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Acidosis:
Who is your next of kin? Who is the next of kin of the average married woman?

Husband.

Acidosis:
When I make the wealth, I'll decide.


Men, know your woman. If she puts your interest first, then reciprocate. If she doesn't, do the needful.

Why would you marry a wife that doesn't put your interest first?

How does the OP correlate with Lady Gaga's post?

Can't she see that it's her body?

God bless her family.

She looks choppable.

This must be Dike Tonto

safarigirl:
Fine bride, no mean fine wife.

Some people will use their money to buy gbese because of superficial attributes, only to come bacj and write "Dear Joro, more agbada to your closet, my village people have finally gotten me through my wife...."

Hahahaha

ibkayee:
There is a spectrum of sexual assault, it isn’t just physical abuse.

If a person I knew could inflict some sort of harm
on me told me to put my hand in fire else he would slap me, there’s a chance I would. Or if they were in a position of power to threaten my livelihood for example, spread rumours about me etc, essentially holding me back in an area of life in one way or another. Threatening a family member/friend, threatening my child etc.

You have not explained how this works in marriage.

How hard was it not to go swimming in shark infested waters?

And the dad a US Marine went with her?

I thought the military understand the virtue of obedience especially when the danger is spelt out?

mankettle:
he started from somewhere, let him start again. he should forget school and the cousin

WelI true.

Just that he might not have the first mover advantage or the environment might have outgrown the business.

Sounds like work of the village people.

mankettle:
very stupid boy.
anyways since he had a business let him go back..

Business is no more.

ibkayee:
We keep veering off on tangents, dunno why we’re focusing on the topic of physical abuse despite what I’ve said.

Rape can happen via threats, emotional manipulation, verbal abuse and any other way you can coerce someone into doing something they don’t want to do without inflicting physical injuries.

The previous OP would have helped you understand.


Rape via threat, emotional manipulation and verbal abuse.

If someone says you should put your hand inside fire else he would slap you, would you put it? This is my understanding of a threat.

I would like examples of your second paragraph.

What is the nagging about?

Did they actually carry out a survey on the adverse effects of husbands who nag?

Just stumbled on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/5223054/ladies-only-get-here-love#down

Wives should be this excited with their husbands.

It however reminds me of this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/4436386/transactional-vs-validational-sex

cornerplus:
I'll park here plz


Yewandequeen Bukatyne Conan answer o

Some men work weekends

A number of women are going to church to look for something: sanity in their marriages, better lives for their kids etc.

Women are also the spiritual pillars of their homes. (which ought not to be).

eyinjuege:
As she deems fit right?
How do you seek redress for damage/ injury to your spirit and soul?
Perhaps stabbing him will be a form of redress as she felt her life was in danger. Perhaps holding a lifelong resentment for your 'for better for worse' molester will do the trick. Perhaps poisoning him to be rid of the filth is enough redress as deemed fit. Or perhaps developing an extra marital relationship with someone else who treats you like a woman with more to offer than your vj is enough redress. You will be surprised at the number of women who seek succour outside of their marriages because they are seeking redress.

How she seeks redress in accordance with the law is solely up to her.

Afterall, sexual abuse or what you call marital rape is not the only abuse done to wives in marriage.

We have physical abuse (even without the sex), emotional abuse, financial abuse, physiological abuse etc. How does she seek redress in the other scenarios?

@adultery: it is funny.

How does she intend to give consent to this new lover? Instead of her to work on her marriage and open up sexually to the one man who has the right, consent, etc. to her body, she rather seeks other men who by law must seek her consent everytime

And absurdly, she is willing to do so.

ibkayee:
I read the thread.


And I said what’s not illegal isn’t always ethical. I also pointed out how far back these laws were written, it is important to consider the era. You can rape your spouse, you just can’t be prosecuted for it, but that does not mean it is not wrong.


I saw what you said about physical abuse in the thread, it just hasn’t got much to do with what I’m saying. The rape that can be committed without physical abuse is the one I’m talking about since you already addressed the ‘severe case’ conditions concerning physical abuse.

Forceful sex without physical abuse?

How does that work?

cococandy:
I was able to read to read the second article. I must say first time I’m hearing about this. Thanks for sharing.

In most men they occur simultaneously so to say

You are welcome.

KingOfAllIgbos:
The story made zero sense. I thought so 2 or 3 days ago when i first saw it....

An obviously inept MOD still pushed such a meaningless article to FP

@OlujobaSamuel gave an explanation that makes sense.

OlujobaSamuel:
Probably seemed for a transfer (transcript needed) but the school denied him despite collecting application fee and doing other necessary things, so maybe a kinda waiver was granted to him by the school he moved to so as to complete his program

Okay, thanks.

Never thought about that.

Modo9:
https://twitter.com/oluwa_CODY/status/1135301932514455552

I thought transcript can only be obtained after a student has graduated hence gotten his B.Sc.?

So what B.Sc. is he getting again?

ibkayee:


I did not mention anything about advocacy of physical abuse in my comment, you brought it up and are essentially countering a point I did not make.

You needed to read the other thread to get the link.

You say marital rape is sex without consent in marriage.

I say marriage gives consent therefore, there can be no rape in marriage.

However, during the act, a spouse can be assaulted and should seek redress for physical abuse or attempted murder in severe cases.

Gloriagee:
Neither do I

Ok.

Happy holidays.

Gloriagee:
Not really interested in going back and forth with you as you are entitled to your opinion. However, my point remains a reasonable husband typically will wait a minimum of 6 weeks cos in the interest of his wife's health and wellbeing. What then is the big deal in chilling for a bit to ensure your spouse enjoys sex to avoid messing with your spouse's mental health and wellbeing? Or doesn't the hubby get hor.ny during the 6 weeks wait?

And what has this got to do with the deleted topic?

There are times the wife/husband might be sick for longer periods and sex the last thing on their minds.

How does this negate the topic?

Gloriagee:
A man can be sensitive, selfless, loving and Hor.ny. No good quality a husband exhibits exempts him from listening to his wife's NO and abiding by it and vice versa.

I don't get you.

Richy4:
I like this OP too much... Though I did not read your thread.. and based on the on going discussion here, I know that I wouldn't have been on the same page with u because I'm not a fan of forcing something on someone even if I have that right..

But the reason why I am writing this is to commend on the manners in which you were handling yourself and your argument without insulting anyone.. that's really classy.... Your manners is uncommon in any Nigerian forum. .. . what I have seen from the first to the third page is enough for a pretentious person to loose it...But no, u were still holding it together.. Pls keep that up dear...Good manners can take one to where money and qualifications can't... it will take u far..

Thanks for the accolades, it was learnt over time.

I am not a fan of forced sex myself.

Why force it when with the right frame of mind we would both enjoy ourselves?

ibkayee:
I didn’t say anything about places it couldn’t or couldn’t be discussed. My point was that the premise of the thread was not framed around talking about how messed up the ‘laws’ were.

I didn’t mention anything about physical abuse either. Whatever the marital rape you were talking about in the thread constitutes is what I’m talking about.

If you read the thread, you would understand the link between what you call marital rape and physical abuse.