₦airaland Forum

crackhaus:
I'm sorry, but I'm finding it hard to understand how and why you even thought about getting married to a woman you didn't see or speak to for 9 whole years.

Is this love or duty?

ireneidiva:
Stop flogging someone's child. If you can no longer handle her, send her back to her parents. Beating her is just wicked. Injure her and it becomes a police case.

blank:
What century do you live in? Are you for real?

Mizwisdom:
He put their daughter in a family way without approaching the family afterwards. Do you think they won't be angry with him?

Chubhie:
He should pay the hospital bills and dowry. This is when approaching things from a place of peace.

crackhaus:
Yup i do.

I noticed you changed the heading on that thread. If that had been the original heading, i would not have been there in the first place.

Farouq38:
Strong woman

mikejj:
Uptill now this girl never marry?? Just asking

Same JP Morgan CEO that licked his way to throat cancer?

http://www.forbes.com/sites/matthewherper/2014/07/02/why-thousands-
of-men-like-j-p-morgan-ceo-jamie-dimon-are-
getting-throat-cancer/

Martinez39:
As I have said, a crime is crime.

SMH. Do read what you type? People already have the right to brag about their past deeds by virtue of living in a western world that supports freedom of expression. It seems to you that some are more equal than others. It does not matter who you have become, what you have been through or whether you are a male or female, a crime is a crime. SMH at this nonsense.

this one has finished me. So being a star and making millions gives you a free pass when it comes to crime? Go read up what gender equality means and stop disgracing yourself. What ignorance and stuρidity.

SMH. What load of nonsense. The world doesn't reward competent women by giving them free passes when it comes to crime. You are so full of irrationality.

What's your point? She was allowed to own horses, she hired a team(given freedom to acquire wealth) and her team won, what's your point? How does this relate to our discussion? She should be given free passes when it comes to crime?

Lol. So a woman is rewarded by lying to history students . Did men not hire teams too? Why don't they have their statues? Lwkmd Again what is your point? how does this relate to our discussion?

By the story you gave, her honour is just a case of sentiments. What did she really do to deserve these things? She was allowed to own horses, she hired a team and the team won. Why does she deserve all these awards? It's just a case of sentiments.

Had she disguised herself, participated in the event and won gold then she would have been worthy of any accolades. Didn't men hire teams too? Did society prevent her from hiring a team? What's your point? Did society give her a free pass when it came to crime? I can't believe anybody with a brain would type all the rubbishes you've been typing. Do you realise how stuρid your write up is? Are you fucking kidding me?

So society rewarded her with giving her a free pass when it comes to crimes? The praises and recognition she got is just the same other top soviet male snipers got. SMH. What's your point with this? How is it relevant to the discussion? If there is anything more she got, it's more fame because it was unusual then to see women taking such jobs and being excellent at them.

The only sensible thing you've said. If it irks you, why give a free pass to Cardi B? Men spend years in jail for doing what Cardi B did. If it irks you, why give a free pass to Cardi B? What's worse is that you did this using an utterly ridiculous excuse/argument. SMH, you are the embodiment of hypocrisy.

Are you sure you are not a female behind a male moniker because this is how most nairaland females react to this issue ------ talking off point. What is the relevance of this? What's your point? Should society give a free pass to them? Just what is your point?

They earned what they deserve by choosing to work hard and take responsibility unlike most lazy women. What is your point? Did anyone say that there are no competent women? What is your point?

Yeye Lord. Who ever said there are no female STEM graduates? How is that relevant to the discussion? You example serves no relevant purpose. Walk into any university around you and will she girls studying Physics, Engineering, Medicine and other STEM fields. Is Frances Arnold deserving of a free pass when it comes to crime? What exactly is your point? Ron Larson, the author of my calculus text and professor at Pennsylvania State University, was a dish washer, so what's your point?

Did Marie Curie not win the Nobel Prizes in Physics and Chemistry becoming the first person and woman to achieve such feat ? Did her daughter not win the Nobel prize as well? Did May-Britt Moser(2014) and Ada Yonath(2009) not win Nobel prizes? Who said women don't study STEM subjects? You are talking off point.


You are a female behind a male moniker or a simp. I am more inclined to believe the former. So much dose of bullsh1t this early morning.

yvelchstores:
my apology. I already modified the other reply before seeing yours

yvelchstores:
it is none of your business.

Let me modify cos I just perceived you are against "submission".
Anyways, I learnt that some women have to be more submissive than the others, it all boils down to the situation you find yourself in and if you are willing to put in the effort

yvelchstores:
it is non of your business.

Martinez39:
We all know that gender equality is a good thing but why is it that most women only want the good parts of equality but readily run away from responsibility? Why does society give them free passes? Why does society betray gender equality? I remember seeing two social experiments and one real life situation that exposed the hypocrisy of a society that claims to support gender equality. Here is what happened :

1) 1st Social Experiment : A man was physically harassing a woman on the streets and as he did that, men and women, mostly men, came to the woman's rescue and they were yelling at the man "you can't do such here, it's not allowed." After they had separated them, they asked the woman if she was alright. They were really concerned.
When the genders were reversed, no one came to help the man. People just looked with surprise as if they had seen a ghost and kept on walking. Some kept looking without helping the man out. Then the most shocking thing happened, a man passing joined in to hit the man and walked away ---- I kid you not.
2) 2nd Social Experiment : The same thing happened only that no one joined to hit the man.
3) This one was a story shared on nairaland were a woman was raping a man in public. Luckily for the man, another man came to help but I noticed another man was calmly watching before the intervention and he did nothing throughout. Imagine if it had been a man raping a woman, the public would have given the male rapist the beating of his life and he would have been shamed all over the Internet.

4. Why is it that when a man sexually touches or kiss a woman without her permission he is severely punished by society but when a woman does it, nothing happens? People, men including, joke about it and even insinuate that the man should be happy to have such free enjoyment and he should be glad. What happened to equality? If a woman screams rape in the market place and points at a man without evidence, he is in trouble especially if she is very dramatic. If a man accuse a woman of rape in our society, some would mock and laugh at him for being weak or not being able to recognise the "pleasurable privilege" his female rapist(s) is giving to him. This has to stop and we need to start taking equality seriously.

5. If it's wrong for a man to hit a woman, it is also wrong for a woman to hit a man. If it is disgusting for a man to rape a woman, it is disgusting for a woman to rape a man. Society should stop shaming male rape victims as weak and female rapists should face the same condemnation as male rapists.

6. Another way society has betrayed equality is seen in gender roles when it comes to relationships. While society has agreed that a woman is not obliged to do the house chores, cook or wash for her man and men should learn to do these things, society had failed and resisted the introduction of equality in the responsibilities of a man to his woman. Society screams "women are not men's slave and it's not their inherent duty to cook, clean and tidy the house for her husband" but society screams "if you can't spend money on your girlfriend or wife, you are not a man and it's the duty of a man to provide. If you love your girlfriend, you will spend on her." Why can't society support the idea of equality and insist that men don't owe women a dime and it's not a man's inherent duty to provide? Why doesn't society insist that women too should contribute financially and can be the bread winners? Isn't it about equality? This seems like a harsh truth that society doesn't like address. Society thinks men should take part in keeping the home but thinks the man is shameless to have his woman provide for him. So much pressure and exploitation of men in relationships.

7.Men buy into this rubbish all in the name of love and then end up committing suicide when they get dumped after investing so much money. Why should you, as an undergraduate, pay a girl's school fees when her father is still alive? True love?

8. Why does this happen? Simply hypocrisy. Why support gender equality when you can't truly keep it? Things like this happen when men don't stand up for their fellow men when it comes to gender equality but give irresponsible women free passes even at the expense of their fellow men.

9. Why is it that in the USA and other parts of the world, if a girl accuses a guy of rape without evidence, he goes to jail and can spend years for a crime he didn't do? Even if the girl is caught lying, she is allowed to walk away free. Sometimes, it is proven that the girl lied but the man still stays in jail.

10.Why is it that men have to give women half of what they own during a divorce even when the woman has two hands and legs to go and hustle? If the man can't pay, he goes to jail and many men are in jail because they can't pay child support and alimony.

11. Many men are in prison for rape they didn't commit. If turns out that the child support a man was paying was paid over a child that wasn't his, he still has to keep on paying and the woman is never prosecuted for paternity fraud.

12. In France, the leftist country and soon to be Islamic caliphate, it is illegal to get a DNA test for your own child. What free passes for irresponsible women and betrayal of men despite the so called support for gender equality. Later, people wonder why the MGTOW movement is gaining momentum. Notice who always benefit from these gender equality compromises ------- the female.

13. There is this movement called the #metoo movement and another #believewomen (google it) meaning that any accusation a woman brings up against a guy should be believed and that a woman cannot lie about sexual assault. I kid you not, these happen and many men have been destroyed by this. Is this not madness?

14. What's more shocking is that many men support these nonsense and can be seen at the rallies voicing their support for this ridiculous garbage. As I have said, things like this happen because men and irresponsible women have joined hands to give women free passes even if it means using men as the scape goats. Men must know what gender equality is and start standing for it without compromise.

15. Responsible women must call out irresponsible women who are hypocrites when it comes to equality. Many women should make up their minds on whether they want equality. Wanting equality without taking responsibilities and facing consequences is like wanting free speech but censoring speeches that offend you or don't agree with you. I know rεtards will come to attack me but if you truly support gender equality, you will agree with me that society can do better when it comes to gender equality. Gender equality should not be enforced only when it comes to academic careers and vocational skills.


Cc. Seun, lalasticlala, mynd44, Ishilove, abeg just carry this thing put for front page tomorrow morning. E no hard.

Martinez39:
Okay. I created this thread. What do have to say?

unclexofficial:
Tope Omage, the first female Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) Director of Finance, has stated that any woman who wants to go far should respect her husband. In an interview with Punch, the first female Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) Director of Finance who recounted her experience working  for 37 years in the banking and financial sector, stated that women always have lots of challenges when their husband doesn't agree with them.

Tope Omage who further disclosed that any woman who wants to go far should learn to respect her husband, added that her husband helped her a lot at the height of her career. Here are excerpts from the interview below;

How were you able to balance your busy schedule and your family life so that none suffered?

They say behind every successful man, there is a woman. Behind every successful married woman, there is an understanding man. I am lucky to have a man who is my cheerleader, who encourages me and is not threatened by my success. And that is what a lot of corporate women, who are at the top of their careers, would tell you. If your husband does not agree with what you do, there will be lots of challenges.At the same time, any woman who wants to go far should learn to respect her husband. My husband helped me a lot. He understood a lot and I tried to use every resource available to me. When my mum was around, I used her. When I had to get home helps, I did. I also used gadgets such as deep freezers and microwave ovens.

When some women rise to the top of their careers, they start to disrespect their husbands. How were you able to avoid that trap?

It is a two-way thing. The Bible says, ‘Husbands, love your wives. Wives, submit to your husbands’. If you know somebody loves you, it is easier to submit because you know that whatever he tells you would not be detrimental to your well-being.A lot of men are threatened by their wives’ success. Every woman must know her husband. If you know your husband has inferiority complex, you wouldn’t lose anything by kneeling down for him as many times as possible if you want to keep your marriage.I am an executive committee member of the Women in Management, Business and Public Service. In WIMBIZ, most of our women are high corporate flyers and they still have their husbands because they understand what it means to respect one’s husband. If you must go high, you must be humble.A lot of men are looking for successful women to marry, but I would ask them, ‘Can you handle it?’ because he who pays the piper dictates the tune. She’s earning so much and you want to command her anyhow you like. So, when we are judging a case, we look at both sides.


https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/any-woman-who-wants-to-go-far-should-respect-her-husband-tope-omage/amp/

yvelchstores:
I appreciate her views. I learnt something.

dejolly:
Am only commenting on the topic . As long as you are still under my roof MUST watch my undies as a father. Please don't let us bring wester idea to this. This is Nigeria . we always want to raise or bring out the best out of our child/ children base on tradition and religion.

tintingz:
I use to believe there's no stupid question but now with this OP question, I'm starting to change my view there are stupid questions.

ubunja:
I saw the two videos you're talking about on youtube and they were really sad.
The people who ignored the man being attacked were asked later why they acted when the woman was attacked but did nothing when the man was attacked replied they thought whatever the man did he deserved it. Those videos open a man's eyes like nothing will.

Men have been trained to be women's toy soldiers, always ready to defend for no pay

farous:
Please i wish to ask especially from married couples how do they go about family expenses.Is it the man that caters for EVERYTHING in the family?. A situation arose where a wife told the husband pointblank that everything in running or taking care of the family is HIS responsibility and he should take up the responsibility and the wife contributes nothing on the assumption that it is never her responsibility to take care of any expenses and will always be quoting that God says man is the head of the family and should be providing for the family,hence the husband should face her responsibility and is never her business to do so even as she is making money from what she is doing but refused to cater for any responsibility even if the most common thing get finished in the house,she can never buy it but took it that it is the duty of the husband.This has been happening for long since they got married and the husband is getting upset as he see it as being heartless and uncalled for even when he doesnt have much yet she doesnt care about what the husband is passing through.Is it wise that a man will lack money atimes in the house and will go and borrow just to fend the family,yet the wife is doing something and have money with her but refuse to imapct on him.

The question is, "IS FAMILY EXPENSES THE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE HUSBAND ALONE?

PapaBaby:
Please where are the lawyers in the house?

Is it legal to ask your child (1yr old) to mop?

ElsonMorali:
These people are not raising independent minded adults at all.

See as they are herding them around like sheep.

IamD18:
Nigerian ladies are too religious and gullible regardless of their fame and status.

Only in Nigeria will you see a married woman respect and submit to her pastor more than her husband and father.

Too gullible and emotional to be sensible and logical on issues.

Na dem full church, na dem cry pass, na dem pray pass, na dem still get problems pass.