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nkemdi89:
That's what happen when you threat your girlfriend like trophy during courtship. The man no longer threats her the way he used to before.

onegig:
Bukatyne. We all know what Nairaland is. You always know those "posts" would come. I learn to ignore them and don't go on poiting fingers at everyone as long as you don't direct your BS at me.

Why i responded to only her was because she directly alleged that I was chauvinistic and I had to ask her to point exactly where or how I did that.


Not responsible for others railroading her and calling her out on the same ish .

If she's ready to make wrong assertions then she should learn to fight her "wars" with the attendant trolls.

lolaxavier:
It depends on your relationship with your husband. There are husbands and wives that actively discuss politics at home, hence there's no way to hide one's political inclination.
Besides, why should you vote for mr A and lie to your husband that you voted mr B. Must it get that? Why can't the husband respect the political inclination of the wife. Simple!

onegig:
And what's wrong with this.?



I am not "most posters", I am only responsible for my own thoughts and I was well balanced and pointed the errors of both male and female cos I believe It takes two to tango.

lolaxavier:
I have written in simple English terms. Don't quote me out of of context. I am not forcing any ideology on anyone.Just expressing my opinion.

Tie my threads from start to where I mentioned persuasion and you will understand why I used the word.
In a nutshell, all I'm trying to express is that if you forcibly try to persuade your wife to vote because you are in favour of a particular candidate, then you are obviously being selfish.
I have already asked this question, what will happen if she does not agree to your pov on this matter? Are you going to fight or chase her out because of this? Isn't she entitled to make a choice in this manner.
A family putting up a common front is a good idea but sincerely, I dont think that applies in this instance.
We can all see how some people are dissatisfied with the current administration but just because you have your soft spot for Gej or you feel he has achieved, will you now make your wife vote him when she feels her gej has not contributed anything to the welfare of her parent or sibling. That is a very selfish and self centered thing to do.

onegig:
You would do well to point out which part of the post is antiwomen.

So feminism is the new singsong in town that you girls just bandy around without an inkling of what it even means.

I guess that feminism also taught you to be uncouth and use gutter languages when passìng your message across?

nkemdi89:
A friend of mine marriage barely survived five months because of failure from the husband to replace her Iphone 5 that got stolen on their wedding day.

Justfollowit:
You and women ehn

You must be very miserable

I wish you knew me then

uncjay:
from a feminist perspectives.....all that could comes out is an attack at the male folks painting them blue black as if they were evil creatures.... Your scale lacks balancing as you are one sided regarding the issue on ground. I'm not here to defend the male folks because both are contributing to the nemesis, at the same time castigates your type who sees men as the solely factor that brings about crashes in marriage and other evil scenario.....check it.

dinachi:
Now it becomes clearer. You represent that confounding idiocy found in the sheepish magas who ape the naira land accredited scammer babyosisi.

dinachi:
Oh my God your brain is totally useless.I will advice you donate it for research on mumusification of some naira land females.

Shollypopzz:
https://38.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mb0xqqpAck1rsykmco6_r1_250.gif

dinachi:
Celebrating physical abuse on nairaland. You just confirmed who you really are: Maga!

cococandy:
Family section is mild. Go to politics and see men running mouth like typewriters.

If only one of them will be honest and straight forward enough to admit that men are verbally abusive too.

daddynasa:
My friend just called me this evening, telling me that his wife arranged his face with a dirty slap at about 2:15 am, he said he jumped out of the bed as a result of the shock and he was confused for about 8 mins. He said the wife was looking at him with a particular face. when he got himself, he then asked her why the slap, all she said was that "I told I will pay u back". I asked him that why the payback? he said they had a fight before their marriage ( abt 2mnths ago) of which he gave her a slap. they just got married and now my friend is asking me what I think of such a wife that could keep such in her heart? Me sef confuse

Shollypopzz:
https://i.imgur.com/9N6CjFg.gif

babyosisi:
The only two men that argue about abuse here,one is a confirmed abuser and the other has the tendencies by all accounts.
Go figure

coogar:
or you need glasses.



no, she hasn't!
she's just preventing him from leaving the scene. she hasn't attacked him or cause him any pain or injury.



if she runs her mouth after being told to stop several times then she deserves to be slapped. verbal abuse & physical assault are all children under domestic abuse. one is not less hurtful than the other.

coogar:
when he calls her oponu X2, who do you think is more likely to go physical between the two? it's the woman. she gets hurt & locks the man's shirt.

"you must kill me today, you must beat me today". why are you pretending you dunno women are the primary aggressors of domestic violence 70% of the time?

coogar:
verbally abusive only after they have been abused. no man goes about the forum looking for a woman to abuse. it's always in retaliation.

Herzumpther:
Finallllllllllly. Thank you so much you all. Dad has finally given me the go ahead to follow the choice of my heart. Its was a tough time but then you all stood by me with encouraging words and advises. It can only get better from here on. I am so happy. Thank you all. I am so greatful to you all.

For those still on the battle field, don't give up very soon cause victory is near.

Timbuktou:
I don't think it's misleading. The woman's natural habitat is in the realm of nurture. Yes, she can work, but she definitely cannot out-work a man. Testoterone makes for less patience and sentiment. I don't need to tell you how oestrogen works

okotv:
Hello ma'am.

Amen

kaboninc:
You need to.

Gone are the days when Nigerian movies were movies.

pcguru1:
Ave experienced this phase before the relationship is almost over, she's still holding for some weird reason other than love. But don't worry you will move on and see someone great or you will be alone trying to understand what went wrong, regardless time will move on. The same babe you think you can't imagine being without will one day be an occasional memory till it becomes a blur all the things you guys had together that represented happiness will be the memory you will hate the most. Nothing hurts more than love. Whatever you do don't think you were not good enough and also don't drown your sorrows with alcohol that's bad instead just drink alcohol. and yes speaking from experience though no happy ending except alcohol is never scarce for me to numb the pain. Let's rewind it could be that this is a test and this is when you guys proof your love for each other give it the good ol fight no man castigates another man for trying. At least you'd be able to say you gave it your best. All the best bro if things don't go well just holla me alcohol is never scarce in my Kingdom.

All the best from the god of alcohol

Bulkfella:
Thanks so much everyone, your comments have been of immense help, however I don't want to rush things. Reading through your comments yesterday gave me some momentum and drive to call it quit, but as I called her yesterday we had a heart to heart discussion and after I analyzed the whole situation it turned out that I'm partly responsible for the way things turned out. I believe I haven't been understanding enough because sometimes when I call her and she's acting cold she does ask me to call back but I always shout and make it an issue......and also I think what infuriated her was when I sent her a message about all the sacrifices I made just for her and all that she was like, I'm making it look as if She's not worth it and all that, we however ended the whole matter on a light note, she said she still loves me but doubt my love for her, I re-pledged my love for her and she did likewise. I just want to give it my best shot, I think if after now it doesn't work, then I'll be the fool to continue day dreaming........I appreciate all your messages that's why I decided to give an update....gracias!!! ciao!!

kaboninc:
E ma bi nu se...

Mo ba yi sere.

Kpele

So gbo?

okotv:
the kind of marriages portrayed on Nairaland is false and unreal. God knows that no wife of mine would go through this.

kaboninc:
Lol!

'faithful', 'happily married', 'happy home', 'genuine christian' and the other adjectives are not really in absolute terms.

I believe they are masks and that people want the world to see them that way. So they hide their through identity. It happens.
Pi
Aside from the voodoo, sometimes the concept could be cool but the packaging is terrible.

Drifting away from YorubaWood, have you seen The Meeting?