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Oro buruku toun terin

True.

sexylassie2:
But you know Dubai weather is very hot and harse than ours. The heat is extreme.

Sincerely speaking I don't know what soap and cream works for our us that lives in Nigeria.

It is just hit and miss.

Soap: Black soap
Cream: Adi Agbon or Ori + Coconut oil.

Spechialone:
Yes, I do, and soaps with much lather help in achieving that

Then you need to cream your body while your body is wet so it locks in moisture.

Ishilove:
Used it once and hated it. It's oily and you have to keep pouring water on your body because no matter how you scrub, you still feel grimy because of the oil residue

The bathing till we feel our skin 'dry' is actually wrong

Healingstringz:
*Your opinion please*

There was nothing at home, no money in account and the children were hungry. He started thinking of way out. Who can I meet in this lockdown period?
It's serious a issue. He felt embarrassed that his family could not eat properly.

As he was scrolling on his phone then he found his Ex- Lover's Number. Old memory came and he decided to send a funny message as thus, "My wife that run away with another rich man. Tell your husband to send #2k because he snatched my wife".

After a minute the lady replied as thus, "Tell me you don't have money, old husband". Then he replied, " Yes, I don't have money, just send something". In a nutshell, the lady send 20k into his account instantly.

He jumped up, took his Visa card to the nearest ATM and withdraw. He gave his wife 10k and keep the remaining. He lied to her that a friend sent the money. She buys food stuff and prepare food. He was eating and left his phone on the TV when a message came from his EX asking if he had seen the money.

His wife saw the message, she took time to read the previous message. Now, his wife suspend everything. She decided to be starved than to eat from that food. He tried to explain but all in vain. Worst part of it is that she instructed the children not to taste or touch the food.

*Is the man justified?*
*Is the woman right with her action?*
*How can the situation be handled?*

When we have to start lying to our spouses, it just shows we are about to do something wrong/ unapproved by them.

That husband is doomed if this is the handiwork of the wife.

Wumnaf:
@bukatyne post

moving me to lagos where he works was not part of the plan at all

You did not answer my question:

What was the plan?

truthsayer009:
My exact fear. If she was single, It's a different case entirely.

Even single sef.

Any move not properly thought through is bad bad.

I heard of someone who resigned a few weeks to COVID-19 in Naija to a new job.

New job called him that due to the pandemic, they no longer need him.

He is jobless now.

.

Wumnaf:
FEllow Nairalanders,

We have been married for 4 years now and i have been working as a bank teller for like 9 years but my husband does not like the fact that i works in the bank because he is religion biggot i.e he believe in not working in an organisation that the salary is from interest made on people"s money.

He was employed by a telecommunication company in lagos in less than 2 years, he usually complained of being eating outside and being starved of sex. and mainly fpe this two reasons he prefer to move me and less than a year old boy we had to lagos.

Please advise me .

i dont want to go astray when i get to lagos as i know he is not capable of taking care of me as he is the breadwinner in his family and virtually all his siblings and parent depend on him.

What plans did you both have for your family before marriage?

Let's start with that because I am seeing you don't want to be far from your nuclear family, your husband doesn't like your job because he is a religion bigot, etc etc.

Daisy101:
Should we relocate to Lokoja, Kogi State for a Federal Job?

My husband and I have been in a dilemma between moving to Lokoja or remaining where we are. A Federal government job offer recently came up in Lokoja for my husband with a slightly better salary but we already have somethings going on for us were we are now (a local government area in another North Central state). My husband works with the government here while I'm running my own business. We have kids.

My worry now is that I don't know how Lokoja environment is. Moving over there means starting life afresh. We have no one there. I'm worried about what I'll be working on there, the social life. I don't know if there are good schools for the kids.

Please, is there anyone who has an idea of life in Lokoja. Is it worth the risk of leaving everything we have here behind? What job opportunities are there for graduates like me? Is Lokoja a nice place to be in?

I need advice, Please.

1. What does your husband currently do and range of pay? (you can use Naira & kobo) E. G. He earns N2 at his current job and got federal job of N2.50)

2. What is the Federal Job and pay?

3. How do you run your finances? Joint, hubby alone, percentage per person etc.

4. What percentage of your finances go into cost of living? 2% for school fees, 10% for rent etc.

5. What is your husband's career path?

6. What is the prospect of getting another job/better there? If he decides he has spent enough time at this new job, how quickly can he get somewhere else?

7. Do you plan to run your business forever or switch later on? What's your plan?

8. Do you have a support system you leverage on? Can you cope without them in the new place before you build the network again?

Post COVID-19 world is going to be a new one. Before making a move, you need to do overdue diligence.

Munzy14:
What if he is interested in her, like being serious with her?

I may be right for him to av mastered how she spends her night

Hehehehehehehehehehehehehehe!

Join Tinder discreetly and DM him. "To catch a thief, act like a thief."

Hahahahahahaha!

Ladyhippolyta88:
Ok nice angle.It depends on the type of inheritance and what was inherited.A first name or a neutral name can be used depending on the persons involved.I don't even see the name as an issue as long as females get to inherit no qualms.

I am assuming that this 'inheritance' is landed/an organization/business/large stakes/shares.

The issue of a female inheriting is more of individual family differences.

And some others are lucky enough to grow the company to PLC and LTD that it is bigger than the owners e.g. The Coca-Colas, Apple, Guinness, Dangotes BUAs etc etc.

emmaodet:
So we can safely say the whole motive behind having a male child instead a female is because of properties.
Na wa oooooo
Capitalism is real

Nope,

I 'jumped' into a discussion.

OlawaleBammie:
Taaaahh!!!

Misconceptions over here i think.

I didn't say its wrong to take every of women's word, no naw, u gat to take some.

BUT ITS WRONG TO TAKE IT ALL, AS A MAN U DONT TAKE ALL IN.. (THO THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS SHA)

This is really appalling.

So you are saying if you are engaging a lady, you would not agree with her EVEN IF what she is saying or her stance is correct?

Toor!?

Ladyhippolyta88:
Stop mentioning and regurgitating nonsense.When she inherits the property it is for her alone and to do with it how she sees fit.She is no longer keeping the property for her parents it is hers and if she chooses to give it or share with her husband that is her business.The property is hers to do as she likes or sees fit.So stop mentioning me with nonsense talk.I have seen women inherit and their husbands don't even show concern on how their wives choose to use their inheritance.

I might not agree with the name change because it is not necessarily.

However, even if a woman inherits a company and handles it herself, the moment she passes it on to HER children bearing her husband's surname, it is in another 'family'. That is not to say her birth family no longer has a claim to it. And when they tell the story, they will mention the founders.

That is why succession lines is mostly patrilinear.

Even if a woman decides NOT to change her surname after she is married, she is still bearing her 'father's' (male) surname.

In summary, if given to either of two kids to do whatever they like with it:
1. A male child will keep it in the family (at least name wise)
2. A female child will move it to another family.

Ishilove:
This gives me goosebumps. New York seems to be the epicenter. Lagos is the epicenter in Nigeria. May we never experience this kind of calamity in Lagos.

Kano will be if care is not taken.

SamOyovwi:
Respond to our arms men with respect. Many Nigerians don't know how to talk to them. Why commit suicide in the name of depression based on an ill treament Na only you dey face challenges like that for Nigeria This guy is going straight to hell for this

Did you read the tweets?

He lost about $20k loss and had extra year.

My question is how SARS located his room.

God console his family and loved ones.

massmediang:
Update! Woman’s House Finally Begins to Crack Inside as She is Trapped by Lockdown in Owerri (Photos)

A stitch in time, they say, saves nine. There is still time to avert the most disturbing tragedy that is likely to strike in Owerri Imo Sate, if only philanthropists or the state government can take prompt action to save a woman and her two children.
Here’s the story.

Tragedy is about to strike in Owerri, Imo State capital as a woman whose house has been hanging over a gully erosion site is about to experience her worst nightmare.
The woman who lives in the collapsing house with her husband who is physically challenged and their two children, has been calling on the state government for help yet to no avail. She has been screaming for help since June 2019 when the gully erosion began to threaten her house but no help came from the government at that time.

She took Massmediang into the house to see the extent of damage. What our correspondent saw was shocking and very scary.

The house has started cracking from the inside. The dining area is about to fall off, and it’s definitely going to pull the roof along.

The woman told Massmediang that the past government in the state had sent officials to see the level of damage done by the erosion but nothing was done; That was before the building started cracking as the rains began to fall this year.

Today, with the partial lockdown and dusk to dawn curfew in Imo State, the woman and her family are in danger of getting trapped in the house once it collapses.

“We have done our best to cry to the state government. Different media people have come here but nothing has been done,” she told Massmediang.

“We are calling our state governor, Hope Uzodinma to come to our rescue. My husband is physically challenged. He has done his best but this one is beyond us. Please governor come and help us,” she added.

The building is located at Nwosu Estate, off Works Lay Out, Owerri, Imo State.

See more photos;
https://massmediang.com/update-womans-house-finally-begins-to-crack-inside-as-she-is-trapped-by-lockdown-in-owerri-photos/

May helpers come to their aid.

Kuns84:
You are so reasonable and I always value your contributions.

Thanks a lot.

akaahs:
I don't compare myself with any body but sometimes, I feel I'm under performing or not doing well at my age (33). I just feel frustrated for not achieving some things at my age, it's just crazy looking at my current position.

I think there is an inner clock that prompts you if you are true to yourself.

binarymachine:
A lot of times we have this urge to keep up with friends and society, follow their activities and trends, use their steps to know how much of a progress we are making in life. We compare ourselves and our achievements with our peers just to see how good or poor we are doing, this helps us to know if we should put in more effort at what we do, work harder and find other ways to do better or just maintain our tempo the way it is.

Comparing oneself with others has its advantages no doubt, however we should also learn that we all do not have the same grace and luck at same times. We all have our individual paths and patterns to follow and whilst one may be working so good for one at a time, it may not be so for another. It may get flipped tomorrow and it begins to work very good for the later and not so good anymore for the former.

Some become financially self sufficient very early in life, some have to wait a little longer and some a little more. Even with the same amount of hardwork, smart work and intelligence, it will not all work out same time for everyone, hence different timeline for different folks.

Therefore it’s ok to be married at 22 if that works for you and it’s also ok not to be married at 35. If you can buy a car at 20, fine! A good thing it is working out that early for you. It’s also fine not to be able to afford one at 40. You have you own house at 25, great! You still manage a mini apartment at 45, fine! Keep working hard and keep persevering, all things will work out in it’s own time.

Source: https://flipmemes.com/2020/03/08/follow-your-own-timeline/

While I agree with you that it is wrong to compete with people, there is time for everything.

There is a reason why it is an anomaly for a 10 year old to be in primary 1 just how it would be a thing of wonder for a 12 year old to be in 100L.

You would be worried if corn doesn't germinate after three months or if and orange tree starts producing fruit in the 1st year.

If a woman carries pregnancy beyond 9 months, people would be worried and seeking solutions.

There is a time and season for everything under the sun.

Kuns84:
It's really astonishing the amount of counselling I've had to do for women who have sunken into depression after finding out the gender of their baby - and I've noticed most of these women are pregnant with girls.

The only time I encountered someone unhappy with a male pregnancy, was because she already had 3 boys and was desperate for a change the 4th time round.

Why is such mentality prevalent amongst our women? In fact, the way some of these pregnant women act makes me question if women hate their gender so much that they can't bear to bring in another of their kind into this world.

1. They feel it 'cements' their place in their 'husband' s home and access to his wealth/inheritance

2. They have a better relationship with their husbands.

3. Their in-laws (read women in their husbands' families) pressurize them for male children.

4. They want to be served as MILs in future.

Times are changing and people are becoming more content with whatever sex of children they have especially as people are now having just max 2 kids.

LewsTherin:
My sad observation is a huge part of that pressure comes from women in the husband's family.

As in eh!

Ota po ju enemy lo.

YoungPerson:
Babe, I'm just suggesting a solution for the guy you seem to really like.
Talk to him is what I'm saying.
Instead of looking for a solution online.
Preferably at a beach.
You get me?

You are still quoting the wrong person.

At no point on this thread did I talk to you or anyone else about liking anybody.

And last I checked, I am not the OP.

I was just teasing you why you chose the beach for their reconciliation.

Good day.

Jeboy:
I took my time to go through this thread and read everybody's comment.
Firstly I want to say I will pay to have this conversation for my niece and future daughters in form of seminar.

Secondly people will always have their opinions. Some people have sworn in their hearts to learn by experience at the cost of having scars but a wise man or woman learns from other peoples experiences and knowledge.
Finally, the bible says there is a way that seemeth right (exciting, fulfilled, attractive, enjoyable) unto a man but the end is destruction.
I will send this link to my nieces and nephews in the varsity and in their early twenties.

I wish them all the best.

Hugs from me to them.

This is usually what I want for my threads: to reach as many people especially ladies as possible so they learn from it.

YoungPerson:
How old are you? Get a hold of yourself. Your story seems like you guys are really deep into yourselves. In this isolation period is pervet There will be little or no distractions for hours and it's just you him and nature. E dey humble person.

You must have quoted the wrong person

YoungPerson:
Lol. Beaches are for makeups not breakups.
Pick a quiet beach.

I thought the presence of maami water was supposed to aid the reconciliation

Ricchcream:
Ah you dont want big men, I pity you

Any man I chose to be with would automatically be big because he would have the qualities to be.

Now add my own qualities, we are gonna be 'big' together

Ricchcream:
Oyaa, Smart Adeyemi. You're doing well

Biko don't relate me to any Nigerian politician

Sapphire11:
Lol
I hope he learns his lessons. Not every decision taken out of anger is worth it . He cannot win this case in a court of law. Imagine the OP gave permission to someone to sell a bike that doesnt even belong to him, he thought his action would be justified because the owner owned him money

Actually,

Most are not worth it.

When angry, one does not have the emotional stability to critically analyze a decision.

I thought the OP's case is just recouping N3k. I didn't know he sold the bike unauthorized and has to pay for it.