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Ishilove:
It was a sarcastic comment. There are some questions that people are not supposed to ask

Ishilove:
A badly behaved woman who can cook for kings. You will use the food to comfort yourself.

LordKO:
You'll not make a good member of the Order.

Unnerve:
Everyone in Nigeria who isn't a Muslim, is a Christian.
An atheist who married/will marry inside a church, is a Christian, a fake one but still a Christian nonetheless, lol

And the above is probably why this argument you guys have been having continues to drags on, not just on the internet, but also in our social life.

True Christians know exactly what submission means. Problem is, there aren't many true Christians anymore, just title holders.

LordKO:
Don't mind Uju.joan. She and I, including Poc.ohantas and some others too numerous to mention, are members of an Order offhandedly called "Woke-Christian." Actually, we don't belong and practice the same Christianity people like you and Bukatyne practices, even though some do identify as true Christians and some others do not identify with any religion.

In our Order, majority enjoy exercising liberty on the periphery of decorum but still feel entitled to enjoy the benefits true Christians who exercise their own liberty within the confine of decorum enjoy, unfortunately minority members are opposing such idea thus the quasi-fracas you have witnessed here. Anyway, we are doing everything possible to put our house in order.

One who stirs up a hornet's nest is called a preacher in the Order. As a preacher, my goading word is submission; whenever I intentionally wish to stir up a hornet's nest, I look for where someone drops it and fuel a fracas by dissecting and extrapolating it in accordance with the rules of the Order.

Unnerve:
I'm just thinking out loud

If indeed the requirement for submission from a wife is love from her husband, why then do women who claim to be Christians only submit completely to a man with money and not the man who loves them like God loves the church?

Biglittlelois:
The dream can mean anything, e.g she might be pretending right now to be in your good book in order to get married, and later on, when the going is good and things becomes bad all of a sudden, the mask will fall off, and after so many evils, she will up and leave,

And for your first gf, you both may not see eye to eye because you are currently not on same page, that doesnt mean she still doesnt love you and want to be with you, she just can't hide who she is, and this may be heavens way of telling you to be patient and not get married in a hurry to the 2nd, just wait patiently and pray, who knows, fate may bring you and your first together.

P.S this is solely my candid opinion, nothing more.

ImaIma1:
Too many bad belle people around

UjuJoan2:
How is 'submission' putting the husband first? Even when he is clearly making a mistake? Sometimes you need to save a man from himself even at the risk of being termed querulous. That, I think, is truly putting him first.

There is no superiority in a marriage so why assign the role of submission to one person. Shouldn't that even be a role borne by both parties?

Love should be mutual in a marriage and submission should be eradicated.

ImaIma1:
Ubiak? Unieghe ufan? Kuyadesit, Ka ke yem ake mfo.

HiFreda:
Thanks for the hair tip.
I'll try it out.

Ishilove:
While you have spoken with a wisdom beyond your years, the op is a poster boy for the sexual immorality rocking this generation of youths. I don't pity him. He must carry his cross. The men here are excusing their lack of self control to preek not having 'manners' so let him bear the consequences of his preeks mannerlessness.

Irresponsible yoot

UjuJoan2:
I don't think the word submission should be used in a marriage because I think marriage should be a partnership (or at least people in a marriage should be partners like oga KO said )

The idea that automatically a woman has to defer to the authority of the husband because he is superior just rubs me off the wrong way. Especially since most families are living in terrible conditions because the man feels it's his God-given right to lead, even when be has failed woefully at it and the wife would probably do better if given the chance

UjuJoan2:
Semantics . . . .

Why not find a word for what you are describing, rather than using 'submission'.

You can't change the meaning of a word based on wishful thinking.

Mariangeles:
First of all, who approached who?
Secondly, immediately he found out she was Yoruba and could not date her, why did he not move on instead of leading her on and letting her grow feelings for him? She wasn't good enough to date but good enough to be friend zoned?

Hanty Bukky e wo, emi o l'agbara lati lo siwaju ati eyin bayi o e joo

Mariangeles:
How so please?
That I put it to him straightforward based on his initial narrative? I am not the type to beat around the bush you know that.
It was good of him to clarify too.

Unnerve:
True, & takes us back to that thread about men learning to say NO to sex even if offered on a platter.

Klass99:
Lol, is this girl well at all?

Did you not receive the memo that for men, sex is only a physical act with no feelings attached?

Or the memo which says that third leg is as useless as the b in debt? And it controls the ones who don't want to learn self control or discipline?

Your comment cracked me up and starting it with Brother Ollins was just something else.

You remind me of our Sunday school Aunty who we didn't like to see on a Sunday evening, when all we wanted to do was swim in the club's pool house.

@ OP, I have never been with anyone I didn't like, so I have no experience to share

ImaIma1:
I guess sex happened or she just fell pregnant.

If not, why get intimate with someone you can't seem to stand.

Mariangeles:
For you to understand people and why act the way they do, you'd first have to put yourself in their shoes.
There are reasons why people act the way they do, and only a few people can understand that.
Something that is obvious to you might be oblivious to others.
Having an experienced person to guide us through life so that we don't make the mistakes that they made is a blessing and also an advantage. Not everyone has that.
For a girl like that who barely has a family, no mum to advise and guide her through, do you expect her to just know these things?
Buka, you need to always look deeper into situations, put yourself in the shoes of those involved before you judge.

sassysure:
Maybe from somebody she looked up to like parents or siblings. Nothing erodes self confidence like when your parents tell you that u are not good, bright, smart enough or when they compare you with others. It kills.
Or when u show preferential treatment. Damn!

Stargurl20:
I have no disability. Alhamdullilah. But you know no one is perfect....so people say things

Unnerve:
Funny question, but not surprising coming from a woman. Lol

You don't understand the unique electrical impulses of a man's brain. Most men don't need to believe a woman is great or the best before sticking it into her.
The problem usually begins when he gets carried away by how good the sex was and then marries her just because of it, e.g the OP

faithfull18:
Please, help us ask oh.

You choose to love, it's a decision.

Unless you mean you aren't sexually attracted to her anymore but I am sure you were when you were flinging upandan

Stargurl20:
Negative words being said about me since I was a child.


I was really bullied as a child not just by my peers alone, but also the adults

Ketone01:
your friend is the enemy of your enemy

AfroKnight:
End of discussion

Mariangeles:
For a girl in that situation, you wouldn't blame her. She was probably vulnerable.
Also, she might have probably thought he was hesitant because of her educational level..."maybe if I furthered my education, I'll be good enough for him"
He knew he had no intentions of ever starting a relationship with her, yet he kept her.

Ishilove:
Don't mind him. He wanted to chop and clean mouth but e hook am for throat.

Aderewah:
Lol. In our time, our dream was just a bicycle. Phones were for adults not to talk of iPhone. Materialism and dependence on technology for happiness is now being ingrained from early ages.