₦airaland Forum

Mindfulness:
I am good, full of appreciation.
Can't wait for the weather to change though. It has been chilly lately.

How is your little princess doing?

cococandy:
She's doing awesome.

Cold weather? Tell me about it. Arghh. I've had enough!

Acidosis:
You will never know the importance of a good marriage until you hit 60, 70+


Family over financial dreams bro. When money eventually comes, you will end up spending it all on your nieces and nephews. I know a man that currently begs his nieces and nephews to spend their holidays with him. They may love him as an Uncle but trust me, no Uncle can take the place of a good parent.

Do not complicate life further for yourself... find a good woman and marry her.

MARRIAGE AND CHILD BEARING are very important dreams everyone should pursue. It is not good for a man to be lonely.. that's the first thing the Bible said when a partner was prescribed. Do not let anyone confuse you or encourage the path you've chosen. Loneliness is a terrible thing, it will lead to depression and death; it kills faster than poverty.

Our best moments were those days when we had nothing. You can never imagine the fun we had drinking garri on campus with those watery beans. Today, people only try to spend some money on fun events after series of insults and pressures from bosses and customers. You can be broke, happy and happily married, but I don't know a happily single old man or woman, I don't know ANY because they don't exist.

You wouldn't want to experience the consequences of loneliness, trust me.

BoboYekini:
They keep pretending like they don't get it. But you, you always speak sense. Either because you're married or because you're cut from a different cloth.

PaperLace:
Don't be too sure dear, humans differ_women differ.
I have an acquaintance who recently went into a polygamous home. Her reason being that she loves the freedom it gives. The man can't monitor the whole wives at once, so she can run her own show. There are women with very poor sex drive that will tell the man to go outside and get it, let them rest.

I have always pitied men who think their wives looking the other way while they cheat brazenly_ is forgiveness...

Only a woman that cares about you, will be concerned about your philandering. Be very afraid of the woman that doesn't care...

This one might be false, but it happens.

nobleblood:
I went to the filing station to buy fuel this morning, and all five attendant where women. Two days ago, I was at the mtn office to retrieve my line, and seven out of the ten staffs where women. At the bank, where I went to make some deposite, fifteen out of the 20 staffs I count where women.

Women's liberation is starting to fail in truth, its not actually succeeding contrary to what women are thinking. As it stand, un-officially, there are more women in the labour force than they are actually men . test yourself this way , when last did you see a sign post that reads " sales boy wanted".

Women need to start understand why they are not getting married. It because you have our jobs.truth is, 99 percent of the world so call secrets are often hidden in "plain site" once we upset the natural order of things, there are usually consequences.

That consequence is what have you women all clustering around one good man doing well. If men can cannot find jobs (which you all don't seem to realize you are sitting on) how do you expect them to get married. Do you all actually believe men don't want to be married?

This is a third world nation, in which the government is naturally struggling to create jobs. The few available once created has to be contested for with women. How do we expect to properly continue with the institution of family. Traditional roles have change. Baby mama are trending. Its such a shame that whenever we welcome any new development, we fail to tailor them to suit our realities. In the end we end up being the once to suffer. Don't run to church. Rather give us back the jobs you have taken and see how man marriages will take place in the space of a year.

Good day and stay bless all of you.

PotatoSalad:
Is that how you eat your swallow?
you ever seen a chinese man eat noodles or dumplings with bare hands?
Stick to the roots my dear friend

putit:
In recent times, men are getting weaker while women are getting stronger. Most men now act weak around women. That's why there are so many spoilt n disrespectful young women out there.

It's damn crazy..

There are so many wussy men who now eat up and condole these girls bad behaviors because they need sex from them. These spoilt women now feel they can eat their cake and have it. That's bad

Women can't live without men and they know it.. It's no surprise all my life I have heard women say they would rather hangout with male instead of female because they tend to get along with guys. And note that women with more male friends have more sex but not actually with them.

If a woman is placed in a jungle were there are wild animals, I doubt if she'll come out alive but put a man in a jungle full of wild animal, there is possibility he'll survive because men have physical attributes that can help him fight predators. Men have the body suited for fighting both animal and man.


Women may not possess the physical attributes of men but they have the ability to emotionally manipulate men..It's no wonder a girl of 20 years old can make a man of 45 years old behave like a 5 years old boy. Sex is the most powerful tool women have against men


Women are the gate keepers of sex while men are the gate keepers of commitment/relationships. Women knows they are the sexual gate keepers, and they know some men can sacrifices their kidneys (or even their life) for sex. That's why they take full advantages of it to emotionally manipulate men to get what they want.

Everybody always tell women to be cautious when it comes giving men sex but nobody told men to be cautious when it comes to the amount of ATTENTION they give women.

SEX is the most powerful weapon a woman have against a man

ATTENTION (or validation) is the most powerful weapon a man have against a woman.

Men are not taking advantage of the power ( of attention) they have. Women needs men attention. That's why they spend long time making up and painting their face before stepping out of their house
Attention is important to women ( and I think they love male attention more than sex itself). A man can manipulate a woman’s desire through adjustments to the amount or intensity of attention he gives to or withholds from her.

That's why a woman will chase a man that pay/give less attention to her.

dingbang:
as a woman like you.. You should master one or two agricultural skills.. Humble yourself and learn

Tallesty1:
I am an electrician sir, at building sites, I see women mix and carry concrete. I see female painters, I have worked severally with female electricians. The last place I worked at Apo in ABJ here, The dish and CCTV installer was a woman in her twenties. She's still an apprentice though but she's so good that her boss entrusted the entire four apartments to her.

She's not beautiful in the real sense of the word but you need to see how she's being showed respect.

dingbang:
my mum taught me garri processing.. Pls don't be silly..

PotatoSalad:
This made me rock hard! kudos to all the hardworking ladies out there.
not like the one I went on a date with last night. she asked for fork and knife to eat Akpu and ofe onugbu. Nna ehn

dingbang:
I am sure 90 percent of female nairalanders don't know the procedure of making garri

Acidosis:
God will first and foremost punish the wife before the husband.


She's completely ignorant, slow and dull.

eyinjuege:
You are a very wicked woman.

Most animals protect their own.

You know your husband is a child molester, but because of your selfishness (looking for a free baby sitter), you exposed your flesh and blood to the monster you call a husband.

And you have your own children. Don't worry, he will soon descend on your children, its inevitable. Only karma working.

Evil prevails when good men do nothing...Edmund Burke.
Nigerians stop aiding and abetting evil.

Op, you're a co conspirator and complicit in your husband's evil. You should rot in jail with your husband. You don't deserve to have children under your care, and your children will be better off without you and your husband as parents.
Destiny destroyers oshi...

Lexusgs430:
But not to want the romping action, 3 times of a week, every week throughout the year, right ?

simiolu1:
I'm gonna tell you a story.

My brother has a friend; they graduated from the university together. Dude went to a conc pako public primary school where the mode of communication was Yoruba. After Secondary School, dude went to learn how to be a vulcanizer. When he was almost through with his training, he approached an uncle to help him with money for accommodation. His intentions were simple; after graduation, settle down.

Uncle encouraged him to go to computer school instead of renting a house; he agreed. Then later, uncle encouraged him to get a jamb form. Dude was like "ki lo n shey boda yii now" (what is wrong with this brother) but reluctantly agreed. This same person graduated as the second best student in his class, is now a graduate assistant in the school (a federal govt university) and currently enrolled in a MSc. program. My brother once told me he went to his hostel room very early one day while they were undergraduates and found him reading "Queen Primer" and "Brighter Grammar".

Now, dude is so fresh and packaged with impeccable english too.

My point: anyone with a desire to learn should not be written off. No one brought "good english" from heaven. It's a skill we all acquired here on earth. If that's the only place she is wanting; it can be corrected.

My 2 cents

baby124:
Human beings are not black or white. We are so complex. There are some days when all you want to do is clean. On other days you just want to rest. Some jobless, submissive and dependent women or men are very dirty. Or they insult people with vulgar words when who ever is feeding them is not around.

OlamartDynasty:
This is a lovely piece. Thanks for posting it, there were So many lessons to pick up.

Lexusgs430:
Might make sense, if both of you visit a sex therapist or simply buy or download her books to read.
She might be genuinely tired, looking after a child + looking after the home is a full time job.
One thing I can say is, the older marriage get, the lesser the wives are interested in sex (statistical analysis)

Three times a week on the regular, might be pushing it.......
But 4 times a month, might seem regular for some. By the time you have 3 kids, at this rate, you know say shop don close b dat.

LuvSwollenPussy:
1. So is it the masculine woman that you described in d part 2 that is right? Watching TV all night with feminist tendency, no tenderness or driving just for 10meters and becoming fat...is that the right standard for a woman?

2. Even the bible says a woman's long hair is her glory.

3. No perfect being anywhere but some ppl are nearer to "perfect" than others. When one is in courtship, there's what is called grooming...in fact the name bridegroom means to nurture, correct and train the bride. Its a stage every true relationship must go through. This grooming adds to the lags and cuts off excesses.

4. Everybody knows that only a woman who's willing to be groomed will submit herself for it.

5. Now consider it yourself, between the tender feminine woman and the feminist masculine woman, which one of them will be easily groomable?

LuvSwollenPussy:
Bros is not about strength or weakling. And its not an abusive matter. Its d poverty of Nigeria DAT as made some women become breadwinners for themselves and their juniors even before they leave their parents house for marriage. The psychic effect is they become unconsciously dominant as they grow. The situation is so bad in Nigeria that one hardly sees a child that was well nurtured with care and financially by both parents... If there is then the situation described by d op is the right mindstate.

But its either 3 out of 8 children from polygamous homes had to go and live with grandmama in the village because of polygamous strife and poverty and there start learning how to make fufu and sell so that she will sponsor her education and by so doing all her muscles and confrontational habit will come out

Even you have be deluded as a nigerian that you don't know that what you read is the proper lifestyle of a woman if all things goes well in her upbringing.

baby124:
Lmaoooo. Epic loser in life. Excuses, excuses, excuses.... blaming everyone for his failures but himself. This guy is a low life. This is why people need discernment. Going by his logic of feminine women, he must qualify as a manly man. Hahahaha.

kennygee:
Where's the link?