₦airaland Forum

yommen:
Your rice is more realistic, Baba! Enjoy

Everyone's definition of 'realistic' is different.

mariahAngel:
Let's begin with the queen mother of rice dishes.

Nigeria's jollof

Main ingredients: Rice, meat of choice (usually chicken), tomatoes/peppers blend, spices, etc.

No plantain?

Octopusssy:
I am just hearing of the deceased individual for the first time...

Same here.

And the cause/ circumstances surrounding his death seems to be shrouded in mystery.

May God comfort His family.

Acidosis:
That is a great figure for a non-representative sample. People who go for DNA tests already have some level of doubts about the paternity of their children. So, this finding cannot apply to "Nigerian men."

If only 25% of men who harbour doubts and trust issues regarding their children's paternity receive negative results, then it mean that 75% of men return home with a sense of relief and joy. To achieve a more representative data, the paternity clinic needs to select and test men at random from all geopolitical zones.

True.

wunmi590:
My sister, I'm not capping...

The present economy is really bitting hard

It is however, your signature supercedes it.

Skyview01:
I had the same thought as you.

Thought it was industrial milk
until i worked in one of the milk company and saw how the 50kg milk bag was being distributed into smaller packages directly.

Interesting.

We learn everyday.

Foodqueen:
He should take it to the museum.

That was our boarding house staple iron.

@OP: ki Olorun shanu gbogbowa

wunmi590:
I was telling somebody here one day, that my salary and my other legit money that I make is solely for my wife and my kid, and some of my family members and friends who were there for me....

I don't even post on WhatsApp again self, I don't want anybody to start telling stories that would make me start spending what is meant for my family

Wasn't there room for negotiation?

I agree the last two groups are excessive.

Na wa o.

Even if she is a babymama, isn't it too early for this?

Shouldn't they be mourning their son & brother?

Or was his death expected?

NoToPile:
According to the OP the wife stated he wants to kill her with sex, that should serve as a complaint so I believe a conversation would have led to that statement. We don't have the full details of conversation so we can't be specific.

The only thing glaring is that OP seems not to see anything wrong in his demand and sees everything wrong with his wife's complaint.

I honestly do not see it as blackmail, his Co-Men are telling him his demands need to be worked on.

It is him we can talk to, his wife is not here.

If madam is complaining about the frequency which is not out of place then he should also compromise, it's that simple

From the OP's tone, I doubt a conversation has been had. He insisted his wife is a good woman so this is not a case of 'give a dog a bad name and hang it'.

And this is about 5 to 7 years running. 'Don't kill me with sex' is not a conversation. If her boss or a team member complained about something for two months, she would engage them for clarity and feedback out of regard for them. She should extend same courtesy to her husband.

Hopefully, when he complains again, the wife would engage him like an adult and they reach a compromise.

NoToPile:
The woman does have a right to complain with the appetite.

Though I have seen a thread on this same NL where a man said he expects to have sex with his wife everyday, a mother with a toddler and he didn't see anything wrong with it.

And has she complained?

Has she discussed with her husband and told him her problem which can range from exhaustion due to chores to his lack of skills/hygiene or a lower libido compared to his or the fact she needs to recharge for a day or two before another episode or his lack of romance or hormonal imbalance or any health issues?

If the frequency is the issue for instance, has she tried negotiating with him? Daddy wa, 4 to 5 times a week twice a day is too much for me. I can guarantee you 2 to 3 times a week once a day but when I am done with you, you will see stars?

If it is exhaustion, Daddy wa, running the home drains me. I would need a maid for XYZ so that I can have more energy for you?

Ditto lack of romance or hygiene or whatever.

What I see is a lot of emotional blackmail towards the OP for a legitimate need. Others would rather he cheats than honorably divorce his wife.

The wife is not a baby and should be emotionally intelligent enough to discuss with her husband and they both reach a compromise that suits their marriage.

Trojan8:
The fact some Nigerians are saying she's smart shows how poor most are when it comes to finance.

How's starting a building project without any credible source of income that can generate steady cash flow a good idea? The only thing she cares about is being called a landlady and that's it. Her 250k won't even be enough to take care of her own expenses if you were to plan a wedding today. Same lady is forcing you to build a house and somehow you think it's a good decision.

You tie let's say 20m on a house when if you invest such at 20% per annum, you get 4m. How much is rent again?

You need financial wisdom and not marriage, bozo.

Well said.

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

Build house before marriage and she wants to contribute N250k for land.

Are you guys acting African Magic where everyone is a millionaire and lives in a big house two years after graduation?

Where exactly do you stay that N250k can buy a land?

I am wondering if she is ready to get married because the condition with the kind of money you are calling get as him be.

Ventura1:
I don't like maths, but PO is older than his wife by a whopping 13yrs. Anyway congratulations to her.

Married in 1992, PO like a typical south easterner 'Caught her young'

Wawu!

He married her at 31yrs when she was 18yrs??

Happy birthday to her. More of God's blessings and grace.

@OP: must be a skit

WorldRichest:
The new lady may just want to save the proposing man from public disgrace. They may get to one corner, and the new lady will say, Mr. Man, I don save you from disgrace, go find love somewhere else, I get my own Man

And why would she be so invested in the guy to 'save him from disgrace'?

Ololade4:
You're judging the book by its cover.. She even want the marriage more than me, I always have my emotion on check when dealing with a woman.. do u know how many emotional trauma I don give am?? Trust me she's even the one doing the chasing...

Why do you want to do the journey of life (marriage) with a woman you 'hate' enough to give plenty emotional trauma?

Why are you surprised she doesn't want a binding arrangement with you after the plenty emotional trauma?

My wonder is why both of you are still stringing yourselves along.

buJu234:
alot have returned to their states of origin

and alot have decided to hustle within their environment ..

cos its cheaper to do a 50k job around ikotun than a 80-100k job in VI now..

reason being that transportation plus stress will reduce the 80k to less than 50k

It has always been cheaper.

ivolt:
This is what he said:


Where did the Punch found the word "soon" in their headline?

Their own special service

@OP:

Interesting story.

According to madam, she found out oga's ways were not straight after marriage 🤔

As always, my ask is what was the courtship for?

Then you went ahead to have five kids for him; shows you nor get plan for yourself and you were fully invested in the marriage.

Then you decided that your fraudulent husband should join your brother in the business you have built over the years; it shows you like vawlence abi how do you change the winning formula of your brother manning your joint businesses alone?

Since your husband likes dorime without working for it, place him on a monthly salary.

Abi, nobi eternal love make you born five children for yahoo yahoo?

Trustedpronet:
Based on your write-up YOU never loved the man in the first place. How can you ask your husband to join your brother in the business
your brother worked hard to grow over years and you are expecting your brother to sleep without raising dust. Why didn't you tell your husband to go and manage the new business if you really want Peace. Madam you just created a means to dislugbe this man from your life because you are financially stable. We know your types in the UK and here Naija too..you are the real yahoo here.

She never loved the man, is that so?

Yet she chased her brother from the major business he managed for decades when the husband kept complaining.

Tell us more

nick50:
you married a man you don't know his source of income because he I dubai based big boy so after squandering his money with him wen its turn to squander ur own money u started complaining..wen u guys were balling u never told him that fraud never pays na now u get sense..well let me tell u d truth I am very sure u won't escape carma cos his criminal blood will manifest in his children whether u like it or not one of his sons will take after him

Squandering his money?

Someone who had multiple businesses according to the story.

Do some of you read the back of your phones?

BigJoe19:
It's very obvious you are a talkative, the way you just kept on writing unnecessary things showed it, some men are really trying. You provide but you are a big baggage of trouble.

Nna, gbe enu e sonu!

Onisokuso.

georgeakins:
Since the White left power in South Africa it has been difficult to get a good leader, aside Mandela.

If you see the lifestyles of those who call themselves black Americans in the US , if by mistake they're allowed to run the country for just a decade, they would mess up everything completely.

There is something genetically wrong with black race. When I say this, some people will say I'm feeling inferior

@ bold:

Always tempted to think that way also especially when it comes to leadership.

Well, comparing with APC's performance so far, PDP has a point.

coputa:
it is not common for a woman to pay for her vacation expenses expecially Nigeria women.

Limit it to women you know.

There are women working in good organisation that their leave allowances/ bonuses is enough for trips like this. Some others earn well and save up (ajo/ organisational Cooperative Societies) to travel.

Arielle:
To the dummies asking "who pay", there are young women in Nigeria who earn a living and pay their own way through life. Don't judge every girl by the non-existent standards of the low company you keep. You read that she and her friends took their leave at the same time so they could travel together and you're here asking silly questions.

You know the standard of women around them and their lives generally by their questions

Procashtips:
I'm talking reality, you're talking fairytale

Your comparison have no basis because I already told you most women do not have the ability to love deeply/unconditionally.

Most women are married to their men because of what he provides (status, security and stability)

What exactly do men who still stick with their wives even though they provide all of the above gain?

You are talking about men's reality, I am telling you about women's reality yet you are talking fairytale.

I like your audacity to tell me what women are capable/ not capable of doing when you are not one.

The men gain nothing that's why the pastor is lamenting that his wife is AWOL and wants to marry another wife.

They gain nothing that's why immediately a man loses his wife (death/divorce/separation/no longer pleased with her), he gets a replacement.