:
Udonminit!
You mean i can refer to the baby as your ex-child?

Geminita1:
We all know where this mindset of showing of your super intelligence and wisdom before your man leads to. It never ends well for the woman. So many depressed and tired women around, trying to prove what? That they are capable like men. Men are wired to provide and protect so its natural for them to be more intelligent and wiser. If they want to provide, then they would also desire to be the more intelligent ones.

Even if you are the more capable one deep down your man would appreciate if you keep it to yourself so he doesn't feel emasculated. Flexing your intelligence is a masculine thing to do. Women should rest and let men take the lead. Most times, the ancient paths are the right paths.

Rozz:
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LewsTherin:
I don't ask for too much. I simply need my lover to have the complementary opposite plumbing parts to mine.

Shikena

Acidosis:
I've actually been around o

Amen!

Thank you my sister ❤️

oluwaseyi0:
I understand you point but unless they're not living together, it's impossible to hide active asthma for almost a decade

Asthma is not a temporary headache or fever, it doesn't have time table, it can occur even when unprovoked, for doctor to warn the wife to never miss a dose it must be a high risk asthma

The man has no excuse, he's a shame to whatsoever he believes in

oluwaseyi0:
If after staying with an asthma patient for 8 years you didn't know about it you should question yourself if you really deserve to be call a husband and a partner, it shows you are a completely absentia and unless man. The woman deserves something better

I won't be surprised if on your daughter wedding day is when you will discover you child has been asthmatic all along, but deadbeat absentia father like you can't be in the know of such obvious things

Dobson43:


If there was a evidence of her cheating, then she has a case to answer. If she had a case sexually transmitted disease, you have grounds to question her fidelity. If she decides not to share a history of her ailment, it's terrible but it's not grievous as such.

Call her and have a heart to heart talk.

Acidosis:
The expression


Sometime ago.... Last month

Mariangeles:
Oops!
It might will.

Anticipating the thread...

Mariangeles:

Just create one... it'll might be interesting

There's always something to learn, derailment regardless.

Gforce2015:
Sound desperate...because ladies are the advocate of elaborate weddings.

Acidosis:
No, it is not a MUST.


You're the church, you can bless your own marriage. You can also talk to your pastor to come and bless your marriage at your chosen location. But make sure you attend a small church to have this done. Adeboye or Oyedepo would not leave Ota to come bless your marriage in your house.



The most important thing is that you seek the consent of both parents/families, pay your rites, and back it up with the law.



Traditional wedding completes a marriage traditionally.



What kind of papers? The only recognized paper is that issued by a recognized/licensed magistrate. Any other paper is technically useless.



Answered above



Something bad would surely happen if you marry a wrong spouse. For example, a spouse that tells you to avoid white wedding because he or she wants you to stop going to church, praying, serving your God, or abandoning your faith. This may result in clashes and everyday war in your home. So ask yourself, to why are you avoiding the white/church wedding?




Is this about wearing a white gown or going to church? I didn't do a church wedding but my wife wore a white gown. What do you want? White that can be worn for the registry or a regular photoshoot or your pastor's blessings/traditional wedding that can be done in your home, just as I had mine in my spouse's family house (of course with any attire or regalia you so desire?)

Who says a woman must wear the wedding gown ONLY to the church, even now that churches are closed?



I think NOTHING. I'm a man.



Doesn't really matter who owns the culture. European or not, the typical magistrate in Nigeria (including those in the villages) expects the woman to wear a wedding gown for joining.




What the church expects is that your marriage should be legally binding. Churches work hand in hand with the registry. If your church is licensed by the ministry of interior, then a church may insist you hold your wedding in the church.

However, if your aim of pursuing a traditional wedding is to gain an advantage for an easy exit out of your marriage or marry another woman based on traditional principles, then the church has the right to abandon you and your spouse.

Mariangeles:
It'll make an interesting topic of discussion don't you agree?

Naijabad:
This is technical knockout

Mariangeles:
The question is can a man marry a woman who he knows is more intelligent and wiser than him? I've always wondered...

Geminita1:
Are you a woman or a man? What the op pointed out is the truth for all generations. With your mindset you will age quickly because you would have a lot of burden to carry.

Mariangeles:

How were you able to register a new account with an existing monicker?

sassysure:
Go and learn how to cook.
Mtcheew.

Wonder if cooking is the only thing women can do.

Best world chefs are men.

Your blokos will not burn if you enter kitchen.