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Munzy14:
I doubt this. Especially when a tendency of re-occurrence is there.

Spoken words penetrate deeper than knife.


He is using the best way to punish her for what she did to him. Just my type of man.


She is getting hurt anytime he rejects her gift and it massages his ego...

If forgiveness will come, it will be years to come.

chlowi:
As in way off. i couldnt see it to the end ...

pcguru1:
Yeah I noticed that, people conflate feminism , 3rd wave feminist and e-feminism together.

Ekwutox:
Any man that cannot provide for his family is an infidel. This is according to the Bible most of you believe in.

He would be respected based on how he undertakes his God given traditional role based on the Bible anything less, then he should accept displeasure from his wife because it's only normal for any human being whether male or female to act out when they are overburdened yet are still expected to submit.

pcguru1:
Actually a feminist would split the bill so she's not a feminist she is a traditional woman

Ohemababy:
Thanks maam

chlowi:
lol it is now called entanglement

J111333:
This is one of the reasons you've always had my respect here.

Mike008:
Its what humility does.
Nothing wrong about that.

Ladylite:
Get your own place in a cool quiet estate. It's money you need.

FemiEddy:
Don't mind the noise makers. They are not following the Bible. Many are not.

But you, when you pray, go into your room, and having shut your door, pray to your Father who is in the secret place. And your Father who sees in secret shall reward you openly. “And when praying, do not keep on babbling like the nations. For they think that they shall be heard for their many words. Therefore do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him.
Mattithyahu (Matthew) 6:6‭-‬8

Where I live is silent, when I pray, I don't even shout because I am my brother's keeper, I know I would disturb. My neighbors, sometimes when I get carried away, I reduce the tempo, if I wan fire, common sense will tell me to go to mountain top.

The thing is, some people see all those Paparazzi has making them holy or better than others and sadly, na scam. There is a difference between religion (all religions) and Knowing one's maker. Christianity is a religion that has diluted the knowledge of Men.

No vex.
Shalom

rockstarB:
My Christian neighbour is currently having a choir rehearsal in his apartment right now, this is what he does on weekends. Playing electric piano while his wife and church members sings to it. My room is adjacent his parlour so it's like he is playing it right inside my own room
It's been few years since he moved in with his wife and two kids and ever since I hardly ever sleep without their morning devotion intruding my sleep.
This woman prays on top of her voice like they live solely in the compound, I even have a recording of one of her sessions from two weeks back. I really dont know how to deal with this.
I sleep early sometimes and because of that I tend to wake up around the time their morning devotion will kick start, and I dont get to sleep again afterwards.
God didnt ask us to disturb our neighbours with prayers, it is called hypocrisy in the bible.
I have not said anything over the years so I wont be seen as an anti christ in some sort of way. Every morning na "die by fire" "announce their obituary"
And when she isnt praying or playing electric piano, other noise from neighbourhood no go let person ear rest. Noise pollution is really a thing in this country, except you can afford to live in a really quite estate.
For a quite person like me this is one of valid reasons to to want to relocate outside this country, to a saner clime. No noise from generator, or grinding machine, or a random CD seller jamming a song to attract customers, or religious houses blasting away from their megaphone, the list is endless

Ohemababy:
Am here to learn

I wont lie I have made such mistake in the past until I realised that it really hurt my husband to have said anything of such. In my own case i said it in the presence of his relative and the housemaid. As if i spent any serious money sef o.

Since then he has stopped accepting gifts, birthday gifts contributions to the house or anything. Either he pays back immediately or outright returns it like he did the birthday gift.

I feel bad about this and never again would I openly talk about any contribution I made to anything whatsoever.
Besides financially speaking am no where near him.

I av come to learn that men cherish respect a lot. Even if you don't respect him privately. Where there are people around treat him like a king and see how he treats you also.

GMBuhari:
If he resists the urge to shalaye about his catching skills, maybe some good things will come his way

The african in france who climbed up 3 stories to save a dangling baby didn't say he was a palmwine tapper or a monkey

acknowledge the deed and receive the thanks with humility

Lucyspa:
God bless you for saying the truth.. Yoruba men only marry financially stable women, they most times don't care beauty. I know this because i live in Akure and i see this a lot. I attended big schools and most of my classmates have mothers who were divorced or married but still paying all the bills. Most of these women were very rich too with financially unstable men. Sometimes, i wonder how u guys cope and on top of that, the man will still cheat. Yoruba women are hustlers and hard working while their men are not men enough. I really dont like yoruba men but i dont hate them either just that their attitudes towards life and family is not great.

etrange:
Lol... Would you still blame pretty ladies who believe every man is only interested in thier physical appearance? I guess it's human nature. Even me, when I bought my first iPhone, every body became a suspect.

At the end, we shouldn't let whatever we have turn into a source of anxiety. To have peace of mind, trust your partner till they prove not to be trustworthy.

bootyeater:
some guys don't understand this sha. all the time they want sex. sez drains the life force of men.

have you asked yourself why its impossible for a guy to satisfy 6 girls at the same time and yet its very possible for a girl to satisfy 6, guys at the same time?

men are donors, women are recipients.

everything in life is built on this truth. money, love, power. even sex.

the reason why women gravitate towards the kind of men you described up there is because women are energy vampires, to put it bluntly.

they sense energy and are attracted to it akin to how a bee is attracted to a flower.

retaining your semen pools energy in your system. the more semen you retain, the higher your energy vibe gets.

women unknowingly and subconsciously sense this vibe and try to tap from it.


these are some hidden truths

needanswer:
you may be wondering, what advice am I referring too?

I'll get to that quickly but first a brief detour.
It is common knowledge guys have 20 times more testosterone than ladies.
testosterone is that hormone that makes men sex chasers and sex initiators, but it is more than that. it also gives men our manly characteristics at puberty, the muscles, the beard, the deep voice etc.

a failure to check mate the hormone makes men hot and chase after ladies for the fun of it or either for sex. dopamine and oxytocin does the opposite and involves more of love.

you should also note, ladies due to a lower testosterone level do not have that same drive to chase the opposite sex but there is a twist. ladies enjoy sex more than guys, before you argue here are reasons.
ladies can last way longer than guys during sex. this is evident by the fact that most ladies don't orgasm as fast as guys. ladies can go multiple rounds than a guy can ever handle. when it also comes to sex, most times for the guys is just elevated testosterone at work and after orgasm they don't feel anymore love for the female. but for ladies it involves much more than testosterone at play (except she is a runs girl), it is much deeper. it involves a combination of at least 3 hormones at play, dopamine, oxytocin, testosterone etc. so there is more emotional and physical connection for them.

now to the advice from ladies guys should listen to . ladies want to express themselves in dress and grooming anyhow they feel comfortable in, be it sexy or modest. it's their body after all. is this moral? that is not the point but guys should embrace it with open arms.

you see as guys the more you learn how to master you testosterone urge for sex, the better a man you become in every way.
firstly you will no longer have 2 heads but one correct head, which will help you in decision making. things like rape allegations will be few- few becomes some ladies are still capable of a false allegations but few all the same.
secondly your masculinity will increase by a great fold, chasing decreases male masculinity, you most times lose value and respect in the eyes of such ladies when not reciprocated(especially for those that never take NO for an answer, that's toxic masculinity) while the art of seduction builds up your masculinity.
thirdly, guys who are not controlled by testosterone drive for sex will realize that the power of the females bodies over them has greatly diminished( they will still like ladies but in the appropriate way) in turn their value in female eyes will increase. Those kind of guys get asked out more often by females (if not by words by action) than the conventional guys or the chase is made very easy for them as there is already an emotional connection she feels for him. they also tend to stay longer in relationships as their spec are rare.

add good or average looks to the picture and a steady source of income and you are a hot cake!

these are just few reasons, more exist. guys change your mindset and you change the game.

Clinghton:
There is a relationship with snake among them.

nero2face:
misbehave to ur husband and u see him marry two at once...u think this is theory

TheOtherRoom:
I am posting this with my moniker instead of opening a new account. Now I understand what it means to be a woman who's husband lost his means of lively hood.

2 years ago, 2018 January, I had to settle down with my girlfriend because she got pregnant for me. My family was really against my choice of settling with her due to religion bases and financial grounds. I was brought up in a Christan home even though my name has a familiar Islamic name. But here I am with a daughter of an Islamic preacher.
Even her father was vehemently against our Union. That period came with a lot of drama and insult I had to deal with. Since I settled down with her, my family has turned against me. My blood brother nolonger pick up my call nor reply my Whatsapp. It got to an extent his wife was the one picking my calls. I can't actually blame her because the message was loud and clear. When I reported him to my father, he dropped the call on me.
My mom doesn't act towards me like she used too before. Even my dad too. I don't know if my choice was so bad that they couldn't accept me and my wife and kid irrespective of the background.

On my wife's part, her mother used to visit atimes except the father. Whenever we go to visit her dad, the man tries to excercise some patience but I can tell he is really unhappy with the daughter or specifically me. I remember late 2018 I bought somethings for him and even sent him some money but he rejected it and I really felt bad.
In June 2019, i lost my job and i was back to square zero. I keep tryin to put the memories of how it happened into play but it's all disjointed. Since then, my wife's mother used to support us even though her family isn't that bouyant. My own family has at no time even risen to help me in any way. I am being treated like an outcast.

Since I lost my job, the respect my wife accorded me has significantly reduced. Atimes when she starts her fight, I start thinking maybe my family was right, maybe I really made a mistake. Atimes I have to go and stay at football viewing centers just to make sure I come home late to avoid unnecessary arguments.

I really don't blame her, How do you respect a man that can hardly feed himself talkless of his child's mother. The little I make from random jobs isn't even enough to feed the baby properly. So last week, the caretaker incharge of our house came to tell me to move out this month, 23rd,if I am not going to renew the rent. The worst part was that he said it in the presence of my neighbor and my wife. I have exceeded my rent by 3 months already because I was able to speak with the own of the house.

Since I have been living with my wife, I have never seen her so sober. I picked my phone and inform my mom what was going on but I was surprised she could still turn her back on us. They said they took loan for something (I don't doubt it and I don't believe it). My wife suggested that the best option is to go back to her parents with her baby for the time being. God knows I can't afford to part with my child and wife at this point.. I don't even know where to look upto too for help.
Nairalaners I have come to you for help. Instead of opening a new account to o solicit for help, I have swallowed my pride and I am using my main moniker to post this. I have been able to raise just 14k

Vyzz:
All this talk about who is at fault and who isn't no dey necessary now...


The man shouldn't have slapped or touched the woman


The woman suppose close her mouth... Some women can kill your ego with just words... Their badmouthing no be here and man no fit follow woman the badmouth... Na rubbish...


So both of them did wrong and that's a draw....


Now this my brother wan go fight to the death because of something we them suppose settle like man....


Bro, calm down...

The man Don beat all your family members... Don't go and complete the list

sassysure:
Your wife disrespected you by fighting outside.
U don't have any business with that man. You would have had business with him if he slapped your wife and she didn't retaliate. As long as she fought the man back( what was she thinking) case dismissed.

Deal with your wife. Let the man be. Silence is golden.

The man will come and apologise to you.


Don't start what u can't finish because of emotions and useless male pride.

BigJoe19:
To the poster above, comtinue making useless mouth, if Anthony Joshua beat your wife go fight am na e go use blow design your life, people like you fear just intimidation but una go come here dey form van Damme.