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Maser:
Someone should remind us again about the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31:10-31. Wasn't she the one financing the home and doing all the chores?

Women these days want to be branded "virtuous" but shy away from inherent responsibilities.

This is a generation where social media is teaching people how to run marriages and every idiot becomes a marriage counsellor. Whoever, between the man and the woman that God has blessed with finances should bring the money to run the home without complaints.

Don't know how long that nigga has been in the business to be talking trash.

What is the use of the husband if the wife does all the chores and pays the bills?

Flip it around and imagine you have to take care of the home domestically in addition to paying the bills. ..

What would you need a wife for?

Congratulations to him and his harem.

crackhaus:
The way it worked for all those people who lived before 1300 BCE when the word marriage was first used.


Like I noted before, marriage is a social construct. It was and is meant to formalize, institutionalize, legalize, and publicize a union between a man and a woman.

Companionship on its own can work without the above, but that leaves the woman vulnerable.


Well for a start, the word marriage is a derivative from the word matrimony.
Matrimony itself is a French derivative of the word 'matremoine' which is from the Latin derivatives 'mater' (Mother) and 'monium' (action, state, or condition). Matrimony by definition is the 'act' of making a woman into a wife and/or mother.

I will not go into the argument of benefits or who benefits more in a matrimonial union as that will veer us into needless back and forth.
The origins of the word 'marriage' already explains itself as defined with the sentence in bold above.

Except I am missing something,

1. Companionship = cohabiting....

2. I do not know where marriage as a word was first used in the Bible. However, there are several instances of marriage in the Bible..... Adam and Eve; Eve's father (God) consented to the union (it was His idea), gave her to Adam (like you have in wedding ceremonies today) and blest the union. Same with Issac & Rebekah (Abraham's Chief Servant asked for Rabekah's hand from her family who in turn asked her and she accepted); Jacob and Rachel/Leah... infact, it was recorded that after the ceremony, Leah was taken to Jacob's chambers...

All through biblical history, marriage has always been inferred with feasting; even the feast with Jesus after rapture is the marriage supper of the Lamb; the relationship between Christ & the Church is that of a husband & wife.

In John 4, Jesus attended the wedding feast of a couple where He actually performed His first miracle.

Infact cohabiting without marriage (traditional, court, church/islamic) is a sin and I do not even know any culture that doesn't require a ceremony of sorts/parental consent to declare a couple married. There is no difference between cohabiting and pre-martial sex which all societies condemned.

And marriage doesn't leave a woman vulnerable? When has marriage stopped a man from doing whatever he wants? An average woman will even tell you that her husband was better/sweeter before marriage. Even a lot of men allude to it; why the campaign after election?

I would still like to know the advantages a man has in 'companionship' and that the woman has in 'marriage'.

jakandeola:
God bless u dear tnks for undastanding

What did you think I understood?

cococandy:

Welcome back dearest

Gathered that you are banned

Wetin you do?

slap1:
Hahaha. Yes, but still searching. Are you available?

Hahahahahahahahahhahahahahahaha

Why now?

Not available bro.

Happy Sunday.

divinelove:
Lol

After 10 yrs of marriage sex will almost be non existent so it's not a top priority. Money n source of income will matter in marriage forever together with understanding, love n character

Let's be liberal and assume they both married at 30, you mean by 40yrs, their sex life is dead? How do they satisfy their sexual urge?

Humans have the capability to go at it till 70 yrs sef.

peacengine:
According to the book of Genesis it was created for man's benefit not woman.

"It is not good for man to be alone"

No wonder we men can pick and chose when marriage is concerned but women cannot.

Your topic is a question; the OP is a statement/opinion.

@Topic: marriage is for the man (from the account of Genesis).

crackhaus:
First off, you must differentiate marriage from companionship.

Companionship is what God instituted in the beginning and yes that was for the benefit of the man.

Marriage however is a social construct, an invention of man - and this is for the benefit of the woman.

How is this companionship supposed to work?

What is the difference between companionship and marriage?

How does marriage benefit a woman?

slap1:
Good list. I'll be ready in 3/4 years time.

Are you ready now?

greggng:
The only healthy person there na tools .The other two are junky dry like stock fish

You sef see am?

Tiwa and Wizkid look like junkies.

Tools looks refreshingly different.

TWoods:
If the woman took on all the advice her father gave her, it will take a devil of a husband not to love and cherish that woman. Often times you don't need to give advice to both...

Hahahahahahahahahhahahahahahaha!

NL, I hail thee.

Even God in His wisdom gave advise to both parties through his servants.

Ditto the Quran.

TWoods the wisest.

She has cleared up that they were on set.

One of the OP's thread I can't fault any sentence. Maybe I have to scrutinize deeper, hahahahhahahahahahha.

I wish people will really take it to her at and implement when married.

I have read theories that said when a man sleeps with a woman too much, he always wants to 'please' her/ become her 'mumu'. Other theories say a woman well dicked is submissive.

Not here to debate the wrongness/rightness of the theories....

Imagine a marriage where the husband always wants to please the wife and the wife is submissive to him....

Heaven on earth.

Most of the 'my way or the high way' is lack of great sex. It sounds simplistic and most will same the issues are deeper; sort that out first and treat other issues on a case by case basis.

divinelove:
Sex is over rated

It is not.

A couple who constantly satisfy themselves would have less problems.

opribo:
OP you are wrong. You have to understand that many people have varied upbringing. For some its a taboo to try anything strange in the bedroom with your spouse, for some others all those sexual adventures is for girlfriends and boyfriends. Wife or hubby must be respected and treated with dignity even in the bedroom.
For the born again they will tell you their own side of the story that they can never use the same mouth they use to pray to God to put anywhere. So you see that your analogy does not apply to all as a matter of fact, sexual experiments would only come in if the two people are two of a kind, anything short of that is ticket to trouble in the home. A wife is not a girlfriend she must be treated and handled with respect same for a husband. Even if such happened while they were dating after you become a family some fetishes must go away, that's what makes the difference.

What is the definition of handle with 'dignity'?

It seems humans never understand cause and effect.

It is easy to say the OP is deranged yet most people would advice wives to 'endure' abusive husbands/ensure that they stop doing what aggravates the husband.

A product of such home has advised us on how his parents' and others marriage worked out yet we are insulting him.

What do we really want? Or we forget that for every woman we tel to endure, you are only reinforcing to her kids that it is ok?

Again, we are yet to understand that length of marriage is not = healthiness of marriage

[quote author= post=67935232]Game plan[/quote]Keep speaking in riddles.

BianoJay:
At least I don make you laugh na...means today has been a good day...

Well, thumbs up for seeing the humor in my first mention. If na some people, hmmm...by now they for don abuse my small self finish.

Yeah, life's good.

Haahhahahhahahahhahahahahhahahaha @ If na some people, hmmm...by now they for don abuse my small self finish

Happy Children's Day

[quote author= post=67935042]Give it one[/quote]I am asking you na.

Are you saying she is sleeping with him or she is not sleeping with him?

[quote author= post=67934809]Who noticed Tiwa is always careful replying to this game plan. From unfollowing Davido to this.

Replying with "Starboy" only is trying to be careful. A love struck girl will go mushy mushy.[/quote]Meaning?

This reminds me of Lola & Peter.

Well, who knows, it might end well.

And we are reading this because

BianoJay:
Lol... I no be Ronaldo media assistant na...
Imagine a grown up man like me counting another grown-up man's list of baby Mamas....

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

seaboyzen:
Ronaldinho not ronaldo

Really? Thanks

So our CR7 is an unrepentant bachelor?

BianoJay:
Lol...you need to get a new pair of ear, the one you currently have is an antenna for signals...

Na you sabi.

Congrats to the kissing babe. She is baby mama number what?

Congratulations CR7.

CastedGist:


SEE PHOTOS OF C. RONALDO KISSING HIS GIRLFRIEND AFTER MATCH>>> https://www.gistmore.com/cristiano-ronaldo-gets-kiss-girlfriend-historic-5th-champions-league-win

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Which of them?

Heard he is marrying two babes at the same time.

NL with all or nothing instances.

Never a balance.

Interview a jobless family man and a successful overaged worried bachelor and tell us the most important.

Wifey calm down....

You have a lifetime ahead of you.

Besides, you should be on bum shorts collecting different styles from your husband. What are you doing online to have enough venom to attack your event planner?

We need to question your husband; he is certainly not doing his job well

Congratulations to them. More years of love.