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OgogoroFreak:
a mother can never just be against her own daughter no Matter what. There is something you are not doing right. Maybe you married a man you are taking care of financially. Man wey no get work.

And so?

Would her inability to keep her secrets give her son-in-law a job?

munarule:
Thank you very much. there's nothing a daughter is doing for a mother that am not doing for her and God bear me witness. anytime she come to my house I always make sure she's comfortable and when she's going I know how much I do spend. I send her money regularly for upkeep and also told her to always ask me if she need anything. Abeg how again I wan take treat her. Though i don't really have much now but she knows I can buy her the whole world if I can afford it.

Must you confide in your mother?

From your story, you are the one feeding your mother what to tell your SIL.

Instead of opening treads and falling to your mom over and over again, just shut your mouth.

If you are going through something you need to share, go to your dad if you are close to him or share on anonymous blogs. If there is no one to trust, pray about it, write it on paper, read it and burn it etc.

Funny they look life father and daughter to me in this picture.

Madam Joke is younger and Pa Olu is older.

Hahahahaha

Odunlade is crazy.

I guess the saying 'be careful what you wish for' is apt.

So he can rap?

Cool dude.

Tgirl4real:
Debrief I feel u jare. It isn't easy, but like my hubby would women are built for it. Lol

@ blank,

u also felt that post pregnancy syndrome.lol. So, has d child become no 1 now abi u hav managed to put hubby where he actually belongs?

@ Bold:

Women might be built for home keeping however, they are not built to work full time and take full charge of the home.

That is 2 in 1.

That's why a lot of wives stress themselves out, become cranky/bitter and start looking older than their husbands.

stainlink:
6. It’s Nearly Twice as Common for Twins to be Left-Handed than Single Individuals
Why most people become either right or left-handed
is still pretty much up for debate among
scientists. There are some interesting statistics
among twins, however, that shed some light on this
subject. Left-handedness occurs in only about 10
percent of the overall population. Amazingly, being
left-handed occurs at a much higher rate in twins.
This may be due, at least in part, to the fact that
about 25 percent of all twins are mirror twins and
that mirror image twins are exact reflections of one
another as discussed previously. This means that
for every set of mirror image twins one of them will
be left-handed.

Where are the six points left?

The Bible says when a man sleeps with a prostitute, he becomes one with her.

I am sure that if they dig further, they will find same for men.

Sex is spiritual and as well as physical so we need to say no to sex outside marriage.

@OP: Your post is one sided. Unlike other vices, you have to continually caution MALES and FEMALES to get any result.

lastpage:

..And you think this is a bad thing for a "boy" to ask HIS FATHER?

Let me allow you in on a little secret!

The whole "brouhaha viz-a-viz rampant deviancy" within the Western worlds is routed in this "independence and privacy" for Kids!
*Who are Children supposed to "see first, learn from and emulate" .....if not their parents?

*Is that Boy up there, supposed to ask his Teacher, friend or neighbor?...
.......Or is he supposed to learn by "experimenting"?

*Do you know that by asking such question of "his Dad", the boy is getting "first hand" assurance from someone he absolutely trust?
*Who should be the best "sex education teacher" for a kid, if not the parent?

*if you tell your child that "babies fall from heaven" when Daddy and Mummy are "fast asleep", how then would you convince that child not to engage in early sexscapaid?....and not fall into teen pregnancy?

Do you realize that one of the reasons "Homosexuality" is less rampant amongst we Africans is because from an early age in life, we are "exposed to both sexes" through "uninhibited interaction" with our brothers and sisters (like bathing together, sleeping on same bed/mat, wearing just about any "color" without discriminating that "pink is for girls and blue is for boys only", e.t.c, seeing our Mums and Dads dress-up in our presence and we dont develop any "sexual emotions", e.t.c)

Am not saying that children cannot have their own room but that should occur around age 13 or 14 and even then, it should be one room for "all male" and another for "all female" children!

That way, they would have developed (or develop) emotionally and would have learnt to control themselves properly, in the presence of the "opposite gender"!
I have seen some of these children who own rooms from 3years old, lock their parents out of their room, anytime they are annoyed ...and what can you do, no be you give am "independence and privacy"?

Honestly, l see a lot of 'white folks" who have never seen unclothedness in real life till they are like 18years and when it "descends" on them suddenly, they just loose all manner of self control! Rape is the next thing, if you cant control your sensual emotions, abi na lie?

As for me, all my 'male' children stay in the same room .....and the older ones will "nurture" the younger ones.
Growing up, one of the reasons l couldn't have "early sex" was because l cant bring a lady inside "our room"....my senior brothers cant also because we (all boys) use the same room!
If l had a room to myself, walahi.... make l no talk!

When my children are still very young, (under 8yrs), we bath together at times but as they get more "aware", l restrict it to the male children while the females are still free to scrub Mummy's back at will, in the bath tub!

Wetin? Oginni" Kilode?

Dont you know that this "independence and privacy" comes second, but "intimacy, trust, "respect and appreciation" for each gender, family bond, closeness, "family smell" (for want of a better word! ) are very important and COME FIRST, when a child is growing?[/b]

Can you explain to me why an "average white adolescent" (14 - 28) would not bathe an eyelid before slapping his father or ra.pi.ng his mother ...... (and the parents are ready to drive him out, ready or not, when he is 18yrs) but you hardly see such things within our own shores? (at least it is not the norm ....and Gerrout, ...dont give me that "example" in your head, )

Can you tell me why it is considered "taboo" for a father to use his hands to "clean-up his female child" while we Africans can do it without even giving it a second thought? (l clean my baby daughters when they poo ....and l dont grate my teeth doing it! )

The Yorubas will say "e je ka'tibi isanna kiyesi Oogun"! (let us appreciate wisdom from little things, literally translated).

How would you be able to do all these things with a "free mind" when you create that "barrier" between you and your children from a very early age?

Abeg, we may be trying to copy the white man's culture but please, let us restrict ourselves to the good aspect only!

Anyway, make l relax..... l dey come

Lastpage!

How do you advise the couple deal with sex and intimacy?

lecturerdabo:
GOD'S LOVE 2018!



Hello great Nairalanders, let's celebrate with our own as they tie the knot on Saturday
1- 9-18 @ Nigerian Navy Protestant church, Navy Barracks Borokiri Port Harcourt.

DANCE WITH THE COUPLE @Navy Secondary school PH Auditorium

The groom can advertise for close up. See dentition.

God bless their home.

ell77:
[size=18pt]Are you a Family CEO?[/size]

A UK survey has found women control family finances, something most UK Nigerian women did not need a survey to work out (look up Proverbs 31 for insight).

This newspaper article is dubbing these women as the "family CEO".

They say being called a housewife is not an accurate description of what they do, their roles being more closely linked to a director in a company. I presume this makes the husband the shareholder who wants to see a return on his investment and the children may double up as employee owners.

93% of those who were not the main breadwinners made all or most of the financial decisions.
For the full article read:
http://realnaijwife..co.uk/2013/03/are-you-family-ceo.html

How far with this project?

Acidosis:
Nothing is wrong about playing the role of a full time house wife.

Many people won't get jobs. More would go into business to avoid what people like you would say, but end up with losses. To avoid closing shop, more will pump more money to the business and continue to lose, just to "keep body and soul together".

With understanding, playing the role of a fulltime house wife at some point of a woman's life can be mutually beneficial. If staying at home will enable families save cost, then I'm in total support. Most of the time, staying at home save costs.

Where do you place a woman's personal ambitions?

cococandy:
1) No. other men don’t act like this. Or maybe they do. I don’t know. However, Your husband is very stingy. His sister probably knows. that’s why she always gives you money. Bless her kind heart. Please always remember her in your prayers and give her due respect.

2) did you discuss with your husband the type of financial arrangement both of you will have? If he agreed for you to be a housewife, then he’s indeed very ungracious. However if that wasn’t the plan and you decided on your own to be a housewife, then you need to do better. Have fire and a burning desire in your heart to do better for yourself.

Put your kids in daycare and go get a job. Let him use his money to pay for the daycare since he won’t provide for the person taking care of his kids. (I’m almost sure your maid is a child so let her go to school please).

Most people believe bringing money for food and paying rent is the end of provision. That’s why no one can truly provide for another person unless they are very rich and very very generous.

Provision goes beyond needs such as food and shelter. Wants are also important for your mental health. Can you ever buy something that you don’t need but truly want? Can you ever see something that you feel is overpriced but you feel like spoiling yourself so you buy it anyway?

That’s why you need to wake up and do something for yourself. Go learn a new skill if you have to.

Nothing to add.

Unfortunately, doubt we can get the OP's feedback.

It was culled from a blog.

Lovely shape.

Even if she is sucking belle, her stomach must be somewhat flat to look like that.

Earthbound:
Side chick for life.





Accepting her role as a true African woman knowing she has to share her man.

Interesting that of all things to mark an African woman, you choose having to accept infidelity.

Jlarry:


Thumbs up ya'all...

Any update?

otipoju:
Thank you Sis.

You are welcome

Oma307:
after God, fear woman. in a nutshell he has to take care of the baby, he has no knowledge of, from his wife.
but I was told that Hausa lady are decent to the core especially the Muslim. I was thinking of marrying from them since I have no privilege to date their lady. with this I am thinking of reversing my statement

The judge is right.

If a man sees his wife with pregnancy he can't explain and says nothing till she puts to bed, it is his own noni.

Silence means consent.

To show how unserious the man is, he waited till the baby was four months old.

Honestly, what husband suspects that his wife's pregnancy is not his and keeps quiet why he keeps sleeping with her and enjoying all other marital privileges?

otipoju:
Madame. I have heard you. Marriage is very very different from" boyfriend and girlfriend". I have not complained to you or anyone but i will always make adapt new knowledge in a way that enhances my marriage.

The research says when a male begins to share too much traditional female domestic chores with the female, she begins to see him less as manly even though she appreciates the help.

I have adapted this info after seeing signs of this trend myself and stuck to masculine chores. If i am going to help out, definitely not when she is there to see me fo it.

....what is your ish with that?

My ish ke?

Let's move on.

Your marriage, your life.

chisco82:
The Bible only call the Man the head and never said Woman is inferior. God did not a bone from the leg of aMan to create the woman so that she will be under him neirher did he took a bone from his head so that she will above him, but he took a bone out of his rib to form a woman so she can be part of him to support him, God called her a helper.
The Bible never made women to be inferior to Man, but Men the head the home/family. As we all know that every organization function well with leadership.
So being under the leadership of someone does n't make you inferior, that a man is the head of the home does n't make a woman inferior to the Man.
Here is what the Bible say:

Ephesians 5:21-25 KJV
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. [22] Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. [23] For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. [24] Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. [25] Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
@the bolded, SUBMIT TO ONE ANOTHER
Now i believe love comes first, when the husband loves the wife, i'm sure the respect and submision he will get them.
Cc: pocohantas
Cococandy.
bukatyne

Well done.

First intelligent response I have seen to counter the OP.

Colourich:
Her Facebook posts reek of stupidity. Go check her up on Nkechi Bianze and see for yourself.

I see.

I am not a fan of facebook and don't consider this important enough to track on FB.

By the side, are you following this girl or do facebook randomly throw posts on people's wall?

I have been meaning to ask someone. I never see random posts from people who are not my friends the once a year I log in so I am surprised when people say something or someone is trending on FB.

Colourich:
My man once shared her post with me on WhatsApp, he got so irritated with her Facebook posts that he had to share it with me, well I have nothing to say, I told him it is expected of feminists, they don't disappoint in making obvious their stupidity.

Not surprised.

I am sure there must have been some talking points in the post or reasons you believe she is not correct.

majekdom2:
It bothers me when people use the Bible as a defense for their stupidity. The Bible did not preach equality or inequality. What the Bible preaches is love- man/ woman, humanity. The Bible called the woman a “helper” in Genesis- and the man had no helper and was lonely, and God made a woman from the ribs of a man. There was no where the Bible said the man is superior to a woman. God gave them the first commandment and that’s to be fruitful and multiply. What this means is the woman is a helper for the fruitfulness of a man. It is obvious why many marriages are failing and it’s clear it’s ignorance. Women who have the right mentality and understanding are enjoying their homes. If you don’t understand what feminism is, it’s better you shit up so you don’t sound stupid like the above lady.

Funny how you say women who have the right mentality would enjoy their homes. Not people of the right mentality ie including men.

@1st paragraph, men have used the Bible to support inequality forever.... In fact, it is their inequality handbook. Start with submission, women should not talk in churches and throw in the Old Testament. You have a perfect recipe.

You see the reason for my paragraph right?

cococandy:
No one tried to counter her points with reasonable argument. Instead they all jumped on her looks. Simply because they had nothing sensible to say to prove her wrong. Bunch of poor minded folks.

And this is exactly why feminism is very very vital to civilization. When people think a woman’s value should be based on how men see her appearance. So because y’all don’t think she’s beautiful, whatever she has to say makes no sense?

Well I’m probably talking to the wall. Can’t expect simple minded plebs to try and reason a conversation out of this.

@1st paragraph:

I honestly wonder.

Girl said if anyone could prove her wrong, she will become a Christian again.

Peeps against her would mean they are Christians. However, their uncouth posts and views in other areas leaves very little to be desired.

In words of Ghandi: I don't like you Christians but I like your Christ. (I might be paraphrasing here).

It is well o.

MISEDUCATIONS:
listen to this thing! Busy openning its smelly mouth vomiting sewage! i just pity an empty head.

Wait o!

With your ideology about men/women relationship, you believe in the Bible?

Or you have your own special Christianity

MariaLavina:


When you don't have a relationship with God, you don't know his son Jesus and you read the bible carnally i.e without spiritual interpretation by the holy spirit then you are bound to misunderstand Christianity. God loves all. Men or Women.

God is not a Sexist! He is a God of order. He made Men and Women, and shared responsibilities for them according to their strengths. That you fall into the less logical, physically strong, and emotionally balanced sex isn't anyone's fault. Not even God's . Who are you o clay pot to question the works of your potter?

You are lost !

@bold:

You and the OP are saying dame thing, just having different decisions.

She decided that Christianity does not pay her; you decided that it does because you seemingly have all the better qualities.... So what is the fuse about?

And if she shouldn't blame God, who should she blame? Biology? Her parents? Herself?

And if I didn't live on Earth, I might have believed you

I don't know what's wrong with Tiwa, however I doubt it has to do with been a woman in Africa.

She is obviously on the 90% percentile of the good life.

otipoju:
Our sex lives remains the same. And she has stopped complaining and accepted her fate...and of course i occassionaly do the dishes...if she is not at home.

I see.

So the stoppage added no value contrary to the study's position.

Anyways, you just proved the theory that men change after marriage true for her.

Oga, look for what works for you and wife (not only in the kitchen) and stick to it.

What is obtainable where a study is done does not necessarily hold true elsewhere.

Hanseel1:
You for one will be comfortable sitting at home and being a full time housewife.

Move along please and stop misleading people that in the west women are encouraged to get married immediately they finish college or still in college.

So parts of some cultures equals everyone?

By your logic, prevalence of child marriage in some parts of Nigeria translates to high child marriage rate all over the country.

Hanseel1:
Money gives you voice in the society,

Money gives you voice in your marriage,

Money gives you power.

It is a proven fact that the reason why some men are scared of made women is because they know they can't do shït without regretting it.

The fact that you even asked that question shows the fact that you're ignorant on the psychology of marital power even though you're married.

You are obviously the one ignorant about 'martial power'.

The person who has more to lose/invested more is at the mercy of the other.

BTW: it seems ignorant is your word for the day.

otipoju:
Why not? ...from the word go. I made it clear that both men and women love sex to similar degree and it should never be used as a weapon of control.
...if you dont give me once is okay but if you deliberately withold as a form of punishment or reward....i will go out and take care of myself and i wont hide it from you.

My question is 'do you guys have more sex since you stopped helping in the kitchen and she complains bitterly about it?'

Hanseel1:
You have a record of defending the undefendable.

Why would a woman who went to school, acquired a certificate through intelligence wish to be a full time housewife if not for laziness?

I repeat any woman who voluntarily wishes to be a full-time housewife is lazy and of no use to the economy.

Oh well!

What do you know?