₦airaland Forum

byvan:
The earlier people stop classifying plain wickedness by their spouse as 1st year marital whatever, the better for them. The question is not if am married or not, the question is "Is she familiar with the Nigerian concept of 1st year animal husbandry " .

OnyeIbo:
Can a 57 year old still have sex? I thought she has attained menopause and sex drive is dead

Asito:
[b][/b] Find another whoring mistress and continue the streak shikena!!!

Rapmoney:
Are u not an African? Don't u have culture?

Rapmoney:
I just wonder why most people from the southern parts of Nigeria, especially, among the Urhobos, Isokos and Ijaws engage in paper-bag marriage. For those wondering what paper-bag marriage means...it means co-habitation between a man and a woman; not legally married.

It is so annoying to see a man and a woman living together, with up to 4 kids! In the end, you will find out that the woman's dowry has not been paid! I once attended a marriage ceremony where I discovered that the couple's first issue was already graduating from the university!

Am not trying to paint any tribe bad, but it is very common among the above-mentioned ethnic groups. What am asking: is this part of the African culture? Why have these people so degraded themselves to this extent? The elders are there...they see how their culture is derailed, yet they do nothing about it. I still remember my former landlady, telling on a fateful day, that what am I waiting for? That I should just impregnate my girl and start a family! From that day, I started losing my respect for her!

In the eastern part of Nigeria, trash like this doesn't happen. Only a wayward Igbo girl would get pregnant for a man and start a family with him. In the Igbo culture, such is forbidden!!! Alu!!! Abomination.

Pls, what's your take on this?

LordReed:
I like that you guys spent alot of quality time together but you do realize that not many people can do some of the things you did without loosing focus (I mean the sleeping over part). I do agree that with no forming part though, I mean what use is forming for the person you want to marry?

LordReed:
So were the only one cooking meals for your hubby back during courtship? You slept in his bed every night? He woke up to smell your morning breath every morning? He had to deal with the toilet seat always down? Many things are different during courtship but one uses the time to prepare for marriage.

okotv:
sorry Lady.

Am still a student with marriage put forward to about 6 years from now.

lol

okotv:
Nah.

Happy new year

LordReed:
Unrealistic expectations all round. Courtship is different from marriage but during the phase one is supposed to steel one's mind for living with the other person after examining the facts on ground. During the period is also time to speak up and say such and such a thing I don't like. If it is a deal breaker for you, you walk. Everyone should encourage their partners to speak up about things they don't like before they get married.

carefreewannabe:
Quite easily. You decide when and what your children watch on TV.

striktlymi:
Lol!!

Really, I believe the need for a house help shouldn't be compared with one's need for a wife. I think the status of a wife is too precious to compare her with a domestic staff, if any.

okotv:
I experienced one at the just concluded deeper life retreat...it was wonderful. Because of doubters, I might have to return here in about six months time to explain and show proofs.

Herzumpther:
Hmmm alright. This is what I want o.

Godfearing- simple we need God in all we do, I'm not saying he should be a spirit koko but he should at least know God.

My friend- I can't date or marry a man who is not my friend, he has to be my friend because in him I will confide my all so he as to be my friend, father, brother and all. This is very important to me.

Hardworking- He should be hardworking/ready to work. I don't want a GEJ for a hubby but one who together we will work to raise a strong family. I don't plan to be a liability on anybody because life has gone beyond that and I'm not lazy, all I'm doing today is for my family so I can't stand a lazy man.

Simplicity- He has to just be very simple from his way of life to every other thing....maybe It's because of the way I was brought up but simplicity rocks.

Family values- He has to know what family means, I want a man who if its garri we have we will take it and it will be between us, a man who will have misunderstanding with me and even tho he is very upset will will when calm talk to me about it and not the one that will drag me to his or my village square for settlement.I've told myself that no outsider will come settle anything in my marriage, man proposes God disposes but I will work and stand my ground. I can't post more on this because the little I've posted should give an insight to what I mean.

Real- My man has to be real, if its 50 naira he has fine, I will also add my 35 naira and together we will stand not pretending to be one thing... The very moment I realize my man is fake so far I'm not married to him yet I will run very far from him. if scattering the house is his nature let us know and not trying to impress me, try to impress me and keep increasing the rate I will dislike him. He should be ready to cut his coat according to his size lol.

Forgiveness- I'm not perfect and surly I will offend my man but if he has that spirit of unforgiveness it will be dangerous because such a man can kill. I'm only human and sure not prefect and in sure he won't be perfect too lol.

Understanding- he should be understanding in all ramification of life. I can't shout o.

Emmmm do i have more For now that's all I want from my man

Herzumpther:
Idroped it already lol.

Good evening ma'am.

An0nimus:
People like?

An0nimus:
Pretty deceptive but these things happen.

Freecocoa your point is noted.

TV01 don't forget to post what you have planned on the Boys night out thread

davidylan:
lol my sister, indeed work and other issues have stolen most of my time. Coupled with the fact that the front page is filled with extremely boring topics.

Curvy in the right places is my thing... no bones allowed here.

manny4life:
Hmm, I never knew a man had to fit into a woman's list... Good to know.

Okay Herz, what's your list? As long as your list doesn't contain 6ft and you got to be rich or wealthy, I guess I fit the bill... Oya post it.

chimajii:
To the girl who was raving about how the said manny is too PICKY and has a long list of specifics. Do NOT FORGET THAT herzumper got hers TOO.

Nonso23:
One is built on sincerity, openness and honesty.
The other is based on mimicry of unrealistic standards to please the selfish desires of the other party.
I prefer the term blissful marriage though.

freecocoa:
Wait o, the lady is his ex? I need to change this my glasses o as I no dey see well again, didn't read that part o.

kreamidiva:
The bolded is a strong point.

How would he feel if he found such chats on your phone with an ex

Nonso23:
There is no such thing as a 'telemundo' marriage. A blissful one, i agree but telemundo. Very unlikely.
Unless you mean outwardly telemundo neglecting the amount of work put into it in the background by the couple to get it to that phase.
But telemundo in all respects i.e start to finish??
Nah nah.

Nonso23:
very.

freecocoa:
You couldn't have said it better.

freecocoa:
It's really a pity, see the comments on here sef, all sounding like that's how it's supposed to be, smh.

Nonso23:
Aside the fact that it's unrealistic and puts unnecessary pressure on your partner and the relationship it is very selfish.