₦airaland Forum

okotv:
life is a journey. An experience along the way.

I don't fault find humans but in terms of relationship with the opposite, I think my mind isn't ready yet cause even if I have met her, she wouldn't stand chance.

Well I was accused (over accused ) because of what happened between myself and a girl then. Was very young then. The hate developed and could have been minimal but I attended a boys only school, boarding house for that matter and that worsened and strained my relationship with the opposite.

boluyongp:
I may be wrong but you sound like a very rude person. And is being married such a big achievement that you are saying "atleast, she died a Mrs". Which is better, her being single & alive or being married and dead?. Its cos you are not a victim that's why you don't respect the dead. You should be grateful for your own cos this story could have been you so learn to mourn with those who mourn irrespective of the situation. Bless your heart.

okotv:
its becoming too much ......(just me thinking aloud)...

I don't fancy ladies. They kinda bore me. A past life experience though. Am getting over it but then...

Let me illustrate...if I see a lady anywhere, no matter how beautiful or caring I look out for faults. Cause of my analytical mind, I find faults easily and then the feelings poof......hope you get sha ??

dancok:
bad girl.

mutter:
Just a possibility.
A woman can be financially independent but should be dependent on her husband. Dependent on his love, support, advice and care.
Then the marriage is more likely to be safe - work out.

My first from many options because keeping a marriage going is more challanging and difficult than maintaining financial independence.

Interdependent is also a lovely word . But it also has something to do with the woman being dependent on the man.

mamadsquare:
As I mentioned earlier in the post, dependence or independence is in relation to people, however, the safe or unsafe part is relative, it might be security wise, emotional wise and so on.

okotv:
well since I have to get married to keep my body from getting burnt, I will simply ask God as I have being doing for a good woman. All this dating and all that is time wasting to me and I wont be testing ladies about. I need to change my orientation about ladies before its too late sha.

Egbagirl:
Are we certain that she knew the guy was a yahoo boy before she married him? We don't have details surrounding the marriage, family pressures etc.

I understand what you're saying. It's like walking into a pit with your eyes open. But my point is we don't know the full story and it's easy to come to conclusions or judge based on the little others are saying.

Egbagirl:
I did. Still, you don't know her personally and you don't knowwhat happened in the marriage. You can't simpler rely on a friend's tweets. We don't know if she finally decided to make a bold step and leave the guy and he found out or she tried to report to the police later on but she couldn't. I don't know her story and I will not condemn her or her actions based on tweets from a friend. Like I said earlier, we do not know the full story and cannot judge.

Btw, don't be quick to judge victims of domestic violence.

Frankiss44:
People change my dear, an angel today might end up a beast 2moro...
The annoying thing is that this babe was doing very well back here in Nigeria... Owns a flourishing boutique and a very fine car. She sold them off just to join her hubby in Malaysia and came back a living corpse after just one year

She missed it when she threatened to walk straight to the police and report the husband, from that day, the monster locked her up and took her fones.


Our decisions in life matters.

MadCow1:
Sometimes my dear, these women are pathetic.. After the beatings, they blame themselves for the Mans actions and ho back yo him against all advice.

There was one I witnessed and I almost beat the woman myself. Imagine a man who beat you with his 7month pregnancy, drags you on the ground into his car, speeds off at breakneck speed and slams into another car in an accident and she was not wearing any seatbelt.. She actually went back to the guy..

I swear, I just tire that day.mi was so livid, I just hissed and walked out.. If she dies, then I guess that's how she chose yo be killed.

MadCow1:
I will drink to that anyday..

MadCow1:
Listen Hommie...

They always look before they leap..

They always know what they are getting into..

It's not even about money sometimes, they actually walk into such volatile relationships with eyes wide open.

They hope against all odds that they can weather the storm. Sometimes they even willingly submit themselves for the beatings. Then when they are in the bad relationships, they start playing the victim card and are stuck (mentally and psychologically stuck because anybody that has legs can run away from a bad relationship). These women underestimate just how hard it is to get a divorce. Family bondage is there, society is there, Church is there and friends and acquaintances are also there. I have one lady who is in one. The guy beats her, calls her names like slu-t, Biitch, etc, calls her family names, etc.. And she can't leave because she is stuck..

Ladies.. If he has slapped you, beat you, punched you as a girlfriend, best believe he will drop kick you one day as a wife.. It's extremely difficult to teach an old dog new tricks.

If you are in a bad relationship currently, there is no such thing as being stuck.. The only person keeping you in a bad relationship is you. The day you want to leave, get up and walk out that door into a police station or disappear.

Dear Religious fanatics who never hesitate to judge divorcees.. I hope you have seen why Divorce is necessary.

RIP to the dead..

Wise up to the living..

buggaboo:
This is quite harsh. I'll just assume you are typing out of anger.
Marriage cases are hardly black and white.

Egbagirl:
And you know this because?? Do you know her personally? Do you know Her story?

At least she died a Mrs? Really??

Ojugunrege:
Ma'am....i think this is a lil' too harsh.

ifoundmyperfect:
You sound more frustrated than callous. I wonder what your story is...

BTW OP, may her soul rest in peace.
All these Warri babes need to slow it down...

ihedinobi2:
He wooed you in the fourth month.

bellong:
The lady knew she was marrying a beast yet went ahead with it.

She probably saw money and couldn't resist will you marry me offer.

One of the tweets says she married a yahoo guy.

Shine your eyes very well before you get cut short prematurely in the name of marriage

chisco82:
The writer said she was locked up and her passport seized, lets assume she tried coming back and made moves and that was why the Monster husband seized her passport and locked ber up.
She will only be blame that she tried doing the needfull at late our and also remember she has just 50% blame because maybe she was trying to make things work and based on the fact that marriage needed endurance.
The remedy is young people should seek for God's approval before entering into marriage witb whosever is maybe even a fiance of 20years.
Change is the only thing that is constant.
Lets always depend on God for directions.
*Shalom*

Chillisauce:
Ladies in diaspora ,

Open your ears....

Pull it wider and listen very attentively.


[size=24pt]RUN FOR YOUR LIVES!!![/size]

moca:
Was it actually latent?
It has been there staring at u just ignored.

One of my friend had a dude (very well to do and so good to her).
D guy gave her condition. I won't marry in church.
And sometimes when she visit unannounced, d house will be smelling of incense. Sometimes r guy's eyes will be so red.
Na so d gal pick race. Is this not a clue?
But some will ignore it simply because he is soo good to them and fully loaded.

Hiswordxray:
In the book of first Corinthians Paul gave certain instructions and he gave a reason for each of these instructions. Some he said it is directly from the Lord, another he said it's from the wisdom that God gave him, yet another he said it's just an advice. But when it came to the issue of women covering their hair he said "Now if anyone is disposed to be argumentative and contentious about this, we hold to and recognize no other custom [in worship] than this, nor do the churches of God generally." (1Cor 11:16).
Paul didn't say didn't say this is directly from the Lord and he didn't say if women didn't cover their hair they will go to Hell.

But Paul said this is a custom. Custom tells you what you need to do to be a part of a group or a society. And to be a part of the Church as at that time you must cover your hair as a woman.
But the gospel tells you what you need to do to make heaven and have a foretaste of heaven on earth.

Women covering hair is nothing but a custom for believer as at the time that verse was written. But if you choose to follow it fine and if you don't want to follow it there is nothing wrong with that.

tosyne2much:
I have been to various Youths & Singles Programme in churches and I noticed there are some sermons that will register discomfort and E no con-sign me on the faces of the ladies

Take A Glass Of Yobo Drink & Relax

10 Sermons Most Young Ladies Will Likely Turn Deaf Ears To

1. Do Not Have A Boyfriend
Haaaaaaaa !!! This is a tough sermon oooo. I remembered vividly when we held Youths & Singles Programme in my fellowship & the ladies were advised not to have to boyfriend not until they are of marriageable age. You just need to see the way the ladies were looking as if they should grab the pastor and tear him to pieces

2. Don't Allow A Guy You Are Dating Hug You
Haaaaaa I bet many young ladies will not like to hear this.. The pastor says NO form of hugging is allowed because
her bosoms has activating
power that could activate thoughts of a average dude... Funny right ?

3. Direct Your Toaster(s) To Your Pastor
So many churches demand a lady directs her toaster(s) to the pastor for assessment, that is, when a brother in the church approaches her, she dare not show green light, kindly direct him to your pastor for assessment. * ehhhnnn dis one use style hard oooo .. I guess every lady will only be willing to inform her pastor when everything is set but advising her to direct her toaster(s) to her pastors is a NO NO for many young ladies

4. Do Not Visit Any Guy You Are Not Married To
I have also attended a Programme when the host (pastor) condemned the act of a lady visiting her fiance. He urged them to meet him in the church, eatery, or when a third party will be present, else they should not go at all

5. Take A Friend Along With Going To His House
This sounds like the ladies are being protected from having sex with their lovers. Some pastor preaches against going on a visit when he's alone at home because he believes it should be the best measures taken to curb sex before marriage. This is most likely to go through the left ear & pass through the right ear of our ladies

6. Do Not Open Your Legs For Him
Since sex is what some ladies use to tie their men down, it will pass through the left eat and go out of the right ear the moment a pastor threatens them to stop the act

7. Do Not Wear Ear Rings
Most ladies in churches will change their facial expression when a pastor condemns the use of earringa at the expense of salvation. It takes a personal decision to do away with earrings & jewelry. Therefore, preaching against it will not enter the head of our ladies

8. Do Not Wear Trousers
This has been a serious debate for a long time. So many ladies don't believe wearing of trousers is a sin because there no Bible verse describing how a man or a woman's garment looks like

9. Any Attachment To Your Body Is A Sin
Hiaaaaaaan !!! No weavon, no make-up, no lipstick gloss.. 90% of Nigerian ladies will turn deaf ear to such a sermon when they know that is what ignite their beauty

10. Don't Not Consider Dating A Man Who Is Not Born Again
Let's not deceive ourselves. What is the percentage of men who are genuinely born again ?
Ladies will most likely turn deaf ears because they know it won't be easy & it might take them eternity searching born again dudes

moca:
Most of us don't know what we want in a relationship. Check out comments we see here especially in romance section.
She is superhot,he is loaded, she his biceps etc. They r good but will lead to d main thing which is d character,flexibility,and how much of a human u r.

That's why after marriage and poo happens u will still hear"my husband/wife has changed"
Changed to what?
They r there,just that u refused to look at them.
Nobody has changed.

EfemenaXY:


I'd pray for the ground to just open up and swallow me right there...



What if instead of thanking you, he shouts, "wetin carry your eye there? Do you like what you see?"

LadyX:
Thanks!

Am now part of this huge family

chisco82:
Sorry o, did she commit succide? Did n't read that part.
If she did it's a pitty. But still yet not everyone knows how to handle situation, so is our duty to help educate others.
B/w im not sure if you are married just assumed that you are not thats why i said even if you are.
Thanks....lets help ourselves and the society we are to maitain peace expecially in the institution called marriage.
It's an institution that we are being issued certificate as we are joining.

LadyX:
Trust me i've developed tough skin.

I've been visiting nairaland as guest since late 2013 I know what to expect. I joined November 2014.

I stumbled upon nairaland while doing a research. People's comments were very funny. I used to come back just to read comments. So hilarious!