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We can as well search for the men too.

And again, a 'slaymama' on Saturday might be a decent daughter of God on Sunday and on Monday, a tough cookie.

realborn:
Key observations:

1. Quite articulate for his age
2. Very adept with comprehension
3. Strong cognitive ability
4. Brash and courageous
5. Go getter
6. Overly ambitious
7. High risk appetite
8. Stupidly optimistic
9. Very creative - "pin code"
10. Target and eyes for the big prize.


If at this age, he already admits being useless due to lust for an older tutor, it may be the right time to redefine his path.

And what do you suggest?

The groom doesn't have money to complete the marriage rites, however he can afford to hire Policemen to arrest and manhandle the bride's parents.

He also did not try to solve it amicably with the elders of his family and chieftains of his clan/tribe before going to the police.

The bride might have dodged a bullet

If the parents can, let them return what he has spent so far and dissolve the marriage.

He doesn't even see them as inlaws.

King Tonto?

Is she an hermaphrodite?

lalasticlala:
Initially it was a challenge, but one day, I went out to eat at Mama put, in the process I met her for the first time. Lol. I had to get to know where she works & collected number. I kept her as just a friend for a whole year before taking it to dating level.

So you are a real person?

I thought you were a python code programmed to move topics with your mentions to front page.

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. God bless your home and always bring your issues to his front page of resolution.

All the 'pay him back' solution always amazes me.

Is the 10k supposed to compensate for his love, care, affection, denial, child care, extra hustling, holding the forth while she was in school etc?

Will it cure the bitter taste of betrayal in his mouth?

She and the Court should shove her doe where the sun doesn't shine and leave the heartbroken man alone.

icelord:
In the wake of all the razzmatazz as touching women and their newly found love feminism. It has become expedient that I say a few things about it

Now don't get it twisted, I'm of the opinion that a woman/lady should at all times want the best and go for it, but I'm also of the opinion the a lady who wants the best and/or goes for the best should also be prepared to offer the best.

I had a conversation with a girl/lady/woman a while ago, we talked about dating. She said "if you want to date me, you must be rich and famous", that's nice, I said but if I bring my rich and famous self to the table, what would you also be bring to table? The discussion basically ended at that point.

Ask most girls the kinda guy they want, you'd hear things like: I want a guy who is rich and can take care of me. Ask most guys the kinda girl they want, you will never hear shits like: I want a girl who is rich and can take care of me. Therein lies the difference.

So my people, it is simple, you want something, be ready to give same. If you want a rich spouse, be rich, you want an intelligent one, be intelligent.

Lastly, you are not doing anybody a favour by dating or marrying them, neither are they doing you a favour.


#SayNoToBlindFeminism


cc: anybody who cares.

@bold: I absolutely agree with you.

As to what a lady can offer a man; the man needs to discover himself, determine the best type of woman who would help him achieve his goals and go for her.

He should also remember that he will change, she will change also.

If you can move out of that compound , do so.

If you can't, resell and keep the money.

Also start creating a distance between both families.

That man is jealous and egoistic. He is still living in denial as regards his financial predicament and such a man is very dangerous.

@OP:

I agree with the sentiments of the conversation starter.

An housewife (with the agreement of the husband) must be paid a (salary, allowance?) monthly depending on the income of the husband if they do not have joint account.

Funny how everyone praising Dencia did not realise that she assumed that there was a joint account in place. How many Nigerian wives have a joint accessible account or know their husband's actual salary is a table I do not want to shake.

In other places where the model of housewifry is practiced, the wife is the custodian of financial resources and allocate as she deems fit with the input/consent of her husband.

Others are given substancial money periodically to do as they like if there is no joint account.

Other husbands gift her a fund generating venture so she can take care of herself.

We truly copy things without understanding the workings.

go4success:
As a woman, you must find something to do to contribute to humanity. I have dreams and aspirations, and I wouldn't want my bio to simply read- Full time housewife, mum of three.'
No matter your location, there's a gap waiting for you to fill or a problem you can solve. Doing that will make you an important part of society. You gave up your career because of the kids, so what next?
When my family moved to the outskirts of Lagos, I was excited that we finally have our own building. But then I realized that both of us cannot continue to face Lagos traffic everyday, while we abandon the children. One of us have to stay back and probably find something to do within that vicinity.

As an educator, I approached my kid's school and offered to take the children creative writing and phonics based on my experience from the international School where I was working in Lagos. Thankfully, they were also using the British curriculum. Afterwards, I opened a kiddies store that became a force to reckon with in that community. I made friends in school and get to interact with the parents of the children I teach and my customers. Most people count on me to get their kids the trending stuffs, especially back to school items.
The amazing part was having the time to take care of my kids and making an impact. I didn't lose my personality to become an housewife. I have since taken a break from teaching in order to take some courses and empower myself to be on the same level with my previous colleagues. I earn as a writer and from my store, so I'm not a burden to my husband.
I know stay at home mums that engage in handwork and home businesses. Women should realize that they have a destiny to fulfill. Be creative and hard-working.
There's always something to do out there. And the social media and internet has made everything easy. But if you think they're for uploading the pics of your perfect life and the nice things your family have, you're have not discovered your purpose in life.

I like your story.

However, an housewife is one who has no other source of income. All she does is care for the family.

I am clearing this so that a married Linda Ikeja would not say that she is an housewife.

ubunja:
i hear you. but 30something women are way too close to menopause to give me peace. i want a woman who'll give birth young and grow with her child.imagine a 40 yr old mother of a 2 yr old? doesnt sound right. its a crime of nature.

I know this is the romance section

However, not everyone who has a 2yr old at 40 married late. Some married very early and it took a long while to conceive. I know someone else who lost her husband at 25; she was yet to have kids.

I know people who are trying to conceive and the emotional stress amongst others they go through. Having a 2yr old at 40 is a miracle.

I remember an aunt that had her first at 56 after about 28yrs and twins immediately about a year later.

We should learn to look beyond our fancy juvenile theories and really see what is obtainable in the real world.

@OP: whatever rocks your boat.

Didn't read the full story.

From the little I gleaned, the woman is pretty stupid.

Did she actually pose for a nude picture after sex?

Hmmmm

If the state rewards pregnant women,it is only a matter of time before they begin to see the advantages of illegitimate kids and unneeded pregnancies.

It would be better that quality antenatal and post natal care for the next 6 months is free.

isybeke:
Good write up, I hope they learn cos many parents are so guilty of these especially mothers, ,,,,always over pampering nd spoiling their kids with the excuse that "he's just a kid or she doesn't know what she's doing". I once visited a friend who is married with 2 kids(aged 3 nd 4), I was offered a bottle of malt nd the children brought their cups for me to pour some for dem, so i emptied the whole content for both of dem nd dropped d bottle on d ground,,U need to see there mother's shameful face

They are still polite sef and there is a lot of hope.

They will turn out well.

Lovely!

Congratulations to her and family.

Aso kale laa'n afani. A gbo ohun iya, a gbo ohun omo.

My condolences to her parents who has wasted resources to train her thus far.

You don't love her; you have seen that she is a low self-esteemed girl feeding off the cap from your table.

Underneath the facade of 'morals', we are a very morally bankrupt and corrupt lot.

So Davido who was a cheating rude dude is now a 'good' and 'real' man he suddenly woke up and started flaunting his low self-esteemed girlfriend?

Odiegwu!

clitlicker:
.feminist where una dey?



will glo want to sign davido and they will be going through chioma, why is davido playing the role of legal guardian or parent that they will be call him to negotiate when he was not her manager.

Who made who?

As at January this year, did you know Chioma? Why would a company consult Chioma? As per what?

Receive sense!

johncallidon:
Seen

Chai!

You must be a very terrible boss.

After all the long tori, seen.

onatisi:
good sensible question from a sensible intelligent mind .
now this may take some space but i will try and shorten it , whether we like it or not , there is no culture in this world that equates an husband and wife to be equal , even the bible and the Quran does not.what the bible says is that women must and should submit totally to their husband and husbands should love their wives .the white men brought their ideology of men and women are equal and ppl have forgotten that the whites have the highest number of divorce rates among all cultures. in our African culture , a man can date and marry another woman , THERE IS NO CRIME IN IT ,but the white man says it is wrong and ppl accept it. in our culture , parents will tell their daughters your husband can do as he likes , if the lady isnt comfortable with it , she will be asked to pack out , this is totally different from the white man culture where it is the man that packs out for the woman. so people just have to understand that this is a cultural thing and it cant change unless the lady involve is ready to divorce and marry another man.

There is usually confusion when we try to mix religion especially Christianity and African traditions; they don't mix.

I am not going to argue equality with you however just know that Christianity DOESNOT permit adulterous wives or husbands. They have same punishment: condemnation to hell fire except they repent.

xynerise:
The reality some woman refused to accept is, even if her husband cheats on her, she is the one leaving the house (if she wishes) and if she cheats, she is still the one leaving the house.

In every angle, they are the ones packing out. That's the sad reality of life. Take it or leave it, it is a man's world

Depends on the part of the world you live in.

Also, when push comes to shove, people realise that whose ever gets to keep the house doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things.

A wife whose husband abandoned her in the home/ a husband who his wife left him because of cheating realise that keeping the house is not worth it or a sign of 'winning'.

Same with a husband whose wife has abandoned in the house under the guise of merry go rounding her kids' homes.

Everyone needs to invest in their relationships especially marriage so they reap the fruit of companionship in their older ages.

BuddhaPalm:
Lol. Why not advice us to buy presents for her boyfriend instead?

You can update the advise to include that too.

Do you have ideas for a gift?

Olalan:
As soon as she starts cheating kick her out.....A cheating wife is capable of killing the husband

Oh please quit the drama, else many women would have been killed by the cheating husbands.

The post is sure sarcastic and shows you how stupid the typical advise given to wives sounds.

Was going to ask how this became Public info till I read that it was an interview.

The tone of his interview was quite belittling however Mrs. Khalid hasn't complained to us 'publicly' so we assume she is ok with the arrangement. Besides, he has divided their roles: he provides & makes him sexually happy.

That said, it is funny how he is willing to make dinner etc. while seeing MouthAction as beneath him as per Don & King.

Another man would give MouthAction steady and never enter the kitchen because he is a King.

Ladies, the onus is on us to understand the 'Kings' we have and what they consider 'abominable' before marriage.

I want to believe that the couple had started weighing all options before wifey applied for the job.

Let them carry out whatever they had resolved to do prior to the application.

GoodFaith:
Please get on the lawn mower and pick up the snow blower
Cut the trees in the yard too

Lawn mower and snow blower in Nigeria?

Go and sleep.

sexdoll:
Excuse me madam, but are you from either anambra or calabar?

I know why I'm asking.

Why are you asking?

I am not from either of those places and your post was in plain English.