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cococandy:
something doesn't ring true in this story.
He had the kids before he married her according to him and they have been married for 18yrs, the children are obviously not kids. Why should she be the one to feed them? I don't get it.



Clothes and bla bla bla. Is that even a reason to get divorced?

Very odd story...

If they have been married for 18yrs and his last child was a baby when he left their mother, he/she should be 18 by now.

What 18yr old waits for his or her mother to cook before eating...

Women especially are to look well well for marrying a man with kids especially grown up kids.

Not to say some women are not wicked to their step kids anyways

EfemenaXY:
I won't. And truth be told, I'll be offended if a man tells me about my wardrobe malfunction. It's embarassing enough if a lady tells me, but it will be unbearable if a guy does that.

I rarely feel embarrassed

My lecturer has told me my blouse was unbuttoned during lectures and I told him thanks and buttoned it

I would prefer that to everyone staring @ me because of that

ihedinobi2:
I see.

What do you see?

LadyX:
Thanks.
Nairalanders can sometimes roast someone

Lol@ roast

You have got to develop a tough skin & drop your opinions

I will & I will appreciate someone tells me when I have a malfunction too

cococandy:
Seriously. Only when the victim is dead do our people see the fault in her having stayed in the union.

While she's still alive anyone who advices her to leave is an evil divorce advocate.

Very annoying

chisco82:
Yes because you are a woman and Im sure you re single.
Never know your tomorrow, even if you are married.
So don't be so rude.
No insults please.

You are 100% sure I am single

I am sorry to disappoint you If you expect me to say 'eh ya... RIP ' because I won't

She is a waste to her family... imagine a father and mother toil to bring up a child and when they should enjoy, she commits suicide?

She was ashamed to come back back home because her marriage was not working??

Is it not a living person who works on her marriage?

What a waste to her parents.

It is better they did not give birth to her @All!

I really feel for them

chisco82:
Is that all you have to say?

Yes,

Any problem?

LadyX:
We are supposed to advice those who are in a similar situation but decide to stay hoping he will change.

My dear lady,

Keep up the good work, God be with you...

If Liz Benson had the sense to run away from home because of FGM @ age 13, a 30yr old woman does not know when to run?

Let another victim come here and you advice her to separate while they find a lasting solution, you become a feminist and home wrecker or red bra & black pant crew come to teach her how to cook fresh fish peppersoup and wind her waist 360°…

Honestly, next story

@Carefreewannabe,

Good one

Sure we will open a kiosk.... for relationship matters, consult...

@Topic:

First step is to know What you want or What you don't want and tailor yourself into the person that will be desired by your preference...

If you are not interested in someone, don't bother with let me enjoy small before backing out

Be a man/woman of your words

Be flexible and ready to adapt

Learn the art of selling your ideas... What a guy would achieve in 1hr of rubbing his girl/wife's hair, he might not in 39hrs of bossing her...

Where you find:

Anywhere but remember where you find might affect the relationship

Cheers

And What are we supposed to do?

She made her bed and has lain on it.

At least, she died a Mrs.

Next

cococandy:
when is junior coming? That's all

Hahahaha

Working at it

dein77:
Beautiful love story. The rest is history. Today, you are his.

Good to see you once again....

Happy Sunday.

Happy Sunday to you too

Thanks

kaboninc:
So carefree could actually be this exciting? Hmmmm. That's very interesting! I envy your boyfriend oh.

InZA...don't know what to say. But if you must marry, go to Dominion City, CE and other What's Up Jesus church. You'll find one shabaly!

Freecocoa...I love that you love love! Don't worry, love will fall in love with you. Btw, I hope you're cocoa in complexion?

Ihe....you better change your stance and forget about that Six and a half year syndrome! If you don't get heartbroken you will never know how it feels bro. Seriously, get a wife bro and blow her with you Engilish!

TV...hmmm. Humans and taste. You never told us what transpired between you and your wife over the internet.

Buky met love and at a tender age. Hmmmm.

Moca...I love your story.

Aisha2, Babymama1 oya come and tell us yours.

I guess not everyday is for fights and quarrels and politics and whatever. Some evenings like this are for love stories!

Just that Seun is not married.

Edwife...your story.

Am not married. Will not be in a short while. But I look forward to it. Every night, I feel like having a baby sleeping beside me and holding me like its all he's got!

Beautiful stories here.

Hmm to you too

Thanks

cococandy:
see baby love. Oya full gist

Lol!

What do you want to know?

captcochrane:
sorry, u went to lautech?
dt bio 101 sounds familiar

No

ihedinobi2:
How'd you figure that out?

Bukatyne, did he say nothing or avoid wooing you for four months? What happened? How'd you too start dating?

Sorry for late response

We were friends even though very close.

He wooed me in the 4th.month, I said not interested, reported my case to the elder bros he was staying with who advised him to keep praying & joined him in prayers...

You know Yoruba's proverb of What is yours will not pass you by


Said yes reluctantly a month later...

The rest they say, is history

carefreewannabe:


I am the kind of person that does not develop feelings quickly. Many men scared me off because they would want to be in a relationship too fast, doing too much too quickly.

Your hubby was smarter.

100% smart.

According to him, God showed him his wife before he entered university

I try to be a woman of my words so my I love you is I love you

iykedare:
Details like how and exactly where you guys met? In the library,lecture rooms or in the toilet ?

In the bathroom

I saw him the first time when we were to submit our BIO 101 assignment to him...

He saw me first when I was passing one day

We met in the lecture room/hall/theatre

iykedare:
More details please.

Details like?

carefreewannabe:
Thanks.

You have been dating for many years. This is what I call a solid foundation.

Thanks for sharing.

Did you like him right from the start or did it take some time?

Lol @ solid foundation

I liked him from the start as a friend and we were friends for about 4months before we started dating.

I developed love gradually and told him the L word about a year into our relationship

Bros knew What he wanted from the start

@Carefreewannabe,

Lovely tread

Met him 9yrs ago on March 28th 2006 (we were both in 100L)

Started dating around July same year & got married May last year.

I thought the OP was about her abusive husband?

Depends on the couple

Herzumpther:
Thanks ma.

Good afternoon.

Welcome dear

pickabeau1:
OK..you win

I did not know you were in a competition

Congratulations on YOUR success.

Herzumpther:
Lol. Its you and chillisauce o.

I'm getting better.

Get well soon dear.

pickabeau1:
So in a thread your statement that not all men have ambition is not linked to this thread

OK..whatever you say ..it is

If you are looking for versus...continue looking

So everything said in a thread MUST relate to the OP?

Interesting

pickabeau1:
Did you not say not all men have ambition
Peruse your own posts to refresh

Suddenly All men do not have ambition = OP doesn't have ambition?

Do All men have ambition?

Is This becoming a us versus them thing?

Madampinkolo:
Rowzayy,
My dear,it is well with you.As others have said,you did no wrong by snooping.I'm sure your mind was troubled and you decided to check.You did very very well.Even though you feel you have to stay there despite what you've found out,knowledge is power.At least you know and you can now start making plans for you and your child,and also take measures to ensure you don't catch any craw craw.

Imurboss,
Come and take extra carton of superglue.It is well with you and your babies.You will deliver safely.I hope he changes before he receives the surprise you are preparing


I had this lady cleaner in my uni then,we were quite friendly so before i got married she advised me never to accept domestic violence from any one.She said in the first year of marriage, her husband beat her up the one time,she said nothing.The second time she did nothing.Third time after the round of beatings,she waited for him to sleep and around 2am,she switched on the light,she picked a machete and put it on his neck then she called his name.He woke up and saw her blood shot eyes,machete to his neck and she wasIII only wearing pant and bra.She warned him NEVER EVER to touch her again otherwise she will end him.That was it.No beatings till date, and this woman now has grandchildren.

Sometimes,doing something out of the norm can shake things up.I didn't say anyone should carry machete ooo abeg.But this lady decided to do something drastic and it saved her life and marriage.

I like that lady cleaner

These are the type of women I like to read about.

Whinny helpless women disgust me

pickabeau1:
So you can see ambition is subjective

Saying the man lacks ambition is a wonderful judgement as you are only using a few posts to make that judgement.

Can you quote the post I said Mr. OP lacks ambition

I responded to your specific post about ambition and providing.

I am waiting for my post o!

LewsTherin:
I feel so sad whenever I come to this thread. I feel sad seeing people suffer in a union God designed to be a reflection of His relationship with us. I feel much worse when I remember that a marriage is only salvageable when BOTH parties choose to save it.

No matter what amount of excellent advice we give distraught partners here, if both of them do not work at fixing their relationship, it's pretty much moot.

Be strong people. There is always hope. Always.

P.s. that machete thingy was gangstar!

100% correct