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LeRabbite:
Lol. Adura a gba

Numero9:
Well, I've realized a few things in my early 20s. Most of us at some point in our lives were practically foolish only to learn through time (as we grow older) and experience. Mine below;

1. At 18, everybody craves for SeX. Some control thier urges till marriage, but the majority loose it along along the way (before marriage).

2. Everyone craves for appreciation and attention.

3. Seduction and flirting is fun, until someone unattractive is doing it to you.

4. With the increasing number of breakups in relationships, I think alot of people jump into it for selfish reasons.

5. If you give in your all in a relationship, you'd end up making the other person emotionally lazy!

6. Religion is man-made.

7. It's easier to find to find a girl/guy to flirt with. But difficult finding a partner to settle down with.

This are some of mine.....what's yours?

ikh777:
major one

NEVER REVEAL EVERYTHING YOU HAVE LEARNED

apprentist:
Hello NLers
This is a serious matter so I will appreciate very kind advice please.

I met my girl last mid last year and we started dating officially this year. We both work and earn and we were already in talks with her parents and mine to tie the knot this year. Most of our plans are looking sketchy now because of the COVID-19 pandemic and restriction of movement around. Making it impossible to go to her state or mine.

Early this month she used a pregnancy home test kit after she noticed some body changes and it came out positive. We both love ourselves madly but I am still not sure of the step to take now.

1. Should I go ahead and abort (sincerely, this scares me)
2. Should we keep the baby? Considering we're both financially earning. (But if we do, how do we go about the marriage rites with all these lockdown in Nigeria)

Pls NLers I need your advice. Presently I asked her move in with me due to her health as already mentioned. Please help

LeRabbite:
If I deserve it bawo. I absolutely do.

Thanks for the reluctant prayer though.

crackkhaus:
She's a mirror image of her mum, the behavioural similarities are too strong to ignore.

The kind of madness that will make a 17yr old slap anyone who is much older than she is, has to be imbedded in her DNA.
Being brainwashed or being a 17yr old does not cause this kind of madness.

She's already being abusive, it's hoepreneurship that's remaining.

crackkhaus:
There's nothing, really.. I'm still thinking

Maybe you can help by listing some things you think a man would not let a female professional handle around him, let me check something..

LeRabbite:
I’ve done calculations that’s why I’m still single. I really don’t want to get married but I want kids so I’m willing to consider getting married if I find someone I think ticks the right boxes. I’m also willing to go the surrogate route if I don’t find that person after a stipulated time

Eni333:
I am really tired of my marriage, my husband rarely stay at home, he just comes back to sleep and take his bath. He leaves as early as 6 to 7am and comes back by 12 or 1 in the night. Even in this lockdown, I see other men spending time with their families but my husband would leave as early as 6am and come back late. Any time I complain he would beat me up, he barely keeps money for me and my 2 kids. My elder brother is the one sending me money for my upkeep. My mother is telling me to endure it would get better one day.
My husband even carry girls around, there is one bar near our street my husband takes his girlfriends there. He doesn't care about my feelings.
I am thinking of leaving after this lockdown, my elder brother is asking me to come back that he would start a business for me, I am tired of enduring.

Bigflamie:
. All these nairaland new accounts that pops out with Zeeworld stories

LeRabbite:
Congrats on your marriage. But what would you advise for us old men looking to marry but don’t even have anyone yet?

LeRabbite:
I also think young marriages are best. The innocence and purity with which a young marriage is approached tends to make it easier to weather many storms that mature, but over-calculative partners may not be able to recover from.

Of course, marrying late may have its advantages, but I think there’s a certain bond that growing together creates that can’t be replicated when already grown partners come together.

LeRabbite:
And believe me many are not even paying that 5k either out of malice, negligence or simply inability. True, also, due diligence is most important.

Truth is most people are simply selfish, hence, the many marital problems that pop up. Per OP’s reluctance to marry in the courts, perhaps he’s had past bad experiences personally or by proxy.

I think past a certain age or certain milestones in life, getting a partner who truly loves or you believe you becomes more difficult.

sweetyinks:
Hello Nairalanders,
Can anyone most especially the male advise me on how to make my husband open up. He does not play,joke or talk at home and which is not his usual characteristic from beginning of our marriage.
I am fed up of his characteristics and i wish I had an extra marital affair but my faith and conscience won't just let me.
Kindly advise me on how to make him talk.

2cul2care:
I can relate

crackkhaus:
I can't think of any professional service I wouldn't want someone of the opposite sex for...

*Still thinking*

Can't come up with any for now, it's like I'm not sexist afterall.

crackkhaus:
Bukatyne doesn't trust herself, she will get turned on.

Fhemmmy:
Leave my sister from another mother alone oh . . . OYO for you oh

sisisioge:
Yes o....I love male hair dressers, they tend to be better at the job. I'm my own tailor, I get free massages from whoever is offering regardless of sex...I'm fine with all sexes handling whatever services so long as I am not required to show my entire birthday suit.

faceURfront:
Nope. Kini big deal. Infact, it would be fun

sisisioge:
I no vex...let him not spoil the fun of the thread

sisisioge:


Haba nau...you remind me of a friend who fell for her hairdresser

nautybride:
1. I am never comfortable with any profession that touches my body. Designers, whichever one, even doctors. A guy made my hair once upon a time and he was touching my scalp in one manner I can't explain. I endured that hair making.

faceURfront:
Absolutely nothing! Maybe it is because a man's brain is wired to receive care from a woman.

Fhemmmy:
Will be nice for us to know why you are comfortable or uncomfortable, is it for personal preference or because of your partner?

sisisioge:


This should be fun. Any service that requires that I go totally nuuuude to get done or the ones where they look inside inside things .

For instance, it was a bad experience when I was made a medical guinea pig back then in school. The yeye boys kept pressing my booobs trying to identify the difference between the lump that comes with booobs and any foreign ones. They just kept coming at it. Since then...no thanks.

Another was when me and 3 other babes had to see a doctor together regarding something going round the hostel then...we all had to open something for the doctor to inspect. Whew! That was traumatic

Joyfulgal:
I ttc for 9 solid years. Your guess is as good as mine. Issues from front, back, right and centre. What kept me going me going was us. Court marriage didn't keep us going.


My point is, building a better relationship is more than using the law to tie someone.


What happens when there are challenges[GOD FORBID] later?

sassysure:
Oh Bollywood
I have tried watching them, really tried but couldn't make sense of what they do there
And that their singing and dancing

Heard that in northern Nigeria, they don't play with them at all

jbkomo:
I saw this close to my apartment this morning. Probably came as a result of the rain overnight. Yours sincerely killed it. Lala, pls accept my sacrifice. Next time it might be bigger lol