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TheKingIsHere:
Because money was the Genesis of their problem.

Frankiss44:
Most of things you said are true... But you can't be giving countless excuses for Melinda because at the end of the day, we will all be responsible for our decisions... Majority of the blame I think should go to the family.. The interference was just too much and she let them get into her head... But one of the worse decisions she made that lost my sympathy was banging the ex immediately after she got the divorce..

TheKingIsHere:
I disagree. The guy was greedy at first but learnt his lesson and kept on with his dream. He was faithful to her since after he cheated during his teenage period. He also promised to repay the lady once he gets the deal and he did even more than expected, so he wasn't greedy.

The lady waited but was already feeling hopeless as the guys dream took several years .

If anyone is to be blamed, I will blame her.

Why? She waited for over a decade with her husband and endured it all, there was no reason to leave again after that heavy investment of time and money.

pweetygiftofGod:
I will not, that's insecurities, seriously

My BF forgets, sometimes I take him unawares and I have full access to his phone.
I've learnt that if he loves you, he'll respect you and want to keep you...why search his phone and most likely have heartaches, some times being ignorant of some stuff pays

Until he pays legitimately in terms of marriage, he's free to sample as many as he finds attractive.

wilson2:
But in the beginning it was not So....... Only God knows why child birth in this generation is something else...

My mum gave birth to me and my 4 siblings without going to the hospital.... 2 among us she did it all by herself without the help of any one or a doctor

GraceBestowed:
[color=#CD3700] It’s baffling how people are normalising this kind of debauchery. She cheated and he walked away now people are accusing him of not loving her? Just smh! [/color]

OLAADEGBU:
Am sure most of those feminists protesting are not married.

michlins:
dude you don't question my sanity on a faceless forum. Didn't your mom teach you on how to respect people?

Anyway this is how it works, abuja are filled with political jobbers whose only business is eating from the political table. So in the event they can't eat from the said table, they leave and the landlords are forced to reduce the rent to reflect the situation. It's only in Abuja that you will see a house only occupied by the gate man and once in a blue moon, the Oga comes with his girlfriend to spend time there.

Morealso because the money ain't flowing like before, the artificial wellness created by corruption and free money is removed and the stark reality is burning everyone.

sapeleboi:
40th years fiancé ,old Mary Jane

chronique:
someone like me that my body knows how to give signal when a lady is about misbehaving,wouldn't hesitate to exit a relationship once i see someone has a plan b somewhere. and if i want to punish the person,i could just decide to keep her as a sex tool till i'm ready to move on.

Seal33:
I was really shocked to read an advice on Nairaland front page by one Joro Olumofin who calls himself a relationship counsellor where he advised women to have back up boyfriends in case of disappointment by their boyfriends. But in the first place who even gave this guy the appellation of a relationship doctor?

Is this the type of person Nigerians who want genuine & lasting relationships should listen to? This guy called Joro is simply evil and a scam & anybody who listens to him will have themselves to blame. He is fond of giving wrong & evil relationship advice, yet people go to his social media handle to copy the trash advice he gives, even when there are better and godly relationship counsellors in Nigeria whose advice should be taken instead of this scam artist called Joro Olumofin.

And I wonder why Nairaland Moderators will keep pushing topics of this type of negative relationship advice by fake relationship counselors like Joro to the front page. It's surprising.

Women u will have yourself to blame if u follow this guy & his plan with men for u to have 2 or 3 boyfriends & turn to olosho/prostitute ur body for men just because ure looking for marriage. Will Joro advise his sisters to do so?

Don't think by having 2 or 3 boyfriends, it will make it easier for u to get a partner. That's a lie from d pit of hell. The same men u think u are just friends with & keeping them as just friends will one day plot & find a way to ur heart because we women are fragile in heart & can easily be manipulated by men, & sooner or later u might end up with sleeping with them. & u now become public property sharing urself to different men. By the time u want to settle down for marriage all those men will tell each other they have slept with u & will spoil ur name even those ure just friends with will still claim they slept wit u because men have ego & like to feel they've conquered a woman even when it's not so.

If u follow Joro's advice u will only end up with heart break & heart attack with time & later in life. Mark my word. We should call this evil guy Joro Olumofin out before he spoils ur daughters & our daughters & before he damages relationships & causes heartbreaks.

This guy is never a relationship counselor, he is simply fake & evil. Pls don't listen to him.

And for bloggers that constantly go to this guy's page to copy & distribute these trash relationship advice, u're not doing people any good u're only helping to ruin more relationships & mind u as u continue to share these evil advice all over the country it will come back to haunt u in future in one way or the other.

Pls share your views, let's hear from u.

Moderators pls kindly move to the front page asap!

romance007:
Pls only matured advice.
Am young (21yrs) undergraduate. I currently have an NCE. I met this guy about 2yrs ago and am deeply in love with him. I believe strongly that he loves me too. We are both from Plateau State with diff tribe but that's never an issue. We share similar values and have spoken alot about getting married and how our home should be. Both of us are devout Christians. He has a HND and is already gainfully employed and thus ready to settle down. He's 29. I dont mind marrying him right away too cos ive studied him and i believe he will make a good husband.

Issue is after obtaining my NCE, I started off a five year lab course at Unijos and am just in my 1st year. While he is willing to wait till i enter my 2nd year or possibly finish 2nd year (abt 1.5yrs from now), my parents think differently. My parents dont want to hear me talk about marriage as they want me to finish school and get a job before settling down. My dad is worst as he believes i should only have a boyfriend after i graduate . I know they say love is patient but of cos that's y he is willing to wait till my 2nd year. We plan on delaying childbirth until we are properly settled in the marriage and feel a child could be managed. I cant imagine keeping him for 5-6 years; that's crazy. I myself cant bear not being with him for that long.
Pls has anyone come across such experience? How do you think i should handle this? It's killing me ohh!! pls advice this young lady maturely abeg. Thks

nazablossom:
Your husband asked you not to wear it, yet you posted it for the world to see, what's the difference?

Olalan:
Some dumb wannabe copy copy feminist would fault the man for choosing for the wife and equally blame the wife for accepting the husband opinion

cococandy:
I would encourage that because we do it and it works for us. We didn’t start out that way but now that we do, there’s obviously a difference.


Whatever you share, make sure it’s reciprocated otherwise then it’s controlling and never romantic.
If you have access to her emails, make sure she has access to your emails. If you have the passwords to all her social media, she has to have the passwords to all of yours as well. I hope you guys enjoy your marriage

Wilfredpat22:
Be careful to be too transparent as we can read another meaning to your transparency

Naijawebmaster:
Be careful for what you wish for.

abokibuhari:
Cause you get money wait make you poor so we go know if you go still sing same song

Paperwhite:
The good Lord console & comfort your entire family Mercy.This is really a trying time for you-loss of a mother
Please encourage yourself in the God you have ever believed in & find strength to do same to your siblings.

AnaMezza:
I think a lot of people that take on jobs to be PA for celebrities have it in their heads that it's all fun and glamorous. The job of a celebrity's PA is basically that of a servant, you go where your boss wants you to go, at the time he want you to go, you basically don't own your life anymore. So next time, before you apply for a PA job for a celebrity, take time to think about it, if it is the kind of life you want to live at that point. I know someone who was a PA for an actor, we will not see him for weeks, next time when you see him, he'll tell you he was with the actor in Calabar for a movie shoot. Fine, he had contacts of many celebrities and got to attend red carpet events and travel both in and outside the country, but at the end of the day, he was working 7 days a week, nothing less that 10 hours a day for an arrogant actor for N150k a month!

gypsey:
look! she is just been honest from her experience, it isn't a war between men and women. like you are trying to insinuate perharps.

bukatyne:
I don't know what you mean by flexing but I know that the best flexing is enjoyed in marriage with a spouse you love and loves you too.

Imagine you marry a 25 yr old man who really loves you @ 23. By 26, you are done having your kids...

You get to flex for the next 44yrs if you live till a min of 70.

I know this is a surreal situation but...

This is my own definition of real flexing!

I like to do what I have to do on time and move to the next step!

DNaijab:
A US woman, Patricia Hill, was on Saturday arrested after she admitted to police investigators that she had shot and killed her husband because he bought pornography.

According to the Jefferson County Sheriff’s Office, just after 2:30pm, 69-year-old Patricia Hill called 911 and told dispatchers she just shot her husband Frank, reports Fox 16.

https://dailynaija.com/post/woman-shoots-husband-dead-for-always-buying-and-watching-porn-videos-photo

cococandy:
Tell those “men are scarce” chanters . They can keep consoling themselves

JoannaSedley:
So it is the woman's problem? It is her fault that there is vaginal laxity after pushing out a baby? The kegels and enlargement of the pe.nis are their options. You can rope it around the woman alone but i can't. The woman should tighten up by even undergoing vaginoplasty while the man enlarges his rod. Thank you.

Prognose:
I think that moniker is just trolling. I see a lot of it in this section. I don't know how or why they enjoy it

GreatDad19:
I have informed two of my closest friends who are like brothers to me. This was purely out of frustration. I don’t discuss my marital concerns with just anyone as you are insinuating. I’m just trying to find a solution ma.