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Hello house,

How is the weekend going?

Can I substitute brown rice for Ofada rice?

@OP:

Isn't your job to protect your woman?

You couldn't protect her when she needed it.

I am sure she traded words with them because of that.

Better luck next time.

cococandy:
yea

If Na the man mama dey do all these ones now, we will find a way to blame the wife. Mtchew.

And tell her to make peace as the 'bigger' person

I swear, it is a man's world.

mutter:
I remember years back I wanted to visit Nigeria with my kids. I went with my husband and booked he tickets. I planned to stay one month. Two weeks before my trip my husband said I should leave the kid`s. He dd not give me any reason.
It was hard but I had to respect his wish. They were his kid`s.
I had to make the trip alone and cut it short.
It is the right of a man or woman to decide if they want such a trip or not. Not just financial issues. So many things can happen on the way. Sometimes you just have a feeling that danger looms and you start making every kind of reason.
I remember last two summers my kids wanted to visit my sister in law. I did not want it but they pleaded. I insisted they go with the train and not the car. They went with the train but my husband decided to pick them. that Sunday I was in church praying and something just came over me. I was like in a negotiation with God on who to take if anything happened and I found myself praying and telling God. None of them, why must I loose anyone, I love them all. An hour later my husband called me. They had had an accident a car had run into them. I still ave shivers when I remember. Sorry a bit off point ...

As regards your in laws. package their daughter and send her back to them.
She is not on your side. If she was such a thing would never have happened. Three kid`s and no loyalty to her husband
When she comes to her senses she will come begging with the family.

You need to make a statement here or you will keep being a victim of abuse and they might kill you one day.

Send her away and get some security at your gate. You need to be hard and firm on this.

Why should he send his wife away?

OP said she is not on their side and her brothers once malhandled her.

cococandy:
Na wa. What's your mother-in-laws plan for your marriage if I may ask.
Because the way some people behave towards their children's husbands and wives make one wonder if they really want their kids to be happily married at all.

Don't let that vandalism of your property go unpunished. They have to fix it for you, Those brothers-in-law of yours. I'm quite certain they didn't even over-hear your conversation with their mother but they have made you the enemy just because your MIL says so.
If your wife can't convince her mother to treat you with respect as her life partner then why is she married to you?

MILs of naija. SMH. Today they are slapping their daughters-in-law,tomorrow they are vandalizing their sons-in-law properties.
No single Respect for their their kids chose to spend the rest of their lives with.

And some people still think MILs are above reproach.

You did not get the memo

Husbands' relatives are above reproach.

This is the wife's family messing up.

2 different things.

@OP:

Since your wife is not in support, get them arrested If you can.

We know How police dey operate.

Also maintain silence. Till your in-laws learn How to be civil and communicate like humans, cut them off

That is after dealing with them.

I believe the issues did not start today and This Christmas saga brought out stuffs that were hidden.

If mama desperately wanted to see her grandkids, Why couldn't she come to Warri for a week or some days.

When spouses (esp. Wives) stop taking nonsense from in-laws, their brain will reset to default.

This kind of stories annoy me.

edwife:
So two grown men will leave their houses and families to come and harass another man in his house

Just because she is your mother doesn't mean that everything she says is true,you need to hear from the other party too.
That woman has serious issues,does she want to destroy her daughter's home?


Please get them arrested next time they try anything silly.

Hahahahahahhahahaha!

I just had to do this

LOL!

Thank God people are beginning time get wiser

Stupid girl!

Can her generation afford that bag?

Again, apart from If the guy was testing her, Why should a guy take a new girl to a boutique? Is that part of knowing each other?

Have We also considered that more older single ladies = more older single men?

If the economic situation is better, we will automatically see a change.

With my husband,

None

luxanne:
"Mrs Morgan said: “When I complained to my mother-in-law about the way my husband beats me, she asked me to be careful about my utterances because that was what his father did to her.”


"Mr Morgan said it was true he threw her luggage out when they had an argument, adding: “When I reported her to her father, he said that was how her mother behaved before she died.”

This is one hell of a crazy union. Couple got mighty issues. Plus I think they both want their marriage dissolved but their son is standing in between that decision.

Crazy crazy couple.

Evina:

Congratulations!

The pictures are sooooooooooooo lovely

God bless your home.

Toby77:
UPDATE

She's back........yaaaaay

Apparently, not all that glitters is Gold .....The man was into yahoo runs but fronts with a legit cybercafe running business(who knows what else he is into(drugs/prostitution) and was looking to train a wife/protege into his yahoo ways, babe refused and she's back home in her father's house . I was even surprised she didn't take the bait, she must have been a truly naive girl and thought it was a genuine opportunity. I just knew the whole parole was too smooth not to have some k leg somewhere

Anyway, am still struggling to know this man's real motive. he spent up to 350k for what, what has he gained? why bring her all the way to SA just for yahoo. The whole thing still doesn't make sense to me. Anyway, I think the real motive was he intended to train a drug smuggler, cos that's the only thing that seems to justify all the investments the guy made.

Hindsight is truly 20/20 and where are all those who will say 'mind your business'

I no fit laugh. All those who made comments supporting the Man, Diaris God o

I am very Happy things turned out This way.

The arrangement was wrong in all ramifications

@OP: I would say not however your wife's BIL should pray about it.

For him to have doubts means his spirier is telling him it is wrong.

He should still pray anyways

naijainfogalery:
i am against men hitting women, i cant even hit my younger brother or a child stubborn anymore, talkless of hitting my woman.

This brings me back to the question, some woman cannot behave well if they've not been beaten. 7 years ago i went to visit an old class mate of mine, they stay in this face me i face you house. When i got there i saw this man mercilessly beating his wife and no one was seperating them. i expressed my anger and my friend told me to sit and watch , i was like i am going home he pleaded and he gave me a clue, he said in 30 mins time or less the couple will go inside and lock the door, the next thing is hot sexx, i didnt believe less than 15 mins that i got there. the couples actually did went inside and they had the greatest sexx ever. the woman wey chop beaten now now was busy shouting haa haa huum huum ride on , do me , eff me well, harder, keep it coming , you must kill me today,

I was dumbfounded then my friend told me you see why no one seperates them, he told me someone that abused the husband during their last fight was given the abuse of his life by the said wife after the man had finished some rounds of sexx with him.

Some women actually need this to go back to their default settings but this isnt a justification to abuse women

Strange But true

@OP:

Beautiful writeup

It depends on the dynamics of the relationship. Strangely, I have found out Some women do not like TLC; So been soft would not work for them.

I will say: find out the type of people best suited to complement you.

firstEVA:
Very cute pix, the father is the darling of the home, everyone is clinging to him, one quality my husband must have, minus the big belle of course

Abeg leave the big belle

This is How a father should be.

@TV01:

Your kids look very cute.

God bless your home.

Family

dynamicbuzz:
Just relax the hair, everyone should do what makes them happy. My hair is not relaxed though, barbed mine as at 10 months ago and i love the fact i made that decision. My relaxed hair was beautiful, everyone loved it but i would pick natural hair over relaxed hair any day. That afro thing is what makes me happy. I don't have power for all those twist out, braid out, sleek edges etc things that all these team natural girls like doing. i don't spend much on products either, i just use water, damatol, gentelle conditoner and shampoo and they are cheap to buy. A friend of mine couldn't handle her own natural hair and she used baby texturizer, the hair still looks really good still.

I cannot handle my hair too

Used texturizer and it is still 'natural'

@OP:

Congrats.

A nice thread.

Add getting fairer to the list of Good living.

Is husband scarcity now trending on NL?

What else is the young man prepared to bring to the table apart from money?

Do you also know that some men want to marry when they have made it So that their wives would 'enjoy' and not work?

Some ladies see marriage as an end of all their problems at least financial;

Plenty plenty things o jare

Besides people still get married every Thursdays & Saturdays

And I do not think they all married rich men.

saucepan:
what is all this about teaching? is teaching really a second rate career? i know in Nigeria now education is a professional course. no school worth its onions takes a teacher without a qualification in education as stipulated and enforced by the government. have we forgotten that many Nigerians were forced to study courses they never mapped out to cos " thats what jamb gave them" should that individual now armed with a basic degree not follow his passion? mind you people's dreams and aspirations and life's goals are permitted to change due to a lot of factors such as experiences and exposure. so if she studied geology and wants to end up a teacher, for me that's cool. my advise aspire to the highest level of teaching. get a PGD, then work towards a masters and a Ph D.. believe me this career gives you room to achieve this. after that consider if you want to continue as a pre university teacher or you want to step up our game and lecture.
anybody that calls a stay at home mum lazy is completely misinformed especially if that woman has no help( house help or nanny) every woman that has been there knows that is the most tedious job especially for the child bearing years. for me, during my younger days, i was a stay at home mum, brought up my children without a help. i ran businesses from home and got myself an M.Sc. fast ward 6yrs later i delved into a career path I want, registered a firm and started little by little. 3yrs later was done with baby making, have four sons and i got myself a good government job. now all my years of hands on training of my kids have paid off as the boys can comfortably run the home( mind you the eldest is 11yrs) and are very much independent. now i am about to change career path to something more demanding and rewarding as my kids can now make it out on their own. my advise don't let any body make you feel lazy cos you don't have a paid job. trust me i have tasted both worlds and can tell you which is more tasking. remain focused. utilize the free time when the kids are off to school or playgroup. better yourself, strategize and work towards how you will fit back in the labour market. it not only equips you but makes you feel good about yourself. wishing you all the best. remember your children's formative years don't last forever, it is only for a while by 3 yrs they are in school tops 11yrs they are already in boarding school. if you train they older ones well they help out with the younger. cheers and stay blessed

I thought you were a guy?

You were going 'businesses' and schooling while you were at home and you were a stay at home mom? Then Seun must be a stay at home guy! (sure you get my drift)

@teaching: I believe that reaction is because every married woman is told to be a teacher So We have a lot of frustrated teachers.

The OP can also look at your posts. Thanks for confirming the education stuff. I have advised the OP go for her PDG anyways. When she's done, her kids are older.

I haven't seen her around anyways.

Hmmmmm!

It seems 90% of them were deterred by their parents.

Since they desire marriage, I hope they get married.

I like the fact the Bayelsa babe went to meet a matchmaker.

Firstimer:
Plsbe realistic here o.
I dont no if ur talking about Naija or d UK. Which bank resumes at 9am in Nigeria.
Resumption time is 7-7.30 for staff and 8am to customers. And the closing time, yes it can be possible to leave at 5pm but not always. And if one resides in Lagos with the heavy traffic on the road, she'll be getting home not earlier dan 9pm.

It all depends.

Not everyone lives in Lagos, not everyone who lives in Lagos work in a bank and not everyone who works in a bank live far from it.

There are about 6 banks where I stay and I know a number of their staff would live around. Some would practically trek to work If they want to.

A relative lives about 10mins drive from her bank in a non-traffic area.

Some jobs start by 8pm and close by 5pm.

It is not all gloom and doom

Besides, Some people really like to work late

Good one girl

Keep making your parents proud.

kingjooo:
I wanna use this medium to thank all of you that have contributed to this thread and my life in general through your priceless advices. May God reward all of you abundantly,the good news i have to share with all of you this mornin is that my parent have finally accepted me of marrying my beloved angel.It was done through prayers,careful explanation to my parent and involvement of my notable uncles.I can't wait for the day that i will share my wedding pix on this forum.Thank you all and God bless.

Thank God

Bless your future home

@Bellong:

How are you and family?

Completed a 6day plan on Tuesday.

Started feeling the hunger on Sunday.

Lost about 5kg.

Thanks

Jman06:
Imagine the way you guys are mocking the man for reporting his abusive wife. No wonder many men remain in abusive relationships and die untimely.

Many of you are too myopic to know that life is not constant. Not all men are stronger vessels and not all women are weaker vessels. The problem with us Africans is that we tend to be dogmatic in all aspects of life, hence we tend to believe that everything in life MUST conform to an already set rules, forgetting that those who set the rules might have done so out of ignorance.
My point is, yes, men can be physically abused by women, and when such men report such abuses, they shouldn't be mocked but helped.

100% agree and add the women mocking him into the mix

@OP: The truth is between What both parties are saying. How can husband and wife claim to be beaten and both parties ddenying?

The court should carry out more investigations joor

prettydiva89:
OMG She don die be that nah,abi 266 years,even her great grandchildren would have been dead by then..

What a pity?

Since it is concurrently, it is just 14yrs (the length of the longest term)

@OP: 266yrs aka 14yrs for N8m?

Some politicians' 3rd generation go help them serve term be that.

babyosisi:
We just bought a tub of blue bell cookie dough icecream and I rushed to the refrigerator and my kids have already eaten some of it
I cover them with the blood of Jesus
Efemenaxy,cococandy,herzumpther,chillisauce,datalossvictim1,bukatyne

It is well o!

Please rush them to the hospital If they can purge them.

Please be calm.

@OP:

Considering the fact that all experienced were once virgins and every experienced player has to unlearn their former partners preferences and learn the taste of their current partners/spouses, a Virgin partner is better

No open minded person remains a novice forever.

I love to grow with my husband in all things; bed included.