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LeRabbite:
People have been severely burnt because they totally trusted the people they were married to. Having unflinching trust is no remedy for a duplicitous partner, hence the reluctance of many to go through with a statutory wedding.

We often here about how a statutory marriage safeguards the bride, now, men are trying to safeguard themselves. I think that’s totally fair.

LeRabbite:
People have been severely burnt because they totally trusted the people they were married to. Having unflinching trust is no remedy for a duplicitous partner, hence the reluctance of many to go through with a statutory wedding.

We often here about how a statutory marriage safeguards the bride, now, men are trying to safeguard themselves. I think that’s totally fair.

Lionessza6:

Bruno3000:
It should rather end with the caption "watch out for part 2"

emmaodet:
Ka ro idi maso, ka ro aso mo idi, koko nipe ki idi mati gbofo

izzou:
[color=royalblue]I used "act foolishly" too. Or wouldn't it be classified as that? And yes, it can be called a mistake. You were not there to know how it transpired. That girl is a teen for heaven's sake...A teen with a troubled background

Maybe the op should commit suicide to justify the slap and insults she gave her aunty.

Everybody has had his chance of misbehaving in life. If you haven't? Very good for you ma
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izzou:
[color=royalblue]So a 17 year old girl cannot make mistakes, or act foolishly?[/color]

Comedian2019:
Copied:
One day a woman decided to know how the husband would react if she leave home without telling him. She wrote him a letter saying she's tired of him and the marriage and don't wish to continue anymore. After that she kept the letter on the center table and hide under the bed.
When the man came back from work he saw the letter, and replied on the same paper then began to remove his clothes as he sing and dance.
He got to his phone and called someone saying: "Hi babe, I'm just changing clothes, would you join me soon? It has finally dawned on the other fool that I was fooling around with her and has left. I was wrong, really wrong to have married her, I wish I had known you earlier, see you soon honey".
After saying these he left. The woman got up from under the bed very sad, disappointed and in tears, she was only playing prank with her man. When she looked at the paper, her husband wrote "I could see your feet under the bed, I never made any call. I'm going to buy bread, stop your silly games and go prepare meal for us, I love you".
Women are strong.
Men are stronger.
A woman can pretend not to love but deep down she's so deep in love and wouldn't want another to cross her man. But they can pretend a lot yet love a lot. Treat her normally and you both will be happy forever.

Oluromantic:
You are you married?

izzou:
[color=royalblue]She was 17. Raised up without proper parenting, and you expect her to make the right decisions at that age?

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Icare4uu:
I feel bad dat I betrayed my mum she is not my birth mother but my uncle wife , the best woman who saved me 4rm my abusive mother , she took custody of me when I was 6 bcoz my mum was a drug addict sleeping around with men and she never cared about me, so it was my aunt who rescued me from her. She doesn’t have any children of her own but she had me and her stepson my uncle son from a previous relationship. She gave me the best life dat my own mother couldn’t give me and I alwyas respected her for that, my birth mum came back when I was 14 I didn’t like her bcoz she was controlling and manipulative she is always abusing my uncle wife bcoz she doesn’t have any children and she keep telling me not to respect my aunt , I used to tell her off and I keep avoiding her (my mum) but later she has succeeded in brainwashing me and turned me against my aunt. I hated my aunt , I started insulting her to the extend of slapping and calling her barren my aunt cried uncontrolled and curse me , I was 17 I didn’t really care about her anymore and before my uncle could get home , I packed my clothes and run away. I have been staying with my mum for the past 3 years , I have seen nothing good in her , she is not a good mother , she has 6 children but only 2 are staying with her ( my baby sister and I), she has abandoned my 4 brothers with their dads bcoz she doesn’t want male children , she she want me to be like her by sleeping with men , drinking and drugs because I have refuse dat lifestyles , we are quarrelling almost every day. I regrets leaving my family who loved me a lot just to be with her. I want to go back home to them and I have tried contacting my aunt to ask her to forgive me and she blocked me. I called my brother he said I should stop bothering him. I am scared to call my uncle bcoz the outcome will be worse. I am unhappy , tears has become my foods , I just hate my life , I hate my mum and I wants to die. Please how do I make my family to forgive me . Please help a sister. Thanks and sorry for the long post.

budaatum:
Really? I better go check if I'm married!

I thought marrying anywhere you get a marriage certificate from was accepted by law.

Kboyvic:
I need advise please , she is insisting on court marriage without giving me a good reason why she wants us to go for court marriage before our white wedding/traditional.


Her silly comments
Her first reason was incase something happen to me that my family will not push her out,

That cause we are not fro. The state.

Incase I leave her for another woman in future.

I talk to her what's the meaning of all the comment, u know I wouldn't do all this things ur saying, a lady have be in relationship with over 6years still have doubt. She cried all through out the night begging me I didn't accept.

In the morning we settled that and we are fine after giving her reason why I wouldn't do all that she mention.


Lately she came back telling me that her madam advise her to go for court marriage that it's very important, na here another problem come start again concerning the court marriage. If not for the lockdown our marriage is suppose to come by June.

Why am saying no to court marriage, am thinking she wants to act anyhow after we get married. I love her but she taking the court thing as claterial for u.

humilitypays:
Why must they complain

twice a month is okay for married couples....they should devote their time to other things of life, life for a married couple is not just about sex.....if there are kids, let them devote more time to playing with their kids....teaching their kids computer appreciation, how to paint, and other stuffs.....people are making sex sound too much of a big deal....something they have been having since they were teenagers, na wa o

Stephenomozzy:
Have you dated an introvert before? (I am dating one). Not very often will she loudly express that she's needing things to be spiced up, she'll just leave few clues here and there and believes you should pick the clue and work things out while she "does her own part". It becomes easier when you know your woman.

I'm in no way inferring that a boring partner should be cheated on Sis. And who knows op may just be paranoid.

But other than just speaking point-blank that OP's wife is cheating (that's a recipe to ruin their marriage), I've offered one way OP can try to make things better and read the situation in a more optimistic angle.

DeRay98:
If it was the other way round would you have advised the husband to do same?

tonididdy:
For a lady I give you a hard thumbs up

A man will work round the clock to provide for family and you still want him to be Romeo round the clock.

Timil:
You know I still don't understand why most people in our soceity believe it always has to be the guy/man that spice or make things fun.

The lady/woman can do that too but no they always expect men to do it every time and funny thing is some of these women are boring as Bleep.

bonnyhope:
Nice question coming from a woman

I don't know why people give justification for evils

hilfinity:
May God cont to enrich u cos u just spoke my mind.

Tosinayoko:
I'm reading something meaningful from you for the first time

adanny01:
To say na man dey cheat on his woman, na so so feminist Nairalanders go full thread calling him useless man.

Hmmmm

Musty112:
Every child is born upon the deen of Islam, the parents choose to change it

missimelda01:
Her mother is a Christian but not a practicing one, what does that mean?

Karlifate:
Summary of Mr President's speech.

omoharry:
Madam people change in marriage .Most Nigerian men get bored easily with their wives .They start cheating immediately the women become pregnant and no longer attractive to them ..then it continues like that after child birth. They will tell you that they are tired of eating only one kind of soup so they are justified before society to have extra marital affair. They just plain selfish and inconsiderate. As a woman, are you saying you saw ur your husband characteristic before marriage ? Didnt you see somethings that was not displayed during courtship?

Though we still have some good caring and faithful men but there are a lot of lazy and irresponsible men out there

ModelX:
Let them continue. All join And who says Bukatyne herself isn't one for wit and banter?

Nellychinma20:
The bragging part is what gets to me. I don’t see ladies bragging about having sexual relationships so early in life.

This also had me wondering, are women more likely to be damaged psychologically due to abuse cos they are naturally emotional or is it because of they societal grooming?

Just to buttress further, a man can brag about having a body count of 100 and applauded while a lady is shamed for having a body count of 3.

Men are groomed to see sex as between 2 people “the user and the used”. When a man have sex, he somehow believes he is the one ‘using’ them and at such their ego is fueled. However, a woman is groomed to believe she is ‘used’ during sex and at such always view herself as the victim of the circumstance.

Could this be why men fail to understand the concept of rape?

Nelso2:
Saw a contact on her late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love. Confronted her but she denied, saying it's her customer that is owing her money. Been searching for the contact but couldn't find it again after then
Recently, I search on her phone while she was sleeping, went through her wassup again, saw a number saved as 3, had to checked on it, behold the profile picture is the same man. Funny part of it, each time she chat wit him,, she delete the chat at the end of it. Been mad since and about to confront. The man in question is almost 54 and I am I late 30s.