₦airaland Forum

shogsman:
What're you saying, the time should be an advantage to our girls to try and level the score,but the reverse is the case,sey is FIFA that will score for them abi.

We are one girl down.

luminouz:
E don pain u....
Ntooor.....

dominique:
Too many inaccurate passes from our ladies

That goal was robbery sha.

If they scored on normal levels, no lele

Trulie:
Why are our players ugly af though?

Hahahahahahaha

The French players are fine sha.

Donwyz:
yea...and she is very young....I could see sadness all over her face

Very true.

Can the commentator keep quiet?

Our girls need to support that keeper.

She would be devastated.

ecenter:
Having sex in marriage has no speculated time table but the following simple rules could help.

1. Have sex when you desire it (both party)

2. Have sex when your partner wants it but you don't feel like to having it. The bible said the man or the woman has not power over his body, meaning that when your partner needs it,give it to him or her. The only time you will say no is when you want to fast or when you are seriously sick. 1 Cor.7:3-5

3. Have sex when you want to embark on a journey that you will stay for sometime.

4. Have sex to increase your love for your partner. Sex increases the bond of love and delivers us from temptation.

In conclusion, there is no number of time created for us to have sex. It depends on the couple involved. If both of them decided to have sex everyday and they have the stamina to do so, there is nothing wrong with that. But those who feel that having sex at a limited time without causing quarrel, let it be. This issue is person by person's choice. What you love, someone may hate. Just stick to what works for you.

Very lovely post.

lilmax:
lol please don't tell him anything


if my friend takes her, I'll hi five my friend, then kick her out, she lacks self control

Some people are in alternate universes.

You would send your friend to test your wife?
And give him hi-five if he succeeds?

That is absolute disregard for marriage as an institution and all the test stories I hear never ends well.

If the tested party falls, there is rancor between all parties with marriage and friendship ruined.

DBestDoc:
That Lady you quoted and called a dumbo just told you the truth, albeit rather harsh with her usage of words.

People are refusing to say things exactly as they are just so they don't come off as judgemental but trust me, the result may be three kids for three different men if we keep hiding the truth. Oh yes!

The Nigerian society doesn't favour women in any way, from the youngest of us to the oldest so it's our duty to protect ourselves in every possible ways we can, emotionally, physically etc. Being in a relationship shouldn't make you lose your sense of reasoning and self preservation.
If you were living in an organized society, the law would sort you out and that would be a different kettle of fish altogether and Of course you wouldn't be on Nairaland posting this Crap. Yeah, this is bullshi.t and crap.

It's Bullshi.t because you totally planned this out and unfortunately, it's a plan gone wrong. The public pric.k is 40 and single aha? but that doesn't mean he's a father material or even ready to be one or married and you went ahead to take your chances anyways.

He had a live in girlfriend(who was smart enough to not fall pregnant) whom you knew about but you still went on to play.

You caught him whoring with three different women and you still didn't leave. At least, you would have borrowed a leaf from the live in girlfriend that left him because of you, but you didn't. You clearly had a mission to achieve.

He still brought his public peni.s into your Vagin.a (which you clearly don't respect) and you didn't make him use a Condom. You weren't scared of contracting some incurables from him. Wow!

The 'morning after pills' would have saved the day even after all the intentional 'mistakes' but you again chose not to use it.

Women make this 'intentional mistake' for one of three reasons; to have a baby of their own with or without the involvement of the father. These women see and treat the pregnancy as a gift, they have the means and are happy to take care of the kid all by themselves. The idea of being able to have their own babies whether or not marriage happens is their motivation.These ones are the wise sisters, they don't go embarrassing themselves because they know what they want.

The second category are the ones that tie a man to marriage with pregnancy. It works for a lot of sisters but some others get their fingers burnt and their lives altered forever.

The third category are the ones that want some extra cash from Child support. This is a mistake in Nigeria as you'll spend more in time, energy and money trying to get some kobo that isn't worth the hard Labour The law will work for you abroad and you could get an extra coins from the government for the upkeep of your kids
The last group are the genuinely ignorant and innocent sisters who were deeply in love with a man, got sweet talked and lied to and mistakenly fell for the lies and got pregnant. These ones, i feel some pity for 'cause they never saw it coming.

You know which category you fit in but my advise is that you let it go. The deed has been done, pregnancy has advanced and you got an amazing gift from God already. You said money is no problem and you can pay people's salaries on here so, save yourself this stress and channel all energy to welcoming your gift and giving it a good life.

Forget about that man, he's a dead beat and very irresponsible. If you want to stress yourself fighting him, you'd be doing your mental and physical health no good as High BP may set in. The agencies and lawyers you're calling on will not do you much good. An order will be given that he pays the Child support but paying it regularly may not be achieved.

This guy rejected this pregnancy from the start, forget about him. If in the future he decides to come take responsibility, that would be fine. Let your family and friends channel all their resources towards you and your baby because you'd need as much support as you can get. Being a single mum isn't a walk in the park and that phase of your life will begin soon.

This is just an opinion and you may decide not to take it. Any quotes with insults will not be dignified with a response. i'm a very busy person but i took out time to write this here. Maybe some girls planning on using this 'intentional mistake' method may reconsider because it hardly ends well. The exact advise i'd give to my flesh and blood.

I sincerely wish you all the best!

luminouz:
So Ned nwoko other wives lack self esteem I guess

Yes, they do.

crackhaus:
Is she on her knees for him, or is she kneeling to pray to God?

Need to check that part.

ahnie:
Where have you been? You've been greatly missed!

Glad to hear.

Thanks

@TV01,

Happy new year o, long time no see.

crackhaus:
Full and over flowing with spices..

Aunty is a boss lady who can pay people's salary, yet she is dragging for upkeep from the run-away daddy whom she claims doesn't even have the capacity to buy okada.

Update:

He that is not be mentioned opened account on 15th, has 15 posts out of which 13 are on this thread.

And the posts are quite heavy.

OP said she's pregnant, guy is talking about the baby in her care.

Is OP preggers while caring for a suckling baby?

Question will be when did she get preggers.

You people should leave me, I am tired.

crackhaus:
The only thing I noticed in your thesis:

Not once did you talk about the love you feel for any of them.

Hahahahahaha

In this Nigeria where men are complaining no wide, he has two potentials to himself.

He should marry both of them to make a complete family.

Class closed!

Sense too much.

crackhaus:
A prostítute getting pregnant, and she can tell which of her clients has the baby without having a DNA test.

This is just too interesting on a Monday morning, I can't even focus anymore.

The story is full on its own.

No where to chook mouth.

Women who lack self-esteem and self-love are very easy to spot.

Why would a mother kneel for her son?

truthsayer009:
No problem. She can always come back to Ago Iwoye University. OSU.

She will love it back home.

Who will pay at OSU?

Regiomontanus:
This absolutely ravishes me. This why I always advise women to pay no attention to feminists and respect their men as your fellow feminists will be nowhere to be found when your feminism back fires. Think of the women who lost their marriages and relationships because of feminism, did you see their fellow feminists consoling them and trying to fix things up when sh1t hit the fan?

Why can't you respect your man and do the chores as a stay at home wife? What can you give that will measure up to the responsibility of going out to make money and bearing the financial burden alone? You think it's easy to make money and spend it on others because they call themselves wife and children? The act of making money and bearing the financial burden alone demands respect not the rubbish called feminism.

It's way more easier to be a stay at home wife than to be a husband who bears the financial responsibilities alone. It's not easy for men.

What happens when it is a working wife?

The daughter has mind.

After daddy flew 7 seas and 7 mountain to visit you, you look him in the eye and tell him to wash plate.

You chop real liver.

And spouses who put up a divided front irks me.

LordKO:
Where oneness is the bond that hold a couple both their individual and collective action(s) automatically become a collective decision.

It's so unfortunate that most of you believe in marriage but don't believe in its soul which is oneness.

@bold:

Words on marble.

Aystarz:
He should tell us how many ministers in the last dispensation were female.

Modern day Nigerian pastors and their hypocrisy.

He is not the president na.

He is speaking for himself.

AmazonTopaz:
When such fathers decide to be irresponsible and become deadbeat daddies.
That is what they get and the women playing such roles gotta celebrate their selves since the daddies are nowhere to be seen
To be a father is not just about giving women belle
The poster has no right to judge them. He doesn't know what they have been through

The OP is right.

Whether they married deadbeat men (which speaks of their choice) or not, the truth is that they are at best super moms.

They can never be dads.

nahzyla:
My state of mind is not the issue.

Your questionable opinion about putting spouse welfare before children is the issue.

Ok.

Put your children before your husband.

EOD.

Thank you.

nahzyla:
Or God forbid the child and the husband have pressing health needs at the same time ànd money is enough to cater for only one of them.

We should leave the child to stay sick and treat husband instead not so?

Who has higher chances of survival? Whose issue is urgent?

The husband and wife decide way forward depending on their peculiar situation.

nahzyla:
Or on Christmas day the money the family has is enough to sew new clothes for only one person.

I guess husband and wife should arrange to sew clothes for either of themselves instead of giving consideration to their child.

What if they have more than one child?

nahzyla:
OK

So

Assuming there is just one plate of food left in a house with husband, wife and their one child.

So wifey should give the food to her husband and let her child starve because she puts her spouse first?

Your state of mind is the issue..

You are equating the spouse (husband here) with children.

Should I give my husband or child? Seriously?

In the scenario above, my husband and I will give the kids the plate of food and pray for provision.

My kids would understand that we the parents love them and are responsible for them.

Same action, different mindset.

hireet:
Am very sad. Am a strong individual but I don't think I can keep up any longer. Am crying inside of me. Everything is just so bleeped up. Maybe I should been a good person. No mata wat I do they just make me sad. Am tired of apologising even when am not wrong. Am so confused.

You need to let us know what the issue is so you can get advice.

Went through your posts (very few so easy) and gleaned that

1. You are a Ronaldo fan
2. You are anti-APC

Nothing else points to anything about you or what you might be going through.

nahzyla:
Did she forget him before?
What makes her Almighty for heavens sake?

When you marry, your spouse is your first and last.

That is the only covenanted human relationship.

If she is not almighty, she wouldn't be expecting the husband to still be waiting for her emotionally after years of putting the kids first.

It is you, your husband/wife......... and kids.

There is a difference between caring for the kids when they are totally reliant on you and putting them first.

And parents should build and plan for their kids together.

nahzyla:
Of course, kids first. Then they get older and independent or married even then you can resume putting your spouse first.

And the husband would be waiting for the almighty wife to remember him years later after the kids are gone?

Even wondered why a lot of marriages seems like flatmates living together?

nahzyla:
Of course, kids first. Then they get older and independent or married even then you can resume putting your spouse first.

And the husband would be waiting for the almighty wife to remember him years later after the kids are gone?