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vivaciousvivi:
Pray tell, @ bolded.
I am really interested in hearing your views

Not same industry or value.

Laura IkejI has done well however, I would listen to flying Doc and take her as a role model over Laura.

Cc: daveP

zlantanfan:
So laura and Ruth kadiri too are entrepreneurs.

Apart from the flying doctors lady there I don't know any that owns a viable startup not some runs girl cumtrepreneur

Even if they cumtrepreneurs, you would agree that they worked hard at their craft to be recognized.

Cumtrepreneuring plenty; excelling at the result of it is not.

Give them well deserved accolades.

I don't think the flying Doc and Uber Boss should be among them.

Welldone beautiful ladies; the term 'Boss Lady' makes it seem that being a lady is not enough.

Therock5555:
This shiit has happened to me too

*i went to a party and got over drunk
*ended up with a lady who had a crush on me but she wasn‘t my specs
*took me to her house, i threw up on myself, she took off my clothes and bathe me, cleaned me up
*later at night i was cold and cuddled her
*we ended up having sex and i woke up the next morning mortifed
*i blasted her tire and she apologised, later thought about it and profusely apologised

I‘m sure if i were a lady, i should be screaming raaappppeee by now.

Women could be deceitful jare

Thank you!

Instead of her to lick her wounds and move on, she is yarning dust.

I remember a lady who said sometimes she ran into an ex and one thing one thing they hit it and she regretted in the morning.

She is wise enough to note that she put herself in that position and resolved never to do such again except if she wanted to really really sleep with him

How do some people manage to ruin a good occasion? Turning her graduation speech to this?

Despite some challenges, I came out tops through help of X, Y and Z is enough details.

What evil does social media possess to make people stupid?

This was not a case of random rape or the guy breaking in to rape you.

You went for an aimless party (strike one), got drunk (strike two), invited a guy home (strike three) and let him run a shower for you (strike four) and somehow did not except sex.

Why invite him over at night drunk? Why not your girl friends who invited you for the party?

Let's give you the benefit of doubt to say that you didn't 'want' sex, you should be mature enough to know that the 'rape' was a consequence of your prior actions and resolve never to be in such situation again.

This idea of doing things without expecting the consequences is part of SM madness.

Can we just go back to when peeps were more sensible and direct?

Good thing they arrested the traffickers.

To those saying that the girls knew; the guy confessed taking them to Epe to 'verify the work their destiny is good for'.

We all know that is bullocks.

The ladies should be rehabilitated psychologically to heal them.

This goes back to parents; have the number of kids you can comfortably cater for.

The poverty in those areas are so rife that kids just wander off to make ends as staying back home means absolutely no hope.

Come to some areas of Lagos and see near hopelessness.

People living in sub human conditions because there is nothing nowhere to go back to.

MissRaine69:
In this day and age? Someone offers you a job yet you have 0% experience or education and somehow you are supprised it involves sex?
Bulls balls!

Ma'am, a lot of them are househelps and sales girls in Lagos.

Infact, growing up, when you hear Ekaette or Akpan, the next thing is househelp.

Drealthing:
This girl is a liar and a LovePeddler....wait a minute, she is a LovePeddler. Why is she trying to act like the victim, because police is involved? So she was bundled to Lagos abi. She was caged in the hotel abi? She couldn't go to the police station or gather money for transport back to her village abi? Did John and Vero not tell her the job was prostitution yet she stayed back and continued with it. Abeg, no be always ibom girl? She be virgin before abi she no like the thing. I'm laughing in French. Nonsense!!!!

I was going to pass till I got to the bolded:

A lady 'deserves' to be forced into prostitution because she is not a virgin/ enjoys sex?

I wish the same on your sisters and female relatives too.

I wonder why some of you don't process what you want to type first.

Interesting read.

Sad, continuallying poor choices in men till the last one.

And she is so beautiful.

Anyways, hopefully, her brothers would let go of the past and have a relationship with her.

Though a huge burden on her shoulders, she has the opportunity to prove everyone wrong yet she kept proving them right.

Well, the wedding is null and void.

The father/family has to consent to the marriage by collecting her bride price or perform any other marriage rites that is acceptable in their custom.

The church must have brainwashed the girl.

What a pity.

JewelStone:
Lamb pizza for dinner, I finished it all and felt guilty afterwards . Lol

You finished the whole box?

Twale mama!

On second slice I am so stuffed.

I can eat cake like that sha.

crackhaus:
I like the alpha female.

I will be the house-husband and take good care of the home while she goes out to make all the cheddar. I will also be expecting my monthly upkeep and maintenance money plus annual vacation. Enjoyment galore...

I can't be with an alpha-female who will want to be bossing me around, having her way and being in control...then still want to be eating my money on top.
Is she mad?

I know this is sarcasm however, do you think the bold is ok once the person drops the cheddar?

Do you think it is ok for the husband to be like that because he provides financially?

What happens when the wife also earns, out earns or is the sole earner?

crackhaus:
Probably because the needs are endless.

Men are much simpler.

If they meet 10 out of 15, they would be able to address their wives' ungratefulness; afterall, he is not God.

But to fold your arms and do nothing?

Mbanu!

crackhaus:
Kpakam...

Hallelujah.

Harmonyemerald:
Alpha female has some attributes of a man.... she is usually the glue that holds her friends together.. tge central hub of her friends when she is not there , a vacuum is created... people sometimes thinks she is manipulative.
She stands for what she believes in.... people think she is bossy.

She is very confident and they think her arrogant

She is resilient

She is loyal to the core

She derives joy in extreme self dignity and respect... she doesn't compromise her basic principles

She has a strong personality

Risk takers, always the top of whatever they set their mind to do cos they are strongly determined and never quits.

The female leader

Not scared of being alone.

Etc..... Google has a million other characteristics

I am not talking of 'Google definition'. I am asking what made you call lady A an alpha female.

And I do not understand 'the attributes of a man' thingy.

Are there different attributes for men & women?

Peterdreddblog:
Sorry.. Didn't use my glasses

Apologies accepted.

Go and sin no more.

Omaa1:
Bukatyne, U1, and Barristter07!

Thanks so much, your input means a lot to me.

Once more thanks and God bless

You are welcome.

Happy new year.

How are things now?

Harmonyemerald:
Hello people.... good morning.... longest time. How is everyone doing..it's been long.... Today's topic will be short... it's about the "alpha female". I work in a place filled with young people of both sexes and it takes guts and some level of confidence to call the shots... we thrive on confidence hence most of the ladies there are seen as Alpha female.... and for some men that is a turn off to me... "it's hard to date an alpha female... she wi'll be the boss and the man in the relationship" they say.

Ladies are you an alpha female, confident, strong personality , fearless and strongly opinionated, a go getter, independent.... How do you make your relationship work so that your man doesn't feel less of a man.. what kind of guy is well situated for an alpha female and how do you make it work.

Guys in the house... what is your take on dating an alpha female... what are the things she does that shakes your ego and how do you make it work?


The floor is open......... lets share our thoughts

Happy new year.

What is your definition of an 'Alpha female' with examples.

crackhaus:
I hold you for waist?

Let me help you out:

When a woman makes her happiness/fulfillment in marriage dependent on her NEEDS, she is doomed and will be stuck in an endless cycle of "happy with my husband today, unhappy with him tomorrow".

This is what my post elucidates on, and a summary of the article you shared.

@Bold: I very well agree with you and the OP.

Sex abstinence to protest against abortions?

Please carry on.

LivingDead:
I've been contemplating it for some time now. But the fear of my life suddenly going 'blank' deters me from executing my plans.

There's really nothing to look up to in this current life. I'm broke, critically ill and full of misfortunes

All will be well with time.

Just hang on, others have gone through worse stuff and came out victorious.

As long as you are alive, there is hope.

Headlesschicken:
Too many nairalanders now wanna commit suicide...

Sounds funny however I remember that a NLer committed suicide some days back.

Some might be fake, some might be a genuine plea for help.

It costs you nothing to drop a few lines of encouragement or ignore the thread.

crackhaus:
Where in my post did you get the interpretation that men should not meet the needs of their wives?

I do not think I inferred you said that.

Or is it because it is the first line in my response to you?

Abeg, leave me joor.

I am sure I addressed some other stuffs in everyone I responded to here apart from 'D'.

pocohantas:
1. You are unlucky.
2. You deserve/attract leeches.
3. Your village people.

The obvious one....

You have not given her upto N1m since January till date.

Cc: macbede

crackhaus:
Expository write-up, quite balanced. The writer comes off as someone who has broken free from the cage of SELF and transcended into the realm of enlightenment.

The moment a woman starts making her HAPPINESS dependent on HER NEEDS and of course expecting her spouse to be the one who meets them, she will always remain unhappy and unfulfilled simply because a woman's needs are endless.
There will always be something the man is yet to do for her which he hasn't done yet.

The question is, "why would any woman do that to themselves"
My answer is, "They don't even know they did"

This is not a coup out for men NOT to meet the needs of their women.

Maybe that's why the 'face your children' advise is common here?

If a woman who multi tasks can learn to appreciate daily goodness, it would help her more appreciative and forgiving; godly qualities we need to develop.

This is a classic example of marriage as a school of learning and improving character and not telling women to learn how to endure disrespect, cheating or abuse.

dingbang:
really... How is your marriage going? Its well known that philosophers have a bad marriage..

So copying and pasting an article from a blog makes me a philosopher?

God please dash this man sense!

Well, he only echoed the thoughts of many husbands.

Next!

dingbang:
Women are very stubborn, they feel they are "righter" than the holy spirit..

And that's why most of their marriages will fail because they don't listen!

Oh, you fit the example of the lout husband.

cococandy:
She should speak for herself.

Personally I’m am super easy to please. Just respect me the way you want me to respect you and we are fine.

I appreciate every gesture no matter how little. And when I’m able to, I reciprocate it double.

I agree she had good points but she ruined it by her generalizations. Many good women exist who appreciate simple gestures in a big way.

Remember her primary audience is American wives.

She wasn't referring to 'bad wives' apart from the example of the couple married for 35yrs.

What she is saying is that often times, because women have a lot of things on their minds, they look at the 'whole picture' in a negative way. When he does A, instead of basking in the moment and enjoy A, we are still looking out for B - Z.

She also pointed out that we question our husband's motives of tenderness towards us.

Upon a personal review, I really appreciate things done in the moment and always want to reciprocate. I however sometimes question his motives for appreciating me. When I do something I don't want to, appreciating me and going all lovey seems like mockery to me and gets me more irritated. And this goes for everyone. So maybe it is a personality thing and not even marriage related.

I also don't associate sex with feelings of happiness/ meeting needs. It is like food. I wouldn't reject food because I am not happy that my mom didn't buy a dress I really desired.

I eat the food, display my disappointment in not getting my dress and move on till another event of met/unmet needs.

Some of these things are good so we can do personal reviews.

KanwuliaExtra:
Does he have to meet my needs?
The one he can do fine.
The rest? I CAN DO!

Ask Chimamanda!

I agree that a husband can't meet all the needs of his wife.

This is written by an American wife yet interestingly, a colleague said something summarizing this a while back: it is easier to be a good wife than a good husband. With food, sex and respect, the husband is 'fine'; with the wife, not so.

Maybe that's why the advice 'when you want something, cook, sleep with him' bla bla sometimes works with men.

It also doesn't help that most of the husbands are not taught/ do not know/ are not interested in meeting the needs of the wife.

Peterdreddblog:
Thought you're male..

Woman??

Male with the bright pink 'F' in front of my moniker?

Interesting perspective.

What do you think?