₦airaland Forum

Why are these things prominent in Arabic countries?

Is there something that spurs them on?

The stupid things some people say.

What's our business if you pay men to sleep with you?

Dumb head.

I cringe that a well trained Nigerian wife to an average Nigerian husband is one who will take his bullshit.

Damn, I wonder who trained some of you.

Or is it a case of making jokes out of the situation?

A husband travels for 2 months to see a lover and you think it is OK?

And tomorrow, some people would say Nigerians are moral or lament about the Govt.

GraGra247:
My brother the thing tire me. I've seen countless examples in real life that I've lost count.

They can endure mountain size major flaw in their own biological mom but they can't stand a tiny size flaw in their mother in law.

And this is unique to wives?

Mothers don't view their daughters as princesses and think their DILs are untrained?

Come off it.

ImaIma1:
You are so right. A wife and MIL should learn to live in peace for the sake of the man they love. The mother in-law should realize that it is not her house and is only a guest there. The DIL should accommodate her knowing that she is not staying forever.

The problem would be with the MILs that try to create issues between the couple... giving the wife problems and pretending when her son is around.

My cousin's MIL did something like that. She would go to her son and tell him something and go to her DIL and tell her another thing. When they confronted her, she was mute.

There is no competition. Wife and mother are different roles. A pastor once said that it is a woman that doesn't have a good relationship with her husband that will keep disturbing her son and his wife in their house.

Words on marble.

When I see guys here say their mother come first, it just tells me the mother in a terrible marriage/ endured one.

Leebeedo:
This is one of the reasons y I'm marrying "late" in life. I was scared of marriage because of the mentality of the so called "modern" ladies and their attitude of wanting to possess their spouse 100% not minding how his family struggled to raise him.

As for those that probably want to push the "hear from both sides before placing judgement " to my face, I've got news for you, I don't bleeping care what the mother-in-law did. Will the lady talk to her mother in such a manner ?

In the USA, many Nigerian women treat their spouse like this just to collect their house.I'll burn that house down before you'll steal it from me oh, believe me.

Since what goes around comes around, her daughter-in-law with treat her same way....stuupid bitch !

And the girl's family did not struggle to raise her abi?

It is funny that all these 'my mum first' breeds next generation of MILs who think their DILs is stealing her 'love' away from her.

The person designated to put a woman first, love her and treat her like a queen is her husband. If she misses that window and tries to get it from her son, she will only cause problems in his home.

serikigoro:
Is like a lot of the people commenting here don't know how it works in the abroad! The man DARES not touch the lady let alone restrain her. Why do you think Nigerian ladies like to relocate and live abroad. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing the man can do than to record it probable as evidence for the police. Nigerian women oppress their Husbands abroad like no man's business. They abuse their husbands, treat them like thrash and you cannot throw them out , it is too costly! So just like men are KINGS in Nigeria , Women Are QUEENS in western countries. My advice to you young man , if you cannot bear the insults and oppression from your wife please dont live in the abroad! simple!

What country as a semblance of balance?

Foodforthought:
May there never come a day I put my wife above my mother. I don't even want to know what happened, but one of those 2 women gave birth to the man in question.

Don't bother getting married.

Same with @Randy100.

Road to finding a husband that won't love her.

5thElement:
That is an unfortunate acronym indeed.

Very very.

crackhaus:
He is a nincompoop.

As in hopeless idiot.

donstan18:
Day in-Day out, I'll keep saying this; Marrying a virgin lady is one of the best thing that can happen to a man. They are sexually satisfied with whatever you can offer them, unlike these non-virgin hoes parading here and there.

Just look at the embarrassment and disgrace. A pregnant married woman for that matter.

Damn it!! ......May elephantiasis of the nipple be the case of anybody who'll expect me to marry a lady whose hymen isn't intact.

It is so funny how you think a virgin will be satisfied with whatever you do.

No thoughts into putting effort, no consideration, no finding what makes her satisfied.

Nothing.

Anyways, not surprised about the selfishness.

@OP: I will assume that the man outside is the father of the child.

It is left for the husband to decide the way forward.

ogawisdom:
My guess is that these kids are products from baby mama and the guy may be unmarried. Even at that it's a silly thing to say, future ashawos sounds like a father cursing his kids.

It doesn't sound like:

It is.

crackhaus:
Which one is woman bashing inside this one again.

The Space X capsule just successfully docked with the ISS (International Space Station) some hours ago, and the mumu could not say his daughters will be future astronauts.

If he wasn't surrounded by hoes, his mind won't even go there.

Hahahaha at surrounded by hoes.

I want to assume that he doesn't know what ashewo means because if he does, then he should be relieved of those kids asap.

I will begin to doubt that he is their father because no sane father can wish such for his daughters.

#HOE is House of Empress.

Is she married?

ogawisdom:
This is unbelievable but this Facebook man by name onukwubiri ifeanyi Kingsley happily cursed his two innocent daughters by calling them future ashawos.

Jeez sad

See comments of Nigerians

Lalasticlala

I can see he is Igbo.

Does he really understand what 'ashewo' means?

Or he is using it in the context that they will bring him money via their future suitors?

crackhaus:
These little girls are innocent, it's the woman who gave birth to them that was/is probably an ashawo. This is the only explanation I can come up with regarding this.
If their mother was a doctor, engineer, pilot, or lawyer, he wouldn't be so flippant and frivolous with such a comment.

Someone ought to have told him hoe-ism is not hereditary.

Oga talk it easy with the woman bashing.

Nigerian leaders are a reflection of Nigerians.

Desperately wicked, hypocritical and always quick to evil.

How can a sane person defend Tinubu and the bullion van madness?

How can APC and EFCC have the guts to arrest someone they have to investigate when someone dared the nation and brought bullion vans to him house in daylight.

No wa.

Joromi12:
banky had cancer treatment before they married

Woaw!

Sorry to them.

The family's way of holding the marriage.

GraGra247:
Does your house help deserve your house for doing domestic duties. Men do domestic duties too and nobody rewards them for that.

And to be fair men reward their wives richly for whatever efforts she's making at home. They buy their wives cars, expensive clothes, jewelries, shoes, bags, expensive phones and expensive vacations. They pay her hospital bills and every bill accruing to her.

So to demand she gets the house he built alone just because of house chores she does is ridiculous.

You obviously do not understand marriage.

pansophist:
Just like western men have stopped marrying their women due to law like this, i foresee the increase of unmarried ladies and men refusing to marry as the laws like these become common place. You cant tell women they are equal to men and create laws that is unfair to men. Be careful what you wish for.

What makes the law unfair to men?

5thElement:
I don't particularly like or agree with this part of the judgement...



The husband will take half which is his own share and walk away while the ex-wife will take her share and use it to cater for the kids they both have?

Miscarriage of justice, your honour.

What do you suggest?

DanDeeBoss:
What if the man single handedly built the house

That can only happen before marriage which means the man still remains the sole owner of the home.

orion7:
what of people with 3 wives

Polygamy is a world of its own.

I doubt the law took polygamy into cognisance.

lilmax:
you are equal to a man but you need protection.

The Judge clearly stated that a divorce woman needed no maintenance therefore whatever amount is for the kids.

She also noted that as long as the woman remains unmarried.

Biko read the OP.

Yuck on double fronts.

1. For wearing it;
2. For posting it online.

Chiamaka789022:
Gd day everybody i need urgent advice sumting Da has been bothering me 4 sometime now , i dnt ave any1 else 2 talk abt dis , Dis de reason i dcd 2 bring it on here . Please mi brothers and sisters advice me on wat 2 do

I ben married for 16 years now , we are blessed wiv 4 daughters 15,14,11 n 8, b4 marriage we has dcd 2 have 4 children only n we promised each oda incase all the children r same gender we will stick 2 4 children rule , so after i had my last gal i did family plaming 4 10yrs so the issue we are having is 2 years ago mi hubby ask me 2 remove the family planning so i culd get pregnant 4 a son then afta delivery do family again, which i told him i cant cuz there is no guarantie dis bby will be a boy , i asked him wat if its anoda gal what we going 2 do , he told me da we will try again until we have a son , so i rejected his proposal so since then there is no peace in mi huse , he has been keeping malice , coming home very late at nite , reject my foods , been cheating wiv so many diff women, i saw texts and Unclad photo of women on his fone . He dsnt make love 2 me , he has deleted all mi pictures includ our wedding ones on all his social media. He has been ignoring me anytime i will try 2 talk 2 him, what really broke mi heart is this last time he posted our girls pics on his fcbk so some of his fcbk frnds asked him what about their mother ( me) , mi husband reply long story mi bro with a sad emotis , so the guy reply bk am sorry 4 ur loss bro may she rest in peace then hubby reply bk thanks bro, i strted crying as soon i saw de msg , i confroted him afta he told me da im dead 2 him da he dsnt have any luv 4 me , i can packed up and leave . So that is what im gng thru in my huse afta refusing 2 have anoda baby please am i wrong wiv my decisions ? Should i go ahead and pleased him? What if is another gal? Pls what should i do?

@OP:

Since you have not left him with all the adultery, I am figuring that you are going nowhere.

Let him get him heir outside and get vibrators to ease your sexual tension (if any).

Just know that when the boy comes, all the girls are inconsequential to him so you have to start building a future of them.

If you earn well, start opening trusts for them and other things they can inherit.

Also be prepared for him to marry the mother of his son or kick you out all together.

And also be watchful. He might bring his dream to be a widower a reality.

Chinekepikin:
After receiving his certificate of return, the president took a simple picture with his lovely wife and children in Abuja today, As the display the 4+4 sign.

I think the look good!

See more photos below
http://www.thenaijafame.com.ng/2019/02/lovely-photo-of-president-buhari-aisha.html?m=1

I wish to be a mind reader right now.

Aisha is an enigma.

Donben007:
Dey have start again to destroy buhari govt again... Enemies of APC..

You have short memory.

One of the talking points of APC was that Goodluck was too weak on the issue of security.

Now it has come full circle you are talking enemies of APC.

More like enemies of Nigeria.

Charmingrascal:
PDP why? Oh Lord of host God of heaven and earth all those that have vowed to cause chaos, killings and crisis in Nigeria because they lost election irrespective of their tribe, gender or religion heavenly father please cause chaos, sorrow and agony in their house.
Father lord please make Nigeria great, disgrace the enemies of our Nation for in Jesus name I pray.

PDP how?

Did the gunmen just start operations?

Acidosis:
You have a point, moreover political debates don't count in this part of the world.

Political debates ke?

People are suffering and still voting Buhari you are talking about debates.