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Pacesetter123:
Thank you!

OP never tell us the exact thing she dey find.

LINSAR:
Because Nigerian women are different from white women.

You sound like a clown right now.

Ever heard of garbage in, garbage out?

Those of you moaning about your positive experiences with white women and poor experiences with black women do not realise that it is a function of the energy you brought into those relationships.

You expect a woman you treat with enough love and respect to be same with the one you treated with disrespect and loathing.

Isn't that ment?

Mccullum:
Shameless lady, she even identify herself of being promiscuous and exposed that to the world with her hand written., on what legacies? Or does she want girls to follow her steps of immortality and unfaithfulness.

What a wayward woman of no value.

Do you lack sense or you just rushed to type?

Someone published a list of men/people she did not want around during her funeral because they allegedly sexually abused her and you are talking of waywardness.

Is this ment or malaria?

Sheggy13:
If the Thierry man is the deceased ex-husband, what right does he have to show up and start dragging with his ex-wife family on where to bury her. Am I missing something here? I thought being an ex-husband means marriage contract is over.

Not clear at all.

And he is also on the list of her alleged sexual abusers.

dawnomike:
Wahala never left the Mandela's family and I wonder why!

Such a prestigious family with so many unfortunate incidents.

In another news, I love her handwriting.

Really unfortunate

And they seem to be battling untimely deaths.

Congratulations to them on inheriting their parents' ministry.

LINSAR:
The emboldened says a lot.
Try white women and see if you won't come and erase your post.

Let me touch on the cooking and cleaning aspect.
If you and a white woman are doing 50/50 finances, it translates to all other aspects of the marriage i.e babysitting, cooking etc.
But if you are doing 100/0 finances like a traditional naija marriage, she'll handle the chores 100% while you'll handle the the finances 100%.

Tip:
Get you a white woman that loves you more than you love her. Let her be the one to pester you about marriage.
She'll show you love to the moon and back.

@bold:

Is that so? But if a Nigerian woman suggests same, it becomes a sacrilege

ednut1:
Many of those white women are promiscuous they can nack your friends and see nothing wrong there, they usually have mental health issues, they will divorce over flimsy issues. Just nack and go. Team 9ja babes

But the men here don't mind na.

That is part of the appeal: 'White women are "sexually liberated"'.

ThothHermes:
Sleep around if you wan sleep around. We know say na wetin you want be that. Nobody hold you.

But the problem is you want to sleep around and still get married someday. Those white women have no problem being without husbands forever, so you can't really blame them for their choices. Or have you seen any of them going to Shiloh to look for a husband?

You Nigerian woman looking for someone's son to tie down after sleeping with 27 men in the name of liberalness.
Just dey play.

White women have no issues without being with husbands?

That's why they marry 5 times in the name of love while a Nigerian woman would get widowed/divorced and lock up?

White women don't go to Shiloh because it is not their culture. It's like saying White men don't pay bride price. They instead go to finishing schools, femininity classes and top universities to snag husbands.

The delulu on this thread sha.

ahnie:
This thread GO LIT more than ESPN.


I m so here for the laugh's!

As in

The delulu and self-hatred is epic

GanagiBitrus:
If the OP actually expected to buy iPhone 14 Pro Max with 44k, then he must be a fool or a thief.

Both actually

PaulNwosu:
Are you sure your family isn't owing him money?

Nengiraw:
Thank you!! I felt the age gap was too much and he was already coming for me in a weird manner. if I missed his calls. When I call him back, he starts being mad that I missed his calls, and it was not just normal calls, it was video calls, and I told him I didn’t like video calls, yet he will be blasting my phone unannounced with it.

Why exactly did you open this thread?

You don't want a married man; you don't want an older man; he has several red flags etc.

What exactly do you want us to deliberate?

Acidosis:
Your experience is one of the reasons to avoid dating older men. The generational gap is weird. Imagine the nonsense he is sending to you, a 40 year old man with many garbage, still virgin hunting while acting like a clueless toddler. He wants the Regina but can't be the Ned. Shame.

Calm down, you would find someone within your age group.

@bold:

Warris? 😄 🤣 😂 😆 😄 🤣 😂 😆 😄 🤣

Funny thread

Funnier when NL guys and ladies assume that same thing motivates men and women in romantic relationships.

If you trace the pattern of men who have 'made' it before considering marriage, they want young, nubile girls as rest for their hardwork. That's also why when most men have made it and go for polygamy, they marry very very young wives.

Like someone gave a example of Peter Obi on this thread. He married a 19yr old girl at 31.

Another major thing they would look out for is the malleability of the girl so she is able to represent or 'support' them as they deem fit.

As it is said, a man marries a woman he 'needs' when he is broke; a man marries the woman he 'wants' when he becomes rich.

Don't worry OP, when you make money and get to their shoes, you would understand their motivation.

goaldynboy:
Nnamdi Azikiwe went to America in early '20s and by 1927 he already have his first degree from American University! Why didn't you post his naked picture since your dumb mind tells you all Igbos were running around naked during that period?

His kid picture below (where he is putting on suits) was taken around 1913. By the way, he was born in 1904!

This his baby picture is fine o!

Handsome bobo!

His older picture was already taking the shape of pictures of other ancestors on the thread

What a tragic incident

I pray God consoles everyone affected by this.

JapaPrince:
My mother had a career, worked, and earned a reasonable income, which she selflessly used to support our family. I appreciate this reality, and I am committed to not marrying someone who believes that a man should bear all the financial responsibilities within a family. In return, I am willing to share household duties, such as cleaning, washing, and cooking, and I promise never to be unfaithful. I understand that money is not the sole foundation of a successful marriage; we both contribute to our family's growth. I am not controlling and value her input. This is my perspective; any woman who expects a "baby girl treatment" is not the right match for me, and it's a matter of personal preference, not a judgment.

Now, this is someone who is thinking properly and has chosen a pattern he wants knowledgeably.

I am sure you would find the woman of your dreams.

NoToPile:
Somebody has said it finally. They didn't mention it in the 3 pages.


It is only bills Nairaland men want to split, they will never ever ever split chores. If chores and nurturing is just chores and not a big deal, then providing is just providing and also not a big deal. If it's not manly to be domesticated then it's not womanly to provide money Let everybody carry his/her cross and rest.


Ladies should stop falling for that scam, you will provide money , born pikin, nurture, do all the housework and all he does is provide money? Money you are already making?
Na Scam.

@bold:

😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂

Serious scam to to laye yi o si. That's why most men with this mentality start whinning when they lose their source of income that they are no longer relevant.

The question should be 'what was your relevance before?

If you loss or disappear and they cry the mandatory two minutes, would they miss you or would their lives go on without your replacement?

aestake:
okay. Someone does heavy lifting as una dey call am, and you still want him to wash dishes.

Isn't most of the guys on thread whinning about the 'heavy lifting'?

Women say men provide FULLY and I would handle the rest; mbanu.

OK, let's peach in together in finance and chores; I am the head, I don't do chores.

Do you now see why it is said that when a woman makes money, she doesn't 'need' a man?

Abi why should a woman contribute financially in the home and do all the heavy lifting domestically?

Isn't that the very definition of a single mother?

Konjiboii:
It is a man nature to have more than one sexual partner,this is a common phenomenal worldwide, the only cheat here is the programming of the male folks to believe that they shouldn't live their lives as intended.

Let me agree with you.

If a woman is to put up with a man's infidelity, wouldn't it make sense to marry a man useful for something (paying all her bills, that of her kids and wants)?

Of what use is a man who can't pay all the bills when he can't even be faithful which is a basic requirement?

My people say if you want to eat a frog, eat a frog that has egg.

raumdeuter:
Long time, How have you been and hows family? I dey sport section mainly since our usual section no too dey sweet again

We are good and yours?

I agree with you joor that family section & NL generally is not sweet again.

Good to catch up with you here.

Kingson28:
If you want to split the bill's, then you must split the chores too or you must employ a maid to do the chores.
She can't go to work like you do and still be expected to cook, clean and take the kid to and from school.
So, if you're splitting the bills you MUST split the chores as well.

😄 🤣 😂 😆 😄 🤣 😂 😆 😄

Did you see any of them mention chores?

The only thing done in a marriage according to them is pay bills

Konjiboii:
Women claim to be feminist and modern women and demand equality but they always draw the line when it comes to splitting bills personally I have no problem taking care of your bills but don't for a minute think I will be entirely faithful to you, somethings are human nature like women being catered for same as it's a man nature to be promiscuous.

So women who split bills withtheir husbands don't get cheated on?

Or you think we are living under the rock?

aestake:
Equality should be on everything.

Bring that energy when it comes to housework.

In man & woman matters, both parties always want to eat their cake & have it.

raumdeuter:
So what is the use of the wife and what will she be using her own money for

Dayo! Dayo!!

Happy new years ke!

Where have you been hiding since?

labake1:
According to the UK nurse's statements, a man who is not capable of taking care of his family, shouldn't get married. I think this controversy started because of Kie kie's interview.
Bills splitting can be 50/50, 60/40, 70/30, I think all this depends on the financial strength of a man.

My opinion is, just like the nurse said, a man should be capable before getting married even if your wife will assist you, it should be little. A wife should help her husband out if he has financial challenges and husband that have financial challenges shouldn't just sit back and watch their wife do things. Try and do little things till you stand firm.

What's your opinion about splitting bills with your partner?

Please where can I find Kie Kie's interview?

Everyone has a right to their choice. They just need to ensure that they are their choice's choice.

I have a relative who did not marry a guy because he was a single dad even though her sister was a single mom.

A single dad had to be VERY exceptional for me to consider him for marriage while I was single.

Kingcalls:
It can only happen to weak men... try that with someone like me and all those women will see stars

Which stars?

Do you think this is African Magic?

Except you have a weapon or serious juju, you can't do Nada against a gang of women.

May God console the kids, his family and friends.

stagger:
A woman with her child on her back came to my house and asked if I had any clothes to wash as they had no food for 2 days and times were hard.

I ended up giving her 10k and did not give her any clothes to wash.

Is it not more honourable to knock on doors and explain your situation and ask for any kind of menial work to do for a fee, rather than go to steal?

I honestly don't understand.

The plantain owner is also probably 'hungry' and waiting for the bunch to ripen so they eat or sell.

I don't know why people think 'hunger' or 'poverty' is a justifiable reason to steal from their neighbours.

They would never steal from/face the Govt or politicians who supposedly caused their problems:

It is the fellow common man suffering besides them to make ends meet they target.