₦airaland Forum

crackhaus:
Ohh okay then, though I doubt that any man who really patronizes prostitutes really thinks himself better than them deep down.
The ones who think so probably don't patronize them, while those who do and still say they are better just say so for appearances sake.

You would be surprised.

zeb04:
O yes I do.

Last week he was tired because he flew 15hours back home, so he could attend his child’s 1year birthday.

Guess what I did when he told me he was too tired for any kind of intimacy even though I had been waiting for 4days and it was my right by marriage . I slept off and allowed him rest, like a sane person should.

You understand.

If you read the thread and understood it, you will realize that this example is not necessary.

zeb04:
that thread was a support for rape. There was no room for a debate.

Rape is sex without consent.

The thread was not a support for rape.

If you are against something, be sensitive enough to state it clearly.

crackhaus:
The truly funny thing Buka is something you have not addressed yet.

Nairaland is of Nigerian origins, headquartered in Nigeria, bound by the laws of Nigeria. However emotionally charged your topic was, it didn't deserve to be shut down just for the fact that 'marital rape' is not yet a crime under Nigerian laws. Nairaland and its users are not bound by western laws so it really didn't make sense to quiet the issue, when in fact one can't charge a man to court for raping his wife, at least not yet in Nigeria.
Even you Bukatyne wouldn't have been so bold to post a topic like that on a western board if you knew it was a crime in the country.

I would think that if the moderator and other users who found it offensive really desired change, the best way to do that was to address the topic, have a conversation going, and probably get the publicity it needs to make it a crime in Nigeria.

Crackhaus,

Nairaland is a forum where we ought to discuss all issues and not a Government website.

This was culled from a US Christian forum: https://biblicalgenderroles.com/2018/01/11/it-is-not-a-womans-consent-that-matters-it-is-gods/

There are other such topics there too.

Interestingly, 90% of the people on this thread were not on the prior thread. Some acknowledged that they did not even read it.

If I think that a thread is teaching something wrong enough to be deleted, I will engage the Op.

I will not wait till the thread is deleted and comment.

ednut1:
Nairaland is not a place for sadistic topics such as this. many countries view it as a crime. Nigeria we know only reformed after donkey years. right call mods. any man raping his wife is a beast. a woman wakes up by 4.30, cooks and baths kids, goes to work/shop, come back to cook wash clean. my oga does next to nothing. then at 9pm when madam is exhausted you say u want to knack by force . sir you are a bastard and op too needs examination

If a woman runs this schedule, is abstaining from sex the solution to her problem?

zeb04:
That thread was in support of violence under the umbrella of marriage. I am glad it was deleted.

Actually it was a long,stupid thread, backed up by a lot of biblical jargons. The kind of nonsense some biased church leaders will tell their members.

Anyways some things, you keep for your family members alone, so we don’t damage everyone. .

I quoted only one Biblical passage, one Quranic reference and our Nigerian constitution on the matter.

If you think the OP was biased despite the fact it spoke to husbands and wife, I can't help you there.

I am sure y'all still ensure that as much as possible, you make your husbands happy in the oza room.

cococandy:
It’s obviously against the rules of NL because it’s a statement and not a question or a call to debate.

it just plainly advocates rape (being married doesn’t make it any less rape) even though that was your point. But it still just blatantly said rape was okay.

That being said, I wish the MOD who deleted it would do same for many posts all over NL that support barbaric practices against women. Setting us back thousands of years.

If you read the thread, you would note that it did not advocate rape which is sex without consent.

I infact pointed some scenarios in marriage which would have been rape outside of it.

None of my posts have supported barbaric practices against women however, I will continue to highlight their responsibilities.

Husbands are also expected not to deny their wives sex which is not 'rape'.

ifyalways:
I saw that thread title( never opened it nor read the contents) wondered why it was not locked and deleted.

The title was offensive.

I know some of your love to argue, possibly for arguments sake or to appear smart by coping and pasting articles from different websites, or simply bored but that very argument or thread or subject needed to be deleted.

Thumbs up to the mod who did the clean up. And to whoever reported it.

Funny that you did not open the thread or read yet you felt it ought to be deleted.

Whatever happened to 'do not judge a book by its cover'?

And I think the mod who deleted the topic should have had the courtesy to notify me prior to deleting it.

And deleting the thread does not change the facts.

Acidosis:
You're right on that, but there can be no demand without supply. To address the demand from men, you need to cut short supply.

You know it doesn't work that way right?

Countries where they have strict laws on extra-marital sex see their wealthy men importing prostitutes aka Dubai Portia Potties

crackhaus:
Descent?

Are you also of the opinion that sex is bad only when it is exchanged for money?

Extra-marital sex is a sin (hence my thread yesterday, [size=3pt]forgive my ranting[/size] )

I was addressing men who sleep with prostitutes thinking they are better than them according to Acidosis

AkpaMgbor:
She doesn't love the man..but she respects him..and that's all the old geezer needs from her.

Ok o

Acidosis:
Seems you don't know what runs through the mind of the average man during sex with a known prostitute or hoe. You don't know why men call some women sex objects?

Nothing can be more desecrating than thrusting a woman, not because you love or care about her, but to have her pay immensely for the money and gifts you laboured for.

My dear, leave religion out of this. I have more than enough Bible verses in my head to counter your views but I choose to not do that.

Your views are fine though, and I respect your opinions.

A man who can descend to sleep with a prostitute is no different from her and has no moral ground to stand on.

Would someone be kind enough to explain why we have naked people in front of Facebook?

donbachi:
how ur buka na?

Hahahahahahaha

The buka is fine.

AkpaMgbor:
But it will keep the home together..take Regina for example lol..

You think Regina is happy?

donbachi:
sure...d tankiu after sex.how u see am

It is good practice to spur one's lover to do more.

AkpaMgbor:
Nope, it wasn't a prerequisite for a happy home..yes the wife can love her husband but even if there was no love, respect and loyalty from her is enough for the man..it is the man who is tasked with the greater responsiblity to love the wife like his own body.

Respect and loyalty becomes a chore in the absence of love.

donbachi:
What a woman..many of you should learn from her..a woman that appreciates gift from her husband gets more...and women should start telling us "thank you" after sex also.

Good loving requires appreciation on both sides

AkpaMgbor:
Truth in it's purest form..a man doesn't need love from his woman..just respect and loyalty..why do you think the Holy book didn't ask women to love their husbands but instead asked them to honor their men and the men to do the loving?

The Holy Book also asked the women to love their husbands and men to respect their wives.

@Wife: Good one.

The wig must have meant a lot to her.

It could also be that she is touched that he is happy to provide her wants in addition to her needs.

Creamcustard:
Perhaps you should have phrased it as a question instead of making it a statement?

It would be interesting to find out why it was deleted,maybe you can mail the mod and ask.

I didn't even get to read my mention .

Very inflammatory topic especially for victims of marital rape.

Maybe you need to be sensitive about what you post in family section.

Try sexuality..they may be more lenient.

Thanks

The thread was stating that while there is no marital rape, spouses who are violent in the act can be prosecuted for physical abuse.

Happy Wedding Anniversary Pastor & Pastor (Mrs.) Adefarasin.

God bless your home.

Money and stressless life is good

What is our business?

Ranchhoddas:
Why would they do that

Unbelievable. There was nothing wrong with the thread.
Overzealous people doing whatever they like because of their illusory powers.

They had to do it secretly. Very cowardly.

I am shocked myself.

Mizwisdom:
The main issue was about a 17 year old who was raped by her guardian, he thought the girl's father may have set up the culprit using his daughter as a bait and then he threw in the line of thought that raping one's wife is allowed. The OAP, cut him off abruptly so I didn't get to listen to his opinion on the issue beyond that statement

The guy is ill.

What has raping a 17yr old under his care got to do with marital rape?

Is the victim married to her host?

Even if she gave her consent, it is still statory rape.

Mizwisdom:
During a radio show yesterday, someone's husband called to say it's okay to rape your wife and he does it. This idea is being maintained and practised by a good number of men, one way they ensure that culprits are not called out, is by making sure that the topic remains one that doesn't draw attention

What did he define as rape?

Did he give any reason why he thought it was OK?

JuanDeDios:
You mean without their consent. Yes, he could get into serious trouble for doing that.

True.

Thanks.

Guy man said he uses it as insurance against rape allegations.

The sexual scene is messed up if a guy has to record himself to prove he did not rape the girl.

Look at Neymar exposing what should be his private business to us in a bid to clear himself.

Ategberoson:
so accusing me wrongly is not a crime. if I don't do that to hurt or blackmail her then I see nothing wrong


the memory card is always private. if you don't secure yourself, who will? if I haven't record it that day, I would have been in prison

Accusing you wrongly is a crime.

However, you are committing another crime to save yourself.

I understand the sentiments, don't just understand how we got there.

Good he owned up to the crime, let him face the punishment.

The girl should be rehabilitated psychologically.

dangotesmummy:
I'm not surprised

A man that cannot control his phenese has no control over his life pastor or not.


Let any fool come here and quote touch not my anointed. Now the truth of the matter is if you cannot control your urges desist from certain leadership positions or religious positions because leadership positions are character amplifiers. They reveal your real innate character

The man that should first deliver his phenese from lust is delivering another vulnerable girl


And as for all those 1d10tic parents or mothers that will be entrusting their daughters with pastors,continue.don't raise your kids yourself

The child is an orphan.

Ategberoson:
forget Karishika theory. a lady can't visit Me and accuse Me of rape. I have been a victim of the false accusation before and the way I exonerate myself, shame sef catch her family. they saw the video when she was giving me BJ


I always do the record to be save

Recording people against their consent is another crime.

So you commit one crime to save yourself from another.

Mizwisdom:
No wonder his career is going down the line. Always busy having sex from country to country. The woman thought he looked calm but didn't know the guy is a big perv. Don't let the innocent look deceive you next time and stay descent

Why is Neymar a perv?

Ugosample:
we should stop encouraging foolishness

Women should not be given that free pass to act silly in this manner

It's either you are in or out...

If you no wan fvck, say no and go home

Entering into his room, getting naked and doing small "touch body" then out of the blues you say you no wan do again issa big NO!
such foolishness should NOT be encouraged.

the incentive in place for stupid behaviour like this is what Is making many ladies act stupid in this way.

The incentive has to he removed, and PROVEN false allegations need to be criminalized and punished

As in.

Arran foolishness.

When did they stop training these girls to have common sense.

You send a man nude pictures, sex chat him, travel to meet him, have sex and claim rape?

See the way Neymar had to disgrace himself to clear him name.

Next time, he will report such women for sexual harassment.