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bellong:
Probably "72" from behind....

I think i'll pass on this...

Running away??

ShakurM:
bye bye

Drop your offering on the way out

keppyy:
Yup...
I'm not attracted to men anymore...

So you were once attracted?

What happened?

bennyrazz:
why is no 8 not no 1? to me, 1,2,3 & 8 are good while the rest is to the recycle bin

It is for ladies and not guys

Posters seem to like No. 8 as No. 1; would do that

Welcome to the thread

KanwuliaJara:
Hmmmmm. . . .
I see.
Please, carry on then.
My bad!

Perhaps Bellong can open a counter thread for guys

ShakurM:
Ladies this. Ladies that....
Una no get work?

Welcome to the thread

bellong:
Because it is always the last thing on an average girl's list after the usual Tall, Dark, Handsome and Rich, then the addendum he "should" fear God....



Never knew you worked with NITEL.. How many yards line did I steal?

How old am I?

KanwuliaJara:
Feminism is not about the rights of 'LADIES' alone.

Not coming from the feminist angle on this thread

Just my observation on stuff generally

SuperSuave:
Hmm

Why Hmm?

Welcome to the thread

Creamish:
**thinking aloud**... "why is The fear of God no.8" ?

It was stated it was the most important

Due to the thread I modified it from

Welcome to the thread

bellong:


The Op is actually a "Pro-Feminist".....

I agree that it should be directed to both gender.

Stop stealing my lines

Welcome to the thread

KanwuliaJara:
. . . another one of 'those threads' of 'clandestine anti-feminist' agenda!

Like na only women these apply to?
Sheeeeeesh!

I am a femminst

It sure can be tweaked to fit men

Welcome to the thread

itstpia8:
Why?

Because wire belongs to PHCN

Welcome to the thread

keppyy:
Are you sure you're not my twineeee?

You totally understand.

Ummmhhhh...I let things go anyway but more thoughts keep coming.

Lols, they will keep coming

You have an hyperactive imagination... very good, would make you a good writer/public speaker

This patient is fine and you are worried about the next one...

I know how many stories I have turned in my mind; how I worry about someone's actions before meeting the person... How I imagine the next step before even starting...

Biko, your BP must come down

Will try to attach something now

Modified..

Done, check the link at my signature

MercyMercy:
I get your point but honestly,waiting might not be favorable to us. He is based in Benin city while I,in Lagos. He manages a company,so you can imagine how busy he is daytime.and my parents wouldn't buy the idea of me paying him a visit while we aren't yet married cos they have given me only one opportunity and I have exhausted it.

Unfavorable how?

If it is a long distance relationship, how have you both gotten to know yourselves so far?

Can't he come over a weekend? He can get 2 days leave 2wks/ 1 month in advance to see you (depending on his Company's policy)

Please do not be in a rush

keppyy:
Random stuffs...

It's a fault I have, if there's a bomb-blast...I think

I'm bored...I think

What next...I think


I'm an "over-thinker".

Big Question: How do I stop thinking?

*sorry for derailing*

LOL @ Over-thinker...

Do you let stuffs go easily? After thinking it through and it fails/no way forward

Remember you cannot control all situations...

I over-imagine stuffs and start planning on something I have not seen... I can imagine myself how I want to be at a party/ceremony etc. and always I never get it (BUT I throw away the worry after a while)

I guess it's the throwing away that helps me

Comments et all would be welcome

Wrote this post on a thread years back and opened a thread based on it which was lost doing NL's tsunami. Just a word to we ladies

1. WE ladies should fear God: This is really the most important. Develop a personal relationship with him. It is not easy, I'm still trying but it's so important. He's the only one that can sustain us. He never fails; that loving dude can change tomorrow but GOD is ever faithful.

2. Let ladies endeavour of be women of their words: A lady should not say something because it's in vogue. A lady says she's a virgin and the bros finds out later that it's not true. It discredits all you have ever told him. I remember one evening in school my guy (now husband) and I went to this Mamaput to eat. A friend brought one of his 'runs' and this girl was ranting that she likes girls that are adventurous like spending 2 days in the forest etc. and the guy was just smiling. My guy and I was like when did spending two days in a thick forest become an adventure? A doll says she eats only this, uses bottled water to brush her teeth bla bla and the guy finds out they are lies. We lose credibility.

3. Let Ladies be content with what they have: Yes, very lady wants to look good, wear Jimmy Choo shoes, Carry Gucci, Prada and LV bags but we should remember that all fingers are not equal. We should be content with what we can afford. A guy is NOT our meal ticket. Back in school, a lot of ladies used stuffs their parents couldn't afford and felt they are enjoying life (whatever that means). We should not compete with others around us. God has given each of us something to make us stand out. Discover it and develop it.

4. Ladies should know there is no perfect man out there: A lot of ladies are looking for the TDHR dude: Tall, Dark, Handsome and Rich dude in addition to the God fearing, Intelligent, Caring, Loving, Pampering etc. qualities they want. Every dude out there has an imperfection. He might be dirty, impatient, short, fair etc. just how we are not perfect and we have to be patient with them. He might make wrong judgments, mistakes etc. but we encourage them in love. However, LADIES PLEASE know that some 'imperfections' are unacceptable: Cheating, Abuse (emotional, verbal, physical) etc. We should also note that even while we try to adapt to his imperfections, HE MUST be working towards changing else there might be problem. He should practice becoming more patient, tidy etc.

5. Ladies should develop their self - esteem: There is nothing as attractive as a lady that radiates confidence. She is beautiful, kind, gentle, believes in herself, is at peace with the world because she is content with who she is and is competing with no one. Confidence or self - esteem is NOT the same as been RUDE or VULGAR. Some ladies are rude because they are naturally on the defensive. They feel they have no worth and hence start doing gra gra to cover up. We should develop ourselves character wise, knowledge wise, domestic wise, career wise etc. and stop competing. No matter how beautiful or rich we are, there is someone out there better so why don't we develop what is unique to us: Our minds. When we have healthy self esteem, some dudes naturally won't come to us because they have no substance (not referring to money or material stuffs)to add to us. We will start to attract men of value into our lives. When we mistakenly accept losers into our lives, we immediately discharge them We know we are not handbags to always be attached to a man and take our time before making a choice. We know we have no business with cheats and abusers because we deserve better and know our worth. Remember that dolls don't beg a man's love.

6. Ladies should stop trying to earn a man' love: This sounds funny but a man that doesn't love you will never do no matter what you do. Love can't be forced ladies. NEVER FORCE A MAN TO MARRY YOU ELSE YOU WILL ONLY SMILE ON YOUR WEDDING DAY AND LIVE ALL THROUGH YOUR MARRIAGE IN SORROW. Once a man loves you, he will do everything to please you. Here is the tricky part: NEVER take a man's love for granted. When he does things a conventional man wouldn't do because he loves you, don't take him for a fool else you will regret it. Don't turn him into a discussion topic with your friends. Appreciate him and look for ways to please him too. Yes, some of your 'friends' would laugh and say 'hey, you don't do bla bla for a man' but pay them no mind because they don't know what your man does for you. They don't see when he cooks for you but when you decide to cook a delicacy for him, you are 'spending' too much. They wouldn't tell you they are also looking for such opportunities. We should mind the advices we follow. Before you decide to 'deal' with your man the way all 'men' deserve, has done anything to deserve such treatment?

7. Ladies should strive to be women of influence: What are our goals? visions? dreams? Getting married? Giving birth? and after marriage what next? We stop impacting our world or living life because we are now MRS? Please look around you and see what you can change. Decide to do everything you are involved in differently. See people in need and extend a helping hand. Life is more than BB, Brazilian weaves, etc. What gives you joy? Discover it and do. Please note that money/material things do not give joy. What do we want to be written in our obituary? The woman with the best collection of Prada bags? The woman who knew all the major hotels? Mrs. so and so or the woman who touched lives? the woman who volunteered in church? The woman who gave her all to motherless babies? Who fought for ...? We should live our live according to what we want to be said about us in the end.

8. Ladies should add value to their relationships: Now you have a man, what value are you bringing to the table? Food? S/ex? Cleaning? I tell you that if a man only wants these, he wouldn't bother with a wife because marriage entails sacrifices and so much giving from both sides. A brother is looking for a companion he can fall back on. Someone that he can hold hands with through the journey of life. Do you encourage your man with words? How has his life improved since he met you? Please don't tell me you cook or clean; you're not his maid. Can he count on you for advise, do you trust his judgment? can he trust yours? Are you a warm blanket or a cold one? Can he find comfort in your arms? Do you ridicule him? Can he really be himself without you judging him? Do you pamper him? Take him for a treat? Treat him to the good things of life? Do you tell him you love him? Not after BB 10 or Gucci Bag! Do you tell him you are feel blessed you have him? (He must really be a blessing to you sha).

keppyy:
Business full-time and Missions Part-time...

This will involve a lot of travelling...

I'm sick, I can't type much...


To Everybody, what will cause a girl of 22years old to have a blood pressure of (158/99), it was repeated for about 7times with different machines...

Sorry

High BP? Are you overstressed? Worried about something? Doing too strenuous activities?

It is well

Will discuss later

Lovely, sweet and sad pictures

pickabeau1:
Thanks for the message
We appreciate your message of goodwill

He was buried yesterday
We will engage with the House on ideas moving forward to support his family and honour his memory.


We hope to still be involved in charity initiatives as supported by you, our stakeholders

You are welcome

keppyy:
Yes, christain missions

Sorry for the late response

How do you want to combine Christian Missions and business?

Can you expatiate a bit?

Tallesty1:
Nobody reveals his/her real color during courtship.


Exam malpractice dey for marriage too............

@ bold:

Interesting

Courtship means different things to different people

trendiitee:
ive been following dis thread closely and I must confess it has really blessed me a lot.


babyosisi, bukatyne, cococandy, efemenaxy. a big Weldone to you all. may God continue to uphold ur homes.

Amen, thanks

God be with you too

babyosisi:
Some here are actually children who still collect pocket money especially the loud mouthed ones
Many are still trying to scale WAEC

LOLs

prissyluv:
Wow. Your fellowship president tried ooo even with an accident. Just this few months has drained me already.
I agree with you on the last paragraph madam buka. I am seeing that in my peoples reasons. God is my strength sha.
Thanks alot

Amen dear

Hold on...

When you remember that marriage is ideally for a lifetime, a wait of 1 - 2yrs becomes 'short'

bellong:
Konji na bastard...

Pastor Bellong

ihedinobi2:
Hey you!

It was quiet. I'm sure hubby made it the best ever for you. Did he rub your feet? Bring you breakfast in bed with a bunch of roses (or do you prefer hibiscuses)? Knock your socks off with dinner for two at the top of a waterfall?

What's the doubt? That we can't ride camels today? Or we can't drink from wells anymore?

Romantic ihe...

I pray God gives you the kind of wife and home you desire...

Might not agree with all your views, but I sure like your e-personality and like the fact you say it as you see it

You might be one wife tormentor like that

My Saturday was stressful... organized a Vals program in Church and was one of the speakers

Doubt: I do not think blind dates/proxy marriages are wise today (If fact, only Issac seemed to go that route in the Bible).

I would STRONGLY advise against it

Check out a topic on my profile:

[url]The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man[/url]

MercyMercy:
I am 24. I don't have any savings and yes,my fiance can carter for us

You are still very young.

Why can't you both wait a year?

That way you would have gotten some savings (upto N100K if not more) and you would be able to contribute to building your new home in addition to whatever your parents can afford.

It would also help your parents prepare more for the wedding (You are the first child getting married and they want it to be 'big'). Both parents support your marriage, it is just the timing that is an issue to them.

chucky234:
Prolly how a man should love and care for his wife, lol

LOL!

Good one

Your OP is nice and it goes both ways

MercyMercy:
Good morning everyone. Pls I need ur advice.
I have known my fiance for some yrs now and we plan settling down. One of the factors I love abt him is that he thinks ahead(a real goal-setter). Both families have given their consent to the extent that the traditional list has been given to them. The thing now is, we intend getting married as soon as possible(in April) in order to get things formal n avoid side talks...and also considering our spiritual positions.but when I mentioned it to my parents n he to his pple,they objected to it saying it's too impromptu. My parents are saying we have to "prepare well"(spending-wise) from our side and I think his pple are assuming he will "forget" abt them once he gets married(since he assists the family,though the last child).I am from Abia state and he is from Edo state.I am currently learning fashion designing while awaiting Nysc in May. I av tried convincing my parents I dnt want to wait but get married but they r thinking I am the one forcing the guy to marry me.N.B,I am d fourth child and 2nd daughter,none of my siblings are married yet. So most times I try to stand my grounds,they hush me and this is also making my fiance think am not ready to settle down with him yet. Yes,my parents(esp my mum) are disciplinarians. Pls,wat is required of me to prove to them I am ready to become a wife?

How old are you?
Do you have any savings or can you contribute anything to the ceremony/home today?
Does your man have a good job to sustain the both of you (since you would just be going for service)

I don't the see the hurry IMHO

Waiting for your answers

Thanks