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pickabeau1:
An only child dilemma...

Has your father made any moves over the years to reach out to his father and mom and what was the result of such overtures

Your mum gave u an account //// Have u asked your dad

Did your mum ever attempt to reach out to her inlaws knowing she was married to an only child or she was happy with the state of things

Speak to your father

This may be the opportunity for him to reach out after all these years

There is nothing absurd in holding trad at home

bellong:
Use lean beef for the two....

bellong:
Sis Bukky

Family is doing well by His grace..... How are you doing too?

Yes, the person can do it as it doesn't have any negative effect on conception or the womb. It is a natural regime devoid of any chemical substance.

Cheers

bellong:


I don't have energy exchanging words with an anonymous person. I prefer an argument with known person because I could be misunderstood. Moreso, a lot of people have rigid opinions on issues and the arguments no matter how superior will change them except for the very "microscopic few" who have the desire to learn. Hence, there is no point doing a back and forth argument except where and when necessary.

And one of the ways to make peace with all men is to desist from what can make you lose yourself....

Thanks

babygirlfl:
Thank you very much bukatyne. I am going to do just that.

bellong:

bellong:
Sis Bukky

Family is doing well by His grace..... How are you doing too?

Yes, the person can do it as it doesn't have any negative effect on conception or the womb. It is a natural regime devoid of any chemical substance.

Cheers

xynerise:
I always say thank you to the wait staff before and after a meal. I don't know why and when I say it but I just say it and feel ashamed later

I do this often. Is there anyone here doing or have done this before?

benny4wax:
I was in a Sociology of Law Class today and the lecturer in charge (A Professor) asked us the question below and asked for the answer in his next class please help.

A man came back from work and met his wife making love
to another man on their matrimonial bed, without shouting
or beating any of them he went to the sitting room, switched
on the television and sat quietly listening to news.
A few minutes later, the man got dressed, came to the sitting
room and said to the husband 'am sorry', but before he
could say any more words, the husband said 'don't worry,
stuff like this happen', and the man left, but the wife did not
come out of the room.
Tired of watching the television, the husband switched off
the TV, went into the room, met the wife crying, without
saying a word to her or asking about the incident, he went
straight to bed and slept.
By morning, the husband woke up and saw the lifeless body
of the wife. She committed suicide while he was sleeping.
The husband was arrested and sentenced to 20 years
imprisonment for murder.
QUESTION: Who is unfair in this ?
1. The Law
2.The Wife
3.The Husband
4. The Man She was cheating with.
Please give reason for your answer.

bellong:
I don't have belly fat na...

passionate88:
tell them o... I no just understand the way our Naija 'feminists' think

plaetton:
Yess indeed.
Women are the stronger sex, and I will Challenge Anyone which thanks or says otherwise.

Women are the pillars of community and society.
If you want to corruption a society, just corrupt the women folks, and then allow it to run its course.

Slave owners realized this centuries ago, when they took the male slaves out of the family picture, to concentrate on female slaves, in order to breed the perfect slave, strong in body, but week in mind.
Unfortunately, it is a nasty legacy, a vicious cycle that continues even today.

EfemenaXY:
We are all good dear.

Yeah sounds like a good plan. It's not easy sha, especially if you have to cook for the family. Kids need their carbs, proteins, etc for growth...but we mums need yo restrict our intake and even do away with certain foods...

God dey sha...

EfemenaXY:
We are all good dear.

Yeah sounds like a good plan. It's not easy sha, especially if you have to cook for the family. Kids need their carbs, proteins, etc for growth...but we mums need yo restrict our intake and even do away with certain foods...

God dey sha...

plaetton:

plaetton:
But men and women are different in many many ways. Women, being the stronger sex, are molded by nature to be patient and resilient in the face of great odds.
Women are the backbones of the home, who can always pick up the pieces to mend and rebuild when the man's libido threatens her home and family life.

Therefore, whenever the woman decides to stray, the moment the thoughts come to her mind and she follows through, the home is finished from the moment, even if it takes a while for the man to find.

That's why by the time the man finds out, he knows he realizes that his home is already broken.

Its pointless trying to forgive a woman for infidelity, because, women go through many different emotional stages before they taken that leap. One of those stages is demonize and condemn their husbands, justifying to themselves that he deserves to be dishonoured.

That is why it is nearly impossible, and not advisable at all to forgive an unfaithful wife.

BlackLeopard:
Yes because the context to the 'effeminate' used against men is to denote 'lacking in some area important for men', masculinity. It implies women are weaker, or less worthy, by default state. That a man who even remotely has feminine characteristics, is a bad man, because it's bad to be a womanly man.

Immaangel:
He is a close relative.

BABE3:
That's my point madam bukatyne.

You shouldn't have felt that way before reading. You should have kept an open mind. That lowers the probability of you twisting facts and evidence.

Like my teachers used to tell me in school, don't choose a side on a subject before starting a research. Research, then choose a side.

BABE3:
And that's a problem bukatyne. If you want to find the truth you have to be open minded. You can't seek truth with a biased mind.

That's a problem with most religious folks. They're too stuck in their religious way to ask questions. And even when they ask questions, they're scared of a "wrong" answer.

You have to break shït down to build. You have to break your biased foundation (with Christianity) to truly learn.

You can't wrap your mind around God being sexist so even if you're presented with the truth, you'll find ways to make it false. Coz your scared your whole belief system (everything you know about God) could be a lie.


I didn't mean to get all preachy. it had to be said.

That's why it's hard for me to learn on here. Most people, including me, have a biased view ( a preconceived notion) before even starting a debate.

BABE3:
So his headship continues after he's found the wife. Ok
IN the family/marriage, he is the head, according to you. Ok.

Why is he still the head after he's found his wife? What's wrong with two heads or the wife being the head?

Coz I'm sure a lot of thoughts must have gone into the decision making of giving the man the head role. Why was he the best choice ?

No one has been able to give me a clear answer. I asked stillfire she ran away. Maybe vickybee can help answer.

babygirlfl:
I am very open to learning more from you on this issue.

BABE3:
So you're saying, his headship ends after he has found his wife ?

BABE3:
I dey ready for this bit.

Why did he make man the head in marraige? If God or jesus isn't sexist, why is there a head in marraige and why is he a man?

cococandy:


Women are not happy. That's the argument

BABE3:
it's not only johanna.. Beyoncé nko?

We'll take this debate to the religion section later. Too many points to dissect.

My question is short and sweet, even in marraige, why did he make man the head??

pickabeau1:
Can you share what you learned?
What does headship mean in marriage Christian wise