₦airaland Forum

JJBROS:
You guys are in Abroad where there are social amenities laughing us here. These are very reasons u guys cant stop sending money down to Nigeria because of poverty. We need a president who can fix our economy, education and other burning issues. You guys are fooools! If u think Buhari will fix Nigeria u better rethink. The Yorubas cried for restructuring but now they backed off. Kama will catch up with them soon or later.

As in.

APC UK?

Acidosis:
Atiku wasn't scammed. It only shows he has more enlightened and economically exposed folks on his side. It also shows that around 7 out of 10 Buhari's supporters can't use, access or utilize the Internet either as a result of poverty or illiteracy, both of which are innate characteristics of Muhammadu Buhari.

Like most of his fans, I'm sure Atiku has embraced the reality. It is normal to win some, and lose some. By 2022/2023, Nigerians will gather again to evaluate the performance of the leaders they elected at all levels.

@Bold:

We are not yet capable to.

Vickwinners:
Interesting times lies right ahead

Very interesting times.

Nigerians are becoming politically mature.

seunogunmolu1:
Where are those people shouting Atikulate, are they sleeping, wow! I thought I would see magic not knowing that the elections of 2015 would repeat itself

If 2015 elections repeat itself, then Atiku would win.

zicoraads:
This is me and my friend.

And your friend had to be female

God bless their home.

urose93:
So you will wait for your husband to first treat you right? Don't you know if a woman treats her husband with respect, love, submission, prayer and all, the husband in return will reciprocate naturally by treating her right? Don't pass the buck, both gender should be involved.

Do your research.

Triniti:
My cousin who’s now a British citizen just came back few weeks ago after spending 10 years in London and took his mom to London, now that’s not a bad thing to do, but this uncle of mine has been down for 5 years now with diabetes. It has really affected him so much that he doesn’t act normal these days,this my uncle sold some of his landed property to send his son to London for studies, after doing that, his business took a major blow which made the man to loses several millions of naira. Since then he has not being able to lay his hands on something tangible to do till he feel sick, I have gone to see him on several occasions, asking if the son has been sending money for his medication and upkeep which he answered to the negative. I have been asking this dude what’s up with him after he got married and got a very good job over there, why he doesn’t want to come back or do something about his dad illness, he will always say that there’s no money

Now he was back a few weeks ago and all he could do was take his mom, a midwife, who’s hale and hearty along with him, leaving his ailing dad who could have benefited so much with the good health care system in the Uk. Now the man is at home languishing with an ailment that has deteriorated so much. I called him the other day and lambasted him so much and he told me he is coming back this Easter, I asked if there’s a plan about taking the old man along too so he could have access to better health care. He said till he comes back first.

It is either:
1. He treated his wife and children poorly when he was agile;
2. His mother posioned the children against him;
3. He had no relationship with his family growing up.

God heal him.

cbdmerchant:
Please I need help in this regards, can't a married man not eat in his mother's place at least for once or twice or trice in a year.

Or is it a crime for a man to eat in your mother's place occasionally?

Sincere opinion needed!

To get sincere opinions, you need to give us the sincere position

Nothing strange in her advise, it is same our society has paddled for ages. Abi if a wife opens a thread tomorrow that her hubby is cheating, what will you advise?

I guess husbands who get home late can do snake in the monkey shadow everyday.

crackhaus:
Still on with the tirades.
1. You do not know if I already know women who have achieved great things or if I have had conversations with them.
Always make an effort to tailor your responses with statements that are devoid of assumptions so as not to appear sour.

2. Moving on... I did not tell you husbands DON'T fit into the giant puzzle. What I implied was 'husbands cannot be an x-factor in women empowerment'.
What you should have asked for is an explanation to get an alternate POV. It expands the mind.

I'll explain now:
X-factor means the most important factor, its origin is from the mathematical 'x' meaning constant which further means it does not change.

3. Women empowerment encompasses all women (married, single, divorced, and widowed). If a husband is your x-factor for married women, what then is the x-factor in women empowerment for single, divorced, and/or widowed women?
Definitely not husbands, ergo, this cannot be an x-factor since it does not explain or contribute to women empowerment among the other groups.

At best, husbands are one of the variable factors (a,b, or c) when it comes to women empowerment.
4. Even within the married group, there are those with unsupportive husbands who still went on to become great achievers in their fields.

What we should be figuring out then is, how did all the different groups of women including the married ones with unsupportive husbands, get to the zenith of their businesses and careers?
The answer is, 'personal determination to succeed'. This is an x-factor.


5. I don't expect you to swallow my submission whole, it is just an alternate POV which every person should be open to receiving, not trying to silence.

Peace.

5. I apologize if I came off as silencing your POV. Alternate POVs enrich the discuss.

1. The thread already has a target market; married women who are not ready to lose their marriages. Maybe changing the thread to 'Husbands: The X-factor in married women's empowerment' would better make that point for me.

2 & 3. Point 1 addresses this. I know what X-factor means.

4. If you read the OP well, you would gotten an answer to this in the categorisation of husbands I did. The women who complain that their husbands are 'unsupportive' have 'As you which' husbands and personal determination dictates how far the person goes.

If Mrs. A is married to a husband who says he must eat dinner everyday without caring who does what, she could contract the meal out, get a maid, have a cook, make herself available to cook etc.

If he says he wants her to make him fresh dinner by 6pm everyday, then she has to be available to make it. This already screens out the kind of jobs she can do.

I have met 'Don't do it' husbands and the wives can do nada as long as they want 'peace'/stay married. I know one who said he dictates what his wife watches on TV because he pays for DSTV. I asked what if the wife pays and he said she doesn't work so how would she have the money/guts to pay? Imagine that woman saying she wants to start a stuff of her own.

Most wives have 'As you like' husbands.

crackhaus:
I kind of sensed this too, it wasn't just you..but according to her, fortunately no one else did or is it unfortunately.

Funny for someone who I am still advising not to forsake the Church.

Very funny.

postmann:
I thought you were going to let me run away with it. Never too late for a reply, huh?

1. Anyways, what was your thread saying again?! That women are thought in churches to be tolerant of abusive husbands while similar teaching are not thought to men in the same weight.


2. And I tell you dear Bukky, if I should take your "first off" advise it still doesn't do your argument any good. The Bible is clear about unbelieving husband.

3. Your "secondly" assertion sets you up as one who might be antagonistic towards the BODY OF CHRIST -- the Church. If that's the case then it might be that there're still some hardened ground within your heart that hasn't yielded to the undiluted truth of the scriptures. Feminism is alien to Christianity. Choose which side you on.


4. Oh, the "thirdly"! Thou Bukky, divide not the Body of CHRIST. Concern yourself more with being submissive as scriptures demand of you and channel whatever gender misgivings you have towards the opposite sex in prayer -- THROUGH SUBMISSION

5. And fourthly, like seriously? You didn't mean to tell me that other people's posts conveyed your message better, do you?

1. Yes; there was still a recent thread where a RCCG pastor said wives should stay with pedophilic husbands while praying for them in an interview.

2. The Bible is clear so no discussion. We are even warned to be unequally yoked in the first place; perfect. The thread addresses 'Nigerian Churches'.

3. I laugh in Spanish! So everything the Church does/says is right? Even Paul had to correct the Jewish leaders on their rigid stance on gentile circumcision; He also corrected Peter when he was edging off the gentile converts because of other Jews. I guess he was also antagonistic.

4. Quit going in circles, the OP is clear.

5. And what's wrong with that? Am I a repository of all knowledge? Besides, in the mouth of multiple witnesses, the truth is established.

Have you attended a woman's program before?

folake4u:
My kind of thread.

Well,I'm a beauty advocate too and a Naturalista .
Not really keen on makeup too though.


@ computergeek . Achieving a silky smooth face is achievable at low cost.
Mix cinnamon powder, a pinch of salt, egg white and honey together and apply on a freshly washed face.
Leave for 10-20mins till its dry or you begin to feel the 'tightness' or 'firmness' of the egg white.
Rinse with warm water.
Dab a clean towel on your face gently and add your face moisturizer.

Voilà! You're good to go.
It works well for me .
Cinnamon (helps to reduce wrinkles and lines on the face)and increases blood flow.
Honey- for glow and moisture.
Egg white helps to make face firm,tightens your pores.
Salt is for exfoliation.


Or you can steam your face thrice a week.

Do you know a good steamer?

chriskosherbal:
Africa sef our behavior is the reason why this foreigners disrespect us.

Okay just tell me why are you kneeling down now can't your squat ...


Mtcheeeeeeeew

Kneeling or grabbing a chair seems more comfortable over time than squatting.

See pain on this thread.

@OP: what is our business with your sexual exploits?

Don't cry foul when STDs (curable & incurable) hits you.

crackhaus:
There are no successful unmarried people?

What's the secret to Oprah Winfrey's success?

You are smarter than this.

Oprah is NOT married, try again.

lilmax:
I am the "don't do it" husband

and bukatyne, so you can tell if a person is married online or not?

@first paragraph: good you have identified yourself and let her know about it.

crackhaus:
That's like saying you are not a politician so you don't grasp political issues, or you don't have a baby so you can't grasp discussions about babies. Silly right?

This is called an "Argument from authority" (argumentum ab auctoritate) usually made by someone who is cornered, can't think of any intellectual response and wants to bring the discussion to a fallacious conclusion. In psychology, people who resort to it have an undiagnosed psychological cognitive bias.

You're welcome by the way, free education for you just in case of next time. (you can still google it to learn more)

That aside, if you could overlook the assumption on my marital status (which you can't be certain of) for a bit, maybe you can answer the following question:

Is women empowerment restricted to just married women, or does it encapsulate all women?

Bros,

I am not in the mood for any windy discuss.

The OP is very streamlined and would have guided you on the scope of my discussion.

If you cannot fathom how a husband fits into the giant puzzle, sit with women who have achieved a number of things and discuss with them.

Can Oga Churchill come pick up his son till his wife can choose better friends?

Truth

crackhaus:
The x-factor in women empowerment is personal determination, not husbands.

You are not married so you don't grasp the discuss.

LewsTherin:
Bukatyne, you want me to toot my own horn?

All I can say is Know Thyself.

Hahahahahahahahaha

@crackhaus

Casan0va:
That guy has already found a form of control over her.

Could be either very good dick or something else more inane.

He doesn't know that most girls that are in abusive relationships will most likely not leave that guy.

Why??
It's a flaw in the female psyche.
A backdoor.

A female will read this and call me names and denounce what I said vehemently but sadly they don't know that they want/need to be treated badly.

Let me kuku sleep

I know you are quoting all these red pill nonsense

Most ladies saw their fathers beat their mothers and the mothers stayed. Some abused women are even marriage counsellors in their churches.

Now tell me why their daughters would leave an abusive relationships?

What other examples have they seen?

Take the OP's golden girl as a case study.

How old is she? How did she grow up? How was her parents relationship? What have they fed her with?

GreatResearcher:
His inability to pay rent on time and unwillingness to look for job are the reasons I will serve him a quit notice.

I plan giving the building out to whomever I'll marry this year and that would be a great opportunity to get rid of him.

Bros you harsh o!

You never get wife, you don get wedding date.

Ishilove:
What love does to you is make you blind to your partner's faults, but on the flip side, blinds you to obvious red flags. On the long run, you become emotionally broken when _shit hits the fan and your eyes clears. Then you come to social media and start trumpeting the 'all men are barstards/all women are biatches' anthem.

And then again, people make the mistake of taking their partners for granted, especially when that they shower them with love. They don't know how precious the jewel they have is, not until they lose it. You trifle with people's emotions because you think you're hot cake and your partners don't have another option. You just don't care what you put them through.

Your tenant may just learn the hard way (if his girl grows some sense).

Love is a risky business.

The girl doesn't love the man neither does she love herself.

If she lived herself, she would know that the man is not good for her and she deserves better.

If she loved the man, she would encourage him to be the best he can be.

So no love here sis.

She probably saw her mother endure same and wonder why we are shouting.

GreatResearcher:
Let me cut it short.

This month I sent d guy notice dat I will no longer endure it, he should go look for apartment else where because to me, he is not a responsible person. No attempt to get a job yet sleeping with different women.

Just this evening an alert enters my phone. His gf paid the rent and according to my care-taker they both are staying together right now.

The girl left her house to come stay with him.

I am really shocked because considering what this girl has gone through in this guy's hand, no one would think the girl will date him again talk more of paying house rent for him.

Some women are golden.

She is goldenly foolish or an hopeless idiot

So much beef on this thread.

The boy thinks the girl is worth it: EOD

What a tragedy.

God console and heal the parents.

gabazin080:
happening right now in my compound . an older woman slapped another because of little misunderstanding.
NB: the younger woman did nothing wrong. now the younger woman has called her husband who is a gentle easy going guy.
I overhead their conversation when the guy told him he is on his way. the woman has been bragging about how her husband will let all hell loose when he is back.

my question is, is it right to fight Your neighbor because of a fight that happened while you are away. what if he gets killed or injured in the process

Is it right for the husband to come and fight? No

However, he should sternly warn the old woman & her husband/kids never to touch his wife again. Slapping the wife is actually a disrespect to the husband.

The young wife sounds foolish IMHO. What's with the noise making that her husband is coming to fight? Even if indeed he is coming to fight, why take away the element of surprise?

And to ask, what kind of living arrangements do they have to warrant slapping about?

LordKO:
Lol. Me no de ready for wahala.

Oya whisper.

I like eke well well.

@ OP: we are waiting for part 2