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Opeyemi Aiyeola is now doing better for herself.

Funny how same marriage built some actresses like Opeyemi Aiyeola, Mercy Johnson, Omotola, Uche Jumbo etc.

Hmmmmm.

Yambee:
They are not lesbians. Just joking with you. The males there are the ones converting them to sidechicks.

So you see that the problem is the men and women in the group.

BTW, what secondary school did you go to that you are all sleeping with yourselves

Yambee:
Themselves?yes lol.

Oh, all the ladies are lesbians?

What a shame.

sleit:
Hi.
I am a lady of 22 years, will be 23 by January next year. I just
graduated and I've been with my guy since 200 level. We are in a
no-sex long distance relationship. In fact, we are both virgins. We
are kind of S.U.ish, if you understand the picture I'm trying to
paint.

He graduated ahead of me, and now has a job and is comfortable enough
to get married. So he's been asking for us to get married before
February next year. This guy is caring, wise, matured, faithful and
crazily in love with me (at least that is what he keeps saying).

Now, the problem?

I am not in love with him. I definitely do like and respect him, but
no matter how much I try, I can't just seem to fall in love with him.
So, you might ask why I kept the relationship for so long?
Well, I broke it off once, but he still came back and said we can put
in the effort to make it work.

He is a kind of person that doesn't condone sex out of marriage. Now,
he says the sexual pressure is quite high on him. And since he is
financially okay, he wants us to get married before he travels out for
his masters abroad.

I really have to give him an answer now as that will determine his
plans when leaving the country by February.

Would you guys advice me to accept the proposal of someone I know will
be a great husband and hope love will come along down the line later? Can a marriage start with just respect and like?
Or should I let him go and hope I will meet someone later? (I keep hearing a lot of scary stories about guys on nairaland and I'm
actually scared that if I let go, I won't get a keeper like him later.)

P.S.
I am a highly introverted person, and to make things worse, I work
remotely which means I hardly see people. I am always in my room with
my laptop.

C.C. Bukatyne, LadySarah, Shookonekilla, Ishilove, Sisisioge, Acidosis, TooNoisy, Eketem, Eyinjuege, Dominique, Eketem, KanwuliaExtra, Wilfredpat22, Tintingz, Babythug, Treasuredlove, Clarathomp, Cococandy, Nutase, Antina, Delishpot, St.surreal. (I've seen you guys give some opinion that I respect, need your say on this also. Thank you!).

THANKS TO EVERYONE THAT CONTRIBUTED. I DIDNT EXPECT TO GET SO MUCH GREAT ADVICE. THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN.

Good evening sleit.

What is love to you?

What kind of man turns you on or are you attracted to?

Yambee:
In our mothers time, this could have been possible.

Not anymore.

Last year, I was added to my secondary school WhatsApp group,and it was fun catching up with old mates,seniors and juniors, who have gone to make something out of their lives.

But the women oh boy. Married women with kids at home, some in their 50's,some in their 40's,and 30's. About 60% sleeping with
Somebody in the group.

I mean, there are a lot of unhappy married women out here,that are just married for the name of being called a married woman,and still get their fun outside.

If you are married,or have a wife that is very active in their secondary alumni thing online, please pay attention to her very well,the fuvk there no be here.

I am curious, are the women sleeping with themselves?

AreaFada2:
If I was Ambo, if the whole godfather politics gets too much, I will just leave politics altogether.
But they enjoy the power & money in it too much to go.

You do not have to be in politics to contribute.

It's obvious he's not a typical Nigerian politician. He thought just focusing on the job like a technocrat is enough. Without political distractions.

Ambode's problem is that he wants to chop alone.

It is either you are clean or call your family members to eat with you.

Can investigation be done further?

The story is incomplete.

Sijo01:
She's not asking for too much na

As in.

I thought she was asking for the man's head and blood.

If young people feel that this list is out of this world, then I am afraid that parents are failing.

Alirem:
There will surely be a man with those features. But is she worth it?

This is the kind of intelligent questions I expect.

TheOdd1sOut:
Lol....

Hit like if you agree with the guy

Lala.... Kindly move so others can laugh at this girl's folly

And what is foolish about the girl?

Are the guys around so lacking in character that basic things are now luxury?

All shades of hotness.

Something about the Latinas

Katier00:
The honest question is, who is truly happy? From my findings, happiness comes from within. There are women going through hell in their marriages but they decided to see beyond that and be happy while others got married to wonderful men but have sworn never to be happy because they lack contentment. Personally I will choose happiness first irrespective of the situation I find myself, single, married or divorced.

Hmmmmmm

True.

Naijaguy12345:
I knew long time ago.

Is Premium Times not same people that outed Madam Kemi and fake exemption letter?

Cc: uncleJudax

[quote author=Ioannes post=71508750][/quote]You are talking with both sides of your mouth. If you are going the route of roles and responsibilities, then you must go the full mile.

If a husband wants to be the alpha and omega then responsibilities such as full or 90% provision come with it.

It is not about sharing chores, it us about doing what is fair.

If it is a marriage where everyone gives their 100% time and money, no wahala.

If you are going to remember it is not your duty to do chores, better echo that when you are expecting her to contribute to something financially.

You can't eat your cake and have it.

lawlhee:
Men, what will happen if your wife says she's not working again that she wants to become a house wife?

What are the reasons?

hopeforcharles:
Yesterday I saw a post on front page saying Women didnot come out of a man's Rib
https://www.nairaland.com/4703406/women-did-not-come-mens
Here is my Views
Truely the first man and woman was created and wasn't given birth to. When God created the first man he placed him in charge of the garden and God realised that the first man needs a companion, a helpmate, He now caused the man to fall into a deep sleep and He removed a Rib from the man and used it in creating a woman or persay adding up a woman, Remember He is the Creator and a creator can manipulate his creation any way he deem fit,
Do you know what this act of God does to women?
No matter how beautiful, wealthy, intelligent and powerful you are as a woman you are never complete there is a magnetic attraction that draws you to a man or makes you realise you are missing your pair or incomplete
Pretend all you want, say all the trash you want but it stares at you, it's biological, spiritual and physical
Any woman who will blatantly come out to say things like this is absolutely not normal either psychological or just want to live in denial.
We are never truly complete as a man or woman if you are not with your pair,
You can add more to this thoughts of mine or show me your disagreement.

I believe you are talking about the concept of a soulmate which I agree with.

Except for a few, nobody is happy alone.

Well, Linda is tasting a dose of her medicine.

Hopefully, she will change when she resumes blogging.

zaynie:
What are his reasons?
--- do you go out at odd hours? Come back at unholy hours? Leave the house in a mess when you go out? Leave the kids with just anybody when you go out? Lie that you are going East while in actual fact you are heading West? Or perhaps you go to places he doesnt want to be associated with; bars, loud parties etc.

---Not to keep any friends or a particular friend?

--- He controls your movement? Is he self employed? Do you have a bodyguard? Are you a full housewife?
--- I don't get the finances part, does he collect it from you forcefully or do you willingly part with it?

Right on point.

@OP: should provide answers.

51yr old husband, 26yr old first wife and 20yr old second wife.

BTW, is the second wife the maid he pregnated?

Hmmmmmm.

I believe the marriage has bigger problems than the wife building a house since the husband was dragging his feet about it.

And the inherent distrust that the posters displayed above is worrisome.

Hopefully, they are married and off the market.

ACE1010:
I don't understand all these!! So what's the real cause of diabetes?? Tell us dokita!!!

Inability for your body to
1. Produce enough insulin to convert sugar to energy

2. Recognise the insulin produced.

Besides, 'sugar' is not necessarily white sugar or fizzy drinks.

Sugar is gotten in different forms.... Glucose, fructose, sucrose etc. which is found in carbohydrates and fruits.

There is rise in diabetes in Nigeria because our food is loaded with carbohydrates and we are not as mobile or active as our ancestors. That's also why people who do very physical jobs e.g. bricklayers do not have diabetes even if they eat bread and super water.

Our so called staple protein (beans) is very high in carbohydrates and my Naija people will still eat it with rice, garri or bread.

Enice:
Illiterates and bitter filled people everywhere you look on this thread. NYSC is not compulsory for every Nigerian graduate. it is only compulsory for those that want to serve Nigeria either in civil or public service, military or politics and there is no time limit after school to do it. I have seen PHD holders doing NYSC.

Was the PHD holder younger than 30?

TonyeBarcanista:
Women and double standard!

The same woman will cry blue murder that her husband's mother is too attached to him (not minding the fact that she as well carried him for 9 months, birthed him and nurtured him into an adult).

I will continue to say that any woman that complains about attachment of their MIL on her son, (woman's husband) is selfish, wicked, evil and despicable.

I don't expect a mother not to have less affection on her child even more than her husband, the love a mother has for her child is amazing. This is one reason every sane man must make their mother proud by showing her unregulated love and ensuring that no woman in the name of wife causes her sadness or tears.

You have such strange view of MIL/ DIL relationships.

Ideally, if a MIL had a loving relationship with her husband, she would understand and encourage that her DIL comes first in her son's life because she enjoyed same.

She would be too busy with her husband / minding her businesses/church/ mosque/affilations and groups to be a pain in her DIL's neck.

Rather than men plan how they would ensure their wives take back seat in their own homes, let them imply their fathers to treat their mothers right.

tushd:
At least a thread of Dad being praised

Dads are always the unsung heroes

musicians hardly sings about them
children hardly praise them


shutout to the true dads out there, always hiding the pains

likes for the fathers

This thread proves my point.

If a father is good, he will reap the benefits.

He has obviously shown his wife and children so much love that they can persuade the daughter's boyfriend to join them to get the car.

You can't sow the wind and not expect to reap the whirlwind.

Men, your children are watching.

Tedpgrass:
2 wrongs don't make a right.

Women remain the main moral compass of a society, if that is lost, a shipwreck is inevitable!!!

Do good not for the kudos but it's good to be GOOD!!



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How can women be the moral compass when men are supposed to be the head of the family and by extension society?

What is the usefulness of a man if he can't be an example to his family?

Na wa o.

@topic: they should do maternity tests for the kids too. With the rate of swapping male kids and selling them too, the mothers might not own the kids too.

cnwamo:
I’ve said my peace, this is my own point of view. I can’t imagine my Mum slapping my Wife but if it does happen Heaven knows she’s gonna get more than she bargained for.

My question to you is; If your mother slaps your husband and he slaps her back what would you do? Now your answer is your point of view and I respect it even if it’s different from mine.

I can always have another Wife but I only have one Mother and I’ll always be biased in favor of my mother.

Than don't bother with marriage or marry your mom instead.

imam07:
Are u a lady or a woman for God sake. A man that will marry this thing is in serious soup. Is it because this place is a faceless forum? God I thank u that I am a man. There is no how u can display your stupidity here that it will not manifest or materialize when u get marry. So nah woman that will be in charge of someone's home dey talk like this. Kai. Guys wey never marry are in serious trouble.
Guys look very well b4 u leap. Don't fall for pretenders. This one is a faulty hand Grenade

And you are damaged goods if you think it is normal for a MIL to be slapping her DIL.

Or did your father's mother slap your mother about?

LordNapoleon:
They are happy that many marriages are crashing. Her type of feminism is a stupid one; they derive joy from seeing happy homes scatter.

Do happy homes scatter?

I honestly do not understand people's angst in this matter.

She said that better 100 happy homes than 1,000 homes where 900 are unhappy.

She also said mad people (male & female) should stop getting married.

And told women to train their sons to become the husbands they want their daughters to marry.

Now, I would expect that if anyone has a contrary opinion, they lay the cards on the table.

Mbanu, it is to go round in circles insulting the messenger without even listening to the message or having a good rebuttal.