₦airaland Forum

I have no problems with her posture with Wizkud, they are performers on stage.

Her shorts? Beginning of madness.

Yes, if done at the right time.

Xisnin:
femininity = the quality of being female
Therefore any answer which is not specific to the female gender is rubbish.

Unfortunately, none of the responder could come up with an intelligent and correct answer.
Emotional blackmail? Who in this world(male or female) can claim they have never used it in their entire lifetime?

@bold:

I like peope who actually analyze situations before responding.

Emotional blackmail is when your parents want you to do something, you don't and they start recounting all the 'sacrifices' they have done to make you what you are.

Emotional blackmail is when a husband wants sex, wifey says no and he starts becoming touchy until she surrenders.

Emotional blackmail is when a woman wants something from her husband and she follows your normal advise of cook well, sleep with him etc.

Emotional blackmail is forcing people's hands to do something they ordinarily won't. It is always bad/toxic? Nope.

Slickchick:
Treat your wife(especially ) and your children well while you are young, you will enjoy your old age. A lot of Nigerian men don't know this. Women don't forget things, if you were carrying different women while young & hurting her, don't expect her to treat you well when you are old cos by then you are weak & she has the upper hand. A woman controls the mind of her children so if you treat her bad, she will turn her children against you besides the kids are not blind, they see how you treat their mother.

As for the children, if you didn't care for me and train me in school so I can be somebody in life, then don't expect even 1k naira from me when you are old. If you were not there emotionally for me, don't expect me to be calling or visiting you often when you are old. When I was serving, I had a roommate who spoke to her father every morning on phone. She tells her father everything, I admired their relationship and wished I had that. Tell me how she can ever neglect her dad in his old age? It's impossible.

It is the men who treated their family badly that are lonely in old age, check out kids who are close to their fathers, those fathers were there for them emotionally (especially ) & financially. Even if you have money in your old age, you will still be lonely when nobody cares about you.

Finally, it is not just fathers who get lonely in old age. Bad mothers experience same too, theirs is even the worst.

I have always said that a man/woman cannot sow the wind and not reap the whirlwind.

When the man was stronger and in power, how he treated his family will determine how his family will treat him in future.

I have seen enough people care for their fathers to know that fathers are not automatically neglected at old age.

I honestly doubt this OP read the posts in its entirety.

The lady doesn't believe in traditional division of labour.; she believes in team work.

donstan18:
Because I can prove mine, but you can't prove hers. Can you?

You can prove all women are cheat however she can't prove that all men are useless?

No difference between the both of you.

Was going to ask what was different as she is always on ankara till I saw the difference. ....

One showing some skin.

Healthy by whose standards?

If the speculation that he is gay is true, then the women are probably lesbians/bi-sexuals which is a win-win situation.

The credibility of the survey has not been tested however let me 'believe' them.

When men claim that they are polygamous and can cheat, who did they have in mind as partners? Goats?

I have always said that when it comes to sexual vices, it takes two to tango and men & women must be responsible. Men can't claim to have a passion at cheating because they are superior and not start sleeping with wives & girlfriends.

If someone says men can get away with drink/smoke/keep late nights/marry late/ any other vice because they are men and superior, I will waka pass.

For sex; it unfortunately doesn't work like that. Men & women have to be sexually responsible.

Silvermoney:
I don't want a sexually charged wife. All these women who are always hot and ready for action scare me marriage wise. When you have children, flabby body sets in, post baby big stomach that is almost permanent with many women, and overfamiliarity blurs the initial lust and attractiveness. Your desire to have sex with her as a man would drop. And yet she would still expect you to be pumping her regularly with the vigor you would if you meet a new sexy 22 year old girl. Simply not possible.

It doesn't work. I don't want that at all.

How do you intend to solve your sexual needs if you no longer want to sleep with your wife regularly?

babythug:
I was at a party this last weekend. A couple of guys came with their squeezes and it seemed the norm as no one was particularly uncomfortable with the set up. The few wives there literally shifted to one side and more or less just looked the other way. One wife even said her husband's squeeze may even be sitting right there who knows! I found myself uttering these very stupid words -" just ignore my sister". I was mortified that , that was my only resolution to the scene!

myself and the other wives randomly got chatting and truly all we could resign to was this now famous " just look the other way" if you find/feel your husband is cheating. One wife said that she had told her husband she will beat his girlfriend up if the girl crosses her path(or something like that)

But really what are our options?

Are we as african wives/women just resigned to coping and accepting the philandering ways of some spouses?

Very funny.

These things make me marvel when people claim Nigerians are moral and we are allowing the 'West' to corrupt us.

Truth is most people saw their fathers cheat on their mothers and still elders in their churches/mosques so how do they justify leaving a cheating spouse?

Funny again that NLers and by extension Nigerians will advise the woman to endure so her family doesn't break and her kids suffer yet with same mouth advise a husband to throw his cheating wife away. Doesn't the home matter anymore?

What I would like to find out is the ratio of how many 'let's look the other way' wives cheat vis a viz those that don't. I want to understand if the acceptance is because they feel helpless, they feel it is normal or they are cheats themselves.

I also opened a thread recently on wives who 'push' their husbands outside. I would like to know the ratio of wives no longer interested in satisfying their husbands and have outsourced that sexual duty to other women.

I would also like the ratio of women who slept with married men in their youth and have conditioned their mind for same.

I am just trying to eliminate all the factors or really drill down the causes of adultery and permanent solutions to them.

Should a wife forgive a cheating husband?(because this is the summary of the thread). Depends on their unique circumstances.

Thsee are the factors that make men abandoned at home in their old age and their wives gallivanting around the globe courtesy their kids. It is reason why we would have 50 mothers' day and only one father's day. It is the reason why children including male ones will kill for their moms and ignore their fathers in old age.

One can't sow the wind and not except the whirlwind.

It is well.

Dyt:
I do understand everything you saying

You are right for scolding madam cos she knows how things are and its not the first time you told her about it.

Without you even having to tell her
She should know

You haven't done anything wrong
That's my own opinion

100% co-sign.

The wife should cover the family's secret of lack.

How does someone go about eating two pics of neat in another person's house

tbanj07:
Please note that we live from paycheck to paycheck...wife does not work at this time. So it's not as if we have alot to throw around and i have kids to feed as well

I was waiting for you to hit the nail on the head. On the average, a husband wouldn't really know in details who dishes food per time.

Your wife should be able to subtly tell her family that things are tight without you prodding her.

Since this is not the case, tell her that your financial situation at this time cannot cater for extra mouths so she needs to tell her family to adjust.

Emachem:
My greatest dream has been realised? I was thinking the greatest dream of a woman is to get married����

Nope, it is kids.

Marriage provides that.

Congratulations D'banj & family.

See decent and responsible pictures.

Not all those practicing the reigning trend in their own wedding day.

Happy married life to them.

Hopefully, the wife has learnt from her previous marriage.

She is lucky that she discovered at 36 and there is someone willing to wife her.

Others might not be so lucky.

Make hay while the sun shines.

princeadams11:
Lol! Bro, just give because of God so you can earn some reward.

Earn what reward?

Most of them are not needy sir.

I stopped giving to them in my childhood. There were a set of two beggars who were at the junction of our street and my father gave alms. He did not see one of them and asked the other who said he went for house warming in Kano. That day changed my orientation about them.

I rather give people who appreciate the dignity in labour and run into a hard place than an opportunist who wants to open office on my head.

The Day I saw a slightly deformed Hausa man selling sponges a short distance from where his colleagues beg, I was touched and left all others to buy sponges from him and left the change.

I would even say we leave our changes (where possible) for street hawkers, not make them run too much to chase after you and you decide not to buy or cheating them of their change.

I have more pity for alabarus, street/traffic hawkers and others doing menial strenuous jobs than a beggar.

Adanne9110:
The Royal Couple
Meghan Markle is 36 (almost 37), and she’s getting married to a man who can pass as one of the most eligible bachelors on earth.
She is mixed race.
She is divorced.
She’s been in the media for a long time.
She’s American.
She’s not from a royal home.
She’s older than Prince Harry.
She’s broken almost all the rules that makes her eligible to be a wife to a Prince. But, she’s getting married to the Prince
Dear Nigerian single women,
STOP BEING DESPERATE!
If you are lucky to find the right man at a younger age and you are ready, by all means get married.
BUT....
Do NOT make the mistake of settling for the wrong man simply because you are over 30 and all your mates are getting married.
Wait for the right man.
When the right man comes, your age won’t matter much. He will love you for you. He will fight for you against all odds.
There are so many beautiful young British women who ticked all the boxes that qualify them to be married to the Prince, but Harry is going for who his heart wants. Seeing that Meghan doesn’t even “fit in”, it’s obvious that Harry fought for her. That’s what your man should do for you.... fight for you....

Meghan is an exception and it's too early to judge

AvatarMode:
That's sure right and still funny. Been two different persons on two different days...

I meant that a lady going for a party can be well made up and seen as a slay queen by people who jam her there.
On Sunday, she might tie her turban without makeup because she is going to church and not want to distract people or feel it is not necessary.
On Monday, she can wear her skirt suit with just powder.

If you do not know her and see her only on each of these days, you will have a different opinion of her.

not2long:
Uncle suru

No forget by adekunle gold

Uncle Suru is lovely. Simi's part was on point 100%

Alejoc:
I'm a Ghetto child!


BY Joe.... Must have played this song more than a thousand times!

I love this song.

Greatest Love of All - Whitney Houston.

Musicians don sing song finish sha.

RIP she was such a lovely actress.

God console her family.

FloxySmart:
We all make mistakes at a point in our lives you know, he was too young for the level of attention he was getting

I hope you can make this excuse for a poor guy who happens to be fine and getting a lot of attention.

If he slept with a girl once, maybe mistake. However, constant sleeping and flaunting the baby mamas and 'hiding' her in the shadows till last month is no mistake.

Even Annie didn't have it this bad; we knew she was one of 2 Face's items before they got married.

FloxySmart:
Honestly you're right, but Davido love her the way she is maybe someday you'd find that kind of love too.

The type of love that made him have two baby mamas in between.

I pray the poster you quoted DOES NOT find that type of love.

Amen.

Drniyi4u:
One man was 25 years old in 2000 and 20 years old in 2005. How is that possible?

By using the BC (before Christ) timing. It counts down

Drniyi4u:
Replace 5 out of 12 numbers with 0 so that the total of these numbers will be 1,111.

The 1st and 2nd 1s
The whole line of 9s

Drniyi4u:
Find the number 2017

The 3rd - 6th numbers from the rear.

Drniyi4u:
How can you get two 100s from the number in the picture using only one line?

Draw an horizontal line across the half

Drniyi4u:
What number should replace the question mark?

4

Drniyi4u:
You have 3 matchsticks. How will you convert them into a number 6? Don’t break them into pieces!

VI: Six in Roman Numeral