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Ishilove:
Morning darling. Yes, I do. It's a reality that man's disbelief will not change.

crackland:
This Buka issa lovergirl.

I can't really name a favourite song off the top of my head cos depending on my mood, any of the over 2000 songs on my playlist can instantly become a favourite.

For me to have any song saved, it was once a favourite and they span across genres.

crackland:
Listen to this song Bukatyne, let me know the feeling it evokes in you.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SiycqP-kCKE

ImaIma1:
This has been the problem in many homes. Money is the basis of authority and control. Money! Money!! Money!!!

In this family, it is obvious that it is only the person who brings in the money that has a say in that matter. Their foundation is obviously wrong.

dingbang:
https://www.nairaland.com/3400501/people-please-mercy-me-before

This or not this

JahBwoy:
Put me in your prayers

CAPSLOCKED:
REPENT, BELIEVE, OR GO TO HELL IS WHAT?
YOU CAN ONLY CONTINUE TO WALLOW IN SELF DECEIT.

JahBwoy:
'Wow!!! nice one!!

Ekwutox:
Really? Can you kindly explain how that verse below which clearly talked about provision for the household suddenly became "male provision for widows"

potbelly:
Yuzedo's favorite

CAPSLOCKED:
THE WORD AND THE WILL OF THE CHRISTIAN GOD IS NOT WHAT THE ENTIRE WORLD POPULATION SHOULD LIVE BY.

JUST LIKE ARSENAL, MANCHESTER UNITED, CHELSEA AND THE REST, THAT IS HOW CHRISTIANITY AND THE OTHERS ARE. OPTIONS.

Ybaby:
If the man has paid the school fees of his children why is the wife selling trinket to pay this same school fees?

@elifeonline Advise men to pay school fees so the children will not see their mother sell her trinket to educate them because of they do - the man is going to eat his night food ewa agoyin and palm oil.

Treat your wife well so that when the kids say mummy come she will say me and my husband are coming.

Treat your children well so they will say my daddy suffered for me I must look after him

If you donot sow school fees and shelter you will eat ewa agoyin in old age.

Cause and effect

LordKO:
LOL, you won't know the kind of bullet and it won't be your portion. Meanwhile, every wannabe woke person is a Woke-Christian, regardless of their belief system.

Dtruthspeaker:
That is what the Bible is telling us A BAD PERSON CAN NEVER GO AGAINST HIS FELLOW BAD MAN, THEY ARE IN THE SAME PEOPLE, DOING THE SAME THING.

IT IS ONLY A GOOD PERSON THAT CAN DESTROY A BAD PERSON.

AND THAT IS WHY A BAD PERSON CAN NEVER EVER ALLOW A GOOD PERSON REPLACE HIM, FOR HE MUST BE DESTROYED BY THE GOOD PERSON BECAUSE OF THE BADNESS HE HAS DONE.

ELSE THE GOOD PERSON WILL NOT BE A GOOD PERSON IF HE DOES NOT DESTROY BADNESS AND BADNESSES!

THAT IS WHAT THE BIBLE IS CLEARLY TELLING US!

Flexherbal:
God bless you, my friend.

Openbusiness3:
1. I never said a father should put himself first over his family. I can't do that. I won't do it. I put my sons first, I love them too much. Can't count how many times I went to bed hungry and weak just so I can put food in their mouth. Can't count the number of times I would eat once a day just so they can eat anytime they are hungry. I have forfeited things, gotten indebted, begged, crawled, scratched, swallowed ego, done things I never thought I would ever do for anyone just to be a good father to them. So this matter isn't about a father not wanting to sacrifice.

2. This matter is about good fathers getting shut out of their children's lives when the harvest is ripe. It happens a lot, for different reasons too many to start talking about.

3. So the OP is advising fathers to prepare for any eventuality, so they won't sink into depression and die as miserable frustrated sorrowful old men in their last days. That fathers should have a plan for themselves and put a little something away for themselves.

4. Because often that not, as the days go by once the "dynamo of their lives" have been set in motion by good father who spent his best years making it happen, many are just left alone, with that subconscious idea that he is a man na, he can take care of himself.

5. No, men need care too, especially after going through the toughest roughest battles of life to ensure the next generation are better off than where you were, than the best place you ever reached as a man. But many times, it looks like a case of 'use and dump', and sometimes, it is even worse when history is now "re-written" for the children and some good fathers are re-painted as absentees, yet they bore a lot of the dues that was paid.

6. That's why you see many elderly men separating from their wives at old age and marrying younger girls. Many times, it is not about sex or lust. It is about companionship. The "old family" has abandoned him to himself and pushed him away with that "we don't need you anymore attitude".

7. So he gets a younger girl (gold digger or not), that makes him feel special and wanted and gives him the companionship he desires to keep mind, body and soul together

Flexherbal:
Hmmmmm!

Most religious people.

Thank you, my friend.

oluwaseyi0:
Not necessarily, good leaders don't write it on their forever until they get to the position

Political leaders are just employee, you can only be careful to some extent

If you employ a bad employee, you simply fire him/her, same thing with leaders you simply force them to step down by insulting the daylight out of them

Some need that insult to do the right things, without insult African leaders are dictators

Dtruthspeaker:
Choose good people, they would not, reject the bad people presented, they would not. Find your own good people and protect him from bad people so that the good person can be put in office, no they do not.

That is why we would continue to get bad leaders as leaders in this country unless God makes them make a mistake.

But you guys are never going to do anything about it.

LordKO:
The advice is only suitable for men who have dysfunctional homes or those who hope to have dysfunctional homes.

The biggest dummy ever sold to this wannabe woke generation is that human beings are inherently self-absorbing and that individually one needs to remain self-absorbing in order to be safe and prosperous. Well, what's true is that human beings are inherently just and need to take to conscientiousness in order to remain safe, prosperous and fair.

As a man, and by extension husband and father, major bulk of the family functionality or otherwise of it lies on your desk. Strive to conquer yourself without striving to conquer others, and love others without hating yourself.

Working based on the postulation above, the onus is on you to be conscientious, marry a conscientious woman and be the best you can be to her manifesting it through your altruistic actions and equally be the best you can be to your offspring and manifesting it through your altruistic actions too - reciprocation from them will be automatic. If the wife, however, one day decides to join Woke-Christian gang, a single bullet or something similar can do the magic.

The golden rule is sacrosanct.

Dande55:
The men being rejected were never good to their wives and kids. They, just like you lots, believe that they are polygamous in nature, they treated their own wife so badly, cheated on her, some were stingy with money, it was the wife who oversaw all their children school expenses and feeding. Then, when the man starts getting old and bankrupt, when no woman outside will look at him cos he's weak and broke, the man will now turn to the wife and kids he neglected and treated badly.
Some kids and wives forgive, some don't.

So, stop whining and treat your kids right. I've also seen women being rejected by their kids cos they all experienced how badly their mothers were to them when they were small.

Even you men come here to whine on how you will place your mother's above your wife, these kind of sentiment is prompted cos your fathers never gave you and your mothers the love and care you guys deserve. Then, when y'all grow, you lean towards your mothers cos of the sacrifices she made for you guys. Then, your own wife will start feeling dejected and not taken care of, your children grows up and start leaning towards their mothers and start treating you badly, same way you treated their mothers. They also vow never to give equal love to their future wives, they vow that their mothers will take greater percentage of their love and care and so So, the cycle continues.

You men who vowed never to treat your wives with much love and care will still come here to start complaining about the treatment you get in your old age.
You are simply reaping what you sowed. If you treat your wife and kids well, they will return same to you.

My fiancè just got a car for his father, it showed the father performed his fatherly love and care well, thereby, he's reaping the fruit of his Labour from his children in his old age.
Please, stop writing rubbish after treating your wife as second option, cheating on her and not paying your kids school fees, you have the guts to whine.

oluwaseyi0:
Yes we should be licking their asses while they insult us with crumbs or nothing

That's what the northern leaders told their people, see where they are today

Flexherbal:
The reason I asked it that way, is because most Christians see that position as the only Christian position for sex.

Thanks for your response.

Jephyard:
All these write up is un-neccesary and much of a burdle to our mind and health irrespective we all want to make heaven. Marry early to reduce all form of sexual sin.
Since the economy is not smiling the church should find away to make marriage easier to do. Like the JW ( Jehovah Witness) do theirs or just like the hausa do their marriage.

Flexherbal:
A very harmless question:

Did the bible state that it is only mission position of sex that is recommended for a Christian?

majamajic:


The man has no option !

Money is good

Openbusiness3:
maybe because you're a woman, you may not relate well with what the OP said. But what he said is quite weighty and true. I'm a father so I know how it is. And I'm also a son, and I know how things are with my old man in his 70s. But it's not a discussion to argue on, else a can drum of worms will be open. May we no shake dis table abeg. Either take what he said or leave it. Good fathers are the unsung heroes in this world, many end up unappreciated or abandoned. If he is rich, then he might not feel it much or opt for a younger wife for companionship to keep him company because he's not getting that from his family again, but if he's poor then he will sink into depression like an old lion with a broken teeth, too old to fight, and just sits there thinking of the painful years when he gave it all for his family and waiting for the day he dies a lonely broken soul. Fathers I salute you

Freestainworld:
all these long drama can be avoided if you marry the right woman, give your children, apart from quality education, but position their mindset on the positive side of life, no matter how you want or wish to prepare for your old age, someone will still be around to take care of you, money can't buy everything but doing the right thing can save your face in tomorrow.

dominique:
See as they open book of Lamentations early momo Sunday

Most men neglected by their kids have selective amnesia on when they were overly aggressive on their in the name of discipline, when they treated their wives like trash in the presence of their kids. A wise virtuous woman must take all sorts of suffering from her husband and must remain submissive ko? Guess who witnesses all of the sufferings? The virtuous kids! Virtuous wife grows old with bitterness in her heart, towards her husband, by then husband would have "repented" and wants the wife he treated badly to treat him with love and affection. Kolewerk!

My dad was strict when I was young but overall he wasn't a bad father. As close as we are to our mum, there's absolutely no way she can successfully poison our minds towards our dad because we can SEE that he's a good dad though he's strict.

Why not marry a good woman, treat her right, bond with your kids well and let's see if they will push you away in your old age when you need them most