₦airaland Forum

crackhaus:
So after using dark-skin women to sell himself, he consequently becomes obligated to fall in love with one?

Depends on how you look at it. look at it as practice what you preach... If you would hype the black skinned girl, she should be good enough for marriage. It is how you would feel seeing Don Jazzy leave Loya Milk for Peak Milk in the supermarket after promoting Loya Milk

However, like I said in my first post here, he was already with his girl before his brand and I do not expect him to be foolish to dump her for a poster dark girl.

Maybe he is just a business and pleasure apart guy.

crackhaus:
Err, someone who lives a content life and is happy with herself OR is married with kids running around and keeping her busy, should not be angry what shade of woman a rapper chooses to be with - that's what it has to do with it.

She is an activist and it is her business.. She might have kids round about at home or be chilling somewhere now for all we care. She sees it as a betrayal of their struggles. He was probably popular in their community because he identified with them.

And he was 'wise' enough not to show his girl so he can sell the black affinity wella and make his doe. This guy would make a splendid Nigerian politician.

crackhaus:
And yea, maybe she even secretly desires the dude...just saying

Who knows? sometimes, there is sometimes more than meets the eye.

njokusboy:
If you copy my hairstyle and bleach your skin lyk mine, it simply means you re not comfortable with the way you are and desire to be like me... even a fool can deduce that...

And marrying a lighter skinned person doesn't denote that?

crackhaus:
But really though, I don't understand why she had to be so angry just because Kendrick Lamar chose to be with someone of lighter shade.

Maybe if she was married with kids or living a happy and content life, she'd have less time hating on the next brother for his dating preferences.

She is 'angry' because the guy uses 'dark skinned' women to sell himself and marries a 'white skinned' one

More like practice what you preach and imitation is the best form of flattery.

If you want to flatter 'dark skinned' women, what is the best way than to marry a 'dark skinned' one?

However, the activist need not break a sweat because Marketers and people who sell themselves/a brand do it all the time.

I do not know what her marriage or her living a content life has to do here (except if she was expecting Kendrick to propose to her which is a new set of ball all together)

This is very disgusting!

Eww!

YourCoffin:
Without having to venture that far, kindly read the comments above mine.

Yes. And I really don't understand why people won't just leave other people's preferences alone.

I thought you were talking about a personal experience hence my question as to where you are/were based.

A terrible place to be

babygirlfl:
Bukky dear, I think it did. I see a few of the happily married men who contributed on this thread comment in this section. Most importantly, this thread highlights what they did and still do to make a happy marriage. They told us how they do things in their home. Reading through this thread will remind women that there are good men. Obviously some people are not happy because these happily married men did not come here to tell them what they want to hear.

Lol

It will surely get better.

MARKone:
U wan make the man finish the old woman with his wrinkled Jabulani, i.e, assuming she is still alive. OP is overreacting at least he has not raped anyone, from the look off things, it appears consensual. To me it is encouraging at that age my fellow man still dey perform, he should just consider his health, other than that, he is good to go

OP dey vex because him 86yrs old grandpa dey carry babe pass am.

He is not good to go

He should be an example to his kids and grand kids....

Since he is still very much active, he can marry an older woman (50s) who does not want kids so they can dangle together.

YourCoffin:
I like light-skinned women = I hate myself and must have a low self-esteem (according to dark-skinned ladies)

Hain!

It's due to this kind of reasoning that I like light-skinned women. If I had prefered an animal over a woman, I wonder what they would have branded me as: I hate myself again of course...

Sorry to ask but dark skinned ladies at where?

The same way it is ridiculous when I read it is self hate to perm my hair or use extensions.... really?

Ok researched Kendrick a little and got to see that he is seen as a representative of the 'black' community (AA)

While I understand the angst of Rashida, I absolutely see no reason for it and why Kendrick should be castigated for his choices.

He saw a concept that will sell and sold it; whether he believes it or not is something else altogether....

Don jazzy was/is an ambassador for Loya Milk and he might never use it; Stephanie Okereke-Linus is an ambassador for X-pression hair extensions and she might never use it also.

Whether I would promote something I would not use/not use is another thing altogether

Besides, Kendrick was with this girl all the while before he developed his brand; he might actually believe in it however, I do not expect him to mortgage his love for his stand. Neither do I expect him to dump her and pick a poster 'black' girl for acceptance (That would make him terrible IMHO)

It is a known fact that Nigerians like light skinned people better (males & females) and we see them as finer (IMHO true) than the average dark skinned person. 'You are looking fairer' is a compliment (Until it gets to bleaching) while 'you are looking darker' is associated with suffering, illness or seen as a 'discompliment'.

And I cannot relate the AA's struggles with ours as Nigerians. Nobody would castigate a 'black' man for marrying a 'light skinned' woman; maybe Yoruba & Hausa, Christian and Muslims etc. We have our divides and it is absolutely not along skin colour or type of hair. It would do good to separate the two and not rope all into 'black' during discussions.

The way ÁA women complain about 'black' men marrying 'whites' or 'light skinned ones' is also the same way AA women and even Nigerian on NL (Never seen one in real life except on religious reasons) are castigated for using extensions and straightening their hair. It is surely a two way thingy.

Good morning y'all

Since the wife is content with it, you need worry yourself @ OP

jadelyn007:
movies are not responsible for the hate most people hv for their mil, it happens for real n I hv seen it life, the onus is on the spouse whose parent the inlaw is to put his/her offending parent in check.
Its not only MIL that are insufferable, some FIL are like that too. Sometimes its nt only the Man's mother, it could even be the woman's mother that is constantly a thorn in the flesh of couples.

Their was a time my maternal grandma was having issues with my uncles wife constantly. I am very close to the said woman and I've stayed long periods with her severally, we got along fine.
This same woman who seemed nice to everyone couldn't get along fine with grandma cos my grandma will always find faults.
Mind you, I have only 2uncles, granny doesn't like any of the wives. Is it a mere coincidence? Or are both wives bad? I have visited these women severally and I don't see anything wrong with them.

Some MIL's are just like that, no woman is ever good enough for their son, but their daughters are always the best thing that can happen to any man.

I guess this is what really gets me pissed.

You know you behave to your daughter, you know how to treat her spouse (your SIL) so that she will have a happy home yet you do not know how to treat your son's wife (your DIL) because you think she is only the 'wife'

lilmax:
patiently waiting for you to say the same when it involves a man and a woman

For her to say that a woman deserves to be slapped back when she slaps a man?

It is a no brainer

What was she expecting?

MarvellousGod:
Yeah, Thanks...
Let's hope so

God bless your home dear

Had to go through this thread again

Unfortunately, the objectives of this thread has not been met

cedaraustine:
But insensitive at that point. Seemed as if he agreed that If the igbos don't do what the supposed 'land owners' want, they bounce.

A later time wouldn't have been bad but at the height of the tension building?!

I agree

He is right.

bellong:
Don't join the ignorant to peddle false information.

He married her when she was about 19years and not 9.

Saw on a site she was born in 1979 researched more and saw it was 1971.

Thanks, will edit my post.

But 44 to 73 badt gan

LewsTherin:
Comtrary to what most Africans believe (especially the older they get), respect is reciprocal. If your parents have any iota of self respect, then they should know that they have to earn and maintain your respect. Your dad is wise enough to know that that includes respecting your privacy.


Yes. Parents need a reason to visit their children even if it is just to see you newborn since she wasn't there for the "omugwo".

Wise parents know that their children's homes are their children's homes and they respect themselves.

Great

@OP: YOU are lucky

Your dad might know something you don't.

ademega:
Anti social and want to enforce that on her social husband

Good to isolate the problem

The wife should realise that she is different from her husband in that area and should ride on his strength then.

He becomes the automatic PR person, calling and initiating visits.

She should also get a hobby

Her husband should also not force her to be like him.

Vickybee:
All these gay men disguising as women on Nairaland claiming anti-feminism.

Cococandy
Bukatyne
Sophyrocks
Fellis etc beware of Joavid.

See her nauseating and demeaning post about Nigerian women and she claim to be one.

Oniranu!

Hi Vicky,

Thanks for the mention.

There are a diverse group of people here just like in real life and not everyone will believe in your ideals.

I will say define yourself and values and try to stick by them, improving when nnecessary

You do not have to convince anyone to believe in you or your ideals neither do you have to believe in what others believe in.

The most important thing is to grow daily, learn from people you can and respect everyone 's opinion.

Have a great day/night.

ademega:
Me and my husband alone thing .hope you get

Is she just anti social or is she anti her husband's circle (friends and family)?

Neplusultra:
Witout bias!!!! Thank God for u.

Thanks

Biliamin:
They were warned severally by their pastors not to elaborate the wedding ceremony but the in-laws (famous family) is ready to bring everything to the table to ensure the world hears about the wedding.

The family, on knowing to the in laws decision, decided to engage themselves on a marathon fasting and prayers and planned the wedding on their part in a very low key. The went as far as not inviting neighbours for the wedding as the wedding was held at a far distant event hall.

To cut the whole story short, the bride mother passed on 2 days after the wedding without trace of any ailment/cause.

Since the demise of the mother, her sister has been blaming herself for her mothers death saying her mother died because she failed to listen to the pastors not to have an elaborate wedding.

This is beginning to affect her relationship with her sister and her husband.

There is fear that she might go ahead to hurt herself and the sister, being the only sister, is perplexed and dont even know what to do.

Please your matured advice will be appreciated

The bride would always feel guilty and probably blame her husband and inlaws

She should consolation in the fact that they planned the wedding low key on their end.

Her husband has his work cut out for him.. The sister also geniunely reassuring her they do not hold her responsible will also go a long way.

RIP to mama and blessings to her home.

ademega:
How do you resolve issues with a woman that doesn't want anybody around you and as a man that people are always earger to be with .
Sensible contribution please

What do you/the husband mean by anybody?

So sad

What ran in the hearts of the people who formed the culture and those who followed it?

The practice of marrying young girls to young boys is still manageable If they can make it work.

Nigeria should not be left out too.

We still have Some cradle robbers here

Sick sick.

This is see gobe!

What caused the argument?

suggyspic:
I have decided to share this here not for nairaland members to start any form of insult on my Grandfather but for knowledge purpose. My Grandfather is 84years, very strong and still chases younger ladies (35 - 48) like his life depends on this ladies. Yesterday i went visiting and work into him and the lady making out in the palour. I left in annoyance, wondering what he tells this ladies that they still follow him. . This is not the first time i have meet ladies coming out from his house. At his age, won't the frequent sex affect him or does it make him stronger.

What of your grandma?

Since your grandpa is still active, let him marry a widow/divorcee If he has the means to care for them

He is old and should be an example to you his grandkids instead of fornicating about.

If it is a gf he is serious about, yes

Will only provide them separate rooms/sleeping arrangements.

MadCow1:
I can relate..

The Ugly Duckling that asked me out in High School and I turned her down had grown into a swan princess many years later when I ran into her at my office..

I was like 'Daayuuuum' Dafuq happened?

Puberty

A lot of my Sec Schl mates look real good

Another thing is that a lot of teens are not conscious of looks, had poor dress sense, clumsy, do not know What fit them and limited resources.

In university /working, you see the world , improve and blossom

okotv:
The elections would be peaceful, that I can guarantee but Agbaje winning, that I can't. By the way, agbaje visited my street this past week.

It is well